| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:16:48 AM | | Money shouldn't be important but when someone wants you to carry them like a beast of burden that's the problem. get off you butts and get a JOB! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 1:10:21 PM | Well I do think it is important that both people have jobs, and some finances coming in.
Someone who is always broke, never has money to pitch in and cant seem to keep a job or get on the right track with it, not only is annoying it shows an imaturity. But if someone is just getting out of a divorce and their life is changing or is coming back from a life altering event that has left their finances in shambles, but they are still employed with a plan on how to make things better then it is understandable.
It isnt the money, it is the person and what has precipiated the lack of funds, how long has this person been in this financial state? 6 months, 1 years 5 years , 10 years?
I have two kids, and where I dont need anyone to take care of me, I am not going to have my funds depleted by a guy who cant pay his rent, or put gas in his car and can never help pay for movies or dinner. Yea no thanks. Its give and take, I am willing to give but will not put myself in a position where that is all that I end up doing.
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 1:12:01 PM | | If one never has good ideas and actions about money, money is always the most important thing for the one. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 1:47:21 PM | | For me its about a person and not what money they do or dont have. I think in life you deal with what you given as such. I choose to work around my daughter and so I do not have a lot of money but the quality of my life with her is fantastic. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 2:03:16 PM | | Money and more specifically the credit rating is important. There is alot you can learn from a persons credit history in terms of personality type and personal responsibility. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/29/2009 3:08:28 PM | I choose to work around my daughter and so I do not have a lot of money but the quality of my life with her is fantastic.
You have what money can't buy......You are Rich | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:20:22 AM | | My fiance was a clown for awhile after we met...literally a clown. You think that pays good...LOL | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:50:51 AM | | What you're its pitch man for that site ? making money from the back end promoting that site? very tacky and Im pretty sure its breaking the rules Sport. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:18:18 AM | Here's my view on financial matters and it may have already been said in here because I was too lazy to read all the responses.
Money is not the end-all, be-all of everything. Now when you don't have enough that definitely sucks and I'm not talking about having enough to take a 2 month trip around the world. What I am talking about is financial responsibility. One of the most important things to me is someone who takes care of their financial responsibilities, is able to put a few bucks back for emergencies or maybe a trip somewhere (doesn't have to be fancy) and has the credit to do what one needs to do (IE, buy a home or a car.)
I was married to someone who couldn't keep a nickel in his pocket. He never saved even $10 from a paycheck and when I met him, his credit was in the cr*phole. I worked to try and make it better but eventually he just brought me down to his level because I struggled to make ends meet while he would empty out our joint account to have expensive lunches out and all the beer he wanted. I quickly pulled out of that very early on in our marriage and did the best I could.
I think it all comes down to being with someone who doesn't have that "it's all about me" attitude because that seems to bleed over into the financial aspect of things as well. So be able to take care of your own responsibilities and have the patience to save for the big things. I'll be right there by your side and that's pretty much it in a nutshell. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:27:37 AM | | Is there anyone more irritating than someone who claims to be in a great relationship coming onto a dating site to espouse their great wisdom now that THEY are so happy? | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:37:07 AM | Since work is a little lean at the moment, money is pretty goddamn important!!!
But I'll work to make my own money. I'm not going to use HER to get money. I'm trying to keep money and love separate. If she knows of a job, great--I'll go there to interview and try to land it, and thank her profusely with a lot of kisses and affection lol. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:37:13 AM | Since we are in relationships yes I think we are good people to give advice on relationships.
And Mahogany I already reported the above poster for spamming dozens of threads | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:50:08 AM | How important is money?
Well, it certainly makes the world go 'round, doesn't it?
It is an aspect that is part of a person. Everything about a person is either an asset or a liability.
How important it is, is very individual. Kinda like how beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I don't personally care so much about someone's net worth, or lack of it, but rather, their general attitude towards money, and how they manage it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:51:33 AM | OK, I'm gonna be like a lot of women here...
My chick better have a Lambo to come pick me up in...then once I get tired of riding in that the better get the Bentley out of the garage. She'd better have a vacation homes in St. Tropez, Maui, and Santorini. She'd better buy me a new Corvette every year, and the latest Breitling watches. 
P.S. - Looks or age doesn't matter, you just gotta have 8-figures in the bank. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:08:17 PM | | money is necessary but it is not the most important thing to me. I would rather be married to a good and humble, honorable, compassionate, supportive man who is say a mechanic or something of equal position than to have lots of monies by being married to a doctor or lawyer who do not have the personal qualities of integrity and honesty. And having this person as your best friend; this is what is important to me and especially, first of all, if he is someone who has a deep faith., Smiles4444 | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:23:39 PM | | Unimportant to me. I care for a man's character, not his wallet. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:49:09 PM | buddha: Is there anyone more irritating
than someone who claims to be in a great
relationship coming onto a dating site to
espouse their great wisdom now that THEY
are so happy?
