| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:53:21 PM | I agree with the person who said "I'm not saying that instant chemistry should equate to...OMG I'm gonna marry this one..."
I had instant ... something with this great girl. Unfortunately, an old interest of her's has unknowingly usurped me :(
However, there was something there that first night ... we both knew it. | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:29:28 PM | I think that chemistry is instant, you know right a way the soon you meet the person if the chemistry is there or not. That is the way Ifeel chemistry.
If there is not chemistry, I would never make it to the second date! | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/12/2009 10:49:09 PM | | In my case no chemistry can not develope. I either have it or I don't. Sometimes I know right then and there and other times it takes 2 dates. | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/12/2009 10:55:02 PM | I think that the more you know about the person, the more potential for chemistry there can be.
...and bear in mind that some chemical reactions are explosive   | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/13/2009 12:33:57 AM | Sometime it does develop. But it doesn't come when someone keeps telling you to stay with them because it will come. It is like an arranged marriage where you are forced to 'learn to love them'... Why do that to yourself? Him reminding you that he isn't attracted but don't worry it will come lol
I am not sure a man would stay with a woman for 9 months if nothing was there. Seems like a manipulation tactic.
In my experience, it grows from something. Not out of not attraction at all. | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/13/2009 9:43:38 AM | I'm another one for the instant chemistry. There's got to be some sort of connection and I've got to be able to picture us naked. If not, its over.
For those that say I'm shallow or stupid or lazy (check other threads), the first time I felt it was with my hubby to be-I was 17. That lasted until his death - when I was 41. So who's to say that what worked for me then, won't work for me now?
While I've met several men since I began dating again, its only happened one other time and that lasted a year. Yet I met my best friend through Match. Unfortunately, I did not feel the chemistry but we shared so many common interests and had a blast when we were together (as friends) that I kept wondering if chemistry would develope. But I realized that when he kissed me (date 2 or 3), it felt like I was kissing my brother (or what I assume it would feel like if I kissed my brother like that). I kept hoping for the chemistry to happen, yet it never did. I've known him for almost 2 yrs, and have gone out as friends a lot. He does have a gf now and I'm happy for him. One can't help it if the chemistry is not there. I've yet to meet anyone and have the chemistry develope 'later'-though sometimes I will date them a 2nd time - if there was a small spark or if I was just unsure. I realize not everyone is comfortable on their first meet, so sometimes the 2nd meet or date is easier on them.
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/13/2009 10:06:59 AM | I don't believe it is instant or can develop, but I have been in a situation that it was instant for her, but I didn't feel anything more than friends. However, I tried to figure out whether chemistry would develop, but it didn't. I have also been in a situation where the chemistry was instant and lasted for a day, but after that there was no chemistry.
I think nowadays, its not only chemistry, it's also about biology, physics and the maths too if you know what I mean. | |
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| Instant Chemistry or Develop Chemistry
Posted: 7/13/2009 12:29:12 PM | | There is no instant chemistry. It's just another way of saying you're in lust with someone. It's a way to pretty up wanting to have sex with someone from the start. Chemistry can't be figured out right away. It takes time if it's real. "Instant chemistry" is fleeting and immature. | |
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