| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/6/2009 11:32:13 AM | I can usually tell a bloke who watches a lot of porn by the way he performs in bed. Well saying usually, I've never been wrong yet (but then I've only had two lovers  . But those porn watchers I find are a bit performance focused and more visually stimulated rather than actually paying attention to the quality of what they are doing. They are OK for a bit of something when there's nothing else around, but for regular .... nah not for me.
I like watching porn it's funny especially the readers wives type stuff, where they've balanced the camera on top of the wardrobe and it falls off. Or where the woman is quite clearly thinking "jeezus how much longer is this tit gonna be pounding away" while she's filing her nails behind his back.
I've done some in my time, just private ones and I laugh my head off at the expressions I pull while I'm at it, God knows how anyone ever makes it to the end! Or maybe that's why my men have always liked rear entry bless em? Blimey I'm due a bit of loving roll on tomorrow... | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/7/2009 5:57:14 PM |
But those porn watchers I find are a bit performance focused and more visually stimulated rather than actually paying attention to the quality of what they are doing. They are OK for a bit of something when there's nothing else around, but for regular .... nah not for me.
I've watched my fair share. Must be the guys you've been with cos I've never had any complaints. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/7/2009 6:22:55 PM | Well I'm finding the market is changing and real sex is making a comeback. The plastic boobs and awesome bodies of the mainstream are declining and the rise in popularity of amateur porn is taking over, so much so that the big studios are now trying to copy it and flooding the sites with copies, making it quite difficult to find the good stuff.
Still my little servers are humming away in the corner and my hit rate and subscriptions continue to rise. It's paid off the mortgage in 3 years, pays the bills quite nicely and has put me through the Countryside Management Course, which has introduced me to some wonderful outside locations that are proving to be extremely popular.
So, I will be doing auditions in a couple of months, and from looking at some of the profiles on here there are quite a few wannabe porn stars, so PM me. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:41:50 AM | Can you remind me what sex is like please?
For those of us that don't get any carnal pleasure frequently, pornography is a stop gap method. You are right that it can cause some people to become obsessed with it and it can "open a can of worms" in others. For the vast majority its simply harmless fun.
Pornography can introduce you to new and interesting things in the bedroom and I have known it to allow couples to spice things up by trying things that they have seen. I have also seen relationships destroyed for the exact same thing.
It can cause some people to think that’s what sex is like and to start becoming a porn star in the bedroom. Porn is meant to be a visual thing, the positions that are used require near superhuman strength to just make the act visible. Don't even get me started on body issues that it causes. Men and women mutilating themselves for vast amounts of cash, just to get an image closer to what they think the other sex wants! | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:54:38 AM |
Do men take too much from porn and assume that that is exactly what we want?
I don't think you can generalise , maybe you have encountered blokes who can't tell the difference between 'fantasy' and 'reality' ?
Many a rapist and deviant has crossed that line I'm sure !!
I personally find most porn quite comical and very samey , unless of course it is home made and very 'real' !!
Having said that the odd skin flick has got me out of many a sticky moment when I've been alone without any other stimulant to hand !!
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:10:51 AM | I agree with firecracka, you can tell who has based their expectations on porn films rather than from a long-term relationship. You get the "Oh, yeah, baby.." while they're pounding away, and you're thinking "Hello..I'm still here."
I once was persuaded *ahem* to borrow a soft-porn film from an ex. When I put it on it was various women who were pretty much being raped anally, and screaming in pain. Not just acting, you could see the agony. yep, he'd gave me the wrong one,haha.
I'm in no way a prude, not digusted by anal sex, but I did feel a bit weird that this guy got his kicks watching women in pain. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:30:26 AM | It's quite reassuring for both males and females
to know that their equipment looks normal.
Eh?
Most of the women you see in porn aren't representative of most women, same goes for men to a slightly lesser extent. We're not all fake tanned, bleach blonde and pumped. Some of us can even choose a lip liner that matches our lipstick - I know, shocking.
H.x
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:36:15 AM |
Most of the women you see in porn aren't representative of most women
I agree Aitche , as if all women are perma tanned, have pert arse's and tidily tucked p1ss flaps !!
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:51:39 AM | How much do we blame on porn?
