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What makes you email someone
More often than not...a forum post....
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:23:02 PM | | Well the picture is the first thing you see, so obviously looks are what is going to draw you in. I think initial physical attraction is important. After all, no matter how nice of a person someone is, there is no relationship potential if you are not attracted to them. BUT, I do always read the profiles. Personality is what keeps me with someone in the long run. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 2:43:46 PM | I like a girl that can really wear socks, you know, the kind, the ones that keep you up late at night in lurid self sweating fantasies, the over the calf wooly individually wrapped toes, red with rainbow colored piglets. Yep for me, the girl really has got to know how to wear socks.
You were hoping for something insightful? Its the internet for cripes sake. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 3:19:36 PM | Looks play an important part in my initial interest. But here's the thing...in southern Ca. at least,there are 200,000 nearly identical photos hovering above 200,000 indentical profiles. If the profile stands out by being unique and shows some creativity I may shoot them an e-mail. But the redundancy is INCREDIBLE! I could write one right now that would approximate 95% of them...in fact I shall.....
" I work hard and play even harder! I am a simple girl who can go from jeans and flip-flops to that sexy little black dress in less than ten minutes. No drama please and leave your baggage at the door. I enjoy everything outdoors and particularly enjoy, sky diving, bunjee jumping,water skiing, birt bike riding, scuba diving, hang gliding, surfing,zip lining,jet skis and hanging out any place that's warm and tropical..LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL!!!!!LOL (continue to repeat LOL every second line) Not into couch potatoes, I'm very high energy and like to have every moment of my life filled with activities. I work out at the gym 24/7 and expect you to do the same! ( insert more LOL's here) I have two children, ages 36 and 38 still living at home and you need to respect that. NOT INTO ONE NIGHT STANDS!!!! I'm a serious, independent woman and and not on this site for sex." (generally typed below several nearly nude boob shots taken while reclining in an acrobatic position on a bed) OK I'm finished now.... | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:18:25 PM | | Being somewhat new here, I haven't messaged to many people because I'm unbelievably shy. I am not attracted by looks, intelligence and personality are what matters to me, and if he has a quirky and smartazz sense of humor like me, that's even better. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:35:25 PM | | I think what attracts me first is the profile and then the looks might be secondary. You have lots of men who want a hottie and then they don't care about what type of personality that she has even if she has a lot of serious issues going on. Most of the profiles here on pof.com are not honest and some of them are honest so you have use your own good judgement and screen out the ones that appear deceiving or dishonest in any way. I think the profile would always be the first choice if I email someone but I also look at the picture as well. You cannot always go by a photo of someone because they could be using outdated photos or even pictures of someone else on their profiles. A public first meeting in person after emailing them a few times or talking to them on phone gives a good general first impression of how you think they are. Most of the time it takes at least six months to a good year before you really get to know the person inside and out, othertimes people tend to make snap judgements about a person based on the way they dress, act, talk, or their group of friends they hang out with. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:01:58 PM | The picture has to catch my eye usually, but I will read the short introduction you get when viewing profiles as well. There isn't much to go on though. We all have physical boundaries, so if they don't fit in I'm not going to click.
I have never just contacted a woman due to her pic though. If I see her pic and like it; I read. If I don't like it then I don't contact her. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:15:58 AM | | Looks helps but the profile is the value and the sole of that photo . Models and celebrities are everyday in magazines and newspapers but when you hear about their life behind the scenes it goes from bad to disgusting. Never judge a book by his cover. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:29:34 AM | op, they go for looks first, and them personality and all the rest. you gotta pass the looks test...and that will varying somewhat from guy to guy. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:19:36 AM | | The picture is what catches your eye so you are interested, however the profile can make it or break it. The profile should spark an interest and have you wanting to know more. That's my opinion....it's kind of a collaboration of both | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 3:21:46 AM | | Nothing really attracts me on any womens profile. Sure some are good looking but thats where it stops, not enough for me to initiate anything. They can have a nice profile, and all, but I'll know deep down their probably a selfish self centered flakey fake ass waist of my time. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:56:52 AM | | I must say I go for looks first. Then I glance at the profile. Its how he responds durning emails and how we interact with each other... that really matters. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:37:16 AM | Looks attract first, but, that is a broad range for me. If the look isn’t there, the only time I will read their profile is if I like their forum posts.
