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Posted: 7/8/2009 3:49:05 PM | Dammm... I LOVE THIS THREAD !!!
Made me HOTTT !!!! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 7:13:48 PM | 1) Subs
2)Victims of sexual abuse
3) Freaks
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That just about sums it up. My question is: what purpose does playing out such a fantasy serve? I will never understand it but it would be nice to know what women are feeling when they do this. Can't understand how that would make anyone feel sexy or good to play at being raped. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 7:45:30 PM | "My question is: what purpose does playing out such a fantasy serve?"
Most fantasies don't serve any real purpose, outside of pleasure or satisfaction. I don't get foot fetish at all, but I understand that some people really get off on it. More power to them I guess.
My guess is that rape fantasies are about being controlled. Some people want to be forced to submit. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 9:10:49 AM |
My guess is that rape fantasies are about being controlled. Some people want to be forced to submit.
Maybe...which might imply that they are *not* subs. I have been in a couple of "fantasy rape" situations in which I "played the victim", and I am about as far from being sub as a person can be. The crucial element, for me, was the use of a safeword of course, and I created the scene - MY way. More or less "topping from the bottom". To make things interesting in spite of my need for control, even in this role of "victim", I arranged the scene both times with men whom I had not previously met. Oh, I KNOW all of the safety issues involved, but I needed an element of risk in order to get into it, so...
Anyway, I had corresponded with both of these gentlemen for long enough to feel "reasonably" safe in this unsafe game we'd agreed to. Hell, one of them used MY bondage/torture toys to "rape" me :LOL:
On another note, at times I have played the rapist, with my crossdressing friends. I started out with seduction, and ended up with "take it, b*tch!".
Role-play is just a way to experience a thrill (in my case it was an adrenalin rush I was seeking) you wouldn't feel in real life - or want to, for that matter. It's a way to experience something you would not otherwise experience. It's safe sexual ADVENTURE. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 5:22:44 PM | | So I pretty much thought I was the only one who got off on the fantasy rape. But I guess your girl and I have something in common. My opinion on it is as long as you both have a mutual understanding that its just roleplaying and that when you're done it wasn't real, you should be fine. You have to do you it with someone who you trust though and in returns trusts you or it won't work. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 5:27:48 PM | | Also, try not to kick your partner in the balls.....totally ruins the moment! Lmao!! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:40:25 AM | ive always had this fantasy, i mean ive had my share of horrible experiences, but its a bit of thrill for me, and sometime really rough sex is a huge turn on, not sure why and i quesitonmyself to see if im actually crazy, and its a hard thing to ask a guy..honestly..not many guys can be like..ok ill rape u...
=/ id like to find him.. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 11:53:50 AM | Man, lol, what a great thread.
I know a woman a long time ago that confided in her male friend about a desire for this kind of act.
He obliged her not only with him, but a friend of his too. He didn't tell her what to expect or when to expect it but they "broke" into her house with a duffel bag full of neckties, wearing ski masks & carrying toy guns. From what I understand, she still talks about it and that was 20? years ago.
I had never heard of such a thing at that time, funny to see it here.
Kinda out there, but, to each their own. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 11:57:22 AM | "He obliged her not only with him, but a friend of his too. He didn't tell her what to expect or when to expect it but they "broke" into her house with a duffel bag full of neckties, wearing ski masks & carrying toy guns. From what I understand, she still talks about it and that was 20? years ago."
I could just see one or both of those guys being shot dead and their names and photos in the local paper as the "Necktie Rapists." Wouldn't their families be proud. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 3:48:22 PM | What I find fascinating about this and the other "My CRAZY g/f wants me to rape'er " is the number fo posts from women who thought THEY were unique in wishing the same.
The condemnation from the woosifyed hordes of howling, protesting guys is almost as weird and twice as funny.
There is NO correlation between the actual act of rape and the fantasy that women have. According to the posts several of those women have been raped, got over it no matter how long that process took and it STILL turns them on - the wild forced "gottahave you NOW", Neadrathalic, *thump*, being TAKEN kind of sex that we are talking about here. How sad that some people can't tell the difference or even conceptualize the possible increased level of arousal some women derive from this.
