| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/17/2009 10:41:49 AM | | Inevitably this question brings up issues. The person asking the question always seems to have questions about the answer they recieved. That, in turn, causes unnecessary stress in a relationship. The problem is this: if the answer is that they have only been with a few then the question that usually proceeds that is who. Once the details are known then (in my experience) it starts a chain reaction. The person who asked the question then starts to question if they are a better lover then the ones before, are they as sexy, do they still care about former lovers, etc. If the answer is that they have been with many then the questions that proceed it are do they not care about themselves, am I just another number, where do I fit in. It is a silly question that brings up more silly questions. In my opinion it is nobodys business but my own. I will not play those silly games. If I am with you then I am with you, no need to talk about past lovers. It tends to breed insecurities. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:05:12 PM | Every situation is different. What is wrong with everyone! Are you going to sit there and judge a person who has had bad luck in relationships to a person who thinks every weekand is time to go to the bar and pick up a quick lay. It doesn`t matter what a person did. It is what a person does now.
Lets say a person has had 3 partners in the past year. Maybe things didn`t work out as they were expected to. It doesn`t matter how many people a person has had in there lifetime compared to how many people a person has been with in the past week. There is too many variables. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:27:27 PM |
It doesn`t matter how many people a person has had in there lifetime compared to how many people a person has been with in the past week. There is too many variables.
Unless you ask, how will you know....? | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/17/2009 4:43:10 PM | It depends on the person but some of us look at it as a moral or religious decision..don't share a body that was meant for beautiful bonding with all. I like to believe that if you sleep with anyone other then those in a serious relationship, you have had too many or the wrong kind anyway. One night stands are immoral and way unsafe (all kinds of crimes besides). What id a person tied you up besides..ha ha. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/18/2009 1:06:24 AM |
every day we wake up with the opportunity to morally be a new person
I love this quote from deerdog. It's what I try to live my life by, and it's how I approach everyone new I meet. I just wish that I cvould meet someone else who thinks like this. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 9/30/2009 10:12:11 AM | | I don't think the number of partners had is as vital as the number of partners one has at a time. I am not talkking about threesomes. I mean When i am leaving, if another girl is arriving that is just wrong. You might think i am crazy, but i have seen it. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/7/2009 9:51:20 AM | | hmm, I d say it depends on a number of factors, luck being the most prominent. I've had a total of 327 lovers. When I was at that age , I had 3 that year. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/7/2009 10:06:10 AM | i don't really think its about "luck"
i'd say its more about how much you value yourself and your body. i mean, how can you take someone who has been with 100+ people seriously? sex is great, but its not the only thing in life...not the only thing in my life anyway. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/7/2009 11:19:53 AM | Pirate, you have actually counted them, what a notch on the bed post? geeezzzzz.....
And to be so exact. You must be an actuary or something.
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:26:56 PM | | Alot of people on here say that it doesnt matter and I think that is BS. Im not perfect and I have had a more than a few partners but when the girl is say 23 and has had 30 or so partners she is a whore. You have to be able to respect the person your with. How can you respect them when all it takes to get into their pants is a smile and a beer? This applys to guys as well, but to be truthfull girls are the ones with the power when it comes to sex, girls can go out and get laid any night of the week not too many guys can do the same. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 3:28:21 AM | | ^^^^ Yet another person who thinks women are "gaurdians of the sacrd ****". Sigh.... | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:44:29 AM | | Women ARE guardians of the sacred in a way because they have a choice. They can sleep with multiple men in one day, save it for marriage, and everything in between. Men don't have that power, so it's our right to pursue women that have made decisions that match whatever our view is on sex. Now of course a guy that has slept around doesn't have a right to judge. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:27:03 PM | Lets take a standard 18-19 year old for example.
It is not the number, not quanity but quality. Just remember every time you have sex with a girl, you have sex with everyone she has had sex with and so on and so forth. As well as she has with those you have been with.
In this day one should think carefully, IT only TAKES ONE person to kill you or give you a life long disease and in some cases with some diseases she will be the LAST one you can ever have sex with.
Something to think about. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 2:17:25 PM | | It only takes one of anything be it car ride, walk down the street, plane ride or a million other things to. Doesn't mean you don't do them but you do bukle up (and use protection). | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 5:26:54 PM | | I don't want to know. Me and my current gf have had this talk and we were both honest- but be sure you can handle the answer. Some dudes get weird about it ( i have had talkes with my freinds "she's had 50 guys" or whatever) If the lady is with you now and you love her, be happy. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:46:00 PM | | how many partenrs at one time? or in your own whole life? in one week? it depends on the person...i feel that sex is taken too lighty...sex is not a sports...unfortunately...people sees it as...take care | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:54:31 PM | | You know, aside from all the moral shite and all that... I've yet to meet a woman with high numbers that didn't have some other "issue".... and some are simply nuts. Many men will say it's the crazy ones who are the easiest to get in bed.... | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:47:44 PM | Do you mean partners accumulated from past interactions or partnerships at the same time with multiple people??
At one time I'd say 2 would be enough handful already without adding more people.
And over a period of time it depends on your own values for what you find acceptable. Though I do believe that it is more widely accepted that men will be more promiscuous in comparison to females.
For myself I'd probably feel uncomfortable if the over time number was over 100 or so just because it makes it more likely to have caught something along that long line of lovers. For a normal 18-19ish person. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:59:36 PM |
A person is entitled to whatever they want as long as they and their partners are being safe. Its completely subjective.
I agree, but then it also comes down to "How much does the person care about their body?"
There could be some evolutionary difficulties for the offspring. Sex isn't the key to happiness, it's the key to successfully creating more life on the Planet. Taking more chances is in the word "chance".
I get bored and avoid "bad sex" as much as possible. If I send the whole experience being boring, I'm going to pass on the vagina, I'll put in consideration oral play.
It's all hilarious. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/9/2009 2:49:06 AM |
They can sleep with multiple men in one day, save it for marriage, and everything in between. I don't have that power, so it's my right to pursue women that have made decisions that match whatever my view is on sex.
^^ I made a few corrections for you.  | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/9/2009 6:04:02 AM |
You have to be able to respect the person your with. How can you respect them when all it takes to get into their pants is a smile and a beer?
This view has always baffled me, and I also think it betrays a certain lack of self-esteem on the part of a man who holds it. Have you ever thought that maybe YOU are the variable in there you're neglecting to mention? What if she's really just that into YOU? Personally, I do go with this whole "you have to hold out" business; on the occasions that I am that into someone, and I'm emotionally and sexually ready to go there with him, I will. This is rare for me, as I am incredibly picky, so I let it happen when it does. It has nothing to do with being "easy" and everything to do with the person I want to sleep with. I'm sure I can't be the only woman who functions this way, but I can't help but think you're cutting out some women who really might just like you that much.
Also: I don't understand how 1) holding out is tied to respect, or 2) it means anything more than what it does if she has sex with you early. Why all the loading it with (likely false) meaning? Why not just go with it if you like her, and not do it if you don't? What is it that causes some people to think it's okay to judge women based on one instance of her sexuality, and to think that's okay? | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/9/2009 6:49:34 AM | | There is no number of times. Mutually concenting adults may do it if it feels right to them. | |
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| How many is too many?
Posted: 10/9/2009 7:22:08 AM | Since we have all done things that we regret later, I wouldn't set a limit or not.
What would worry me would be a man bragging about how many girls he has been with or about how multitudinary his group sex has been. That would definitely be a red flag. | |
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