| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:28:30 AM | i'd say looks first but looks are not everything & i always read a profile, so if i think we would get along and or if we have the same interests then if im not to shy i'll email you lol but if your cute and we share the same interests thennn i have to grow balls first lol '
i do agree though alot of people only look at the picture and not the profile which is sad, but thats life! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 9/11/2009 9:39:14 AM | | the profile actions speak louder than words! i do look at pix, but on looks it depends really. if i dont see myself attracted to that person physically but they had a great personality i would be friends with that person. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 9/11/2009 2:51:57 PM | | Looks definitely matter because that tiny little picture is what you see first. But if it intrigues me enough to click on someone's profile, the actual content in the profile is what will win me over any day. Anyone can have a pretty face, few people know how to string along a few intelligent, interesting sentences. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:55:21 PM | | Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one on this dating website who really doesnt care what a woman looks like,it doesnt matter if she weights half a ton of if she looks she could be the "Elephant mans" sister.I will click on a picture if the person is under 50 and lives within 75 kilometers of me,then I read the profile.If I dont connect with the profile in some way I will never email her,It doesnt matter how gorgeous she looks.Genuinely nice people are very hard to find these days,and only a genuine idiot who is lucky enough meet them gives them up in the name of looks.Which would you rather eat? a dish that looks beautiful but tastes ordinary or a dish that doesnt look great but makes you want to eat the plate? | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/8/2009 1:11:00 PM | For me it was "location, location, location"
I don't care how cute you are or what your profile says...If you live 90 miles away it ain't gonna happen.... | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:13:45 PM | | I think their has to be some attraction, but not totally! I read profiles for kicks sometimes. Reading all they don't want and all they are looking for. Seems like a joke sometimes with women and men. (I don't read men's) lol. You see stuff like- no players, true, honest, caring, an so on. But they look at pic and delete. No reply of no thanks or anything. Tells me a ton about their personality! I reply to everyone, no matter. If you are here for something real, then READ the profile! You never know, you might be mising your dream. We all get old and looks fade, will you be able to deal with the persons inside when that time comes. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/15/2009 4:47:10 PM | And before anyone gets upset by this idea, please remember, we don't get to choose what turns us on, nor what turns us off. It's not a decision. After all, if I had my choice, I'd choose to get turned on by fat, ugly, smelly women with nasty attitudes. I'd be having so much sex that I'd have to quit my job. - sometimes-miss
While that is generally true, it isn't always true. We can learn to change our attraction preferences, to some extent. I know because I have actually done this.
When I was younger (say, 15-35), I preferred to date disabled/not working guys. Why? Because I was being a bit selfish & spoiled. My dad had his own
business, worked a lot, we hardly ever saw him. I wanted something different; someone fun, passionate & non-materialistic. It wasn't until my mid-20's/
early 30's, that I started trying to adjust this attitude, because it was really limiting
my dating pool.
A couple of other things: I used to be very self-conscious about my height. So I preferred short men (5'7" or under). I also preferred men with long hair.
As I got older, I became a lot more confident & more comfortable with myself. And therefore, height was no longer a problem for me. My last boyfriend was 5'11",
my last husband was 6'9". But it wasn't until I watched "Born on the 4th of July", that I realized that even though most men do look wonderful with longer hair
(as long as it is well-cared for), it is definitely NOT TRUE, of all men. Tom Cruise looks better with short hair, based on his cheekbones & the general bone structure
of his face. SO now, because of adjustments in my attitudes & my perceptions of what is attractive, I will date tall men & short haired men, if I choose to. Before I
would've been completely blind to their potential attractiveness. That's my experience, anyway.
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/15/2009 5:28:06 PM | Absolutely agree, makes a difference to see some people made an effort to present them selves and make an appearance with nice photo! But than they some times let them self’s dawn by not putting an effort into righting as good profile!
Gentlemen! You want us to “wow” you with our looks and intelligence (may be) but what do you do in return?!
Happy Fishing All! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/15/2009 10:52:32 PM | It depends on why I'm emailing them. If I'm writing to express appreciation for a funny or insightful comment he's posted, neither. It was his posting.
