| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/7/2005 10:01:16 PM |
You are sexy when you're mad.
If you mean me, then actually.. it should be "You are sexy when you're completely baffled"
Heh.
Thanks.. assuming you meant me. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/8/2005 7:54:13 AM | | I think "Pleasure" is great when it is with somone of the other sex, however I wonder how many pleasure themselvs at the computer, perish the though. The old fashioned one nighter is starting to sound good | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/8/2005 8:02:11 AM |
with all due respect, but do you really believe that a woman who lays down with a man she just met is doing it because she just "wanted to"?........of course she is doing it of her own free will however there are deep rooted reasons for this......as i understand, the majority of women do not do 1 nite stands as we've defined them.....but most of the women who partake in 1 nite stands often do them because they have serious feelings of insecurity and thus her being a source of pleasure for someone else gives them validation and reassurance......it gives them a sense of well being (subconsciously) knowing that she could bring a man to such ecstacy, but as some of the women in these posts have stated, the feelings of worthlessness and guilt set in after the event is over because her feelings of insecurity and doubt re-emerge, so the whole scenario has to be replayed like a vicious cycle in order for her to be uplifted!......some women realize the fallacy behind this behavior and snap out of it while others do not and just keep spiraling....think about it, i'm not making this up!
I think most women have one night stands for the same reasons men have one night stands. I could not imagine my feelings of self worth being changed because of any interaction I would have with a man.
If anything men that have one night stands are more insecure than women, as they seem to think they have something to prove to their male friends. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 9:06:22 AM | | It makes sense to me. Who cares about all that mumbo jumbo, deep needs or validation. Who cares? Maybe the women are horny too! | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 9:21:47 AM | | You know I been looking to meet someone I can restart my life with for a few years sence my divorce but the more I look the more I see that is not going to happend and Im starting to think maybe this hall one night stand thing is the way to go cause even in this dating site the results have been bad so why try anymore why settle for one when you or I can go for the many after all trying to find the one never get's me anywhere . | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 10:54:08 AM | well, I lived a very special relationship in the past, that I think will answer your question.
I met a girl in a bar, we had sex 15 minutes after that. I really like how she was, and we stayed together for 8 months, the nest relationship i never had before....: a mixt of super sex and real love. Something I do not believe a lot of people have experienced....
I think men in general beleive that a sexy woman is for a one night and that a good woman is for a serious relationship. But look around, most ,men are bord with their girlfriend. Because a woman is sexual is not a bad thing, rather is very good. Buts most guys feel affraid of them....
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 10:57:36 AM | | I am not the one night stand type of guy... never have.. never will... I would rather wait for a relationship and have great sex than disrespect myself and the woman on a one night stand….. Remember that she is someone’s sister, mother, daughter, loved one… treat people how you would want to be treated.. you wouldn’t want someone disrespecting your loved ones… besides, it takes a long time to develop a great sexual relationship…. It’s not something you can achieve in one night!! My thoughts anyway | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 10:58:41 AM | | Never had a one-night stand. Never had sex on the first date. My dates all took a while to get to the sex part and all turned into hugely long relationships that ended in marriage. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 11:09:38 AM | | I'm too much of a romantic to do one nighters. I make love to the woman inside the body, not the body itself. There is no way you can know the woman inside in just one night. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 11:12:11 AM | Hey Endo.....I keep trying to tell people in here that it isn't an either/or situation. Some people think long-term equates to love, no sex before marriage, respect for the woman while short-term or casual dating equates to selfishness, meaningless and bad sex, no respect for the woman. I believe this kind of thinking is totally backwards and comes from people who basically hate women in general so they divide the world into Saints and Whores. They are wrong.
women are fantastic, respect them all of the time and if they are into it, enjoy sex with everything you've got. Why deny yourselves anything? Why repress your emotions? Why not enjoy sex.?
I would like to think that I will meet the woman I will marry one of these nights going out on dates. The kind of women that I am attracted to would probably pass me by if I was the kind of guy who stayed at home and masturbated to asian porn while I waited for my "soulmate" to come along and find me. Instead, I get out there in the world, meet women, enhance my social skills and sense of humour, conversational skills and get to work on my bedroom talents as well. Dating is magnificient and I'm enjoying life - this shows in my face and in the way I carry myself...I'm ready for the day I meet that special woman.
