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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:23:25 PM | Small town country living here.
No dating pool...no pond either.
It did rain a bit yesterday.
But that has already soaked into the ground. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:33:34 PM | Tends to narrow down to what we can put up with...
versus who will put up with us.
Those two ratios rarely balance out. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:33:39 PM | "All those guys (from another thread) heading to Columbia for the Columbian ladies.....
All these women heading to Cuba for the Cuban men......
Hmmmmmmm...........
Is this Free Trade, or what?"
I think what you are seeing is the practical outcome of some of the worst gender relations I have seen in this country in my lifetime. I mean it! Relations between men and women are the worst I have ever seen. So much bad blood, suspicion, spiteful, vindicitive, litigation, resentment, .....I have seen this wave rising for several years. There are even television programs that never tire of stirring up the pot between the genders. The Dad-bashing and men-hating seems to be the favorite plot lines in Hollywood these days. A good romantic movie (or even romantic comedy) seems to be completely out of fashion.
No wonder so many men and women have taken to looking to foreign countries for more suitable companions, unpolluted by popular culture, causes, and manias. I do not envy them in the least. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 10:34:07 PM | Msg # 79 ^^^^^ Yep!
It's a shame when one poster, who has a reputation for being stanch and negative (you know this, Ren), can turn a harmless post into a battle.
I live in a shallow dating pool. By choice, admittedly. Gotta add, I do think we should hire more Life Gaurds.
However, the honest/sincere people I meet in general make it worth it.
Hehe, come to think of it, everyone knows who the dissenters/negative people are and choose to ignore them.
Makes for a peaceful life, despite the romantic opportunities.
just a thought | |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 11:23:18 PM |
It's a shame when one poster, who has a reputation for being stanch and negative (you know this, Ren), can turn a harmless post into a battle.
That's a first, to be called "negative". I also don't see this thread as having descended into a raging "battle".
I choose to have only positive people in my life, and avoid the negative. I have no room in my life for women with "issues" from past relationships, and choose only to pursue those who are open to what happens based on a positive dynamic.
How that's "negative" is beyond me. In any case, my experience with online dating in general, and POF in particular, has been very positive. I avoid the negative, the time wasters, and those with issues, but it's never been difficult to find attactive, positive, interesting women, who make the whole quest more than worthwhile. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 4:53:46 AM |
It doesn't include women who aren't comfortable speaking in English.
Ooops! I can tell you for certain that the French Canadian girls are not to be passed up over a little thing like language skills. Talk about silly restrictions....... | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 6:17:33 AM | "Obviously, you are not French Canadian. (My ex is 5'6" and a size zero. ) She is not pushing 60, she is now 44.
But she is your ex, so she has left your pool.
Too funny that some in the dating pool attempt to put down a size 2 by saying their "EX" is a zero.
ps. Cuba isn't my dating pool. It is where my adopted family is, and where I spend my R & R time.
They only make $1,000. but education, medical, some food, some appliances etc. what they get for free, and their expenses are next to nothing. Yes, it is a poor country, but a happy country that doesn't seem to have dating issues, or the need for a cyber dating pool............. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 7:48:18 AM | moraima said:Too funny that some in the dating pool attempt to put down a size 2 by saying their "EX" is a zero.
Too funny I did not see it that light.. I must be the large one here? I am 5 feet 4 inches tall , 112 pounds and a size 4p..
Now that was rather big of me?
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Posted: 7/7/2009 7:57:25 AM | C'mon folks, don't get caught up in the "I'm a size ___" crap. Being a size 0, 1 or 2 with the personality of a slug isn't going to get you more than someone who wears a size 12 or 14 and has a personality and smile that lights up a room. Bottom line - clothes don't make the person and if you think it does, I've got a bridge for sale.
There is no standardized sizing for women's clothing - one designer can say this is a size 3 while another will have it tagged as size 0. Bottom line, shop for clothes that fit your body and look good on you no matter what the damn tag says.
And yes, the higher priced the designer clothes, the smaller the size. Heaven forbid we have a woman saying "I'm a size 10, 12 or 14." By the way, average size for women and men is:
USA Women 1988 – 1994
Weight 152 lbs.
Height 5' 3.7"
USA Women 1999 - 2000
Weight 163 lbs.
Height 5' 3.8"
USA Men 1988 – 1994
Weight 180 lbs.
Height 5' 9.1"
USA Men 1999 – 2000
Weight 190 lbs.
Height 5' 9.3"
Canadian Women 2005
Weight 153 lbs.
Height 5' 3.4"
Canadian Men 2005
Weight 182 lbs.
Height 5' 8.5"
No wonder women are dissatisfied when the "la-la land ideal woman" is shoved down their throats from childhood.
The average American woman wears a size 14 dress. And if you cringe when you see that, remember Marilyn Monroe was a size 12-14.
The "ideal" woman--portrayed by models, Miss America, Barbie dolls, and screen actresses--is 5'7", weighs 100 lbs, and wears a size 8.
33% of all American women wear a size 16 or larger.
75% of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance.
50% of American women are on a diet at any one time.
BTW - I'm 5'8" and weigh 132 lbs. and buy clothes that fit me - don't care what the size tag says. And I'll eat what I want, when I want but I do know how to eat properly to maintain my health. If that means a slice of cake, a bowl of spaghetti, a banana split or a rack of ribs with fries, so be it. I'm not about to starve or eat whatever the latest fad diet tells me I should. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:43:04 AM | The "ideal" woman--portrayed by models, Miss America, Barbie dolls, and screen actresses--is 5'7", weighs 100 lbs, and wears a size 8.
I believe the above cannot be factual.. A person of that height and weight would not be a size 8.. More like a zero or two..
As for the word "diet" it only means that which you eat..
