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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/18/2009 2:09:34 PM | I've learned to honest with myself and to those I come in contact with, for if I want it from others I have to practice what I preach.
I've learned to follow my instincts and my gut feelings.
Gut feelings have had me researching and finding information that led me to either continue or not go any further with certain people. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/18/2009 2:38:30 PM | Yep, some people do not need to list spelling as a skill.
I saw a headline that said "Looking for a fiend", and another one that said " Looking for my special flush" Are they into toileting or playing cards? Another profile said something about liking public displays of affection in pubic. I won't even go there........    | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:05:45 PM | I have learned that women are far too passive, as a generalization, in making first contact. I have also learned that women rarely respond to messages and if they do it is with a sentence or two of garbled English.
-Michael | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:48:30 PM |
I have learned that women are far too passive, as a generalization, in making first contact.
I agree, with two caveats.....I wouldn't personally use the word "passive" and I do make first contact but not as often as I receive a first contact email. Just saying, but is that any different from the "in real life" (love that phrase...haha).
Call it tradition, I'm not really sure what it is, but don't invoke the stupid biological imperative, because it's not scientific and not proven. (Darwin can bite me!!)
Thing is when a woman makes the "approach", just from my experience, and not always but more often than not, it's not that it's not welcome but it's expected that I always call....you know guys how it goes. Very rarely is it "equal" or "mutual" when I shrug and wonder what the hell....you know what I hear? Well YOU contact me first. Yeah, imagine that. I doubt I'm the only woman or the first who's ever heard this, so maybe it's the same for women, a no win situation.
Some men seem hesitant to write back, and some admit to only doing so out of curiosity. A few will be honest enough to confess....well I was wondering what the hell was wrong with you (plenty, but that's another topic!! haha) that I WOULD make a first contact email.
So how is that the men claim to want a woman to do that but when she does, then it's all up to her. Men ask that all the time, so if the men are so tired of it, why when a woman does, do they get all weirded out and think there's got to be something wrong when a woman does?
I did say some and it doesn't happen all the time and it doesn't put me off from dropping someone an email because I don't base my behavior or actions on what other people say or do or how someone reacts.
I respond to all emails that aren't just someone angry, sexist, verbally insulting or abusive. I've gotten them from women, too from a forum post. It doesn't happen that often and there's no way a nasty email would make me run and take down my profile. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:08:50 AM | | It is making me a better person. I have never been marry that long before, but 7 years. I have not really dated, because I rush into the relationship. It is teaching me to be patience, stand on what I believe in, don't low my standards for anyone, and the list goes on. At first I felt sad because some of these guys play games, but not anymore. One guy did not even try to get to know me and we never met, but yet he ask me do I want to come and stay the weekend with him and I can bring my kids. I said no, because we don't know each other and I don't want to bring different men around my kids. Well, he act like he did not understand. They understand, but they just don't give a ****. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/19/2009 9:13:33 AM | The forums are more real and honest than most peoples profiles... AND....ALOT of people on here are just here for entertainment and nothing more.;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;; | |
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hoddy
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Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 162 | |
| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:01:55 PM | i have learned a lot over the years such as blackmailed and i realy dont think
i can trust a dating site any more after being blackmailed i te you something for nothing
just be carful who your talking or responding to it happen to me but a acted very fact
and i pulled out all the stop i am not looking fr a girl on this site just email/talk if they can be trusted a little tip dont give out to much infomation | |
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hoddy
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Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 163 | |
| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:09:22 PM | it happened two years a go i just have to be carful
to who i am talking to the girl tryed to get 7.000euro out from me
but it didnt work and i cought the girl out
she told me she was from the uk here is the bad
how come her english was that bad and i couldnt understand her
your right it is not right thanks very much for lisening to me
but it is true you just have to be carful and use your head
i cant trust dating sites any more it my work for others | |
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hoddy
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Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 164 | |
| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:11:42 PM | it happened two years a go i just have to be carful
to who i am talking to the girl tryed to get 7.000euro out from me
but it didnt work and i cought the girl out
she told me she was from the uk here is the bad
how come her english was that bad and i couldnt understand her
your right it is not right thanks very much for lisening to me
but it is true you just have to be carful and use your head
i cant trust dating sites any more it my work for others | |
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hoddy
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Joined: 7/7/2009
Msg: 165 | |
| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:16:19 PM | i was blacmailed some time a go since that
i cant trust any site and i am not looking for a woman just email/talk
i wonder to my self can they even be trusted dating sites work of other
but my friends are on my side it very hard to tel from a fake profile
to a genuine profile | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:17:21 PM | I have learned that fundamentally it's absolutely no different from going to a bar. The ones that you try to talk to either refuse to speak to you outright or else have so many issues (and I admit to some of my own here) that it seems as though they're not really there to meet people; they just want to know that they can control something. The ones you do manage to get to talk to you will not maintain the conversation for very long, even if you have more you want to know or say.