Just because others want to make it seem Black and White just to make people afraid to be different...don't buy into it. You can have it both ways! Enjoy | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/9/2005 11:13:46 AM | Dominica I would prefer a relationship with great sex.
But if a one night stand cones along that is okay as long as we wake up together and I get to make her breakfast.
Otherwise no to the one night stand. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/10/2005 9:53:28 AM | I think most women have one night stands for the same reasons men have one night stands. I could not imagine my feelings of self worth being changed because of any interaction I would have with a man.
If anything men that have one night stands are more insecure than women, as they seem to think they have something to prove to their male friends.
I have never been able to understand the connection between self worth and sex.A woman or man for that matter is worth something as far as I'm concerned because of what they are capable of OUTSIDE of their sexual activities.You would think,the way people talk about it that the genitals are the seat of the soul.
It's a throw back to the days of arranged marraiges and dowries.These antiquated attitudes permaete or language.A woman "gives herself to a man" when she has sex.I would think she would just be loaning out (or renting if she's a professional)a piece of bodily equipment. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 4:02:09 PM | For me it has to be relationship - I don't do one night stands, yes i agree if a relationship developed from that then excellent, but i would rather build on friendship, then relationship with sex then.
You need to feel loved and valued in this world. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/10/2005 4:20:54 PM | If I had to choose...well tell you what...I'll tell you a story...
I was sitting at a bar...a beautiful woman comes over to me...and introduces herself... she whipers in my ear... I will go home with you right now, and have wild sex with you...but it will be only for tonite...you will never see me again. Or...I will give you my phone number and you can call me...and maybe we can get to know each other and end up having wild sex all the time anyway...
I took her phone number... answer the question?
(Lost the phone number, never saw her again, lmao...but I made the choice^^)
True story? Perhaps...perhaps not^^ | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 5:38:16 PM | | yeah after the first six months it moves to the bed night stand and then to the kitchen table...the tub...the washing machine...the back seat...the hood...and im still standing | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 7:29:18 PM | Hervie, if I were in that situation I would have taken her home with me that very night for two reasons.
The first reason is because of what happened to you. A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush...so to speak. Anything could happen, life is crazy and can't be predicted. If I had a brain aneurism the next day or got hit by a bus, what good was that piece of paper to me?
The second reason is that her words indicate that she has already considered the possibility of a long term relationship with me. This in itself means, she likes me and I know that will not change after we have sex; or she's crazy, in which case having the sex now is again the preferable choice.
Besides, the woman is playing head games with you - who wants to be in a relationship with that?
I liked Taurus' words above...these antiquated notions about a person losing their value as a human being after having sex is disgusting. Whether it's in this thread or one of the many others on this subject, so many people have the opinion that a woman who has sex outside of wedlock is somehow lesser of a human being and that is wrong on all levels. Even Jesus had love and respect for a whore...surely his followers don't think they are morally superior to their god....right? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 8:46:06 PM | Maybe you're right t,d & h, lol
But the reality is, I really would much rather find a person I get along with in the long run, than a quickie...and when I really like someone, I totally focus on them, and forget every other woman on the planet. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 8:49:40 PM | well I don't wish to belabour my point but Hervie....why can't you have it all? Who says you have to throw her away after you've had sex?
I said earlier, or possibly in one of the many other threads on this topic, I call it a "First night's stand" instead. | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/10/2005 8:53:48 PM | | I know td &h but..the thread topic asks you to choose between...so If I had to choose...that's what I'd pick...other than that..I'm with you on this buddie...Let's call it the one night stand, that never left^^. Has a nice ring to it. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2005 9:08:32 PM | | JJ, If I ever make it to OZ, I hope we can have a whole bunch of one night stands....like a seven night stand maybe? | |
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| One Night stands or a relationship?
Posted: 7/11/2005 9:52:35 AM | | Why does it have to have all these deep hidden meanings? After a while, people have needs and want to fofill them. Some people are above it but most are not, myself included. | |
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