However agree with you not all designers size the same. Liz for instance a size 4 would be way to big for me.. Not that I wear Liz..
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:53:12 AM | How the pool narrow................(appropriate theme music for "Jaws").
We are chatting/discussing the narrowed dating pools, and a person has to throw in a fat insult without even checking to see whether he is insulting a tiny person or a big person. A typical example of how some of the pool narrowing is beyond our control.
I agree that the men OR women bashers are negative. Personally, I only dislike people who act like jerks............whether they are men or women doesn't come into my thinking. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:58:24 AM |
The "ideal" woman--portrayed by models, Miss America, Barbie dolls, and screen actresses--is 5'7", weighs 100 lbs, and wears a size 8.
I believe the above cannot be factual.. A person of that height and weight would not be a size 8.. More like a zero or two..
Cats, I think they are referring to sizing from normal clothing manufacturers and not designers. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:59:10 AM | My Pool was an Ocean a big wide Ocean filled with possibilities.
Sometimes I was the fish and some times I was the Fisherman.
One thing I found out is changing the bait isn't a sign of defeat it's just a tactic .
The fisherman fishes untill he gets caught by the right fish.
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Posted: 7/7/2009 9:02:27 AM | The fisherman fishes until he gets caught by the right fish
sounds like another version of my mama's idea that "A man chases a woman until she catches him."
Touche..... | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 11:53:37 AM |
All those guys (from another thread) heading to Columbia for the Columbian ladies.....
All these women heading to Cuba for the Cuban men......
Hmmmmmmm........
Is this Free Trade, or what?
Yes, I remember that thread where Joe blow,[Mr. upper middle class] was saying that only 3rd world women respect and love him.
And now we got the ladies here in how only 3rd world folks love and respect them.
imo, I'm sorry, it just dumb to give these blanket generalizations about the men and women here in the states, Canada or else where.
And I understand it's from the usually, Mr nice guys and the Ms. Moonbat's out there who live to be negative with their constant dribble.
And it's true that the folks who live in the 3rd world are very nice,kind, and think of you as the rich American or rich Canadian, and you can do no wrong to them. Just make sure you don't have one hiding in you suit case or wheel well of the plane before take off.
And unless your Mother Theresa or Dali Lama, or some other similar agency who does volunteer work on their own time , cuz I don't think it's was you that make it all happy happy....compremda, Gringo! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 11:58:55 AM | | Always depends on the couple and if they want to make it work. If both aren't willing to meet the other 1/2 way or see it the other one's way from time to time and forgive, forget then it just won't work. Being set in stone not willing to bend and give or change is fine but maynot take you very far. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:34:51 PM | Seriously...how do we manage to get weight and sizes
into almost every thread?
I don't think my dating pool is narrowed...I just think
I'm not trying very hard. I seriously think if I made
the effort...I'd be okei.
Or maybe I am okei just the way I am?
I'll have to ponder that. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:17:58 PM | Cats, I think they are referring to sizing from normal clothing manufacturers and not designers.
Alessandra Ambrosio is one of Victoria Secret's most used models, and was hired by VS because she has an "average" body type. Here are her measurements.
Height: 5'10" ; 178cm
Measurements: (US) 34-24-34 ; (EU) 86.5-61-86.5
Dress Size: (US) 4 ; (EU) 34
Shoe Size: (US) 8 ; (EU) 39
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:30:06 PM | | 34-24-34 is average? then I am an elephant and most women I know are huge at a size 12. Those measurements are probably a size 4 in non designer clothes. Especially at 5'10''. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:47:04 PM | brown said so now a size 4 is "average" ummm...okei
For a model it is considered the average size.. some are 2 and some are 0's.. However now what they are trying to do is stop the rake thin models from being popular. Because most of them have a body fat level of well under 18.
This month we will see what happens because I believe already one country requires a model to have a body fat of 18 and above and others may well follow suit. Stay tuned..
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:49:45 PM | Well...I'm not really interested in this...and I have no clue
how it ended up the topic of this thread. I think somehow the
thread was derailed by the bmi nazis.
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Posted: 7/7/2009 3:17:33 PM | I recently got an e-mail from someone asking very politely if he might ask why aren't all the men in my neighborhood beating down my door.
I told him most of the men in my neighborhood are acquaintances and I don't want to date the same men who are dating or have dated all the women I know.
If, sitting out on my deck on a beutiful summer evening soaking up the sunset, I'm overcome with desire for a cold beer, this will require a trip to the refrigerator. If this reveals an absence of the desired beverage, an even further trip to the beer store is in order. If that effort is too great, I have to ask myself if I ever really wanted a drink in the first place. Admittedly, it's not 300 miles to the beer store, but surely London to Toronto isn't an unreasonable cast of the net.
Incidentally, drinking analogies allow the cultured to substitute a fine wine for blue collar milk, but those who forward them probaly shouldn't be taken seriously anyway. Forgive them, they know not what they do.
I enjoyed this analogy. However, most men I know, if they're all out of "beer" prefer to pick up the phone and ask their girlfriend to pick up a 6-pack on her way over. lol
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Posted: 7/7/2009 4:05:18 PM |
That's a first, to be called "negative". I also don't see this thread as having descended into a raging "battle".
Not referring to you, Ren.
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Posted: 7/7/2009 5:07:27 PM |
I recently got an e-mail from someone asking very politely if he might ask why aren't all the men in my neighborhood beating down my door.
The only reason that most men on POF aren't "beating down your door", MeLeona, is that we don't have your address. 
I agree with the larger point, too, which is why the whole "friends first" or dating as "friends" dating style has never made sense to me. Friends, are those one views authentically as a friend, and live in the "friends zone". I don't have a hidden agenda with a friend, and I don't look at friends as being in my "dating pool". | |
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