| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/6/2009 10:08:02 PM | | If i'm reading what you just posted correctly. I have to agree with the women on this one. She is screwing him and screwing you over. Drop this like a fresh turd. She is seeing how much she can get away with when it comes to you and she is getting away with murder. You realize that this act in the beginning of the relationship pretty much means you can never really trust her right? | |
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:08:28 PM | If you're asking us about it you know her excuses are lame so why even buy into them. Just move on. If she wonders why just say you're not stupid and go NC (No contact). As far as she's concerned you've dropped off the face of the earth. And yes she'll tell you she's not doing anything ect, ect, but yea. If she's not doing it yet she will be. Move on and don't look back and don't let her suck you back in. PM me if you like, I'll tell you some things.
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:31:40 PM | | I agree that trust is what its all about and also that trust has to be earned. But my answer would have to be no. But if you say it than you arent reflecting trust her. The real issue however is that she should be the one who respects the new relationship enough to change gyms. That is how they earn the trust they will expect down the road when things beyond their control pop up. | |
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:13:19 AM | no way OP; this is trouble in the making; her ex obviously is still into her and this is a game.
Tell her it's ok as long as you get to go too. This is danger and isn't going to end up well.
Cheaters have separate relationships than with who they are dating; if she's hiding him from you, it's not good. She's a cheater and you need to say c ya. Dont be a wimp; stand up for yourself. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to know why she doesn't want you to go.
So many people cheat and she's cheating; dont put up with it or get ready to be hurt. good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:33:19 AM | anyone that says they had a great relationship/sex with their ex and that they are still phart and beer buddies.. is somone where I gottah look really closely in their eyes .. like when I am looking out a pair of knockies at the Eiffel tower of leaning peezah.. I usually see the back of their heads... if you gottah lottah time for leftover vagina.. to sit and schtick the past in each ah yo'faces .. then you two be playing each other... some serious f'cked up games .. and any gal or guy that walks into that psycho nest to hear ," oh gees I can't cum over tonight sweetie because my old vagina friend needs me .. to hang in with her "!!! is an idiot.. if a guy is not chasing your azz he is not even worth his own poker player stick in the card tricks of life.. wienies, franks.. sausages and****ails... a di'ck is a guy that .. gets dumb vagina.. because he wants to be your friend later.... come on..
as my sister would say.. "let's all play the game.. by parker brothers.. 'whose c'cks in my mouth' "where you gottah figure out whose blowing who... | |
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:25:16 AM | I'm be candid (that's the way I am!). Sounds like she likes you as a person, but she's attracted to the exBF. Don't sit there and be a doormat...you'll get the "let's just be friends" talk soon. Instead, go find yourself a cute and dateable workout partner, and don't hide it from her. If your workout partner is game, go hang out together a bit instead of waiting around for your GF to realize what a super guy you are. She'll either realize that she's more attracted to you than she thought she was, and put some work into getting your attention, or she'll just run back to the the ex-BF. Either way, you have kicked both of you off the fence, and you might have a new GF, and maybe get to choose between her and your new GF even.
Now...do this with the right motivation. If you do it just to try to make her jealous, she'll read that motivation...really, that's "playing games" in my opinion. Do it with sincerity (connecting with a new woman whom you really like, even if she is just a friend)...your GF will realize it's sincere and that you're not going to be her puppy (woman read our manly motivatons well, don't you ladies? LOL).
If you don't respect yourself, she has no reason to respect you either.
HTH,
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:17:42 AM | OP: You've been dating a girl that lives 60+ miles away for a MONTH. I'm not sure what dialogue has transpired between you two, but unless you've had a conversation that you are exclusive to one another this is pointless.
Additionally, I don't know the parties involved. Therefore, I can't say that there is something suspicious. I have remained platonic friends with my exes, but I don't hang out with them on a regular basis.
If you are a "couple", then sure working out would be nice. However, it would be NUTS to drive 60+ miles to go to the gym with their sig other (assuming this was the scenario) on a regular basis? That would be INSANE IMO.
