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You also have God in your life, and you should know of all people there are only 2 commandments you are following, "love fellow man as yourself" and "love god with your whole heart" which it seems you are, and as you are you are looking for a friend (wrong site again).
Incase you want to mention the 10 commandments you should also know they where abolished with Jesus comming, that was the whole point about it....
Someone explain to me what this has to do with the topic. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:21:40 PM | Danz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks, Honey!! :)
Drew...
I hope you weren't under the impression I was being arrogant. I was just trying to figure out why I was attracting a certain audience...one I was hoping to avoid. If you knew me personally, you would find me to be quite unpretentious. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:29:31 PM | "Does an intelligent woman intimidate you? I'm older, I don't hide the fact that I have a modicum of intelligence, but I find most men seem to pass me by."
OP, I don't see men passing you by because of intelligence. To be brutally honest with you, three kids would do it, tho.
Intelligence is a turn on for most guys, I would say.
"I'm tired of "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??""
That's certainly better than no messages at all, right? | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:30:53 PM | I read this lady's profile, and I'll put up against many and say gramatically, intellectually, and respectfully, I would date her faster than quite a few of the women on this site.
Besides her smile, she brings something to the table I value...a healthy awe of God, and the ability to use the word intelligent in an actual sentence. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:34:35 PM | No, You would be a welcomed relief! I find being able to carry on an intellectual, fulfilling and sensible conversations are a must. to me that is one of life's pleasures!
It's always refreshing to converse with someone who has something to say other than "blah blah F**k blah blah blah f**k f**k etc." conversations of the small minded fall into the category of watching paint dry and unfortunately you'll get one of those voices that sounds like finger nails on a chalk board which make it all the more excruciating! although they do have there purpose for me, I tend to block them out mentally, while I'm using the time to mentally work on a problem (usually a quick exit) or just anything other than the conversation at hand, all the time nodding and agreeing!
as for the "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??" I'll keep my comment to myself 
Beautiful eyes, dimples, great smile, intelligence, personality & a sense of humor I only got 2 words to say " MARRY ME " just kidding hope you I got those dimples working!  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:35:02 PM | Does an intelligent woman intimidate you? I'm older, I don't hide the fact that I have a modicum of intelligence, but I find most men seem to pass me by. I'm tired of "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??"
Really...I'd like to hear from you men out there! :)
So how does an intelligent woman prefer to be asked out? An intelligent woman doesn't intimidate me... As long as I can understand what she is saying and she understands me then we're good. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:46:58 PM | Agent47... I accept! LOL Thank you for an intelligent answer.
Bundy... I'm 43 years old looking for a man my age who likely has children of his own. I'm not looking for someone who's never been married still dating 15 years (or more) their junior. That's pretty evident on my profile...I neither hide nor make excuses for who I am and what I bring to the table.
Danz... what would I do without you!!! xo
Eski...good question. I think just carrying on in comfortable conversation. You'll eventually want to continue, which suddenly finds you on that first date. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:48:02 PM | I hope you weren't under the impression I was being arrogant. I was just trying to figure out why I was attracting a certain audience...one I was hoping to avoid. If you knew me personally, you would find me to be quite unpretentious.
No absolutely not, I don't know you and I would not allow myself to form an impression unless I did know you for quite some time. Just some food for thought, it is possible to give off an arrogant persona without realizing it. Again, only a question you could answer though.
No offense, but you need the input of others on which to base your intelligence?
No, but useful for others to base my intelligence. If I assert it because I think it, who's to say I'm not just being pretentious.
Wrong.
You generalize smart people--a smart person who is secure in his/her intelligence is the first... blah blah blah
First of all I didn't use any absolutes. "Most" is not all, "Many" is not everyone. Seems as I may have hit a nerve of yours, I'm curious as to why?
I simple cannot fathom why anyone would pretend to be dumb.
The more dynamic the group of people you surround yourself with the more enriching your life will be. Some people are afraid of intelligence or maybe not afraid of it just put off by it. Acting less intelligent now and then makes you more approachable to people of average and even below average intelligence, it makes it easier for them to relate to you.
To assume that average intelligence and lower intelligence people can't enrich your life is in my opinion stupid. Everybody has their own uniquness and you don't always have to "get it" to give it. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 7:50:33 PM |
Does an intelligent woman intimidate you?
Irish Eyes 43: I'm not sure if anyone asked this question but what do you consider intelligent and why should I have any reason to feel intimidated? Lets put it another way, someone may have more knowledge than I do on certain subjects, but its my belief that no one is better or smarter than me and vice versa. I am impressed with women who come with good knowledge and are well-organized in their thoughts and manners, but certainly not intimidated. To me intimidated implies someone has power over me in some way. That is just not the case here or any other facet of my life. I admire and respect an "intelligent' woman and expect the same in return. What matters more to me is what is in her heart, rather than her "brains" or any other part (s) of her anatomy. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:00:02 PM | "Bundy... I'm 43 years old looking for a man my age who likely has children of his own. I'm not looking for someone who's never been married still dating 15 years (or more) their junior. That's pretty evident on my profile...I neither hide nor make excuses for who I am and what I bring to the table."
