| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:47:48 PM | | I have initiated contact about 20 times since I have been on PoF, and have gotten a grand total of zero responses. I don't initiate anymore. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/7/2009 12:56:14 PM | | I receive alot and reply to most, even if I am not interested...but I have alot of friends on here, so its puts my ratio out of whack.... sometimes its just people saying hi, not interested men...wanting me bad :) | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:48:09 AM | | I've only been the one to make first contact 2 times. I'd say I've gotten about 25 emails from women first. Some have led to dates but most don't seem to want to get a conversation going even though they wrote to me first. Strange. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:41:36 AM | I don't initiate contact. I should but I don't.
If I did, I'm guessing that my response rate would be impressive.
By the way, whats the point of checking the sent mail? I wouldn't bother.
If I don't get a response, I don't get a response.
I have initiated contact about 20 times since I have been on PoF, and have gotten a grand total of zero responses. I don't initiate anymore.
Are you serious??? | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:01:23 AM | I would think it's quality over quantity, OP.
You can send out 100 messages and get 1-2 responses, which is average from what I
read in the forums (1-2%). But are these quality responses, i.e., a valid response?
Meaning- are they interested?
I personally like a guy who is attracte dto my photo--- yes, the photo, because it really
all boils down to basic and elemental attraction. Having said that , I'd like to think that
they read my profile and found it of interest as well (not the best example right now as
I am re-writing my profile). Then email me and lay it out there
short and sweet, But that's just me. I would tend to think if people did this that there
would be more of a quality response. Of course, it's gotta go both ways, but it's a good
start. :  | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:51:14 AM | | hmm for me I dont really keep a record but its more like 1,000/100 lol its not that bad the ppl I do chat with on here seem pretty kool, but I do have to say there are some not soo friendly ppl on here. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:00:44 AM | Here? Initiated, zero; received, about 10 so far.
Previously, when actually dating: received well over 1000 initial contacts, initiated about 10. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:39:03 AM |
Some have led to dates but most don't seem to want to get a conversation going even though they wrote to me first. Strange.
Strange but true. That happened to me too with women that contacted me. They seem first hot and suddenly they would disappear. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:16:36 PM | 30 to 1 is not terribly bad. I get about 10 to 1, but I have three years of online dating experience.
This site, however, does seem to be particularly bad about this. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:30:53 PM | | I've been on around a month. Received 4 or 5 first contact emails. I've sent out probably around 20 and have received 4 responses. I'm not shy, so i don't mind sending. I have noticed if i send emails to 9's or 10's i dont get a response back, guess their cup runneth over. Seems about 2 or 3 out of 10 sent for average looking women. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:09:06 PM | 3 out of messages sent to 9 different users. Considering I've only one pic up, maybe that's not so bad. I don't really like to show off, but maybe a sexier picture or something would help...
Reading the rest of the guys' ratios makes me depressed, is this going to be that hard!?!?
Ditto to previous post, glad I don't pay for this. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:33:18 PM | | I've lost count, but I reply to every message I receive no matter how horrible the email is. Every message I've ever sent out has been replied to. I'm sure I'm well over 100 messages sent and probably ten fold received. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:28:29 AM |
What are your messaging ratio's?
Honestly, I don't keep score. Maybe that should tell you something?
I get my fair share of received emails and I also send out some here and there.
If I have something meaningful to say to a woman, then I simply write my words down and send it to her. Its not always to ask for a date, but mostly to compliment her on something she might have said in a forum or something in her profile that just caught my interest. Guys, I believe, have to learn to "engage" a woman. (NO! Not the kind of engagement!) Guys need to learn that the best approach is to be friendly. Don't ask for anything and don't expect anything. I find that women appreciate friendliness and respect that more than the "usual" guy with the clever "pickup line" that usually don't work. I honestly don't have any complaints and have done rather well here on POF. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:51:46 AM | Oh, and lest I not forget, I answer each and every email that is sent to me. Some I answer immediately, while others I like to think about (maybe even a couple of days or so) before I answer them. I think is just common courtesy to do this. Any women who takes the time to write to me is Special . My spirit has crossed her mind enough to prompt to to write to me. To me thats Special.
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:09:42 AM | | Ottawa Chicklet: I can't believe you wouldn't get any responses. That's crazy. You're extremely attractive AND a designer! They must be blind, stupid or both. Don't give up. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:34:15 PM |
Are you serious???
Yup, though I'm estimating as I don't keep count. I guess the type that I'm mostly attracted to, are not attracted to me. So be it.
Ottawa Chicklet: I can't believe you wouldn't get any responses. That's crazy. You're extremely attractive AND a designer! They must be blind, stupid or both. Don't give up.
Well thank you cw35, very nice of you to say. You're quite attractive yourself. ;-)
I do get a fair amount of interest (that's not initiated by me), so it's not like I'm sitting at home knitting on a Friday night, so I've resorted to solely being pursued. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:57:13 PM | From messages sent I think I have a 33% ratio for responses and it varies from week to week. I still have not managed to move from a conversation online/phone to a date though. There must be a gentle art to this that I am not aware of.
-Mike | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:32:39 PM | The messaging ratios are irrelevant.
You gotta look at your overall success on this site over time.
If you're getting first dates and meeting some good people then you are doing ok. If you find someone to have a relationship with of any magnitude and duration than you've hit the jackpot.
I'm on extended play right now..lol | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:56:54 PM | In two years about 50 messages sent 3 replys. No dates.
only a short string conversation.
I did receive one email from someone too far away to consider spending time with on a regular basis.
Are dates actually happening here? I wonder what the percentage is. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:59:12 PM |
Are dates actually happening here? I wonder what the percentage is.
Again it's not about the percentage!
You ever play Lotto? If so do you ever check what your odds of winning actually are?
Of course not. You play it because you want to hit the jackpot.
Better odds here. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:11:10 PM | I'm just glad you can tell when the person has read your message or if they had deleted it. Great feature! | |
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