| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:16:54 PM | Been on here for about two weeks. Have recieved about 4 pages of random email from various women. If its a genuine, thoughtful email, ill reply whether im attracted to them or not. If it's a "hi how are you" kinda email, then ill likely not respond...unless im attracted to them. Just be a little original on what you have to say. It's not that difficult. Boring emails are filled with simple questions. Interesting emails have statements.
Online dating isnt a numbers game. This isnt sales, people. Have fun with it!! And regardless of how good looking you are, these kinda sites can be humbling for anyone. Dont take it personally. Online dating shouldnt be a bloodsport. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 3:36:23 AM | ++++I messaged 4 women; 3 replied, over 2 weeks.
++++I've gotten 0 messages out of the blue, but one girl favorited me, and we're going for a date in a few days. I wonder how it'll go.
I have a new twist for you guys, if you don't mind me mixing things up a bit: of those who view your profile, how many girls favorite you?
I'm 1/36. I think this is low, which doesn't matter if things work out with the current girl, but for flattery sake I wouldn't mind it being more like 5/36, a reasonable number =D
You can find the link on 'look who favorited you' somewhere around favorites.
ps: Messages you send out should get replies. If not, it seems to me there's something not quite right. The wording, or your profile? Finally, if you send out 100 messages without a response, sorry, but I don't understand what you're sending so many messages for. Are you just contacting every single girl in the area? Chances are, or so it seems, that any 2 given people aren't good matches for each other. Maybe try being more selective, and put some effort into the chosen few. Remember you have a target audience, and if you don't, well, you can't please everybody... | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:19:53 AM | Can't tell you how many times I have sent nice messages out here only to be blatantly ignored.
So I would probably say out of every 10 messages I send on a good day, I am lucky to get 1 response if even that.
Oh well. They just don't know what they're missing! Their loss!
Online dating isnt a numbers game. This isnt sales, people. Have fun with it!! And regardless of how good looking you are, these kinda sites can be humbling for anyone. Dont take it personally. Online dating shouldnt be a bloodsport.......
Trevor (message 76) you couldn't put that better. - Unfortunately, some DO look at it as a bloodsport. - Sad but true. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:10:22 AM | Ok I have 1 guy who asks me "what's going on" every so often.
Trouble is he does not answer my messages when I reply.
I send 3 to his 1 --3/1 Not all at once but over the time in between his e-mails
I've stated time and time again I don't chase. If he does not show interest or he cannot make time out of his day to respond, I move on.
I'm not doing all of the talking I don't care how much I like someone, sorry. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:24:06 AM |
Been on here for about two weeks. Have recieved about 4 pages of random email from various women.
4 pages?! Did you say 4 pages? That's an awful lot of eager women waiting for the chance to throw your moving car into park, buddy. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:46:22 AM | I don't use this site for dating purposes.
Last year on yahoo, and in the very early stages of separation, I contacted 4. Three of those responded, and one of them I met and dated for a bit, and that one is still a friend. I came to my senses, briefly anyhow, and stopped for a year.
More recently on match I initiated contact with 4 and only one of those replied back. (And we've met) I've also had 3 others initiate contact with me and I've met 2 of the 3. The 3rd I had no interest in. One of those I've been dating for 6 weeks now.
I don't know if it's this site in particular, or that the people on it are less serious, or less careful in screening, but I don't get the horror stories, or the misrepresentations I keep hearing about in these forums. My actual meetings have all been very positive experiences.
In general I've been finding it better to let the women initiate the contact. I've been saying otherwise when I pipe up in those profile reviews. But that's been because the people posting have been complaining that they're not getting anywhere. That hasn't been my problem. My numbers are still pretty small, and I'm still sporting that scarlet S. But the profile and pics are working for me at this point. Until they don't I think I will continue the 'do-as-I-say' approach in those reviews here. A well-written profile is everything in this realm!
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:00:00 AM | 4 pages?! Did you say 4 pages? That's an awful lot of eager women waiting for the chance to throw your moving car into park, buddy.
Lol, probably what it is, huh 
But yes, 4 pages. Don't ask me why... | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:06:38 PM | I've sent probably 10 messages and gotten replies to all of them.
I've received about the same.
About 80% of those have turned into MSN contacts. About half of that have turned into dates.
Have only received one (from a complete psychopath) since I changed my profile content to what it currently is. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:34:13 PM | | oddly enough, I've been sending less messages as time goes and saying no to what I get unless i'm really interested, I changed my requirements etc and when i put that I'm in the military, because i am) I go more messages, so not sure what is going on, before joining army, sent out TONS of messages, and now that I'm leaving in the next month I AM getting messages. it's odd | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/29/2009 12:01:07 AM | I haven't sent a first contact message for over a year. I find it easier to reply to women that message me first because interest has already been established and I don't fall into the trap of sending out a contact message that comes across as awkward due to my shyness.
