| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 1:53:53 PM | I do not have to put anything in my profile because I am not here to catch the fish. However, many women have very well written profiles and I believe many are sincere and pretty. All you have to do is to start spending time with them and allow a nice flower to unwrap. You will learn from quite a few of them (not at all) that they are indeed very decent people and not all crazy and worthless. But you do it with a positive attitude, open heart .
Here are women who are attractice, faithful, intelligent and caring. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:18:04 PM | i'll admit that i've been in a long term relationship, gotten bored, started looking again.. but i think this is a human thing, not a man/woman thing.
i'm still trying to figure out how to not turn and walk away when the excitement dies.. LTR's are a lot of work..dating is fun and exciting (and usually a let down)..
i think about the father/husband qualities of every man i date. if we're honest, i think most women do | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:34:23 PM |
I have to chuckle to myself at all the posters who think I sound "angry". Can you explain how? Because I don't like things about you, that makes me angry? I just filter you out.
It seems to me that the ones who disparage me personally are the ones with the issues. They are going after me for my profile, which is very honest and to the point, and doesn't disparage people, but simply defines what I want. Like the pot thing. All these dumb girls keep saying that I'd get more girls if I quit smoking pot. I DON'T WANT/LIKE/RESPECT women who think pot is bad - because they are dumber than rocks. That is why I put it in my profile and don't hide it. I have no shame about who I am. Maybe you should check yourself.
Funny how you ask how you can sound "angry"... and then proceed to do it again, there is nothing wrong with saying you don't "WANT/LIKE/RESPECT" women who think its bad (no need to yell, your preference is your preference) - but then you proceed to call them "dumber than rocks". Angry sounding.
They have their preferences, and apparently not being a pot smoker is one of them, that doesn't make them "dumber than rocks" anymore than it makes *you* "dumber than rocks" for having your preference. It just "is".
"I think most of the women on here are total losers" - you do it again... why would you think any woman reading this, even if pot smoking was ok by her, would want to date you after that? Yup, sounds "angry" to me. Nope, you don't have to like everyone here... but hurling insults at people rarely results in a level-headed thread with anything useful, and is more likely to get the thread deleted than anything.
You started out this thread by basically calling women shallow, superficial actors. So you insult women, and then expect them not to take it personally and not to get things hurled back at you? Never known the world to act that way usually, but ok...
Not trying to bash you here, you have your own preferences and they are neither "right" or "wrong", I'm just trying to give another viewpoint - if it were me, as a guy, looking at a woman's profile and seeing posts talking about "all men on here are total losers" and they're "dumber than rocks" - umm, I don't think I'd be emailing her "trying to convince her otherwise"... I'd be saying "NEXT!" and running for my life from someone who spouts such bitter comments about the opposite sex. Read what you posted here... if this was a woman as the OP, posting this, would *you* want to date her? | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:41:07 PM | | ^^^Poetry? Kittens? I think the difference is that if I saw a woman's profile on here that slammed the men on this site, I wouldn't think she was angry because of the profiles like yours I've seen on here. I could understand her disappointment. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:42:22 PM | With out a gentleman there are not a lady.
We (women) do dream about finding the right one and live happy forever
maybe the problem is that we are making mistakes when we select our partner.
We need to comunicate in a open way what our needs are. Why passion needs to die?
If she "get bored" It means to me that she wasn't the right one for you
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:46:19 PM |
Poetry? Kittens? I think the difference is that if I saw a woman's profile on here that slammed the men on this site, I wouldn't think she was angry because of the profiles like yours I've seen on here.
And I'm "not single/not looking", so they can be disappointed if they want, no skin off my back. And even when I was 'looking' on here, I wasn't spouting off angrily about women that weren't what I was interested in, or who weren't interested in me if I was. Easy enough to just move along to another profile, find someone who maybe *was* what I was looking for, than to b**ch about them. "Plenty of fish" y'know... | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:34:38 PM |
O.k. OP I am decent woman you are welcome to review my profile.
Ease up on the hair dye. You're going to give yourself a tumor.. And all those chemicals on your brain makes you dumb...Someone else will be along to lie to you and tell yo what you 'want' to hear.. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:39:24 PM |
And I'm "not single/not looking", so they can be disappointed if they want, no skin off my back. And even when I was 'looking' on here, I wasn't spouting off angrily about women that weren't what I was interested in, or who weren't interested in me if I was. Easy enough to just move along to another profile, find someone who maybe *was* what I was looking for, than to b**ch about them. "Plenty of fish" y'know...
Translation- 'I'm whipped so bad I like cats.. And you should be too...'
Quantity is no replacement for quality... | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:08:05 PM | tbuddha,
Geez, dude, wake up. You're blaming women for your own failings.
Women will line up and basically do whatever a man wants for the right guy. She'll crawl under barbed wire and cross a minefield for the right guy. The passion dies? It's not exciting anymore? Who WOULDN'T leave? It's your fault. Improve yourself. Become a better man. Create a better kingdom and better women will want to come into your castle. And don't kid yourself. Women will date you for a plethora of reasons that have nothing to do with actually liking you.
Blaming women for being women is like blaming a dog for being a dog. Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better.
Women bail on a relationship because you got complacent about it. She probably didn't even feel like you were a threat to cheat on her or find another girl. If there's one thing I know about women is that they like men that other women like. Women aren't ever going to do the work of keeping passion alive. That's on your shoulders by being such a great guy that they fear that another woman could snatch you at any time. This is one of the reasons why you'll get more sex from a girl you don't live with than if you move in with her. If you live with her she knows where you are at all times and competition anxiety is lowered and she feels she no longer has to compete as much to retain you and your attentions.
