| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:42:35 AM | I can say plenty of good things about my X's. There is just one that I have a difficult time finding any redeeming qualities in that didn't have some kind of motive attached but he's a different sort of person and I was very young when we met.
One X was a wonderful builder and I swear that man could make or build anything. He was incredibly good with laborious works and I was always impressed with what he could pull off with so few resources. He was also a competent boater and fisherman which I appreciated and enjoyed a great deal. He rocked when it came to oral sex and he absolutely adored my body which was a slice of heaven. He was also fiercely protective of me and the kids...and would step into the line of fire to see to it that we were safe. It was a shame his gambling problem tore our lives apart. I truly loved him.
My last X was a die-hard romantic and while I see now that he lived more in some la-la land of love, he still was quite endearing and great with words and emotions. He was a talented composer of music and a reasonable music artist (I think his singing could have used a little work). He also had the most beautiful blue eyes and I loved the risks he was willing to take for love. He lacked a bit of courage and made some decisions that I'm fairly certain he'll live to regret but he was still a neat person to be with for the time it lasted (2 yrs). | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 9:59:19 AM | Absolutely! He is a very nice, highly intelligent, very giving person. I enjoyed his company very much, but there was just never any spark there, on my part. He was great "friends" material, but for whatever reason, I could never get myself past that point.
I broke up with him because I could see him becoming very attached, and I just couldn't reciprocate. He's going to make a great partner for the right woman! | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:04:14 AM | well my most recent x?
he was attractive to the eye (but not to the heart) i thought he was great when we first got together then realised he was a pig headed arrogant pigsnort!
so i cut him out of my life! yay me x | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:44:20 AM | OP -- I have a LOT of good things to say about a few exes in my past. Not ALL were trash. Being the one who dumped, or the one who was dumped, I still refer to them highly for all the good things they represented to me and my life.
Though I don't freely associate with any of them any longer (ex means ex to me), I can and still say good things about some of them. The "give credit where credit is due" type of situation for me.
I'd be extremely worried if I had nothing but bad things to say about my exes...that would be very telling about my choice in women. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:58:56 AM |
I'd be extremely worried if I had nothing but bad things to say about my exes..
I completely agree with this.
After all,at some point ,there was caring or love,even if that's the only good thing you have to say.
I don't have anything bad to say about my ex-husband.He's a decent person,honest,respectable,and kind.We,as a couple,did not work out.
I'm friends with him,his wife and their children.
Of course,there was anger and resentment on both sides when we first split,but we worked past it.No point in burying yourself in bitterness over the past. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:18:34 AM | I have lots of good things I could say about my ex husband of 25 years. We are still friends; we have had a lot of history. My ex boyfriend of 2.5 years? Nope. And I ain't talkin' about it. ("It" is right  ) | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 11:23:07 AM | my ex was great; we had a ton of fun and we were very passionate and loving together; unfortunately at the end the luxuries and pretentiousness of life got to her and not me and we both moved on.
We realized I'm more of a white picket fence guy and she's more of a martini type person. I'm glad I knew her but I'm glad she's gone too. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:17:46 PM | lonesomeerick...
Smellsealsthedeal; Unless I missed something in your profile, you're 49, never had a relationship nor sex with a man, so how is it you can judge others who have? Is it based on academic education?
No, this is sarcasm... usually I spiel the malarky ... In my academics ... there was a pandemic of sex, drugs and rock and roll... never exhaled or in-hailed... eater.. hha... I am so .. nasty...
No the size of the pond don't matter it is what it is .. it is all in the way the pounder flounders.. frig I just love these ... little get togethers.. hah... | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:34:39 PM | | I have to admit my first ex and sperm donor, absentee father gave me three beautiful smart children we managed with me working two to three jobs and no child support. I am now receiving child support and they are in their upper twenties or early thirties. I could have used the child support when my kids still lived with me but didn't receive child support until two years ago and we have been divorced for sixteen years. As for the second ex he did to me as he did to his first ex, cheats, sets them up for failure then moves on to his next victim. The only good thing from the second ex is his family which I dearly love. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 3:54:42 PM | yes...lots...but suffice to say life has been a positive learning experience on many levels.
Oh, and besides that, my ex taught me how to make absolutely man-pleasing
chicken fried steak. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 4:01:46 PM | Fifi, and urbanflavour I am with ya on where the green flag comes in... The question was, "does anyone have anything good to say about their Ex?"... Not, was there a good reason it didn't work, are you full over them or not, would you go back, do you suck at relationships...
With my exe's I can also say all sorts of bad stuff as well, but why should I; unless of course it is a thread on does this smell fishy, then there maybe a reason I relate...
My ex spouse and I have a son together, and for 9 yrs raised (ok him not so much) each others older kids together...
