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This is all I know. I don't know how to make it appear more "gentle" or more outward focused; I am the least arrogant person I've ever known at heart; but I am often mistaken for arrogant, entitled, intimidating and hyper strong by some, at least by those who look for or assume those things without bothering to get to know me. I suspect I am far from the only one dealing with this particular misconception or assumption..
I use to feel like this and it use to bother the crap out of me...until I realized that I also had some misconceptions about certain people. I believe somehow we all do it.
I've been accused of being too head strong, by those that are extremely passive.
I've been accused of being an entitled princess, by those that were going through some financial issues themselves..
So, I came to the realisation that what I think or say will not change how people are going to percieve me...I now know that people's perceptions of others has a lot to do with their own insecurities. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 2:32:56 PM | No not all!
I like intelligent women and even find it a turn on.
Plus usually these wmen are very independent,which I like as well.
Don't care too much for weak push-over type women,I'm not sure if I'm in the minority on this or not? | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 2:48:54 PM | | Unintelligent women are, for me anyway, a complete turn off. I can communicate with anyone at their level. But I want my "soul mate" to be able to communicate with me at mine. | |
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| | Joined: 1/24/2009
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Posted: 8/11/2009 3:15:15 PM | No, I'm not intinidated by "intelligent" women, haven't met many but not intimidated.
Having said that-that's not one of the prerequisets that attract me to a women-it can be a detracter if she consistanly dwells on it to make a point. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 3:25:20 PM | i consider myself highly intelligent and don't find intelligent women intimidating, but what irks me is when intelligent women try to use their intelligence as a blunt object in a relationship or when their intelligence fails to translate into real world application. i dated a girl for almost two years that was intelligent (and was prone to remind people it) but when you step back and looked at her life, you failed to see what she was doing with it.
for all the intelligent women, i say "bring it". :) | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 3:51:11 PM | | Well Irish Eyes,personally I like an intelligent woman! Even if it were a purely physical relationship you have to stop and talk sometime and it is nice to be able to have a real conversation!! Some of my favourite memories with my ex wife are of the great all night talks we used to have! So yes intelligence is a very good thing in a woman(and a man too). | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 4:29:47 PM | | Irish Eyes you've already seen at least five men here who are NOT intimidate by bright women. If you come in contact with a man who is intimidated, he's the wrong one. Simple. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 5:06:27 PM | OP...I too find intelligence very becoming. I thought I was above average myself but had to look up " modicum" . ..Im man enough to admit that. I bet you rock at Scrabble.
On the other hand I have had the pleasure of meeting both men and women who THOUGHT they were more intelligent than I...that I do have a problem with. Arrogance is one of the ugliest "qualities" one can have....unfortunitly it sometimes shares space with formal education and so called intelligence.
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Posted: 8/11/2009 8:35:25 PM | Interesting thread. My 2 bob or penny worth for the yanks.
Intelligence is not gauged by how many degrees a person has or how many Universities one has attended nor is it gauged by titles one has at work. Universities grant you degrees not because you are now “smarter” but because you have been “uniformed” or taught in a specific field, same as work.
Rather, intelligence is gauged at what you do in situations that are “uncommon.” The most intelligent people I have met are those that have graduated from the university of life and have gained wisdom.
Attraction – yes woman are attracted to men that they perceive as intelligent, it makes sense, but woman also run from men that seem too “intelligent” – we create leagues or teams that we are comfortable with and readily recognise. Similarly is true for men.
Relationships – someone has mentioned that “equality” is a new term. No it’s not, relationships revolve around equality and fail due to inequality, like the yin and yang of eastern philosophy the two are intertwined and harmonious if not they fall apart. A man is an innate leader, the breadwinner, the protector, the hunter, the head of the house hold but if he is left unchecked and loses touch with his mate he becomes a dictator. Nature has provided women with intellect and intelligence also to keep the man at check an intelligent man will listen to his mate, the house hold and lead the household with mutual interests. A man must be a servant and a leader at the same time.
Relationships breakdown (amongst other reasons) due to the lady feeling inapt, a lesser worth or where the man is overwhelmed due to incapability to lead mutually.