Most of you expect these great people to be with, while you do next to nothing to make yourselves so desirable that your man/woman wouldn't even think about leaving. You act like it's some sort of innate right to a great mate and life is somehow cheating you if it doesn't provide one on a platter with no work from yourselves other than throwing up a profile and whining on forums. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:27:11 PM | I can't speak for the other women on POF, but superficial doesn't describe me. As a matter of fact, I thought I had my match from a guy that "says" he wants long term. Only to get jerked around, heart broken and led down a crazy road of games. How is it you fellas can switch your feelings off and on like a light switch?
I thought I had a decent guy, but boy was I fooled. Hang in there, we aren't all the enemy. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:16:20 PM | | Um look around. There are plenty of great gals out there who really want an LTR (myself being one) maybe you should stop only contacting the superficial ones and you might have a change in opinion. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:57:15 PM | I think people on POF are way to picky and shallow (not everyone of course but alot)
People need to realize People are not perfect, Everyone has flaws, its just whether or not your able to accept or over look flaws | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/5/2009 8:09:34 PM | Not to discourage you but...
isn’t that what guys have been doing for years? You summed it up so nicely too... “They only want to stay around when it's exciting, and as soon as the passion dies down they want to move on to the next thing...”
sorry... Couldn’t resist. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/6/2009 12:38:59 PM | OP: Your desire to create a little vacuum where only chickens, home grown produce, 420, and love can exist if VERY far fetched.
The problem you are facing is you are living in a free society and we are all not on a level playing field. The chances of you bumping into some chick who wants to sh1t in a bag and bury it by candle light while munching on Mary Jane brownies are slim to none. Possible? Yes.
Truth is... the way you want to live your life is your choice. A woman's choices are her own.
The inequality of it all? You, the man, are allowed less room to b1tch about not getting your way. The ladies? The lot of them will be whining until the end of time about something or another and it is generally accepted.
Girls with no pooch... You were as good as dead as soon as you posted this.
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:24:03 PM | Wow another "where are" forums. How sad really that both sexes can't see the common denominator in all their broken relationships... ourselves.
It takes two to make a relationship work and two to keep the fires alive. Sure it is hard work, takes work, and a desire to see it work.
It also takes a person realizing that you can't blame the past on the next potential partner. Good grief, if believed all men were like my Ex,why the heck would I bother dating? I wouldn't. I prefer to believe each man has potential until he proves otherwise on his own merits, not those of a previous Ex, lover, or date.
If that makes me strange, so be it. But I prefer to judge a person based on their words and actions and not those of the past.... | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:09:52 AM | Ah friends, don't let the OP rile you up. This is the guy who is looking for a stepford wifey/robot (look at his posting history). He's looking for a sort of 'ideal' that doesn't exist and is probably one of those types that reminisce ad nauseum for the good ol' days of the 1950s where June Cleaver types doted hand and foot on their man and put aside their own needs and wants always for their husbands.
Leave it to Beaver was a tv show - and an 'ideal' that doesn't work today.
The 1950s weren't all that great for women, and I'm glad that I wasn't a wife back then.
If you want someone to 'obey' you, get a dog OP. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 10/21/2009 7:30:58 AM | Just because the girls you were interested in a LTR didn't want one with you doesn't mean that they are not "as brilliant as the 50 year olds" "horrible" or are all still into "clubbing."
Sometimes, it's YOU that they don't want a LTR with. Learn how to take rejection. It's a wonderful thing. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 10/21/2009 9:04:24 AM | I totally disagree with you and agree with her. 1. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 2: your perfect girl may just be the one in the mirror. 3: there are tons of girls that don't cheat, and find long term relationships very satisfying.
Don't give up. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places, have unrealistic standards, or are just not appealing to the ones you have tried to "get with". People cheat for all different types of reasons. Only they know why. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:03:00 PM |  Hey, I am a decent woman, widow for just over 3 years, and I cannot believe I had the courage (or stupidity) to register on a dating site. After many times active I am just about to call it quits again. Girls and guys, you MUST look at the BIG picture. Consider the fact that the overwhelming majority of members here are (listed as being) Divorced. In a failed relationship, more often than not, it is the 'fault' of one of the spouses. Statistics show that the 'faulty' spouse is mostly the guy. Then, as we fast-forward to this particular site, what do we find on a Search? Why, none-other than one Divorced guy after another. (well, not literally)  Of course all of these fine gentlemen claim to be God's gift to the ladies when, in reality, they are for the most part all LOSERS. If they were so perfect they would not be divorced. Duh. So, having said this, we (ladies) proceed to pay our money and take our chances - so to speak. We date one of these over-weight, alcoholic, ignorant, unhygenic, crude, loud, cheap, lazy and lying individuals and we whine about it the next day. What do you expect from any dating site packed with LOSERS?? I made one of these mistakes almost 2 years ago when I chose a (divorced) 'long-distance trucker' over a nice, intelligent single gent. I thought I found the first true love since my husband passed away. Boy was I wrong. 
Now I'm left with my little toy poodle, Roxy, and of course my 'show horse' and I'll choose the company of these two over ANY of the LOSER divorced males on this or any other site. Good luck to the rest of you (divorced) ladies. You are going to need it. | |
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| Where are the decent women looking for long term at?
Posted: 10/21/2009 10:19:48 PM | tbuddha ...
maybe your profile doesn't attract the type of girl, your posts seem to imply you are after.
perhaps 420 friendly isn't the right thing to have in there.
how did that post on Traditional women go the other day ???? | |
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