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Posted: 7/5/2009 7:42:35 PM | | I would not have issues dating someone in a wheelchair. However it is so hard to meet someone in general. I know their are other sites for people in chairs maybe this would help | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:09:03 PM | It doesnt bother me at all
I would date a man or a woman in a wheelchair, of course the same rules apply to everyone, i have to have similar interests, and attraction
Ive gotten to know this guy really well online and he is in a wheelchair, if he didnt live so far away i would be dating him, so we are just online friends :)
Its the humans Soul that im interested in :)
People judge way too easily and i know how it feels | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:30:28 PM | | Absolutely. But only if she let me deck it out with nice rims heh. Just joking of course my only concern is sexuality. I watched a documentary in disability studies on a sport called murder ball (basically Wheel Chair Rugby) and it talked about sex in there but only from a male perspective. I am curious to what sensations females are able to derive from sexual contact depending on where their spine is severed. But I'd definitely take an individual in a wheel chair on a date. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:37:45 PM | | Of course. Why not? If we have a lot in common and click well in other areas, why let a wheelchair limit who you can date? It would present some challenges, but it would not be a big deal to me. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 8:38:37 PM | I know someone who is in a happy committed long term relationship and the man happens to be in a wheelchair. I believe that he found his girlfriend after he was already in the chair. He is smart, articulate, funny, kind and very confident. Those qualities supercede anything else.
Good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:12:22 PM | My knee jerk response is, no.
The rational side of me would question why I would choose someone with a disability when I could have someone without one, as I'm a very active, spontaneous, outdoor type person, who's on the go a lot.
But, having said the same thing about the thought of ever having kids, or being in a relationship with a woman who already had kids, I met a woman (with kids) who I so attracted to, and connected with on so many levels that I went against my natural inclination, and had the best relationship and life (for many years) I could have ever imagined.
So, my answer now is, never say never... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:33:44 PM | i think verityone hit it on the head.
Unless that person was perfect for me in every other way....intelligence, sense of human, world-view, kind, physical attraction, etc, then i dont think i would start a relationship with someone in a wheelchair. At some point, you have to think of yourself. I have ALOT that i want to accomplish before i die....alot of travelling, including isolated islands in micronesia. I"m a fairly on the go person...spontaneous..
I think in some cases having the wheelchair would prevent some of these things. There would also be the issue if she could have children. Depending on the level in the spinal cord of the pathology, many people in wheelchairs can have a drastically reduced lifespan. We are still good people even if we decline to date in this situation...we have to lead our lives, and bring good to the world in other ways.
On the other side of the card....if i fell in love with the woman of my dreams,,,and some horrible tradgedy left her wheelchair bound, i would NEVER leave her. (at least not for reasons having anything to do with her disability) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:41:47 PM | YES I would date a guy in a wheel chair if he have a good character of dignity,integrity, and decency. I will not mind that he is bound to a wheel chair as long as he cherish and love me.... | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 12:55:48 AM | i'l like to thank everyone who has
posted back to this thread it's been very
interesting reading everyone individual opinions
on this matter thanks again  | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 3:21:03 AM | It is attitude.
Does he feel the world owes him something because of it?
Can he do somethings for himself that I could not handle?
Being in a wheel chair would not exclude him because of the chair.
Of course if his chair is pimped out with reble flags and no fat chick bumer stickers, Hell no. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 4:08:27 AM | | That's true but like in everything in life -you need to put in some common sence.Like I said earlier it is the person sitting in the chair that I would be interested in.I am not a person who would not settle for an alcoholic or someone who is using drugs-with the chair or without.Again "the wheels"would not make any difference to me-hell,I may be renting the seat one day myself. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:41:29 PM |
I know what it's like to be a caretaker for some confined to a wheelchair
(No dig to the person making that statement, or their post.. I just picked it out of a sea of statements)
I picked that statement because it bothers me, just a bit.
You see, not everyone is alike.
All redheads have a hot temper? No
All wheelchair users have to have a "caretaker"? No
All people with asthma can't run? No
Now, I am not paralyzed.. but I am a-sittin' in a wheelchair.. and it's gonna be where my butt sits for the rest of my life.
I don't need a caretaker.. I do fine totally by myself. All the time. Daily. Day in, day out.
I have an aquaintance who has no legs at all.. in a power chair.. and he lives alone also, with no need for a caretaker. AND he's in his early 70's.
It does seem, though, that generally walking people see us in a wheelchair and think we need "taking care of".
There are some that do.. but it might be very minimal.
There are some that do, and it might be a bigger need.
And there are some that don't.
Activities.
Do we HAVE to run that marathon with you?
We can't cheer you on, meet you at the finish line, share in your experience with you in other ways?
Etc.
Peace. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:59:24 PM | p.s.
I agree that attitude makes a big difference. 
It's no fun to date ANYONE that has any kind of big ole' chip on their shoulder, (as was mentioned earlier in this thread).
And there are plenty of chips out there, unbalancing people and weighing them down.
Yep, some disabled people have them.. as do any other person.
But a whole lot of us are quite well balanced and know how to smile at life's little irritants... because we've had some good practice.
So OP? Keep on keeping on.. positive attitude... smile and look for the good... and the good will find you, too. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 9:51:56 PM |
I would assume that would also effect his gentiles.