There have been a number of recent studies based on Polls that have surprised even the experts. C Onsidering how out of touch most of them seem to be that doesn't surprise me however .... Many many many women react VERY positively to being needed sexually with an immediacy that perhaps reflects back to our roots where the Alpha male was guided by breeding protocols rather than her stock portfolio or how much silicone some surgeon had managed to stuff in her chest. We are, after all, only a few thousand generations on needing that breeding style just to remain alive as a species. It must play into the deepest crags of a woman's brain and hence her hormones to feel needed like this - with this urgency and sexually charged dominance.
Whatever the ROOTS of this are, most women who are in tune with their sexuality find this a huge turn on so if some of you people are still confused over real rape and this then take another valium and do some of your own research. It is almost (almost) universal !! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 4:01:31 PM |
Husband had fantasy and did not tell the wife about it Just decided to carry it out!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 4:29:27 PM | I think it's sexy. It has nothing to do with the real act. It is more about dominance. Saying 'no, no.. I have to start dinner' but moaning at his advances and slowly giving in. The fantasy and the real thing are not even the same animal. In the porn I have there is no violence and she sometimes accidentally smiles. I love when a man grabs me and pulls me back to bed when I try to get away :P
Without having to talk about it, it is quite easy to get the experience with a dominant guy. Of course with all good men, if you get mad or have a headache, they wont keep pursuing. I encourage my men to keep trying (forever in the relationship) and I will give in.
Unless I get serious with him. So in a weird way getting serious, or raising my voice slightly is a "safe word".
In fact sometimes I just abruptly stop having sex and try to walk off just to see if they will let me get away with that. You'd be surprised how many lovers (of the ones I have had anyway) didn't allow it lol
Dominant men are VERY important to my sexual pleasure.
I have heard some men say "every time I try to have sex, she shuts me down so I quit trying". I think 2 things, 1. Either she is really serious in her shut downs. 2. The guy is missing out if they are frail rejections... Well three things, 3. eww | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 4:39:53 PM |
marvmakerzzzI mean it's rape!! just can't get past it why would you want to fantasize about something so sick Ummmm...NO. Hate to break it to you Einstein; but it's NOT "rape", it's FANTASY. Also, just for reasons of clarification, why would YOU worry, or be concerned, about SOMEONE ELSE'S fantasy?
hellgremlinI think it indicates some pretty profound psychological issues. Ohhhhhhh...hate to interfere with your delusion; but the true "psychological issues" rest MUCH MORE overwhelmingly with the people who are unable to accept, understand, or tolerate fantasies of this nature, or fantasy in general. It shows a fairly dramatic form of concrete thinking, indicative of inferior intellectual capacity, or immature mental/emotional processing.
concrete thinking n.
Thinking characterized by a predominance of actual objects and events and the absence of concepts and generalizations. Ie. keeping to the literal meaning of words, (as in “rape”) In Piaget's classification this stage occurs between 7 and 11 years of age. It’s also common in people with severe mental illness.
What if you fall off the Gryphon? WTF are you talking about?
Probably because a false rape accusation tends to demolish a man's life permanently. Again, VERY concrete.
HazelRoseThere three types of people who like this form of sex:
1) Subs
2)Victims of sexual abuse
3) Freaks I'll disagree with you here, and say that there are AT LEAST FOUR types of people, if you feel it is absolutely necessary to classify people accordingly; with the forth being:
4) Normal, mature, sexually healthy individuals.
Word to the wise: if a MAJORITY of people see it completely differently than you do; maybe it’s time for you to rethink, and reassess. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 4:45:09 PM | Folks, how about reading about this to get a better understanding of why certain women (and men) have certain fantasies.
Go out and read some Nancy Friday. There are even some informational sex shows on now that have topics like this.
It's always amazing to me how people just don't have an interest in all things sexual - weird or not. Something interests me or freaks me out? I do some research. I used to be freaked out about Ebola. I bought a book. Not so freaked out anymore.
PS: Read what Rhodax and confident realist (in addition to a few others) wrote in here. It's a start to explaning this.
