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| My son wants to live with his Dad
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:58:32 PM | It is not uncommon for children to want to change living arrangement with their parents following divorce or separation. Most parents will agree that the teens are challenging years and extremely volatile. My now 20 year old wanted to live with his dad a few years back, coincidently when our relationship was suffering tremendously. I agreed to it as much as it broke my heart to let him go, as you stated, this was my baby too. Although he traveled and had been away from me many, many times, it was the toughest thing I ever did. My son moved out of my house for about 3 months before he returned because it wasn’t working out with his father. Despite the difficulties he and I were experiencing, my son preferred to live with his brother and I.
Another post mentioned the mother being controlling and difficult so the kids naturally preferred to live with the father. Weekend parents can appear to be a lot more fun than the full time parents and sometimes, the misinterpretation of organized, structured and stable is exactly what our kids need, even though they don’t know it at the time. | |
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| My son wants to live with his Dad
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:17:53 AM | | girlly girl it made me cry readin your message i am in a similar boat 3 yrs ago i split with my ex . i left the house i jointly owned and now i live in a flat its not much but its home and my four children live with me when my son got about 13 he started saying he hated the flat (its way too small n we have no garden) and he wanted to go live with his dad it broke my heart ,i said exactly what you said to your son the doors always open and so on and the night before he was due to go he changed his mind . The fact that my ex has a more comfrtble home acted like a lure n also the fact that as a single parent you have to tell em off sometimes unlike your ex who gets to do the fun stuff without the responsibilty a lot of the time. my advice is dont stand in his way even though its like a knife in the heart the reality of being in a house with other kids he THINKS he will gel with is bound to be a lot different, make your home a haven and when he comes round try to keep calm whatever he tells you about life at your exes he might just realise where he is better off and come home .. be strong your routine and unconditional love may be the thing that brings him home my son has passed this phase now and openly admits it was because he thought he would have more fun at his dads and less restrictions so make time for fun together x | |
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