You'd rather get your advice from people who
are in crappy relationships?
nate in fl: OK, I'm gonna be like a lot of women here...
My chick better have a Lambo to come pick me up in...
then once I get tired of riding in that the better get
the Bentley out of the garage.
I don't think wealthy ladies who pamper their BFs
are attracted to female bashers. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:40:14 PM | I'm an artist... I've had good years ($180,000+ U.S.) and I've had bad years (under $18,000 U.S.) This economy doesn't help and dating is a real pain in the ass right now. I've been a professional artist for over 12 years, own my own home and have traveled the world, but funny... if I'm currently on a painfully tight budget, women (in general) want nothing to do with me.
For all the posts about "get a job" or "he's lazy".... there are A LOT of small business owners who are tied to the economic cycle, but apparently most women don't care about that... if you can't treat them to a NICE dinner and a play, they want nothing to do with you.
Just my observations... I like to think I have much more to offer a woman beyond what my current income may happen to be at any given moment.
James, Port Orchard, Washington | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:31:05 PM | In my experience, the only people who think money is important are the people who haven't learned how to be secure in themselves and their ability to survive without it (or with a consistently low amount of it).
I've seen 'both sides' of the money spectrum (clawed my way off the streets and into a highly successful management consultancy, lost everything (and I do mean everything) in the 'dot com bust' and have rebuilt over eight years), and in truth, there's deep wisdom in remembering that it (life) is about more than struggling to keep up with debt and straining to have 'things'.
Of course, I had to learn that the hard way, so I doubt seriously it will mean much to anyone who hasn't had to do the same. Suffice to say, I like comfort, but I'm very well aware of the boundary between living comfortably and living materialistically and I find I prefer the former to the latter.
I do not put money on the list of considerations when thinking about men. Money comes and goes and what I am looking for will survive the fickleness of economy. The way I figure it, if I care more for money than the man, I really don't have any business being in a relationship... and that is precisely how I want a man to think about me. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:52:36 PM |
seattlerain1: I'm an artist... I've had good years
($180,000+ U.S.) and I've had bad years
(under $18,000 U.S.)
... there are A LOT of small business owners who
are tied to the economic cycle, but apparently
most women don't care about that... if you can't
treat them to a NICE dinner and a play, they
want nothing to do with you.
Possibly when you're in a cyclical business women
assume you set aside something during boom years
to tide you over when a downturn occurs. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/2/2009 1:30:12 PM | | It would depend on the circumstances and how temporary they are. I have had a tough time in marriage pulling along dead weight. That's not going to happen to me again. I want to walk along side my partner, not pull them with me. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:03:18 PM | People who are middle class or lower financially I think have an easier time having relationships. They can look more for love IMHO.
However, people who have more wealth-trust funds, stocks, family businesses or money. Have to be more careful. Its very easy to get used when you have money and I am talking about in BOTH directions. Somepeople will look at the wealthy as a meal ticket and someone who is wealthy might use their money as an excuse to use others for their own sexual or emotional needs without giving anything in return.
Basically I think most people are more comfortable sticking to what they are used too. If you are used to eating beans and rice find someone who like the same-you will have more in common and will usually live happier in the long run.
I think a lot of relationship money problems come from people with different financial values whether they have a lot of money or not. If you are used to spending freely that is what you need in a mate if you are used to being froogal you need to find the same. That way you wont resent each other no matter what happens
****Do you know that the poor and the wealthy actually do think different, I learned this from taking poverty classes as a teacher. If a poor person finds $20 buck they are more likely to share it with their friends-take them out, buy gifts, whatever. If a wealthy person was to find $20 they are more likely to put it in there pocket and keep it. Neither one is wrong or right, good or bad. Whats important is that you would both do the same thing! | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:09:36 PM | I dont quite agree with that Imabernathy, its the trust funds babies, and certain high income earners who are stupid that have to be careful, people like that who show up like they are wealthy gets taken advantage of especially the ones who are " below average" in the looks department, and has a personality of a dead fish, and thinks by flashing wealth entitles them.
I know a lot wealthy people and believe me you would know they are wealthy by the way they talk and dress, live etc. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/18/2009 9:50:00 AM | | Let's be perfectly honest, to ourselves and each other, money is important. But not to the extent that you become obsessed with acquiring it, to the extent that you sacrifice your self-respect to get it, or lose your 'soul' (i.e., work 24/7) for it. | |
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| How important is money?
Posted: 8/18/2009 10:29:10 AM | | Money is important but if I fell on hard times I would expect my partner to muck-in until things were back on an even keel. Money does not make a relationship, but sadly there are those out there who like to be 'kept', these are the people I will avoid at all costs. (pardon the pun). | |
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