| Who is bored....
Posted: 7/3/2009 10:58:49 AM | I can highly relate to you hunnie. I have often thought about going lesbian just to try it out since all men are the same from what I have experienced in the past. Emotionless stonehearted robots .. No offence to the guys on this site at all, I was not refering to any of you, just the past mistakes I have made with the wrong guys.
Don't throw in the towel just yet. You will find this guy, just quit lookig and see what happens! 
''So this guy Must be a G.Q. Rich$$$$$$$$ guy! So you can Freeload becouse your a Women?''....
Not all women are like that, I hate men with money because they treat you like $hit! Just cause you have money don't mean you can walk all over me.. It's what's inside that counts! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 11:14:08 AM |
Hi OP... You are much too young and too pretty to be thinking like that ....Wait til you're my age!
Hey! wait a minute, being bored and boring has nothing to do with AGE and LOOKS ,it has something to do with mindset, those people young and old who use their intellectual ability to interact with others doesn't complain........ | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 11:18:19 AM |
And I am what I am ya know, so if I attract a certain type it ain't like I can help it.
So, you’re just an innocent boredom magnate who unwittingly attracts hum-drum men and accepts absolutely no culpability in her own dating selection processes? As long as you feel that you have no control over the suitors you attract and date, you will continue to meet those you deem to be boring. This is a shame, because I guarantee you that the world outside of your limited experience is, indeed, chocked full of interesting, intriguing, and wonderfully captivating men. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 11:39:23 AM | Your bored because your wanting the impossible, whichever man you meet will never live up to your standards and you will become bored of him even if he does everything he possibly can to keep you entertained, you will still find something else to want.
A lot of men and women are like this, i look at a lot of couples and just wonder what on earth they do to keep themselves occupied and happy living together, a lot seem to just go through the motions of having a partner, others have affairs. life in general is pretty boring if your just a regular person.
Just accept your lot and deal with it. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 11:47:44 AM | life in general is pretty boring if your just a regular person.
Just accept your lot and deal with it.
Sorry Arcturo, but I would recommend the total opposite. Do not accept that as your lot. If it means reinvent yourself do so. In the case of the OP. Do not wait for someone to do it for you. Do it yourself.
Remember:
Boring is a state of mind.
I'd rather be angry that bored. I'd rather be scared out of my wits than bored. I'd rather be channeling all that energy into something and not accept any fate as your fate. Your fate should always be "I dare you" and then do the things to change it.
In the end, BORED people are actually BORING people. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:16:11 PM |
I am getting bored with men and no, I am not a lesbain. I just seem to meet the same guys again and again. And I am what I am ya know, so if I attract a certain type it ain't like I can help it. I want to find a guy but, I am just entirely bored. Any advice or same situations?
Your profile says you're not planning on having sex until after you get married...BWWAAAAAA....oh..sorry....bwaaaaahhaaa.. ..sorry..
Are you a virgin..? If you're not, don't expect a guy to buy the car without a test drive. If you are a virgin, you may have a chance with that..  | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:21:06 PM |
I hate men with money because they treat you like $hit! Just cause you have money don't mean you can walk all over me.. It's what's inside that counts!
Typical westernized female comment. You all love to make generalizations and then when we do it you sound the mysogony alarm.. Well my misandry alarm has gone off with this thead and your comment. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:45:51 PM | | You get burnt out, take 4 months off dating and pour your life into something else. When the right person comes along or you get the itch to be less bored of guys, you can date again :-) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:49:03 PM | OP,
So you're meeting/going with the same type of guys again and again? And it "ain't like you can help it?
Oh I disagree. You most *definitely* CAN help it.
Look... instead of dating only for the purpose of dating, try dating for the purpose of having fun.
For example, go on a Go-Karting race date... or a bike riding date... or a pottery-making date... or since you like the beach, a sand-castle-building date.
Sidenote: If you come to Toronto with the intention of challenging me to a Go Kart race, prepare to have your @ss whipped... 
Another thing... I see a bunch of filters on your profile:
"Age between 23 and 38
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not do drugs
Must not be married"
Maybe it's time to remove the filters. Maybe try breaking in some young 20 year old guy or give some 50+ year old guy a chance.