Is this question yet another attempt to shift blame from the individual to an outside source ...
(i.e. it's the education system, it's the courts, it's the politicians, it's religious constraints etc etc)
Do we nowadays constantly seek to blame anything other than ourselves for our (or others) bad behaviour?
An individual might enjoy watching a great deal of porn whilst in reality being able to treat his partner(s) with respect.
Another may watch the same amount of porn and feel that the opposite sex has just been put on this earth for his/her gratification.
At the end of the day it comes down to personal responsibility - or lack of it. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:57:55 AM | there's good stuff and bad out there,everone will come across something that makes you wince.never watched em for more than a few minuets at a time anyway,there borin once they have served there perpose.
far too accessible to kids these days,which is a worry.but what can you do? | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 4:53:34 AM | My worry with porn is not about people older than, say, 30 but actually about teenagers and young adults which are "learning" from it.
There must be a lot of confused teenagers nowadays. Boys thinking that is the way to win and treat a woman, girls assuming that is the way to win and keep a boy...both are very wrong yet this is all they are learning.
I have watched porn and to this day, if it's a good home made clip then I still enjoy watching (male sexuality is visual more than anything) however I am grown up enough to know that is only a play for my male primitiveness and not how one should really approach and treat a woman in bed.
Some women, some men, yes they like it that way and why shouldn't they if that's what they like? But the vast majority of us are not like that, not overblonded, not over anal-ised and not giants penis attached to a small brain.
I would agree with some previous poster who regretted that because of porn, women rates him as normally hanged...I see your point mate, I suffer of that too  | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:10:12 AM | Being the person I am, selfless and caring, if anyone has porn they wish to dispose of, I'll make sure it's dealt with properly for you. Just mail me for the address to send it to.
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:24:09 AM |
Can you remind me what sex is like please?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j94V5u53bLA
Well, two minutes IS better than one minute! Very funny clip.
OT I worry more about how much of an effect porn has on the youngster of today, as has been rightly pointed out earlier hardcore and very extreme porn is readily available as never before. As this material is out there already all we can do as parents is be vigilant regarding internet access and be open to dialogue with our children in the hope of promoting a healthy attitude towards sex and relationships. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:30:09 AM | I blame porn for...
Thinking it was normal to have sex for 3 hours at a time. (Had to go to A and E with friction burns).
Making myex girlfriend wear six inch heels until she almost fell and broke her neck in the shower.
Wrenching my back after trying to have sex standing up whilst lifting my ex girlfriend off the floor.
Getting an erection every time a lady rings the front door wearing a long coat tied with a belt at the waist.
Thinking its normal to wipe my****across my ex girlfriends face after I have finished.
Not being able to cum for hours until someone yells cut!
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:35:54 AM | [Thinking its normal to wipe my****across my ex girlfriends face after I have finished.]
I hate that! | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:36:15 AM |
Thinking its normal to wipe my****across my ex girlfriends face after I have finished.
Is it not?.
 ive been conned | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:51:55 AM | I don't think anyone old enough to watch porn should believe the sex on it. Women tend not to scream in pleasure before the guy has even done anything... Women also don't tend to find men with handlebar moustaches attractive.
Most porn seems to be based on "in, out, in, out, money shot" phallocentric (basically crap) sex. There's no intimacy or setting the mood. It's purely the jarring of genitals into available orifices as fast as possible. About as sexy as a biology lesson.
I seriously wouldn't emulate porn to spice up my bedroom repertoire... Great for ideas and fantasies, but I think a couple should talk about what they like. Not rely on these unrealistic scenarios. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:40:25 PM | I`m sure that the ancient Egyptians, where saying the same thing, as they were adorning the tombs and temples with there own version of razzle,and escort .
The place is full of very large phallic symbols, doing allsorts,to everything that moved……
Cleopatra and her mates must have had a whale of a time…..
My history is a bit rusty, and this may be a history myth …we did not cover this in 8th grade……..But did that Russian queen,have a heart attack…….having sex with her favorite stallion..i don’t think she subscribed to bestiality monthly…… | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/8/2009 4:52:39 PM | All I can say is I've had teens asking me if they are supposed to take a whole fist up there, or if they are supposed to take it up the **** and what do they do if it hurts which they're scared it will but J**** said thats what happens, or if they have to have a **** rammed right down their throats, and why don't their boobs look like how they're supposed to like in porn, and .. and ... and ....
