| How important is money?
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:44:45 PM | Without reading any replies ...
Money is most everything to most everyone here on POF. Everyone denies it, but that is the reality. Accept it.
Some have it and some don't. If it bothers you or worries you just date people with the exact income and assets as you do.
Me I would never date a man who isn't totally filthy rich ... millions and millions just to spend on me. Why not if I dated a man who had a nicle more than me then all the men say I am a gold digger, if I date a man who has a nicle less than me then the gals say I am supporting that loser.
So I will take the safe road and date only the filthy rich then everyone can say I am a gold digger as I sail in his big old boat drinking margaritas.
Cheers
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:50:20 PM | We are in an economic slump and a lot of people lost their jobs. If you are courting someone and that person just happened to lose their job and are trying to make it out of that 'hole', I don't think that that should be a deciding factor in how important money is to you that you would have to dump them. If you knew that someone you dated couldn't afford to put a gallon of milk in their refridgerator, would you turn your back on them because all of a sudden they are in need? If the person you cared about were injured and was unable to work, would you turn your back on them?
Some people don't think about this until they find themselves in that situation, then it is another story. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:09:32 PM |
Money is very important, a bad credit score is a major turn off
Hey longlocks40 - women like you are why men ask for prenuptuals - as long as the bills are paid, you have a roof over your head and the kids are fed I think people have the basics covered.
Can you say superficial? I can - it is longlocks40. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:19:27 PM | well, one good thing about the downturn in the economy, is that it is a great equalizer.
HelI, we've all been hit by it. I'm more interested in how a person handles it.
Y'know.....most people I know who were rollin in dough a couple of years ago , are now rollin their own.
I think adversity builds character....I really do. It's the spirit and soul of a person that matters most to me. The attitude I hold during these times is to act...'as if'. As if, things are going to come around. They always do....so , we're in a dip...big deal. I ain't jumpin' outtof any five story window because of it. Just roll with it , baby.
Besides,.... Most people who are attached to money, and things, bore the shIt outta me.
Then again, I'm a pretty simple guy by nature.
So, your question is....if you 'definitely ' see a future there, would it 'bother' me if someone went through a rough financial time. Why no. I would never judge a human by their profit and loss statement.
Survivors and downsizers freaking RULE!
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/12/2009 12:48:41 PM | | Longlocks 40, While I agree with your post, you sound like you have a skewed image of what a relationship should be. Sounds like a relationship with you would be pure bliss...... $%$#$$%%^%^$ Sorry just threw up a little in my mouth.. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:00:28 PM | it might be important to the fact you don't want someone who is a burden and is gonna drag you down due to their lack of security employment or on hand cash; another situation is that you have a person who makes little/none, but likes to spend alot or often.
you don't have to have alot; but you can't be a person who presnets prob, you can't be high maintenance. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:35:05 PM | | well being a financially independant female means alot to me and i like my own freedom of being able to buy what i want when i want without having to consider others, if in a relationship with smeone its always nice to be able t pay your own way but its still nice to be treated once in a while, and even if i was in debt and struggling with finances id expect to be able to bail myself ut eventually and wouldnt want t be reliant on smeone although it would always be a turn on for somene to be able to look after you if needed but i guess its not always the actual money, money usually represents ambition character and motivation, someone who is hardworking and good wualtiy well fitting clothes always do wonders for any mans appearance | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:55:06 PM | | Its very important as far as I'm concerned. I don't expect him to be making 8 figures a year but I do expect him to be somewhat successfull in life, to have good credit. Its not really even about the money because I don't really need him to buy me anything but it does tell you a lot about his personality. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:42:21 PM | Commonsens wrote:
I really, but really really do not care what people possess or do for a living as long as it is not a major burden, an obsession in all range of the spectrum, a compensation for a lack of personal worth or even a method of identification.
If someone is capable to stay honest, responsible, and provide for his or her own basic neccesities, the rest is of no importances or influence in reality; as the person is still whole and always capable to grow in any direction.
I couldn’t have said it better myself; my sentiments exactly.