Make some other changes to your profile... MAYBE get a male friend to completely redo your profile and see what happens.
Here's another idea... have a friendly c0mpetition between friends... get them each to redo your profile. You give each one a two week test run. The profile that gets you the most interesting date with a guy wins... and the prize could be something like you taking that friend out for dinner.
It's just as much YOUR responsibility to keep things interesting. It's not 100% the guy's responsibility.
In my view, dating should be FUN. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:16:20 PM | | I just checked OP's profile & I think I'm much much more boring than her. She sounds outgoing to me. I can understand the restrictions in her profile as well. If those are the things that matter to her cuz of religious &/or moral rezones then it makes sense to rule em out. I'm beginning to think that part of the problem is that people who aren't into those things (like myself) usually are not outgoing & sense she is, that's why she's meeting the wrong guys. I think it mite help for her to try a different approach. Like if she's religious, she could try being more active or she could try online our other communities specifically for some of her interest but instead of focusing on meeting Mr.Rite she could try focusing a little more on having fun. That way she mite not be as bored | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:19:07 PM |
or a bike riding date...
I dare you mention a bike ride only one day before the Tour de France is about to begin.
Alleh! alleh! Alleh!
hehehehe | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:42:18 PM | "The problem with little princess prima donas that are bored, is that they are boring themselves. They expect their man to make them laugh, provide entertainment"
I have to admit that a pet peeve of mine, when reading a profile, is when a woman states that if a guy can't make her laugh, or keep her entertained 24/7, then he shouldn't even bother contacting her. Funny guys are in high demand and why would they want to be with a woman who is basically just an audience to keep entertained? That sounds like more of a chore than anything else.
Obviously humor is an important part of a relationship, but men desire that component from a woman as well. I see too many profiles that have a "hot" picture, a list of "don't want"s, and there seems nothing fun or positive about the profile at all and then they follow it up with "must be able to make me laugh".
Seems to me that OP might want to try dating outside the box. Date someone different than the guys you usually do. Find that right balance of humor, intelligence, and communication. But, don't just expect some great guy to sweep you off your feet and keep you laughing all day long. It's a two-way street. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:57:37 PM | Someone once told me that if you are bored you are simply "lacking inner creativity". I have carried that with me all my life, and pulled it out and remembered it whenever I got antsy or thought I was bored.
Look inside for the part of you that is entertaining and you will attract entertaining men to you, I bet. You appear pretty and nice, so you will do well if you can up your own potential. Maybe. Seems to me some of the men's comments have been spot on.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:08:01 PM | | when I kept meeting the same guys again & again, I finally got professional help. You'd be amazed at how much of it is about you and what you look for and why you are attracted to losers, etc., it's you doing it. If you really want to stop instead of making poor poor pitiful me posts, you too can get help and start being responsible for your life. It's not like they force their way in, you invite them in, you allow yourself to date men whom you say you don't want. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:11:03 PM |
I have to admit that a pet peeve of mine, when reading a profile, is when a woman states that if a guy can't make her laugh, or keep her entertained 24/7, then he shouldn't even bother contacting her. Funny guys are in high demand and why would they want to be with a woman who is basically just an audience to keep entertained? That sounds like more of a chore than anything else.
I think people like that just don't really get what a sense of humour really means. A man can only make me laugh if we share the same kinda humour. So we'd "get it" together type of deal. We'd be entertaining and be entertained by each other.
I'd agree on the busy thing. And to be honest it's like men on here have some sort of honing device. Each and every time I don't have the time to date is when the emails come in! Meanwhile, I could be sitting around not doing too much and zip, no contacts.
It's very strange. But I'd rather be busy doing stuff and having fun! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:12:49 PM |
I dare you mention a bike ride only one day before the Tour de France is about to begin.
I've mentioned bike riding for a date at any time... even in the winter...
Note that I'm in Toronto... | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:18:47 PM |
I have to admit that a pet peeve of mine, when reading a profile, is when a woman states that if a guy can't make her laugh, or keep her entertained 24/7, then he shouldn't even bother contacting her. Funny guys are in high demand and why would they want to be with a woman who is basically just an audience to keep entertained? That sounds like more of a chore than anything else.
