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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:13:51 AM | I have noticed two so far:
How about "I have traveled all over the world"
It really means "I've been there and If you want to go I can tell you all about it but I'm not going anywhere with you, I just wanted to let you know I have traveled because you said you like traveling"
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I'm a "Vegas Guy" it means He likes to drink a lot and the strippers know him by first name. Doesn't mean he wants to go see Cirque du Solei.  | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:52:50 AM |
Its not that I don't understand the "logic" behind it, but...
Look at it this way, you started this thread complaining about "deceptive profiles", yet you admit to using the "marital status" field deceptively to attract women who might not otherwise look at your profile. Ok, so now, knowing that - why would a woman not think that you don't have a PhD, you're not an "eye doctor", etc? You've already shown from your profile alone that you will engage in deception "if it serves your purpose", yet are arguing that its "only a little deception" and starting threads bashing people who "write deceptive profiles". Sounds a bit hypocritical?
Excellent response forums1. I'd say he's got you there Opie. It's like the gray area known as "lying by omission", if you neglect to tell someone something, is it considered lying?
OT: At least 8 out of 10 profiles that I have seen (men) have a headline variation of : "Looking for a good woman"
My translation: My ex was a complete whore and slept with all my friends.
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I want a woman who never questions anything *I* do, yet takes care of me like I'm her child.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:58:21 AM |
ook at it this way, you started this thread complaining about "deceptive profiles", yet you admit to using the "marital status" field deceptively to attract women who might not otherwise look at your profile. Ok, so now, knowing that - why would a woman not think that you don't have a PhD, you're not an "eye doctor", etc? You've already shown from your profile alone that you will engage in deception "if it serves your purpose", yet are arguing that its "only a little deception" and starting threads bashing people who "write deceptive profiles". Sounds a bit hypocritical?
You're just not going to let this go are you? We should really do this in a separate thread because it's becoming more about me and my profile than deceptive profile texts in general, and there are lots of great responses so far and this is really detracting from what could be a great thread and making it only a "very good" thread.
Ok, sure, I am being deceptive by saying I'm divorced and then clarifying it almost immediately with an explanation.
It is my personal feeling that my status is closer to divorced, than it is to "separated"
because I think that "separated" means, to most people, anything from "taking a short break from your spouse", to "being out of the house anywhere from a day to a few months". I am, for all practical purposes, divorced, the only thing standing between me and the legal title of such is a 2 day trial scheduled for 2 months from now and the judge to hand down his decision.
If there was an option "Separated for 3 years and completely out of contact with the soon to be ex and just waiting for a trial in 2 months" I would have picked that option.
But I don't have that choice so I do what to me is the next best thing. I chose "divorced" and then I explain it shortly thereafter. Which once again, is way different than writing a deceptive profile and saying nothing to clarify it until you are face to face with a person on your first meeting.
If someone has a problem with the way I wrote my profile and chooses not to contact me then of course that's completely up to them. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:59:15 AM | Sensitive: whiny
Strong: ball-buster
Traditional: you pay
Zany: will boil your bunny | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:09:06 AM | "I'm not here to play games, I know what I want, and I plan to get off this site as fast as possible".
Translation: "Even though you're a great guy, the only one I have met on this site that I really like, I'm conflicted, confused, I am not ready to date, and I'm going to jerk you around and expect you to continue to pay for expensive dinners until I decide if whatever we have is going anywhere. " | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:19:03 AM | ha. you're right OP. in most cases men/women put their best foot forward and try to attract as many people as possible. not only is that seen as desperate but it's also like strip mining the ocean and casting a net.
others try to "use the right bait" to "catch the right fish"
But this backfires as well.
Because when all's said and done and you revert back to who you are.
you get flushed down the toilet again.