If I'm being a lech, however, it's ALWAYS the picture first. Call it what ya like, I'm quite visual. If I don't like the look, I'll never sustain an interest in him. (Think Barney Fife )
I do agree, however, that the inside has to do the "work" afterwards, though. An airhead is an airhead, even if it's got a pretty wrapper! The profile can tell enough for me to know if a person's just "for show"---or if I'd be willing to go further to investigate the mind behind the pretty face!
$0.02
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/15/2009 11:29:52 PM | I would say pics, but definitely read the entire profile. I am getting a storm of e-mails from men whose relationships say N/A. If they are married or in a relationship I won't give the time of day.
I got one the other day said N/A pics of his brood about 4-5 small kids. NEXT! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/16/2009 12:32:18 AM |
looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Attracks?
What the flaming Jesus is that?
In this case, I'd have to say basic f*cking literacy is more attractive than looks or a profile...
Ai yi yi... | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:32:05 AM | I do read the profiles...most say the same and as Im not looking for a life time deal....if I even get a response to a compliment....its what she says or how she says it that would give me an idea if I would pursue....to many are on here because they are dreamers or not happy with the marriage....fantasize...what-ever...lol! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/16/2009 7:34:06 AM | Crikey reading alot of peoples messages makes me look desperate. I tend to look at most girls profiles who match my search criteria, they would have to have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp for mr not to look at their profiles. I read their profiles except if they have written a feckin book then I'll just skim over it ! Two paragraphs is plenty, (why on earth do some women write 16 paragraphs on their profiles? Jeez do they really think were gonna read it all!!)
Then if i like what I read I will message them | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:01:50 AM | Here's my perspective on this:
So you're a single guy on POF browsing (such as myself) and you see someone on here you like. Nice picture, interesting profile, seems to be a match for what you are looking for. You want to message them. You can do this in one of two ways:
1> On one hand, you could read through their entire profile and then construct a well thought out message to send to them. You can sit there for 30 minutes writing a really nice message only discover some time later that it got read/deleted with absolutely no reply. Gee, thanks a lot!
2> Or you can just send a quick note to try and spark a conversation, but then she just thinks you are lazy and unthoughtful and that you didn't take the time to read her profile. So basically, it's a lose lose.
The real problem (and this is a source for many other problems in this world) is that too many people are looking for instant gratification. You don't like the picture, you move on quickly. You don't like the length of the message, you move on quickly. It's too short of a message, too wordy, too this, too that. Nobody wants to take the time to explore the substance. Take a look at the cover, judge it and move on to the next. Instant gratification. Big problem in our society. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/31/2009 2:37:36 AM | The site is designed so that most of the time you have little choice.
I click 'my matches' and am presented with a sea of faces, I don't often have time to click them all and read each profile so I end up clicking the friendliest of the faces I see and go from there. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:00:56 AM | | Both. There has to be a balance. I've seen great pics with non-sense profiles and I click next. I've also seen great profiles with bad pics and I click next. If I like her profile and pic, then I'll send an email. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:14:10 AM | It depends. Besides, there always seems to be something or someone that comes along to prove my latest theory wrong so I give up trying to define what in my opinion is impossible to define.
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:40:31 AM | For me, if there's a nautical hint in their profile, I check it out. Be it water in the backdrop or a watercraft of sorts on their picture, or if their screen name alludes to anchors, sails, depth sounder, etc.
Otherwise, I don't bother. It's not easy convincing a landlubber that the sea is a wonderous place to spend time on.
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 10/31/2009 6:53:29 AM | | Looking at the picture(s) on the profile to be honest is the first consideration,then looking for common interest listed,if she says she's the prettiest girl in the trailer park,then of course I'm interested! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:25:43 AM | It's a bit of both, anyone is lying if they say they don't look at the picture first - I am drawn to nice eyes or a nice smile, I tend to stay away from people who look like they are posing like they love themself.
I then read the profile and see if its interesting and full of detail, I then send a message mentioning bits from their profile (usually if they have the same interests). As yet I have not had replies, maybe I'm not just good looking enough for the particular girl as I wouldn't say it was what I write. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:57:04 AM | | I don't click on profile pics where the guy is posing with a car, a motorcycle, a big fish (yes, I've seen that), or flexing. Other than that, I tend to click based on what's in their caption. | |
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