I just ignore that behaviour by simply using it as an excuse to do stuff I want to do.
And if she says 'I don't want to do that...' but then doesn't suggest an alternative, I just respond with "Well what do you suggest?"
And if the response is "Ummmm... I don't know" (which has happened to me more than once)
I just respond with "No prob... let me know when something pops in your mind and until then, we'll just go along with my suggestion."
And if I find myself in a ridiculous situation where she poo poos all my ideas but then doesn't offer any of her own, that's a deal-breaker and a good reason to cut things short. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 4:23:26 PM |
I tried>>>>Fat guys nice or badboys don't like me, they think it is a crime that I am cute and chubby, And all fat guys type is Cindy Crawford look a like, woo, those nice fat guys are dumb any way, they don't realized that what Cindy Crawford have, I have too.
So you're saying YOU personally have a personality just like Cindy? Or a body like her?
I take it as " All cute fat guys love a skinny model " Hmm.. Well, they're attractive or
they wouldnt be a " Model " Dont ya think? We all find someone perfect attractive
dont mean that is the ONLY thing we want in the next person that comes along.
We all know that if a fat guy HAD a model he would flip out and kill him self..
So i think your trippin big time on what i said..
I was talking Personality difference and how im 100% sure we treat our Girls and
how we see them in a different perspective. Sorta.. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:07:49 PM | | Thank you Spice Sea. Your right about everything! Yes I know church is probably the best. It is common sense I should go there I am just kinda scared to be honest. But since your not the first to tell me that I should try to socialize more when I am there. Thank you for being so kind!! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:22:35 PM |
If the type of guy you attract isn't working for you, maybe you should contact the type of guy you're attracted to instead.
This is one way to break the pattern.
You can also go to different places than you usually go to meet different types of
people. For instance, if you normally go out to a club, try visting an art museum
(but only if you like art). | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:26:54 PM |
Yes I know church is probably the best. It is common sense I should go there I am just kinda scared to be honest.
I am going to say this honestly and as kindly as possible. Church isn't the best place to go to socialize or meet singles. What if the church you go to doesn't have any members your age or that you'd even consider dating?
It's not that it's a bad idea...socializing...that's a great idea, and there are many more opportunities for socialization. I won't burden you with my own experiences...but woman to woman...there are plenty of sleazes that troll church singles groups.
Community activities...we have SO many here...festivals...concerts...don't be afraid to socialize...but at the same time just enjoy it...if you're going there just to meet someone...it may or may not happen. It's an opportunity to meet and interact with many people.
I am perhaps odd...quack...but I do enjoy the diversity of people and interaction with no agenda...or expectation. And honestly, I've never been disappointed and have no regrets. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:29:28 PM |
Typical westernized female comment. You all love to make generalizations and then when we do it you sound the mysogony alarm
Not all women make generalizations of this nature.
Say what you mean-- Mean what you say-- No excuses, in my book.
Translation: Accept what you cannot change and change what you do not like,
but stop moaning about it and find something positive to say about others. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:50:17 PM | OP, being bored is a choice. You can choose to be bored or to engage in the world and really live.
I teach school, and so many kids say 'that's boring' so they can get out of having to do anything... but the world is so much more fun if you engage. You can bet that I bore them with how being bored is a choice, not a unchangeable state of mind.
Contact a man who's different than all these boring guys and be a part of meeting him, instead of sitting back and comparing him to all the boring guys. If you ask him some questions and get to know him, maybe he'll surprise you.
Church is awesome. No necessarily to find a man -- I haven't found anyone in church --- but to be part of a community. It can give you a great sense of belonging. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:50:24 PM |
I am perhaps odd...quack...but I do enjoy the diversity of people and interaction with no agenda...or expectation. And honestly, I've never been disappointed and have no regrets.
As I do. But because my friends are 10 years older than me, I find myself often stuck going to events where there are never any men my age. I have to venture out on my own in order to meet men while still having fun. I agree not going to look for it, but I also think one has to take opportunities where they arise. So sometimes it can really depend on what community events you are going to. | |
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