There are positives and negatives with an ex, and obviously if we didn't have a negative that was out weighing the positive we would still be together, I would think... (Unless we were dumped because we sucked as a partner)
The green flag to me is that a person doesn't lament for hours on end at a first date, or even fifth what a jagazz there ex was, and how much they loathe them... Sure we don't want to hear an unending flowery detail how great they were either, so it is just meeting in the middle...
As for widows, and widowers, that is a tough call, simply because some people believe they will never find the greatness they had with that person that passed... No body wants to feel like they are living under a HUGE shadow that is no longer here, that is obvious. At the same time it is good to know that the person did have a good marriage, and was glad to have experienced it...
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:10:56 PM | Sure I do...my ex was always good at "holding his tongue" and thinking before he spoke...he was patient in many ways...worked hard at his job... and spends time with my son when he can. We gotta remember the good things or you'll go crazy if ya only hang on to the flaws....
Why are we divorced? We were young and had "outside influences and stressors" on our marriage. He had alcoholism problem at the time of our divorce...We were 2 mis-guided young people and our marriage did not survive... | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:13:44 PM | I kinda do....
The guy i was dating had applied for a tech job for the RCMP and needed top secret security clearance. Naturally, he put me down as a character reference....and of course, we broke up about 2 days before I got the call to go in for the character refernce interview.
Although we had broken up, i didnt have any hard feelings and was actually very comfortable in giving him a glowing reference, and highlighted all his strengths...simply because i knew he would make for a good honest hard and capable worker for them. It was kindof weird because I was going on and on about what a great person he was...and the Officer conducting the review kept having to ask: "well, why is it that you broke up with him then?"
He just couldnt believe that despite my having only good feelings and things to say about him...that I just couldnt see us succeding in a relationship....I felt good that despite us not working out, I was able to secure for him a very nice job....
yay for me | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:20:56 PM | Yes
My ex was an excellent father. He loved and cared for his son very well.
I also miss the way he would greet me with "Goodmorning beautiful" every morning when we woke up. He complimented me often and wanted to spend alot of time with me as long as it wasn't in the house.
I dumped him because he got abusive and got involved in drugs. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:21:27 PM |
Well, Jim, you know how it is.
Those of us who are widows and widowers have to be careful with such things.
Say too much and people get the idea we still grieve and can't let go.
I have many wonderful memories of my wife and will never regret our time together.
Robert
Robert, When we lose someone to death it is different from when we either leave someone or they leave us.
I'm sorry to say I have been through all three. I lost a wife to cancer in 1984. Ended it with my wife of nineteen years, And most recently, been dumped by my last love.
I have nothing bad to say about any of them.
Why would we say bad things about a mate that has passed on? That ends with the pain but with all the love we ever had for them.
My last wife and I grew apart. We had different needs and desires then we had for most of our marriage. She is a fantastic woman that did not deserve the pain I caused her when I wanted out. Believe me, I felt her pain. it hurt me to hurt her that way. We are friendly to each other today, for which I am grateful.
My last relationship ended when she wanted out. This was very painful and perhaps if you believe in karma, I deserved it for hurting my ex-wife when I left her.
I can honestly say that I still lover them all. I gained something from each and every one of them. I'm stronger, more aware and now perhaps a better man for being hurt in a very different way then ever before.. The pain, the lose, the empty feeling, was no less then the pain of losing my wife to cancer.
I can't turn love on and off like a faucet. Love remains in my heart, regardless of how broken and bruised it is. A piece of my heart is with all of them that I shared a life with.
I can't see hate unless an ex has done something horrible, like cheating or worse to you.
But I am ready to love again if I am so lucky to find that one special woman one more time. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:32:12 PM |
Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Sure! My ex-wife could be funny, warm, thoughtful, considerate, AND good in bed. She could also act like a child sometimes if she didn't get her way; in my opinion anyway. She was a great conversationalist, a very good cook, AND my best friend for a few years.
Her many good traits outweighed her bad. So why did I divorce her? She was satisfied with status quo, I wanted EACH of us to grow as people. She's still partying hard and living in a one bedroom apartment, while I own my house and like collecting new "toys" to play with. Is she wrong with her lifestyle? Am I? I don't think so. We each just went down a different path to find happiness.
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:15:34 PM |
Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
I do. I loved my ex-wife very much. She want through nine months of discomfort to give birth to my daughter, whom I love very much. We still are on good terms. Life does go on and we are all winners for it! | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:22:31 PM | | Yeah, as a matter of fact, I'm good friends with one of my ex's. Not in that booty call way or anything. We broke up because we decided not to get married. But, he is a truely great person. I also have good things to say about a lot of my ex boyfriends. Not all of them though, a couple turned out to be pretty awful. | |
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| Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:26:18 PM |
I'm good friends with one of my ex's. Not in that booty call way or anything. rosemary5418 : Please forgive me, I guess I'm behind in the times. What is meant by booty call? I hear this term overused here on POF. I think I know what it means, but maybe you can help me out here? Thank you in advance! | |
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