And even tough I have been single for most of my life, I do relate to what you're saying. I was taught to treat others well, but often it seems as though I was the only one who learned how. I'm not here to get anybody to "put out." I would like to find The One, but that seems more and more like an unreachable dream. | |
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Nyte7
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Joined: 10/19/2008
Msg: 167 | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 4:47:34 PM | Online dating is harder cause he already has a "fish" on his "line" you don't know about.
Words to live by for me "Never make someone a priority while he makes you an option" | |
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| Billy Mays
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:32:52 PM |
I have learned that some people have broken caps lock keys. Or now known as the Billy Mays key.
Oh God, haha! I just BURST out laughing! | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:22:27 PM | This is too funny......... Mwahahahaha!!!!!! But sooooooo true!!!
When I find a woman, who's not filling out a list of who she is and what she wants, ending with no players and no booty calls. She automatically gets a wow, read on!!!! What's with long term any way, unless you have a complete commitment phobia I think most people want to have long term, but you have to get through a date friends, and some where along the way if it worked out it's long term!!!!! WTF
Next is the whole, bodytype thing........ A few extra ponds is not having to spend the next year working out and dropping 1/4 to 1/3 of your body mass. I would qualify as a few extra pounds, I'm 225lbs and could stand to lose 25lbs, but hardly noticeable on my frame. I list myself as athletic because I jog everyday, and active in sports year around!!!!
And yes I smoke( working on that. Lol) but can out play most people I know!!!
Next what's with the blocking thing by criteria!!!!! WTF are you doing on a free website, spells control issues. I don't block anyone, because to keep all possibilities open (open mind), I have enough intellect to deal with unwanted solicitation.
Next is the woman who state that they're not in it for sex, want to be respected, blah blah blah, but their profile pic is them in a string bikini or on their bed auditioning for penthouse!!!! Nothing wrong with sex appeal, but if you fish with a certain type of bait your gonna catch a certain type of fish!!!!!
Authenticity is HOT, posers are NOT
That's my rant.......... Hehehehe .......... Lmao | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:46:10 PM | I have learned that you can't get to know someone via online dating. It is absolutely the worst way for men and women to meet.
Too many people portray themselves a certain way and then can't live up to the image they have created online.
Too many miscommuncations when emailing. If I could count the number of times I've tried to inject something funny into my email but on reading it back realised - oops maybe it didn't come across as funny and I've realised the other person may have taken the tone of the email the wrong way.
I am out there chatting to people in everyday life and mostly come here to read the forums and join in. | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 6:58:11 PM | I've learned.....
That the bulk of the people who filled out false information and didn't have to submit so much as a W-2 form on all those foreclosed Freddie Mac mortgage loans..........can be located riiiiiight HERE!!
Thanks.... no... please.... let me buy you dinner TOO!!! Care for a Chrysler??? No...please....why not?? It's on me.... | |
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| What lessons have you learned from online dating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:09:23 PM | I have learned the following:
1. It can be an invaluable tool for meeting the right person if used right.
2. Most people do not use it right.
3. Too many people use it as if they're shopping for a head of lettuce - picking and choosing based on superficial "check lists."
4. Many people live under the delusion that lying about their appearance (e.g 2 year old photos) will be overlooked, or ignored by the person they're meeting.
5. There are a good number of people who are genuine and seriously looking for the right match; however, are subjected to weeding through the BS to find the said match. | |
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