I was raised in one of the wealthiest communities in the United States, and I can assure you that money does not breed character, nor will it make you happy. It's a shame that some people define others by what they make, instead of who they are as an individual. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 3:35:36 AM | | I submit that many of your noveau welfare reeipients have been '...put in their place...' by businesses who have either farmed their work overseas or gone bankrupt to avoid paying pensions, health insurance. Welfare fraud is one thing; justified use of welfare is another. I hope you're not promoting '...prisons and work houses...'. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:03:00 AM | | My boyfriend and I are both going through a rough time financially. I think it helps we're both in the same boat. I have problems with my friends though - some of them have took the huff when I've said I can't afford to go out so much. It's hard - I don't want to spend money I haven't got and I don't want to end up friend-less either. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:07:03 AM | | Money is one thing. What one can legally do to get it is another. How much control one has over their options to make money is constantly being reduced by legal, monopolistic, et al forces that have more power than an individual. Isn't this a lesson that the 1929 Depression taught? Isn't this something that should be learned from what's going on now? When the music stops playing, you'd better have a chair to sit on! Shouldn't a person be measured by the forces he's had to deal with? Isn't that what justice demands? I submit that money blinds us to the 'lite of justice'. It hides the true value of people. I submit that the real non-moucher in civilization is one who has given civilization a new idea, a new concept with which to progress. There are very few 'non-mouchers' in the civilization of Man. Very few can walk with Einstein, Copernicus, Curie, Da Vinci, Watson, Crick, Reed, etc. So how important is money! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:07:33 AM | | At the weekend my friend wanted to buy rounds. I said I couldn't afford it and would buy my own drinks. She had difficulty accepting it. Why can't people be more accepting of your financial situation? | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:32:57 AM | Many have gone through financial crisis, myself included. Hell I lost a $130K income and my home due to a car accident. But in the end to me what's important is how they handled the situation than the money they have. One can appear "financially secure" only to lose it all the following day.
We don't always have control over what life deals us but we always have control over how we react to it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/13/2009 5:48:43 PM | I have a way i weed out the "golddiggers" (or silver / bronze / copper whatever diggers).
One of my rides is an older (1990) s.u.v..
Mechanicly it's in excellent shape. new motor, shocks, exhaust, etc.
(probably better than most of the crap coming out of detroit these days)
And still decent to look at.
I usually take it to a first meet with a lady.
If she doesnt run for the hills thinking i'm a welfare case, then i know she's for real! LOL! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:58:50 PM | To me Money is important and anyone who says it isnt , is either lying or a socialist.
To all you politically correct folks out there .....money is somewhat important to you, ever notice the ones who say oh money isnt important blah blah blah, are the ones lined up at the Lotto buying ticket when the jack pot hits some huge amount.
Money is important when it comes to relationship/marriage/common in law arranges, no body wants to foot the bill for dead beats, not matter how attractive,intelligent they appear to be.
My only question to some of you PC folks is why you think people who have money or makes lots of money why do you equate that with a person character? | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:47:05 PM | | Love by itself doesn't pay rent/mortgage; doesn't buy health care; doesn't buy food. Yes, money is important. More so, one's atttude on money, and what they do with their money. Should the relationship become LTR or marriage, it becomes even more important. I'm going to want to see tax returns; credit reports; and sit down and have the almighty financial discussion. If our attitudes & philosophy about money isn't similar, then I'll move on. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:52:07 PM | I personally don't care too much about how much my girlfriend would be making. But I personally strive to do well, because I want to provide for my kids a better life than what I had. I think sending my kids to good schools is more important than fancy things. Of course, I also want to make sure that I can at least go on vacation when I want to.  | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:57:11 PM | Look at all of the people that will take out a loan to buy a new car or a house they can barely afford. Yet they don't send their kids to private school. How sad and shameful.   | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 5:08:12 PM | | Not important. I have always had to do for myself, have two degrees, travelled to Europe etc. And, I did not get any of this from a man. But I do recognize that there are many people out there, both men and women, who have experienced so many hard knocks that they expect someone to always take care of them. So as long as a man is not planning to live off of me, what he does with his finances is his business. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 5:12:10 PM | "Let me give you a tip on a clue to men's characters: the man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it.
"Run for your life from any man who tells you that money is evil. That sentence is the leper's bell of an approaching looter. So long as men live together on earth and need means to deal with one another--their only substitute, if they abandon money, is the muzzle of a gun. "
~Ayn Rand
so true..... | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 5:35:00 PM | The Ayn Rand quote reminds me of some song lyrics
Motorhead~ No Voices In The Sky
"Nobody gives a damn about anybody else
Think everyone should feel the way they feel themselves
Rich men think that happiness is a million dollar bills
So how come half of them O.D. on sleeping pills?"
I also think Good Charlotte~ Lifestyles Of The Rich & Famous describes my opinion as well.
I think some of the rich people got rich because they came from wealthy families. They got into expensive schools because there families could afford for em to go. I have some relatives who are always obsessed with money. There always asking for people to do & buy things for them because they cant afford it, yet those same people are always bragging about about how they eat out at expensive restaurants or about how much money they won from playing slot-machines. They never talk about how much they lose thou. I'd much ratehr live a simple-life & have values & treat people with resepct instead of "living large" | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:23:29 PM | Sorry Enchanted8808, its the other way around, money matters to people who POSSESSES money , people with money especially those who earned it with integrity, and not stepping over people value money and what it can do to enhance lives, dont confuse the idiots who are idiots that have money through dishonest means.
tbuddha, couldn't agree more, I wish more people would read "atlas shrugged" they might have a different view on money,capitalism and ahem cough cough socialism. | |
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