The best way to see this thing guys and girls is to see YOURSELF as the fish.
and look at all the bait thrown down at you. remember. You're the Prize.
and if you see the kinda bait you like and you feel he's got a big healthy sturdy thick long rod then THAT'S the one you go for.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:21:09 AM | | wow Doc......Ive met my share of men duds (losers) but you make me wonder why you bother at all... lol....and no there are no inuendos in my profile...I say what I mean and I'm exactly what I say. I do love to be with someone whose a "man" because I love being a female...but it dosnt mean Im a doormat....and it dosnt mean I need him to be domineering....I dont know if you'll get that one. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:27:36 AM |
wow Doc......Ive met my share of men duds (losers) but you make me wonder why you bother at all... lol
Yes, it's rather frustrating. At one point in my profile I had an entire paragraph in the first date section pertaining to the topic of deception. I wrote "If you have significantly misrepresented yourself, I am going to tell you straight off that you're not my type and I am not going to waste your time or my own by spending even a few minutes "getting to know you". Plus other words along those lines. A few women who I am friendly with on this site suggested that my profile was too negative so I pulled the text off of there, but it's exactly how I feel. It's not the time spend messaging back and forth, rather it's that feeling of being suckered in by yet another dysfunctional loser that has messed with my head out of sheer desperation and stupidity. It gets old REALLY fast.
It got to the point where, about 3 weeks ago I was messaging with a woman on this board who sounded like everything I wanted in a woman, including scuba diving which is a HUGE plus..that's something I would love to do with a woman but I can never find someone who's into it. However she refused to send me a picture because "some guy once spread her picture around the internet and it caused her problems at work". She said she's "very pretty and I should take her word for it".
I thought about it for a day or so, and then messaged her back, and told her that I could go no further without seeing a picture, and it's not about the waste of time, it's about that sinking feeling you get when you walk into the diner, or coffee shop and there's this "thing" sitting there with a hopeful smile on it's face...and it's "dejagoo" all over again. I'd rather pass up a golden opportunity than take another shot. And sure, pictures aren't everything, but if they're not going to share one in a private message that's not a red flag, it's a BEACON | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:38:25 AM | | when this thread was started it was lighthearted and funny.. it put a smile on my face.. it has such turned into an attack on the op.. really ppl! lighten up! life really isnt tht bad.. learn to laugh at yourself ! everyone is deceptive to a certain degree.. who puts all their negatives down in BOLD PRINT? gosh.. if you were out shopping for groceries wld you buy the cookies tht said "tastes ok but made with bottom of the barrel ingredients"? i saw this thread as entertainment not an attack.. maybe everyone should post "im really insecure and angry with the world" on their profiles, and see how that works for 'em.. sheesh! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:43:28 AM | Seriously. Why don't you guys just take it to email? No need to ruin it for the others.
I came back in this thread expecting to see more pages full of humor, and all I got was back, and forth attacks on the OP.
You guys called him out, now how hard is it to let it go? Alright...we get it. He lied and was found out. Now keep the train rollin. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:43:52 AM |
wow Doc......Ive met my share of men duds (losers) but you make me wonder why you bother at all... lol
Great point, rlOvely...and I have received a few messages from others who feel exactly the same way. Truth is I enjoy a good flame war or a heated debate any time...and those who are 'bashing me' make good points, however it HAS derailed this thread from it's original purpose and tone which WAS rather lighthearted and amusing, even though true.
That much said, I'm done with further debating as to how deceptive my own profile may or may not be, and I welcome others to post their own experiences regarding profile text that might not be "telling the entire story".
If anyone would like to contact me via the message system of this board to discuss my profile text or any thing else, they are welcome to do so. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:50:11 AM | This "thing"?? Hopeful smile on IT'S face??
Whether someone has actually decieved you or if you've just built up your own unrealistic image of perfection in your mind, being disappointed with somebody's physical appearance does NOT give you the right to refer to ANY woman as a thing, or an it. You have the right to be bitter, shallow and cynical to your heart's content buster, but how can you possibly justify sinking so low as to refer to a woman as an object just because she doesn't 'measure up'? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:53:25 AM |
Whether someone has actually decieved you or if you've just built up your own unrealistic image of perfection in your mind, being disappointed with somebody's physical appearance does NOT give you the right to refer to ANY woman as a thing, or an it. You have the right to be bitter, shallow and cynical to your heart's content buster, but how can you possibly justify sinking so low as to refer to a woman as an object just because she doesn't 'measure up'?