We all seem to forget what we were like at 18-25 and what expectation we were made to have about sex, don't we? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:03:40 PM | What windlover said.
If I get off by pretending [and sometimes not HAVING to pretend ;) ] that the man going down on me has me pinned down because I am not walking off and taking my body with me ...then am I SICK? How??
We ain't nothing but animals, in caveman days do you think he took her to dinner and asked the female to have sex nicely? We've come a long way and I am grateful, but don't try to take the cavewoman scraps of sexuality out of THIS girl. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:27:48 PM | "The condemnation from the woosifyed hordes of howling, protesting guys is almost as weird and twice as funny. "
Hordes? Howling protest? About three guys said they wouldn't do it. It's not for everyone, and at the end of the day no one cares what two consenting adults want to do behind closed doors. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:47:51 PM | I mentioned the two threads and there are others. Yes there are hordes of idiots who want to classify ANYTHING that they don't personally approve of or enjoy as some deep lurking psychosis requiring immediate psychological assistance or in-depth therapy to FIX their warped sense of sexuality.
at the end of the day no one cares what two consenting adults want to do behind closed doors.
So at the end of the day with such a dismissive attitude why post at all.
And maybe BUNDY isn't such a GREAT name to use on a dating site - you know - unless he was your older brother and you're cool with his MO.
WINDLOVER said it best or at least reposted from an earlier page.
I'll go with a Number 4 - hold the anchovies. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 6:03:14 PM |
I mentioned the two threads and there are others. Yes there are hordes of idiots who want to classify ANYTHING that they don't personally approve of or enjoy as some deep lurking psychosis requiring immediate psychological assistance or in-depth therapy to FIX their warped sense of sexuality.
I agree. The fact that you've seemingly read numerous polls and studies about rape might make me think you have some deep-rooted sociopathic tendencies. Good point.
And maybe BUNDY isn't such a GREAT name to use on a dating site - you know - unless he was your older brother and you're cool with his MO.
Interesting that you naturally thought of a serial killer and rapist instead of Al "Touchdown" Bundy from TV. Why is that? Do you honestly think I am going to take profile advice from someone who is fixated on raping women? You're a sick man. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 7:36:06 PM | Maybe no one heard me or I said something different than what this post is about, no one is raping anyone. Rape is tears and pain. Playing fantasy games are about mutual pleasure.
Like I said, not the same animal. Just because a dog has 4 legs, is a pet and eats meat..doesn't make it a cat!.
Just because a man asserts his dominance and wont let his woman get away, maybe even rips her clothes a bit, don't make it rape. If that's what she finds sexy.
There are way more differences too but I am depressing myself.
It never hurt me. No one has hit me or wouldn't stop if I meant 'no'. Most of the time there wasn't even a discussion, it was sexual compatibility making fireworks. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 8:25:26 PM | | I gotta agree thread is interesting and to see how far it went. Its not real rape it a the fantasy of it and the concept, true if it was real rape then wouldnt be as appealing to the woman, finding out how she really wants it enhances the ability to make more freaks for her and the fact you cant just find this particular sexual stimulation anywhere because it familiarity mixed with personal desire | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:00:00 AM | Also, try not to kick your partner in the balls.....totally ruins the moment! Lmao!!
But, some guys like that! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 8:19:27 AM | | The whole fantasy rape thing..Thats not that uncommon, some think its sick, some do not. Find and read a book called "My Secret Garden" there are also other books on womens darkest fantasies..I have met quite a few women who are into this. Usually they find them selves attracted to the big, tall, maybe a little devilish, powerful type of men. I have practiced BDSM lifestyle off and on for many years. Not sure if it was by choice or by knowing I wouldnt get anywhere with her if I didnt play along..Women who are into this? Your guess is as good as mine. Usually stems from something traumatic in their life or abadonment issues in life. Just remember if you play this game there are some rules and major consquences if you dont trust her and she you. There is a big thrill there if its both your bags. The key and name of the game there is trusting your partner, good luck | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 10:19:19 AM | | is it a really bad thing to have too many rape fantasies? for five years, i imagined getting raped by older, stronger women and i think it is making me go nuts. what can get rid of these kinds of imaginations? | |
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