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Posted: 7/8/2009 1:02:05 PM | what about people who are new to the forums, and they werent on the thread last week.
Dont be snotty, just dont participate if you're not interested. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:41:21 PM | | I disagree; I think that we can make a judgment call on the guy's behavior. A mature gentleman could have ended even the worst date with a polite and very brief goodbye, and then made his exit. To abandon a date, unless they are wielding a machete or something, is just disgraceful. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:20:01 PM | | LOL!! I've never done that. Since it apparently happens a lot, I might try that sometime. That's just so mean though. He can't wait like 10 minutes to conclude the date and excuse himself? Shiiiiii..., I think he did you a favor though. You wouldn't want to be with someone that would do something like that. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 8/15/2009 1:00:31 PM | The length of the restroom break may not be the whole issue. The timing could have played a role as well. What if she got up and went to the restroom just after the check arrived at the table? Then she proceeded to stay in there for quite awhile. He could have assumed she did this just so she didn't have to pay and became irritated and left.
I do not agree with bailing out on someone without giving them an explanation. If you give someone a ride you are obligated to make sure they get home.(hopefully in one peice) | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 5:54:13 PM | Wow, true gentleman isn't he? He paid, one point in his favor but the rest of it stinks. Post his name so the women can be aware. I have found more cowards on here than you can shake a stick at, the ones I have talked to anyway, they talk a good talk but never back it up.
At least you found out early the kind of " Man" he is sooner rather than later.
I also agree that some people that post here are snobby and not very compassionate. In my opinion while it's not very nice at least the rest of us kind, nice people get to see them for who they are. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:15:00 PM |
I was at the point in our date, I felt pretty good... I went to the bathroom and he was gone........WHOA OMG, I was waiting so long the waitress had to tell me, everything was paid for but he left.....Wow, thanks for the great connection. How could you really do that to any individual...
Just another fuktard that doesn't have the bawls to act like a man. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:31:26 PM | | Prior to going to the restroom, you weren't on your cell phone, were you? I heard it from a man that he left a woman sitting at the table because of that. I thought.. right on, dude.. you're on a date... and she isn't there... you may as well leave. (seen guys doing that too.) Otherwise.. don't know what to tell you... he should have just told you that you seem nice.. but he isn't feeling it. Nice to meet you... best of luck on your search. Smile.. seem sincere, even if she smells like dollar tree perfume. hahaha. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:58:40 PM | Its amazing what some people will do. It's such a childish thing, to just bail like that, with no regard for another person.
I had it happen to me too once, about 15 years ago. We had initially talked a few times, at length, on one of those phone dating lines (evidently I was a glutton for punishment then too!), and I went to pick her up on a Sat afternoon. We had decided to go to one of those outdoor clubs down by the river that were all the rage then, with sand volleyball, pig roasts, live bands etc. We sat there for over 3 hours, having a few drinks, laughing, listening to the music. She even went to the bathroom once, and I think I did too.
She excused herself to go to the ladies room again and I said OK. I'm sitting there, and I suddenly realize its been 20 minutes. They were having a tattoo exhibition inside, and she had mentioned she was interested in that, so I thought perhaps she was just window shopping on her way back. I went in and walked around looking for her, but no sign. So I went back outside to wait, and slowing having it dawn on me that she had bailed. I was replaying the day over in my head, wondering what had happened and where it went wrong, since it seemed like we were having a really good time. At that moment I feel someone tap me from behind, and I turn around to see a little person (I kid you not, it was like something out of a David Lynch movie!), and he tells me that so and so isn't coming back, and had asked him to tell me. Now I'm not sure if she knew this guy and was hanging out elsewhere in the crowd watching, or if he was just a stranger she had asked to relay a message. Either way, it was bizarre, and I was seriously pissed.
Here's where it gets even better! I walked outside to my car, only to find it had been towed! Where I had parked was a legal parking spot during the afternoon, but not later in the day, which of course I didn't know. I had to walk a mile and a half to the impound lot, and when I asked how much to get my car, they told me I had a few outstanding parking tickets from a few years before I needed to pay as well as the towing fee. It cost me almost $500, and as I drove home I could feel the steam coming out of my ears, and thought of all the names I was going to call this woman when I got home.
By the time I finally got there though I realized I was better off to have found out what kind of person she was sooner rather than later. I called and got her answering machine (big surprise), and I very calmly told her that what she had done was beneath contempt, and that I was sure karma would one day catch up with her and repay her in kind. It was actually a lot more satisfying leaving her that message almost dispassionately than the expletive-strewn tirade I had planned as I walked down the road to get my car.
The lesson for me...You live & you learn I guess. Some people just plain suck! But don't let them change your attitudes about all people.  | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 10:22:02 PM | hasn't this been discussed to death already?? i think i see the same post every week.
Do you go out of your way to be mean and caustic and just, (frankly ) a vicious B****?
I have noted your posts several times - holy smokes lady, you seem like one unhappy, bitter, disgusting soul. Must people here be subjected to your constant spewing of venom and bile? Please, for the love of Pete - give it a rest! | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 8/16/2009 7:31:17 AM | There are several "what do you look like, did you say something offensive, did you order the most expensive item on the menu?"
These maybe could be taken into account, but no matter what the provacation, it still seems extremely, well, maybe classless to leave a person without so much as a note; and having the waitress not tell you for ages to boot was adding insult to injury.
I'm truly sorry whatever happened, that it ended that way; but like others said, you learned early with only (hopefully) one wasted evening.
Hopefully the next one will be as good as this one ended badly. I hope you at least drove yourself so you had a way to get home :) | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 1:53:02 PM | Oh God OP, I am so sorry. My heart litterally hurts for you. I could not imagine that happening to anyone....guy or girl. It is just plain cruel.
If this is what internet dating is coming to...I honestly don't want any part of it. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 9/19/2009 11:14:52 PM | at least he showed up! i had a date set up, drove 25 miles in traffic and waited an hour past our agreed upon time and she never showed, so i split. she actually got mad when i told her how rude and inconsiderate she was and she said i should've waited longer- she said she showed but i doubt it. she never called and she had my number. what a *earmuffs*!
at least you got a free meal out of the deal. at least i saved myself buying a meal... | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:48:42 AM |
I was waiting so long the waitress had to tell me, everything was paid for but he left.
If he has to run like that, he did you a favor. Be glad he left as obviously his character is lacking. But he did atleast pay for everything, so he is only 99% douchebag. | |
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| Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left..
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:00:47 AM | Well I agree with another post on here that there is 2 sides to every story so you can't knock the other party when they skipped out if you don't have their side. However even by the littlest info the actions speak louder.
When a date skips out through the back door normally it is because the two just didn't click but rather found themselves debating a lot. Maybe throwing some jabs at the other. Sometimes a date is so not interested that they make it noticable by being very quiet and rude with their answers making it obvious with how they feel. Sort of like a child who didn't get the pack of gum they threw a tantrum for so now they are left with a red face a big fat lip hanging out. And those are the one's who normally skip out NOT paying the bill when the other goes to the bathroom.
Half bills paid or no bills paid is a form of anger when one just 'skips out'
But this didn't happen in this date from what she wrote. She mentioned that she was at a point she was feeling pretty good. So clearly both sides were being nice to the other.
By him paying the tab showed a sign of guilt, that he was skipping out. Which does collaborate her saying the date in her eyes was going good.
So in my opinion this guy thought the lady was nice and felt bad that he didn't have the kahoonas to be upfront and honest with his feelings so the least thing he could do was pay the tab.
Bottom line he is a coward~ | |
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