I would get about a 50% response rate to messages I sent out during my first year on this site. As for messages received, i've been getting about 2 new contacts per month. It gets a bit weird at times because you can go almost all month with an empty inbox and then the messages come rushing in all at once. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/29/2009 9:36:55 PM | Well I've contacted 45 woman received 1 response! lol after a short time talking with her I didn't like her.
I've received about 10 mails since July all of which was twice the size I am. I must look tasty or something (Ok maybe that was a little dark lol). Only went on three days from the site so far.
Out of those three
One was normal, just didn't find her attractive.
Date two: Neglected to tell me she already had a boyfriend and invited me over for a 2nd day to pick her up at her house. Guess she wasn't planning on her boyfriend stopping by. He had a lot of questions, as did I! Needless to say I never spoke to her again.
The Last date being great, we clicked on everything dating for a while I thought she was very attractive. After we slept togather she decided to inform me she was pregnant with someone elses kid and was looking for a father! That was the end of that.
Since then I've deleted my profile, recreated it with a new picture and profile. Contacted another 20 and i'm 20/0. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 9/30/2009 11:57:08 PM | Oh have been here 3 years sent hundreds of messages like 1 message a month of someone interested but they do not show up or disappear. I think I write good introduction messages, not little one liners.
I guess my ratio is like 150 to 1 hahahaha | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/1/2009 11:09:36 PM | | I basically have given up after hundreds of emails over the past year and getting to meet only 2 of them in real life. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/1/2009 11:21:49 PM | | LOL This is exactly why I don't send any messages to women. As you can see , the odds are stacked against us..not that I give a shit. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/2/2009 6:12:58 PM | Well -- in looking back at over a decade and half of "web dating" profiles -- starting with the "web personals" site in 1994, I don't see very much change in response rates -- regardless of the nature of the profile, its verbiage or site's physical format. I typically send 40 to 50 emails per year and receive some reply to about 20% -- at least 90% of those who do respond indicate no interest. Most of the residual 10% exchange a couple of emails more then vanish. On average I find about one new person per year that continues to chat with me and I lose about one person per year that grows tired of it......
It's relatively consistent -- if not particularity spectacular or dramatic. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:02:23 AM | Out of every 10 I send I get about 6 replies! Not too bad considering
what I'm reading here. What bothers me is when a female makes you a favorite
then does not respond to a "Thank you for making me a favorite."
I'm completely clueless to why that happens. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:43:05 AM | I guess I must be one of those guys that is not the "threatening type" because generally if I send an email I get a response back. I've had my share of dates that become "friends", a couple have said, your a nice guy but no love connection, a couple are really friends, and some are just in the IM stage, meaning I've asked if they are interested in mutually getting to know each other. I don't know what the percentage would be, and not really too concerned about it. I believe my main concern is if the women on POF are really interested in a relationship or to what extent do they want a long term relationship. Friendships are fine, but it would be nice to find a woman with more to offer than that. So, ONWARD I go into the mysterious world of dating.  | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:59:27 PM | I know your just curious but this is actually a really dumb question IMHO. You can't compare that with anyone else..there is too many different factors you have to look at when asking this question: age, location, etc
besides would it even make a difference if i said I have about 11 pages of emails from the last week? no it wouldnt... | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:45:40 PM | I have gotten maybe 6 emails from guys.
One I met in person, which didn't turn out the best, but you learn from it.
I've sent probably 15, which haven't gotten a reply back. | |
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| What are your messaging ratio's?
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:13:19 PM | | well, basically none on this site. i've been on another (paid) site for about 2 yrs. i've always had a lot of e-mail there. i think it has to do with posting pictures on the paid site. i use that site for dates and this site for advice. i would have used this site for dates, but i don't care for its search engine. it's not specific enough, so it sort of leaves me looking through mounds of profiles to find what i like here. on the other site, i can plug in exactly what i seek with their search options, so it narrows the search down to manageable proportions. back to the Q: when i first got on the other site, i answered most e-mails, but after a while, i stopped. adding to that, over time, i grew less tolerant of people who didn't come close to fitting the criteria i clicked on (yep, i checked off very specific radio buttons, and people chose to ignore them...for example, i'd specify a height, and some guy 3" shorter would message anyway), so i just started deleting. anyway, the moral is: if you ignore what people have clearly specified, don't be surprised if they're not interested. i suppose, on this site, it's a little better with respect to the filtering *out* capacity. (that still doesn't override the search engine features...combined with people's lack of specific answers in some of the categories on this site.) hope that helps! | |
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