| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:59:20 PM | It's the internet!
Delete the post, forget it and move on.
I had a guy from Kitchener want to meet and give me fellatio! (which by the way I was surprised that this kind of post could pass by filters etc)
There are all kinds of a$$holes on here as well as nice people too. Some people send shocking messages to drive you off the site. It's a "Baiting" game
DELETE............................fixes all problems.
Just weed out the bad ones by ignoring them. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/7/2009 4:49:47 PM | I havnt read each and every post so if this has been said already...sorry about that.
But this senario of not wanting to date someone with kids works both ways. I have dated woman with kids to find out they dont want the men to have thier own fulltime. Being 40 and single full time father myself I can tell you it gets harder as you get older and still have younger children at home. Alot woman have already raised thier own kids and feel they have "put in their time", which is totally understandable. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/16/2009 8:12:12 PM | | If you ask me, it sound like this guy has an ex and sounds like shes getting on with her life when he has their child (children), I'm sure its ok for him to go out and have fun when shes has the child.I think he has issues about whats going on in his world. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:56:21 PM | I just wanted to reply to "My I"
The reason why I mentioned "changing a person" was because my ex was abusive and controlling and I had hoped that after 3 marriage counsellors and the help from the Children's Aide Society that he would change. Before implying that I had a "plan" in mind when I married him shows where your mind is at. I was never a vengeful person because of this, I didn't take a dime from him and he sees the kids every other weekend. I don't bad mouth him in front of the kids because I know the kids still love their father, bless their lil hearts.
As for deadbeat dads, I didn't change the topic to this, it was a one liner and my ex is not that, I made sure through the courts, even though he wanted to be. I also understand there are deadbeat moms too. I have a few single dad friends out there that are doing a great job with their kids and my hat goes off to them for their loyalty and devotion to them. I think single parents, men or women, are stronger for their experiences, but then here I am generalizing because in reality, not all are and Im not delusional about that fact.
I think some guys shy away because of either the excess baggage, not wanting responsibility for any of it, whether its being a role model or financially, or just not interested. To each their own and their opinions, thats what makes us all different. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/20/2009 9:00:45 PM |
As for deadbeat dads, I didn't change the topic to this, it was a one liner and my ex is not that, I made sure through the courts, even though he wanted to be
^^ It seems Ontario courts are so inconsistent and gender bias. Every time my ex took me back to court her new husband paid her legal bills and I had payments increase..... she had no risks and no concerns about treating my life and the family courtroom like a soap opera. I'm not bothered by that anymore. But the experience has taught me a lot.
Yes, I know. All women aren't like that. But, unfortunately, there is no way of knowing who is and who isn't until it's too late. Hence the hesitation by many men. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/21/2009 12:31:44 AM | | It's rather a very strange world we live in... at the age of 24...there was a young lady that got pregnant by one particular dude who told her that she doesn't seem to be the type suitable to be a mother. Her best friend asked if I could take his place instead and a whole lot of people will pitch in wanting to make our relationship work. I was almost all for it because of how attractive she appeared altogether... but I never really never made much of an effort for us to really talk. That same night she got my number, she called me up at 5 in the morning wanting to know a whole lot more about me. I asked her to call me back after 6:30 because I needed to be at work in a few more hours by which she screamed on the phone then hung up. Having to return home, I went to my messages and found out that she had six nasty calls waiting for me, meanwhile she was actually apologizing in the seventh. Remaining polite... I called... she told me it was because her mind was racing with way too many questions... so we did manage to carry on a great conversation for several hours... well... until she became demanding to see me before ten that night, especially if I'm serious about her... seriously serious. I said maybe tomorrow... and she totally flipped out even more. Needless to say... that raised a huge red flag right there. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/21/2009 8:43:41 PM | | im a single mom and i wish i could be the gold digger for once somehow i end up being social assistance lol. my ex was military and i supported him for 8 months too :( i guess im just a sucker | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/22/2009 12:38:27 PM |
my ex was military and i supported him for 8 months too :( i guess im just a sucker
When in a relationship you do what you feel is right for the relationship. I would never classify you as a sucker. I'm of the opinion you did more than what would normally be expected from you. I think you should be praised for what you did. Your ex, on the other hand, is a jackass if he is mistreating the situation and enjoying himself while you and your child live on assistance. | |
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| Single Mothers and how we are preceived on this site
Posted: 8/22/2009 3:20:11 PM | It is difficult for a guy with no kids to relate to the pressures and responsibilities of what it is like to be a single mom.
At my age, most women have kids that are old enough to be left unattended so it isn't so bad. But it is very unlikely for me to meet a woman without kids and that is something I learned to live with. I have not ever been asked to be 'daddy'.
In fact it is kind of hard cause a few times the kids saw me as the reason mommy and daddy were not going to be back together. That is tough to deal with. | |
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