LOL....gentiles...as in non-Jews. I love P of F....you can't make this shit up.
I dated a guy in a wheelchair when I was in high school. He was a hell of a lot more mature than other people his age, I can tell you that.
I would date a man in a wheelchair again, if he lead an otherwise average life. I could not see myself with someone who could not or did not work. It has nothing to do with money....I dated a retired guy for a while and never will again. He relied way too much on me to provide entertainment value to his life...and he never understood that sometimes after being at work all day, solitude was appealing to me, because he had plenty of "me time." So, yeah, if the only problem was mobility, I'd date him. Why not? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 10:52:25 PM | I saw a girl a few years back... she was in a chair.... the high-end ones, almost like a racer, angled wheels the whole bit....... she was beautiful, and smart and her physique was amazing...
I'd never considered someone in a wheelchair before... but I did when I saw her.... I think I'd give it serious thought....
If my G/F ended up in a chair, well, doesn't matter... she's mine and I would carry her or push her.... not a problem.... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 11:11:00 PM | {I did consider that in my paid site days..I was supposed to meet up with a nice guy I was chatting with who was in a wheelchair. Set a date he told me would email me back with a place...then he backed off ..so I decided to ask another friend to go with me to a festival in a nearby city.}
I would and did actually met up with someone who was wheelchair bound. We just didn't click when we met. The wheelchair had nothing to do with it though. Even he said that there was no spark. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 5:50:53 AM | | Well, the relationship would be limiting for you. But if you really love her, you already know the answer. Plenty of people have difficult relationships and still say they wouldn't trade their love for a disable person for anything. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 6:02:01 AM | | Yes, I would. In fact, I almost wrote someone recently except a re-read of his profile made me realize he was looking for a differnet kind of relationship than I am. But if there was a match... sure, why not. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 8:57:26 AM | I have dated (back when I was 18 & newly divorced), a man who was in a wheelchair. We met through a personal ad in the local newspaper.
I remember thinking, on our first date (can this guy actually have sex?). I would never have asked such a forward question, but it did occur
to me, since I found myself attracted to him. He actually told me upfront, "yes, I can still have sex." I spluttered on my drink a bit & blushed
like crazy  Would I consider it again? Probably, it depends on the situation.
Also, my step-mother is in a wheelchair, has been for nearly 20 years now. And because the arthritis is in my back now, I will probably be in
one myself in a couple more years, which gives me the other perspective, as well.
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Please, take that snide little comment and put it back in your pocket. He was paralyzed from the waist down. I would assume that would also effect his gentiles. I never asked him about more details of his own sex life because I felt it was quite personal. - kuehnau
FYI kuehnau, many men paralysed from the waist down can have sex, it depends on the EXACT area of damage. The higher up it is (on the spine),
the more paralysis & the more areas will be affected. A good general rule of thumb, is if they can still use a bathroom, probably they can (or MAY
be able to) still have sex. And btw, it's spelled "genitals". | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:07:01 AM | A wheelchair would not bother me. I dont feel it would get in the way as long as the sexual side of the relationship wasnt affected. Im just a girl who needs lots of energetic sex.
On the plus side you get the best places on front rows of gigs if your with someone in a wheelchair right?
Seriously though if i met someone i had lots in common with, got on well with, there was a sexual attraction then a wheelchair wouldnt be an issue.
Ops may i add that i dont have lots of energetic sex with every person i go on a date with, just thought id best clear that one up, blushes. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:13:21 AM | Depends on the person.
And depends on where I'm at in life.
I'm learning never to say "never." | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:14:30 AM | what a pratty self indulgent question OP
You made me vomit into my wheel chair bound lap
And, as yee insult a plethora of ma types the world over I woulod leather with the stick known as ugly and inane
May you burn in the hellfire pits of hell itself (IMO of course) and how yer wee meek mind got away witht his thread is beyond even I
can i swear at him admin? (mail me) cos frankly he from the diasbled lot of us is asking for it
sulks in the corner with a muffin | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:49:33 AM | Jeepers Mr. wicked_desires
Please see MY answer in previous post on this thread...
AND..
It IS a VERY VALID question...!!
And one's response is both VALID and ALLOWED
(least last time I checked the constitution)
MANY of my comrades now "ride" cause
of what they bravely gave, so you can whine and complain...
Is NO different then similiar questions
which irratate me.. such as....
"Would you date a military man..?"
(one I get, and hate it even being asked..)
Would you date someone with multiple divorces"..?
Would you date etc.., etc., etc...,,
Stop your whining..
we ALL have different cross's to carry..
Life is NOT fair..
and politically correct censorship SUCKS..
Now...
If you wanna hum-bug about this matter...
I'm your guy.............
---SoldierByte--- | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:56:07 AM | | Yes, but just as an activity partner, at first. If there's some extreme intelligence there, of course, it could lead to a tremendous love..... because I love intelligent men. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 10:57:53 AM | | I would not. I find there are so many compatibility issues to begin with.. this is another hurdle. I'm very active. I hike, cycle, do triathlons and want somebody who would do some of these activities with me. But I did reach out to a man in my city who was in a wheelchair- he didn't even reply to my hello note. So guess he has lots of women writing to him. | |
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