Three kids can still scare away a 43 yr. old man with kids of his own. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:02:40 PM | OP, using basic & sweeping generalisations: women do emotion (and intelligence) and men do the caveman stuff.... with some variations on the theme. As a species our genes sound the alarm when we feel threatened by things, including intelligence from other species who we previously didn't feel threatened by (i.e. in the day when 'men were men and women were housewives'). But, we're changing - give it time.
Personally I've always relished (and occasionally ravished) intelligent women, particularly if I wanted something long term. A relationship which challenges both of you in many different ways can't be bad at all - and it's intelligence which provides the platform for those challenges. We're still out here - keep looking. Good luck.  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:10:22 PM | I see a beautiful woman and I'm interested. I then learn that she is intelligent too? I'm entranced...
Nothing intimidating about it... let's talk!  | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:15:05 PM | Depends what they consider intelligent. I wont even talk to women who have a bunch of letters before and after their names. University education is a corruption of real intelligence and limits the mind from its full potential.
A self educated woman who gained knowledge on her own initiative is exactly what I look for. It is what I have done and what very few women ever do. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:15:18 PM | Goodman,
I just told my sister today...the only reason I was announced Salutatorian two weeks ago was because of how hard I worked, not that I am smarter than anyone else. I put in hours of study every day and made the choice to put forth my best effort. I don't view intelligence as how much I have stored in my brain, but rather how I choose to use it. I like to use correct grammar and spelling. I like to put forth an intelligent question and reasonably discuss it, but I don't like to argue for argument's sake. I'm also very loving by nature, giving (materially, emotionally, or otherwise), and have a rather quiet nature about me. I realize it's difficult to portray that in one's profile, but I felt I did an adequate job of conveying who I am and what I'm looking for. This whole thing started because reasonable inquiries to my profile were few and far between and I was just curious if coming across with half a brain was the reason. This also came as a springboard from another thread I was reading (or rather, laughing about). They were talking about the ridiculous things found on most profiles (i.e., I'm easy to get along with, I'm pretty laid back, I like moonlit walks on the beach, etc...).
I hope this made sense...it feels disjointed. It's late. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:23:39 PM | Irish Eyes 43: I am very impressed with your profile and with what you are saying above. I tried to write to you personally to tell you this, but you are not accepting emails from my age/gender. I am impressed with not only your intelligence, but your humbleness and humility. I know I am quite older than you, but was very impressed and don't live that far away either! I hope I am making sense! I'm surprised many wise men haven't made significant overtures to you. You sound like a winner to me!
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:26:32 PM | Ok Irish, I checked out your profile... you certainly come across intelligently and not with a modicum of arrogance that I can detect. Honestly... I can't believe you're single.
Be patient... the right guy WILL come along. Maybe not here, maybe in your everyday life but it'll happen. Probably when you least expect it. ;) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:32:45 PM | | I for one am attracted to intelligent women, to have an intelligent conversation is very stimulating on many differant levels. If I was just looking for just a hook up then I would'nt be looking for "smart", I am looking for long term and have let a few fish go because they are lacking in the brain department. Hang in there, you will find your match out there | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:37:39 PM |
No, but useful for others to base my intelligence. If I assert it because I think it, who's to say I'm not just being pretentious.
The nine types of genius or intelligences are measurable: I KNOW I am smart. As far as what other people say and basing one's self on their comments--people consistently tell me that I look younger than my age and have even told me that I am attractive. If I use those comments as a base for others to judge me, I would sound egotistical and, yes, pretentious. Youth and attractiveness are not always measurable but vary by individual preference.
First of all I didn't use any absolutes. "Most" is not all, "Many" is not everyone. Seems as I may have hit a nerve of yours, I'm curious as to why?
You don't have to use absolutes to generalize, and you did generalize. Hitting a nerve? I am just calling "it" as I see it and making comments, as are you.
The more dynamic the group of people you surround yourself with the more enriching your life will be. Some people are afraid of intelligence or maybe not afraid of it just put off by it. Acting less intelligent now and then makes you more approachable to people of average and even below average intelligence, it makes it easier for them to relate to you.
I never hide my intelligence and I relate well to people from all walks of life, age, intelligences and socioeconomic status: I teach, and not all of my students are geniuses. To say one must dumb down in order to be approachable is to insult those whose IQs are lower. But then, I am quite personable and likable (not to be pretentious, but according to people who know me).
To assume that average intelligence and lower intelligence people can't enrich your life is in my opinion stupid.
You make some rather large assumptions--including that I, or anyone else, think that diversity is not enriching--regardless of which venue that diversity takes. Perhaps you are generalizing smart people again. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 8:48:18 PM | | An intelligent woman never intimidates me. I have dated quite a few and they did not work out because many of them were intelligent BUT bitter or so bossy or even worse yet pretentious.Being intelligent does not mean you can not come down to earth once in a while. Once a woman I was casually seeing decided that I was not good enough because of a disagreement over a certain UN policy, how crazy is that? Needless to say I never answered a single call from her after that. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:17:37 PM | | Yes. Intelligent women intimidate me. Which is exactly why I draw closer to those ones. So I can learn to become less intimidated by them. Besides, I find intelligent women the ones I learn the most valuable lessons from. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 9:25:37 PM | | Real men who are confident are definitely NOT intimidated by intelligent women. The only men I've ever found that had a problem with me being intelligent, were men who lacked self-confidence and self-esteem. Even if a woman is more intelligent than a man, if he is comfortable within his own skin and knows his worth, he is comfortable in her company. | |
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