If there is a visual interest, then the profile can either enhance or degrade the look. There has to be a basic attraction though, and that is not a criticism, we all have our tastes. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:43:14 PM | for me, i have seen attractive ppl i would sometimes look at their pix in amazed. when i read a profile, its the profile that attracts me more than the pix. i read one profile where at 1st i thought the person was very cool until i got to the end. the person turned out to be a complete shallow stuck up ****. i said to myself the profile was good until it got to the end, this person looks attractive but her personality killed her looks.
if the person looks good but in their profile if they sound like an ***hole, fake, or know it all i will keep moving on. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:51:48 PM | | in the words of judge judy just cuz someone has a pretty face doesnt mean they are a nice person. ive also seen good lookin ppl in profiles i have met quite of ****in fake ass ***holes it is like someone put these good lookin ppl on a pedestal and their exes told them how great they are, so exciting, and they act like they are some God/Goddess. i really cant stand attitudes like that, they walk like their shit dont stink. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:58:35 AM | | Does the ability to craft a witty or otherwise engaging profile realy promise anything in the way of a great personality or even more important,any valuable personality traits such as honesty,loyalty,ect...aside from picture fraud which does occur here how does one know who actually wrote a profile ? some web sites offer profile"tips" and coaching on how to write a "successful" profile...while i agree that looks are not everything and are superficial does being witty and charming guarantee anything ? are not most con men witty and charming ? if the personality is always the way to go how come so many men and women say the same things like "they didn't used to be that way" or "they were not like that when i met them"....perhaps there are no guarantees of anything no matter which way you go ?...if we are going to slam all the pretty people and judge them to be all bad why not the con artist and B.S'rs,liars and deceivers as well. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/4/2009 1:46:38 PM | | I always read the profile. If I like the photo and the profile is the deal braker. Looks only account for so much. A woman could be drop dead georgous and as dumb as a brick and i really dont want to waste my time there. When the looks arent all there but the profile is what im looking for then a send a msg. Then you have those women who have the looks and the brains but are only looking for the big bucks "gold Diggers" i dont waste my time there either. I just would like to me and not have to worry about all the crap women put guys through. If you are looking for prefection sorry. There are a lot of really good guys out there that just dont get the chance because women want all that and a cup of tea. lighten up ladies. try something different you may be supprised. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/4/2009 1:53:17 PM | The picture is usually what makes you click or not (ATTRACTION IS A MUST - for moi). And then I read the profile (although some will type what they think the opposite gender wants to "hear"..lol..).
If he's piqued my interest, I write........even if it's just to give him a compliment (assuming he's geographically too far for me.....:-(....... | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/10/2011 1:06:10 AM | | i cant stand it when no one reads profiles. if ppl arent gonna take the time to read, why do these sites create profiles to add info? might as well have just upload ur pix nevermind a profile! i read the profile then i look at the pix, there were times i looked at the pix and thought omg ugh really? i remember one guy looked mean and scary in his picture and this always happens: the person who i read their profile and dont like them , those are the ones who end up emailing me lol after i said oh heck no to their profile. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracts you first?
Posted: 7/10/2011 2:54:10 AM |
i cant stand it when no one reads profiles. if ppl arent gonna take the time to read, why do these sites create profiles to add info? might as well have just upload ur pix nevermind a profile! i read the profile then i look at the pix, there were times i looked at the pix and thought omg ugh really? i remember one guy looked mean and scary in his picture and this always happens: the person who i read their profile and dont like them , those are the ones who end up emailing me lol after i said oh heck no to their profile.
Ah yes, another primadonna with reading profiles.
Honestly lets cut the crap here. Nobody knows if what someone writes is true or not. The only way you get to know someone is to meet them and just have a chat. No pressure. Of course so many people want an online relationship with massive hoop jumping and numerous emails before they will even consider meeting someone, which is quite frankly pointless as you cannot judge someone online as the communication medium is flawed.
Some are better in person than they are online, some aren't as gifted in creative writing and are a lot of fun face to face.
What attracts me first is looks, if the style of the photo isnt posing constantly or they're giving the pouting sucker face then ill email and ask to meet up.
How do some people actually get on in real life when it comes to dating i do wonder. You dont have this nonsense when you see someone on the street you think "hey they're cute" and wouldnt pass them by for lack of info, you ask them out to get that info. | |
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