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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/21/2011 10:11:34 PM | | I will look at a profile if the person attracts me but only message if their profile interests me. no about me section no email no effort no email. you can be smoking burn the house down breathtaking but if thats what you rely on im not interested thanks! | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/22/2011 9:17:11 AM | | I look at the pic first than go to the profile.I than check for the posibility of a match.If they have far different pursuits or don't smoke I don't waste either of our time. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/22/2011 9:56:09 AM | | Pics, of course.....then to the profile, not solely for what they wrote, but look at our lifestyle choices. As goatdriver said, if they don't smoke..no sense in any contact. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/22/2011 8:57:16 PM | | Profile. If a guy is attractive to men and I don't feel like we'd be compatible then I move on! I'm willing to take someone who is mildly attractive and fantastic opposed to someone who looks like a model and is a waste of space. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/22/2011 9:35:36 PM | Guys definitely go for pic's first. Even if they come across a really good matching profile, 90% of the time they'll make up some sort of lame excuse why she's not good enough because she doesn't look cute in her photos. Not cute enough for them.
Then they go chase girls who they think are 'in their league' (when really, it's laughable.)
Sad but true. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/23/2011 10:28:47 AM | | I read the headline first, don.t care what they look like initially. Cool people are cool people.....grooviness comes from within. I look deep into what I read. A man can be good looking all day long but if his thoughts are, for example, arrogant or shallow, that seems to overbear the look factor. I have mailed several fellas just to compliment what they had to say on their profile. Not to flirt, or to pursue anything ....but just for the heck of it, because I like what they said....and it.s usually a profile info that doesn.t reflect the obvious..... | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/24/2011 3:59:25 PM | I read the profile and look at the pics, can't have one without the other.
I've noticed quite an obvious trend too....the less that is written, the more lazy the guy. These are the guys that sent the 'hey how r u?' messages or ones based entirely on your looks 'u r hawt.' I ignore these guys, they are giving me plenty of information just through that alone, whether they realize it or not (and they probably don't). Really how hard is it to at least skim the interests and ask something relevant?
The ones that have some substance and effort too them really stand out amidst the sea of generic profiles, those are the ones that catch my attention. Then again it depends what you are looking for. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/28/2011 2:57:00 PM | And yes, over 50 some of us still can hold our own.
I'm over 50 and I can hold my own too. In fact I hold my own a lot. Sometimes I hold it for a couple of minutes, sometimes for nearly and hour. If I hold it too firmly it gets hard and then there's even more of my own to hold.
I look at the pictures first and then read the profile. Sometimes there's not much of a profile to read and a lot of them sound the same. Lot's of cliche riddled profiles out there. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/28/2011 9:36:00 PM | | Looks. It's like the old saying "love at first sight." I'm more likely to talk to someone whom I find attractive to find out their personality than the other way around. I'm sorry if that sounds shallow but online looks are all you've got, and at best even pictures are only 50% accurate lol. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/28/2011 10:55:48 PM | | I look at the pictures first, usually if there is a dog, something scenic or something I cant make out. Then I scan right to the bottom to see their mail preferences, then scan up again see their marital status, and interests. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 5:31:42 AM | First, I check the pics. Then I read the preferences and carefully read the profile. I hire a pr team to develop a carefully crafted message to get the subject's attention. If the party in question agrees to meet, I hire another pr team to come up with the best ways to coerce the date to find me attractive enough to meet again. This usually involves psychotropic drugs placed in food, double speak, and vague promises of wealth to the date.
I've had a 50/50 success rate so far. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 5:42:54 AM | Well..what shows up first, being visual creatures that we are..pictures.
Then, I read the profile, completely. Habit..I like to read.
Then..if I am inclined, I compliment the woman on her appearance. Never hear back from most, but that's okay. I wanted to give a compliment, I did.
If inclined, I will comment on their dog, hobby, whatever..because I want to. I am not expecting a reply, but if I get one, that's nice. It's called communication.
I have met some friends that way, and that is okay too.
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 5:48:31 AM | The pic is usually what makes you click in the first place, but the profile is what matters most. The man I'm dating now has a great profile so I just had to say hello to him.  It's short, funny and to the point. No bullsh!t, no long lists of things he doesn't want or things that piss him off, no negativity. Just hey, here I am, take me or leave me. I like that kind of directness. I'm almost 40 and not interested in playing games (outside the bedroom that is  ). | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 6:05:33 AM | Looks attract me first. There's simply no other way for it to happen. You have to see the pictures before you can even get to the profile, and I generally won't click a profile if their main picture doesn't catch my eye.
However, once I click a profile I have a process. First thing I do is look to see things like if they smoke and drink, their religion, if they have a car, and if they have kids. If I'm okay with the answers I move on to their profile and quickly look it over to make sure she seems like someone I'd be interested in.
About 80% of the time I end up not sending a message because their profile is either too short ("Hi my name is Amber I'm not good at these things so if you want to know more just ask.") or full of horrible spelling ("m y name iz amber n im not lookin for no drama n my kids babydaddy all ready give me enuff of that") or just boring and generic ("Looking for a Southern Gentlmen. My hobbies include God...") | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 8:02:10 AM | The profile is a package, photos and text together. Most aren’t interesting to read, and since I don’t see that well, the photos don’t do that much for me either. In fact, I frequently look for ones without photos. Once in awhile I come across one that’s interesting - to me - and I’ll send a compliment, if possible... amazing how many have distance limitations in their mail settings. I’ve gotten every possible response from ‘thanks’ to being blocked. Overall, though, the ones who do interest me personally aren’t interested in me at all, so it’s a moot point.
I really dislike the latest ‘improvement’ - the one where clicking Online gets only thumbnails. The thumbnails are too small for me to see, and if I use that, I end up looking at a lot I’d pass by, since I already know most of those in my general area, and I know who would and wouldn’t be compatible. It’s a waste of my time, looking at them over and over. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 7/29/2011 9:06:21 AM |
I'm over 50 and I can hold my own too. In fact I hold my own a lot.
There’s nothing like fresh air and exercise to keep that youthful appearance and vigor.
OT: It’s usually something they say in the forums. I like to check out the smart-assses and the phenomenally stupid, the hormonal and the perpetually bitter. - And one time I checked out a pic of a hottie with a ‘52 HD panhead chopper with a peanut gas tank, atomic blue paint and lots of rake. She was sweet. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 8/3/2011 8:29:04 PM | Wow lol well guys don't have the ability to remain interested in old Ms. Hubbard just because she shares our interests...so yes, we look at your picture first.
Reason #2 is why would we go and read through all these girls' profiles if we're gonna get maybe 2 or 3 responses? This site is hardly for women, it's for GUYS to sell themselves, if you're cute, you don't NEED a profile. If a guy wants to know about the girl behind that gorgeous pic, he'll email and hope he makes the cut. | |
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| looks or profile, what attracks you first?
Posted: 11/4/2011 1:23:45 PM | Obviously, the pic, if there is one, because it is right there and the fastest thing to do with your eyes.
Then I read the profile, keeping an eye out for dealbreakers and overall tone.
If there is no pic, then I just read the profile as stated above.
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