You are absolutely correct, I do not have the right to refer to any woman as a thing, it's disrespectful, degrading, and just not very nice.
However, I cannot be sure that this "thing" that showed up for the date was sporting a set of female genitalia, and as I have said before I can't even be sure if it was human. The only way to be sure would have been to hit it with a few tranquilizer darts and do a physical exam and I was NOT going there. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:19:04 AM | Oh I forgot! One more:
"I want a woman who doesn't sweat the small stuff"
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I'm a high maintenance type of guy, there is room for only one of those in this relationship and I called it, therefore you must be able to put up with my shrit. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 10:09:49 AM |
Opie, you are digging your own grave..I wish you well.
Well, since the hole is already dug, I'll just make it a bit wider and deeper and throw in the BEAST who showed up for our date.
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:45:28 PM | "I don't want you to think I'm the player type" Translation : " I'm a player.. no really, I am!"
"I don't have any emotional baggage for you to worry about" Translation "Damn right I don't have any baggage that ****ing **** of my ex took my heart".
"I'm looking for a girl who has morals " Translation "I'm a psychopath and I need someone to mimic so I can morph into what you want me to me. "
True story..
Number one con on this site probably.
RUN from those words!
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:48:30 PM | | * "I'm looking for a girl who has morals " Translation " I'm a psychopath have no morals, but I am looking for someone to mimic so I know what to put on my NEW profile once I'm done with you. " | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:40:48 AM | Yeah. I had a date with a guy who listed "legal" as his profession.
He wasn't an attorney or a paralegal: he was a bailsbondsman, a repo guy, and a bounty hunter.
I guess he was kinda telling the truth, but it was VERY misleading. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 7:31:15 AM | It happens to me too.
"Are you a smoker? No/occasionally " means they could, occasionally means chain smoker lol. Which is fine. I smoke but I almost disqualified a few that said they didn't smoke but they smoke plenty.
"I mate for life" mean I will #$%@ you twice and never talk to you again.
"Must be able to stand kids" means my kids screech all day and I let them.
"Looking for friends" means commitment makes me piddle myself.
"Not looking for anything heavy right away" see Looking for friends.
"I am on good terms with my ex" means RUUUN, run fast, run far.
"Looking for a lady with no expectations" means he can't get it up, it's tiny, he is 300lbs fatter than his pics and/or he knows he sucks in bed.
"Companionship is the most important thing" Again see above ^
I could decode all day, nothing gets past me anymore. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:01:58 AM | IDOC let it go...every message you write in the forums is about that woman you dated that you claimed deceived you about her looks.
Just maybe she wasnt so impressed with you either
Maybe consider her feelings | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:03:32 AM | This is usually said on a first date rather than in a dating profile, but close enough. I got this one recently.
"I still live with my ex but it's only for convenience and financial reasons".
Translates to one or more of the following-
1- I'm in a relationship but I'm looking to get something on the side
2- I'm in a relationship but I'm looking for something better. Of course it will be a rebound, or even worse because I will probably be sleeping with both of you at the same time and I have not yet begun to heal
3-I'm a liar but you should believe me because I posted in my profile that I am single and I am a very trustworthy person | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:27:45 AM | | then why did you look his way in the first place,thats the real answer | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:36:06 AM |
blindehorse700 says: then why did you look his way in the first place,thats the real answer
Who are you talking to and what the Hell are you talking about?
Do you ever get accused of having poor communication skills? Just wondering | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:35:30 AM | I snicker about most profiles that mention honesty. 'I'm straightforward, and honest to a fault and expect the same in my mate'
Translation : I want to find someone that's honest with me, while I lie or hide the truth and in the event that you catch me in a lie I'll say "Are you calling me a liar?" to throw you off.
This works well with "I want someone who will accept me as I am"
There are those out there that would love to find someone who believes everything they say... regardless of how honest they are... | |
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