Men that run from intelligent woman are running away from their own weaknesses. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 4:26:38 PM | | I'm not intimidated by an intellgent woman in the least bit. Now on the other hand, an intelligent woman that knows how to fix cars and loves getting her hands dirty, that would be a little intimidating..lol | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 5:14:00 PM | | Personally I love a woman that's intelligent but at the same time some of those woman can say the dumbmist thing in the world which takes away from the intelligence they do have. So I guess you have to be carefull how you say things because some men may take that as being stupid. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 6:25:14 PM | "I thought I was above average myself but had to look up " modicum" "
Big deal. That is exactly why some people like to use big dictionary words. What, you don't know the word I am using? Then I must be smarter than you. Wrong. Intelligence is the ability the infer. Memorizing the meaning of words (and other things) is knowledge. Or a form of bragging to some.
Those who toss out 'smart words' to impress remind me of anklebiters. The small but loud dogs that need your attention to validate their being a dog... If you use plain language that a 12-year-old can understand and you are praised for your ideas, chances are you are intelligent.
Beware of canines that inflict lacerations near the tarsus... | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 6:28:50 PM |
The day I can found a strong, yet sensible, intelligent yet who knows how to be crazy, Feminine without be a Barbie princess, confident without been arrogant, who can be independent and a teamplayer at the same time, one that is educated yet can put her nose down and enjoy simple things, who take care of herself without high maintenance or obsession s, who know what and when (and the list goes on..balanced in a word):
Ill cross the world if I have to, marry her on the spot and keep her at my side until the end of time.
OMG! I have been here all the time - what a same you are totally the wrong ethnicity to appeal to me  | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 6:35:11 PM | as for myself i enjoy an intellectual woman.
but intellectuality is a relative term. everybody thinks to some extent. what is thought-worthy for a person to an other may not seem valueable to yet an other.
intimidation seem to imply that there is a conflict...or one person (or both) seeking control. 'control' ... the ruin of relationship. sharing ideas is an intellectual exercise since it relates of a person their self knowledge and purpose(s).
sharing should be without stress to be superiour to another. and if sharing is to have affirmed a persons intellectuality then relationship is not the purpose.
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Posted: 10/17/2009 8:27:07 PM | | Intimidate as in scare me off to the point of not wanting to take the chance? Not usually. I might be a bit more apprehensive about my initial approach if I know/have indications she's an intelligent woman because I figure she'll expect more initially, but hopefully she'll also be more aware of nervousness, etc initially. Personally I tend to prefer intelligent woment, I like being able to talk to my significant other about more than what dress so-and-so from TV has on or sales at the mall, etc. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 8:41:21 PM | | Men can see through a women that wears her intellegence on her sleeve. I know many intellegent women, but they dont come off that they are any better than anyone else and have the ability to talk like a regular person. Its when she is outside her profesional enviornment and is intensionally utilizing her verbal accumen to appeear more than she is, a human being. I think is what bothers me, she doesnt have to prove it to anyone. | |
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| | Joined: 7/5/2009
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Posted: 10/17/2009 9:03:48 PM | Someone that is intelligent doesn't need to prove it to someone else. They find the more they learn the less they realize the actually know. They appreciate someone else's knowledge.
It has always bothered me when people put down groups of people such as Mensa because they feel like those members act better than everyone else. Actually it is the person putting down the Mensa members that normally has the superiority attitude. People go where they can to fit in and not stand out. Some utilize words because the word fits their meaning yet, they are criticized for using a standard word in any dictionary. People that criticize are the ones with the problem.
No one is better than another, we all have our good qualities and bad. It is what you do with them that makes the difference. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 9:08:28 PM | Personally, I've always been attracted with women that are intelligent. My wife had a masters degree. A lot depends on the nature and character of the people in any relationship. So many people have poor character or down right evil natures, it's very difficult to find someone that is even honest, let alone a good match. Sadly. Well, that's what I think anyway......  | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 9:27:21 PM |
Does an intelligent woman intimidate you? I'm older, I don't hide the fact that I have a modicum of intelligence, but I find most men seem to pass me by. I'm tired of "hey baby, wanna hang out sometime??"
Really...I'd like to hear from you men out there! :)
any woman who can balance her cheque book is sexy. | |
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