| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:07:33 PM | Wow...talk about making yourself as undesireable as possible.....
Here is a lesson for you....if you don't like the heat baby - stay out of the kitchen...
Maybe take a breather.....until you are up for the rollercoaster of internet dating..... | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:07:22 PM | I learned I really don't like the process of meeting women first online.
People make it way too complicated.
It's the world wide internet, but people don't really connect and communicate as frequently as they should to make it worthwhile.
Women are more passive in sending out emails, so they receive more than they send. So then the guys send more emails. My email has to sound unique or funny or whatever because I have to convince some woman that I've never met, never seen, never heard that my email is worth responding to. It's just bullsh!t.
What I learned is not to really care anymore. If I see a profile I like I send a short brief email, one or two sentences. It might sound canned. It might sound like a form letter - whatever. All I need to say is that i'm interested, cuz anything else is just bullsh!t anyway. Why would a woman expect anything more? To be honest I would be concerned if she did expect more than a simple hello from a complete stranger. How much SINCERE admiration could a profile and a few pictures inspire from somebody you don't know and never met?
Bottomline. If a woman is down to earth and she's interested she'll respond. Even if all you say is hello and put a little  at the end. Anybody that expects much more than that from a stranger is just full of themselves. And I ain't got the time for folks like that. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:26:07 PM | | I was surprised to learn that u really can't trust too many people. I learned people morph into who they think u want them to be. Every guy I have talked with on the phone lately I have caught in a lie. I learned online dating is mostly for rejects, they have been rejected by society so they are on here to try and find another reject e. I learned that serious and honest people like myself are few and far between. I learned I am a needle in a haystack and I want to find a needle! | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:35:05 PM | Online dating has brought me closer to understanding what this "numbers game" is all about. There are so many fish in this sea, that you can't possibly find enough time to invest months of your life and hours upon hours emailing someone when there's a good chance that if you ever even meet there won't be enough chemistry to build a relationship on.
That first meeting is the point where the relationship starts getting real, and it's best to get it out of the way ASAP - Then both of you can judge whether it makes sense to start focussing your precious time on this person.
When someone seems unusually resistant to meeting, it's a pretty big red flag. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:13:44 AM | i've learned what you put out into the world comes back to you. which means both i and the gal i'm with from this site are really the sh|t.
wish i'd found this place years ago.
signed, a pleased pollyanna | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/16/2009 2:05:39 PM | ( update since my previuos advice:)
be careful talking about how nice and decent and really enjoyable people are who write; because you will then get deluged with in your face propositions immediately afterwords from a few people who obviously don't get from your profile you aren't a she-player, but a legit down to earth person...)
sigh...
(though granted still MOSTLY really nice interesting people; with a few um, pretty uh, graphic exceptions; though a couple HAD to be jokes... and pretty twisted ones at that...) :) | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:13:57 PM |
i've learned what you put out into the world comes back to you. which means both i and the gal i'm with from this site are really the sh|t.
wish i'd found this place years ago.
signed, a pleased pollyanna
Awwwwww - so I don't need to ask my dad to pony up a dowry and contact a marriage broker after all?
:D | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 5:23:21 AM | | I learned back when I first started with online dating that one of my friends wasn't actually a friend at all. Met the girl in real life once, he slept with her two days later, then blames me for him sleeping with her because I wasn't man enough to do so on a first date. It wouldn't have bothered me enough to stop hanging out with him if it happened after a couple dates, but just one and that happened is ridiculous, was drove the final nail in the coffin of our friendship was when I heard from another friend that he was talking with her the entire time. Haven't learned anything since then and that was several years ago. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 10:15:52 AM | | I have learned that its a great way to meet men you would not find in your daily life... and that if you use it as that, you will come across all types, choose carefully, be selective and maybe, just maybe, one day you will find the love of your life....and if not him, the love ...for now | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:47:35 AM | | It would have taken me 300 years of going to bars, clubs and restaurants to have been in touch, talk and exchange information and get to know so many different personalities. And all this for a fraction of the cost and time. Add to that the forums. I love the nasty people. I love all the freaking losers whining about something. I love the nasty ladies who do nothing but male bash. I do feel so sorry for all the idiot nice guys that don't get it that they are not going to get laid the way they are. I even love what I am learning about relationships, which is indeed my huge handicap. For instance, I didn't know much about squirting. Now I do!!!! Hmm. There's so much to learn. Bring it on. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:22:41 PM | chrono: I learned back when I first started with online dating that one of my friends wasn't actually a friend at all. Met the girl in real life once, he slept with her two days later, then blames me for him sleeping with her because I wasn't man enough to do so on a first date. It wouldn't have bothered me enough to stop hanging out with him if it happened after a couple dates, but just one and that happened is ridiculous, was drove the final nail in the coffin of our friendship was when I heard from another friend that he was talking with her the entire time. Haven't learned anything since then and that was several years ago.
Your posts are a fun mental exercise. In that they're rambling, disjointed, approaching incoherent and it's a challenge to muddle through them and try to figure out exactly what it is you're trying to say.
I'm going to give it a shot.
You met a girl once but didn't sleep with her following that first meeting.
Your friend met her 2 days later and screwed her on date 1.
Your friend blames you for him having sex with her because you didn't sleep with her on date 1, as if it was an unpleasant and regretable event and it was your fault
Because your friend slept with this girl on date 1, and it's ridiculous to have sex with a person on date 1, your friendship was over, because your friend was talking to the woman he slept with "the entire time".
You haven't learned anything since that time and that was several years ago.
Actually I don't think I did much more than repeat your entire post | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:29:08 PM | I've come to realize that it's all about having fun with it. The world won't come to an end if I don't find "The One" within the next 3 weeks. lol
I've also learned not to be so judgemental. We are all different, and although we should accept people for who they are, it is still important to maintain boundaries, and not allow someone to compromise them. (even if you are drunk, lol) | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:49:09 PM | | I have learned that many of the people are on here because they are hiding something about themselves. Some of the people on here are overly serious about meeting someone and dating in general. You will never find anyone if you are looking for a relationship before you have fun and just date. I have learned that the term "athletic" is a very broad term and doesn't always mean "in shape." I have learned that some people are on here for free food and drinks. I have noticed that many girls on here are just attention hogs as they have over 500 people marking them as a favorite and still are single--issues? The biggest thing I have learned is that many people will tell you what you want to hear and after a few days they show their true colors. Moreover, I have learned that I do not like internet dating and meeting people in real life is much more enjoyable and exciting. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/17/2009 2:22:08 PM | | That is a great piece of advice that has helped me on here once already. You also have to be on the lookout for the multidaters that claim to be exclusive, but are all over the place. Happened with the last person on here, but oh well didn't lose too much time luckily before finding out. | |
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