| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:45:38 PM | I believe that everyone is put into our life to learn something from. I have found at least for me that I do not learn these lessons until I am ready to. If you ask me about my ex-husband, I would say hands down he was the love of my life. My divorce was final 2/99 and one of the most important lessons I finally figured out in the last few months ( yeah sometimes I am a slow learner). I just need to keep in mind that we are all human beings just trying to do the best that we can with the knowledge that we have at the time.
With that said, I also know that I need to be aware that their are some real pieces of work out there. My lesson with those is to stay as far away from them as I possibly can!!!  
I wish all of you all the best in your search for the right one for you!  | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:47:01 PM |
I've had some great relationships. I believe that we spend time with people, no matter what capacity, to learn lessons and grow as a person. So, I don't necessarily believe that we're only supposed to be with one person for the rest of our lives. As much as it hurts when a relationship ends, if we are honestly looking back, then each contact we've had with people has brought us a little closer up the ladder of evolving as a human being.
With that I mean, that maybe the last relationship lasted for much longer, because we'd learned things about ourselves in the relationship before. And if we hadn't had that lesson, then the last relationship would have never gotten off the ground.
Sure that are often times things that the other person may have done that we deem unfair and they left scars, that we still react to. BUT, I don't really look back and have a lot of regrets of the times I've spent with certain men. Some of the situations I must needed to go through in order to go on.
Exactly my thoughts Varinia....which is why I believe every obstacle is a blessing in disguise. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:01:58 PM | Absolutely have good things to say about my exes.
I've had men who treated me very well, and I've learned a great deal about myself and men as a result of my experiences.
I definitely am not one to go on a date and make the conversation all about unkind statements regarding prior relationships... I have had a time when I held on to anger about one specific guy for a while, and readily responded to questions about him; I'm glad to say that I have let it go, and no other relationship taught me to become more self aware. To the extent possible, I don't even like to speak of exes, and generally don't like men who need to hear how awful the ex was, so they can prove how wonderful they are (not). M | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:12:37 PM | For me it's pretty simple.
I am the common denominator in all my failed relationships, so if I have something negative to say... I best be talking about myself. Just because they are no longer my mate doesn't erase that they were good enough for me at one point.
X Marks the spot. (on my heart) | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:16:54 PM | I actually don't have anything bad to say about any of my exes. I broke off with almost all of my exes on pretty decent terms, or terms we revisited after apart a while and agreed were for the best.
With the exception of exes I lost touch with that moved away or got married or whatever...I still occasionally talk to all my exes. They're all really good guys, even though I personally didn't fit with them. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:23:57 PM | | We had 10 good years together; 2 not so great and I have a wonderful son because of him. Basically he’s a decent man but for various reasons I could no longer live with him. I was the dumper by the way. Is that positive enough? | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:27:25 PM | I have nothing at all bad to say about an ex....I obviously found them interesting enough to pursue something with...for whatever reason it didn't work out...but there is always a lesson to be learned, no matter the reason for it ending, or who ended it.
So...some non-ex bashers are out there :) | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:49:40 PM | I don't understand people that trash their ex. If they were so bad, why'd you marry them?
My relationships have always ended amicably and almost all of my exes have come back trying to restart.
My best friend in the world is my ex-girlfriend.
~Justin | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/4/2009 11:58:16 PM | I have nothing good to say to those exes boyfriends ,if I have some good things to say about these guys obviously they won't be an EX right.??
Don't worry, I never put down a man, even how badly I was treated that was beyond my dignity, inwardly I may not respect him as a person, but I respect him as precious Life.. I let past nice so good experiences blown by the wind........... | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:02:55 AM | | My ex is a good man. He is a good father to our two children. He is a friend. He was not a good husband. I had to leave him for reasons I won't go into here but by leaving him I was able to salvage our civil relationship for the sake of the children. Though he is remarried to a wonderful woman I have called him in a pinch to help me when I ran out of gas and he was there lickety split. We have a comfortable friendship because we respect each others boundaries. I am so glad she is married to him and it's not me! I was not willing to be his mother. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:13:35 AM | Well heck yeah there are some of us who see no need to bash and hate.