Good luck!
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Posted: 7/8/2009 10:35:12 AM | Are you serious?
The next thing you know she will be wanting you to hold the towels while they "Pump a little Iron"! If you have only be dating for a month you are just a diversion for her. She doesn't have her ex out of her system and sounds like she doesn't plan to.
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Posted: 7/8/2009 4:53:54 PM | Don't be so feminized and construct rules. Men these days are so scared to tell women anything anymore and then we wonder why they run around doing whatever they want. EVERYONE needs guidelines.
What is wrong with setting rules that must be followed to date you? It's not being controlling. That is only shaming to allow them to continue to do whatever they please. It's perfectly fine to have rules. I mean, isn't a rule that no dates get to hit you?
Seeing an ex can be viewed as disrespectful. Only trouble comes out of these things. Been there, done that, tried the "aww i'll be understanding" nonsense several times. Now I absolutely do not date women that still see their exes.
Personally, I would bail. It has nothing to do about trust. She could just as easily just dump you and go back to him without violating your trust and officially cheating. These things rarely work well.
If she truly desired you, she would have no problems shoving him aside instead of risking trouble with you. Interested women, especially early on and for the most part, go out of their way to hide things that will damage themselves in your eyes. Only date women with high interest or you are doing yourself a disservice and disrespecting yourself. | |
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:37:31 PM | | Men and women are very different Ken, I respect the fact that you're trying to be supportive of the OP, but you have two things working against you. 1.) you don't deal with women 2.) You are not a woman, so your advice should be taken with a grain of salt, no offense. Listen to the women who have already posted dude! No one can tell you how another woman thinks except for another woman. And only a guy who has dealt with women can give you advice on how to deal women. From everything you've said I'm 99.9% cetain that your girl is still f**king her ex. Now a typical square would probably simply whine to her and eventually dump her, but I'm going to school you on some game so you can turn the tables and gain something so listen to the teacher. First of all, if you've been spending money on her, don't spend another dime on her. I don't care what kind of excuse you have to come up with, but don't buy her sh*t else. Secondly, if she wants to see you, then most of the time she has to be the one driving 60 miles to your location, not you,unless you're going to her location to get something from her. Thirdly, use this as an opportunity to make you some female friends of your own, and if your girl tries to **** at you, just say " I let you hang out with your ex, so you shouldn't have a problem with me hanging out with my female friends either." See right now she's got you wondering what she's doing, but you have to turn the tables and make her wonder what you're doing. So fourthly, don't always answer the phone when she calls you, even if you're not particularly busy still don't answer her phone calls all the time. Use that time to make friends with other females. If she questions you about your change in behavior, just tell her " I let you hang out with you ex, so you shouldn't complain about the things I do" Eventually she'll get the message and realize that you're not going to be her fool anymore. Either two things are going to happen, either she's gonna cut contact with her ex to please you hoping you will change, or she's gonna be straight up with you and tell you she still has feelings for her ex and walk away. Either way you'll get your answer and it didn't cost you a thing. Plus you didn't let her put yourr life on hold because now you've made other female friends as well. Listen dude! You're not doing anything wrong by taking my advice because you didn't start this mess, she did. But since she wants to play this game, you have to make her understand that the game works both ways. You're not being insecure by wonder what she's doing with her ex, you've just been bless with enough intellect to know when something's not right. Now with that said let the games begin. You didn't start it, but you can finish it. | |
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| Is it okay for your girlfriend to go to the gym and workout with their ex?
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:43:32 PM | If you actually want to play this stupid game Mr. Reality knows the score but I say go No Contact and watch her come running. "Oh you don't call me anymore." or "I haven't seen you in a long time." or "when can I visit". If she pushes the issue (and you feel like it) you simply say "Hope you and your boyfriend have a lovely workout." She knows what she's doing and don't believe a word otherwise.
-Nate | |
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