The list is endless and I suppose my opinion is from that of a parent who has had to answer these questions with about the same words time after time ... "No you only do what you're comfortable with, not what porn says to expect". I guess I'm lucky the teens around me are happy to ask me these questions that they don't ask their own parents.
From my perspective porn has a lot to answer for. Not saying I'm against it, I'm just saying we have to open our eyes and see what it's doing to our youth. In my opinion porn is setting up some dangerous issues that we need to admit to.
Oh and I agree with the other girls ... you can definately tell who watches alot of porn. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/9/2009 3:09:57 PM |
Must be the guys you've been with cos I've never had any complaints.
I am highly critical and have a black head board on which I chalk the marks out of ten awarded for flair, stamina, strength, agility and over all satisfaction as well as space for any additional observations. I can tell it's been a good night when I have to do a PTO. | |
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:51:45 PM | i agree, porn is anti-love and it's anti-human really, it's just displaying the most selfish aspects of the sexual act, nothing more, no emotions like you say, just meat on meat action.
women are portrayed as objects with a variety of 'holes' that can be stuffed by the man etc, it's pretty horrifying when you really deconstruct it.
porn also makes sex seem really clinical and takes away the mystic and subtle nature, it disrobes our erotic intellect to gutter level.
anyone with a sane mind and some self respect, would avoid watching it i think. personally i think if you have a lover who needs to watch porn, then there is something wrong.
i know find it really depressing and never watch it, i don't want it polluting my mind. | |
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Joe1uk
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| How much do we blame on porn?
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:17:44 PM | i agree, porn is anti-love and it's anti-human really, it's just displaying the most selfish aspects of the sexual act, nothing more, no emotions like you say, just meat on meat action.
women are portrayed as objects with a variety of 'holes' that can be stuffed by the man etc, it's pretty horrifying when you really deconstruct it.
porn also makes sex seem really clinical and takes away the mystic and subtle nature, it disrobes our erotic intellect to gutter level.
anyone with a sane mind and some self respect, would avoid watching it i think. personally i think if you have a lover who needs to watch porn, then there is something wrong.
i know find it really depressing and never watch it, i don't want it polluting my mind.
It is anti love yes as its aimed at fetishes that are rarely accepted in a loving relationship. Especially the rough aspect of it which in some doesn't seem to be at the wishes of the girls. This leads me to think that a lot of porn is mafia controlled or by traffickers and the girls are forced into it.
I think I am sane though and have a lot of self respect even though I do watch some occasionally. In a relationship a lover isn't always up for sex at the same time as their partner, no matter how much in love and how willing to please their partner they are. Therefore porn and rabbits remain very popular saviours of the relationship.
It is responsible for what used to be extreme acts now becoming common place run of the mill stuff that all girls are expected to do.
As for finding it depressing. thats maybe because the films are rough?
one of my favourites wasn't hard core but was a tv programe called compromising situations. There was another, about a radio phone in that flashed back to erotic situations. All we actually saw was flesh and boobs, but it was fun to watch. It actually had a plot line, had some love vibes in there and wasn't women being forced and wasn't too extreme. It creates a feeling of wanting to make lurve rather than f....
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Posted: 7/9/2009 6:05:11 PM | i find it depressing because it portrays sex in a very one dimensional way.
i think its cool and trendy to be okay with porn as if its a normality and healthy the way KFC chicken is, but really porn is junk sex in the same way KFC is fast food and crap too,
i mean i would personally just rather not be in a relationship with someone who watches porn. i think it objectifies women at its core. there are varying degrees of pornographic styles, and the commericial end is the worst, with home made vidoes between real lovers being way better, but still even so, i think its more a private area of someones life which i now dont want to see.
i am very open minded and liberal so its not that i have an issue with sex at all, im pretty experimental all round, mentally and otherwise, but i dont like the commodification of peoples bodies and genitals and the sex act in general.
also alot of the women on porn have been abused and neglected as children, there is alot of damaged people involved, this is also very problematic for me also. | |
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