It's rather simple actually. Why bash someone "I decided was fit to be with" ? It looks just as bad on me if not worse, to anyone with common sense!
They had all the good qualities I was seeking at the time. So if they were really all that bad, so was I and what I found to be good qualities.
Everyone of the women I have ever dated or been in a serous relationship with taught me something I needed to learn at the time. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't be the man I am today! | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:16:16 AM | When she burglarized my home...........she only took MOST of my stuff. Not ALL of it!
She taught me that it's not good to "settle" and I'm now happier than I've ever been.
The one before her, was the mother of my daughter. And my daughter is the good out of that relationship. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:34:01 AM |
Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Yes, I do. He is a brilliant man with a wonderful mind. He truly cares about animals and, while being a gentle man, is also very strong and not afraid of work. He puts his own pain to the side to get things done. He rarely complains, even though he has back and neck pain. While he doesn't like people much in general, in person he is very generous and loving. He has a strong sense of right and wrong that is commendable.
He was tall and had dark, wild-curly hair. He was handsome but thought himself ugly. He didn't give much thought to what he wore or what others thought of him.
Although things didn't end up working out for us, I still care about him very much and wish him well. Not many men can compare to him, I'm afraid. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 1:13:22 AM | Ex spouse and I get along pretty well. We have a son together, who is 13, and our kids that we raised for the nine years of marriage still have contact with the step parent...
He had his really bad side, however he also has had his good side...
After being divorced for 8 yrs, we have helped each other out of binds through out those years, where a lot of divorced people hate on each other. For us there isn't a point, and we did divorce so we didn't have to go through all the things that didn't work between us...
Our kids are happy to know that we can get along, and be invited to events without fear of the other person getting bent out of shape...
We both have SO', and have been out to dinner together, I really like his GF, and he and my guy get along just fine..
The bottom line is we have a 13 yr old son to raise, therefore being a united front against a teen is a pretty proactive way to parent. Kids are smart and know how to play each parent against the other, therefore getting along, if my son says something to either me, or to my ex that doesn't sound right, we just ask, and get it straightened out... It forms a good boundary for our son, and what is in the past is in the past...
I also have a good talking relationship with someone I was with for 3 1/2 yrs... He can still be his paranoid/Narcissistic self, but heck after 6 yrs of knowing him, well it is just him... We have good chats about things that I can't really chat with other people about, so it is all good...  | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 1:43:09 AM | I have been the one to end all but one of my relationships. In the majority of them it was a decision we came to together even if I was the one to initiate the conversation and possibility.
I have no hate toward any of them. Most were great guys in various ways. More often than not we just weren't compatible for a life long relationship. I don't consider any of my relationships as failures. The were very successful for whatever amount of time they lasted and I have been blessed many times over with some of the really fantastic people that come into my life.
I have come to discover that I typically don't get on well with those that have some major animosity toward their exes. Too many unresolved hurts and negativity in their life. We all have pain, we all have people that have hurt us. Strength and character come into how we deal with it. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:10:11 AM | | I had a total A ~HOLE ask me that question. I had found out that the man couldn't keep his DIK to one woman. Anyway, my answer was yeah..........I have an ex-fiance that I have known for 10 years and we are still friends. He is actually an uncle to my kids. I mean, my children love him as an uncle!!!!!!! Not all exes are diks. Not all men do bad things~like this man did~EEEEEWWWWWEEEEE~~~~~freak!I mean over 10 years says something, I think~~~~~~~~~~~nobody ever cheated either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:15:01 AM | One marriage (I was dumped)/three longer relationships (I was dumped once)
ex-wife.....she loves animals, loves artistic pursuits and gave birth to a daughter
girlfriend who dumped me.....well educated woman
woman#1 I dumped......loyal, good with my daughter, I only have a job today because of her emotional support getting me through tough times......I attended her wedding last year and will never forget what she did for me
woman#2 I dumped.....really loved sex, but that is it.....really | |
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