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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:08:22 AM | One line mails are an indication...the person might be low on confidence, shy, uniterested, superficial or just a bit plain.
Personally I am not too keen on too long emails or email pingpong and I prefer to talk on the phone; after all a voice will tell you a lot more than 10 letters... | |
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Scints
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Joined: 6/11/2009
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:14:28 AM | I agree diabolikk. unfortunately I've had a couple of not so good experiences with that though.
They phone, you realise they're not what you want, but you have given them your number. You get bombarded with texts and calls even during the night.
perhaps mobile number 2 is a good idea? | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:22:14 AM | Do you mean that people do actually get replies????
If I did get one line responces I would also use a 3 strike rule. If you cannot chat impersonally by messages, then what chance would you have if you met up! | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:44:47 AM | Scints #29
Sorry to hear that...
Anyway, I know it can be tricky but a voice to voice conversation would tell you what sort of person you are dealing with beyond the bulls that one can write on an email; at least that's my take on things.
Also, a voice is a voice; something you need to like in a person (and something we normally underestimate the actual alluring or off-putting power of), can you envisage being with someone whose voice you don't like? I couldn't...so, yes, swapping numbers might be risky and mobile n2 is definately the way forward but there's no beating a voice to discern possible partner material when on the internet... | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:23:32 AM |
i treat all messages the same ..... i ignore them all.
I like that, it sounds fair, like hating everyone equally so no one has to feel left out. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:28:53 AM | My messages vary with certain people, some i message and they are mainly one/two line replies flying back and forth others and there are epics !!
I just tend to go with the flow, you can tell if someone isn't interested in talking to you..they don't! | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:05:58 AM | You mean when you DO get actually get a reply! 
Otherwise the one line answers tend to get kicked to one side .. as I think someone else on here mentioned .. its like pulling teeth trying to extract a conversation out of some people. | |
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OKRob
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Joined: 6/4/2009
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:08:45 AM | | I like it when people and conversations feed each other so to speak. Single sentences come across as almost brain dead. I had to make sure there was more than one senence in that comment :P | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/13/2009 4:08:38 PM | | I am a verbal person so I would find it difficult to deal with such limited communication especially in a text based forum such as this. It seems to me that some linguistic dexterity and skill is necessary online - but I have noted that it can be offputting to some people. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:26:15 AM | If someone messages me with 'hi, how are you' then I will read their profile, respond to the Q , probably adding something about what I have been doing and try and comment on something from their profile - working on the basis that their first message is only short so that they can find out if they are going to get a response (just trying to give people the benefit of doubt). If there is nothing much to comment on from profile I will still try to think of something to say.
If the reply comes back as another one liner, I respond with the same but try to use even less words than they did. If I am bored then I will happily continue in this manner until I get down to responding to them with one word. Otherwise by the third one liner I message and tell them I don't think we have anything in common and good luck.
Even if the comment is unsavoury, I still respond with 'goodbye'. I like to think that the guy might be thinking he is on a winner because his pathetic sexual plea has got him an agreeable response only to find that he has lucked out.  | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:36:18 AM | As someone else mentioned, the 3 strike rule works wonders and goes hand in hand with the delete and block buttons.
Throw in the towel hunni and move onto someone who appriciates you xx | |
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Joe1uk
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Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 40 | |
| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:43:30 PM | I reply 'okay'
Nothing more to be said.
I think if they want to chat they would. If its just one line its being polite. I perhaps try another day in case its pmt. But other than that I move on lifes too short, far to many more women on here to bother.
Serious for once. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:14:18 AM | I always reply to the first one liner as i think they are just testing the water.
I never send one liners as i think your giving the impression your not that interested.
If i get a second one liner there binned off,cant be arsed with em.
Never had to block anyone yet though,they get the message. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:32:07 AM | I must admit, iv given some one line answers, but they have been to very unimaginative messages.
I think i give one line replies to those who dont seem to have much in common with me.
The usual hey hun hows u, usualy gets a reply back something like 'you calling me hun'.
And messages like 'your georgous, why you on a dating site' gets the reply, 'cause im single'.
Yawn yawn yawn.
So if your interested in messaging me, getting my attention then ask me about some of my interests iv taken the time to list in my profile, ask me about my fave band, place i like to go walking, why im a veggie, what i do with crystals, prefered method of meditation, what kind of art am i interested in or mediums used. Come on guys theres enough info on my profile to give you a few clues to get my interest, thats what profiles are for, use them.
If im going to message someone i look through the profile and mention something there that caught my eye, something they just cant give one word replies to. its easy if you take the time to make it interesting.
As for moving on to phone conversations, i want to make sure the person isnt a nutter first, easy to block and delete a person on line, not so easy if you end up having to get your number changed etc. | |
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Pud78
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Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 44 | |
| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:42:01 AM | A conversation is a two way street and the more effort I put into a mail the more effort I expect to get back, if the effort isn't there then I move on. if someone answers your question with the minimum of effort and doesn't ask anything back i would think they are just being polite and again move on.
Some people may struggle with conversation and communicating and if that is the reason for a one line answer I don't care I am still moving on because they are both very important characteristics that I would want to base a relationship on. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 10:17:09 AM | I agree with Mary Jane. Sometimes it doesn't mean anything bad, they might be busy and actually making an effort to stop you feeling ignored, they may just feel a little awkward until they've had a chance to warm to you, there could be a few genuine reasons for a short reply.
I wouldn't discount someone for it after one message, though I might be more likely to leave trying again until another time and seeing if it is any different. If they're not really interested, they probably wont respond at all another time anyway. If they continue the short messages, I'll try and give them more to reply to, but if that doesn't work then I'll cut my losses. | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 2:18:37 PM | | I had girls like that, I tend to write a long message/SMS (well, relative long) because now that I am contacting someone, I might as well say something. Really hate getting "Yes", "No" replies. Trick is to avoid questions which can be answered with one word. Like instead of "Did you like the movie?", say, "What did you think of the movie?" | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 2:28:09 PM | | One line answers get a few mails , if it keeps on i say i am sorry but i like to chat or how will i get to know about you if you dont tell me about you , i dont often get an answer to this. But to hear a voice is much better ..... | |
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| What do you do with one line answers?
Posted: 7/21/2009 2:29:44 PM | Goodness I'm sooo bored to tears with them it's unreal!
It's making me sick all that "So what have you been doing today" and that's it's so I give a list.
Sick of" Why are you one here - various blah"
Sick of "What are you on here for?" - A fookin handbag what do you think!
Sick of being asked questions where the answer is on my profile.
"So what are your hobbies and interests?" - er read my fookin profile
Therefre all of the above obviously aren't that interested as they haven't read it, I know mine is 29ft long but the hobbies and interests are at the top after all!
I've got so sick of it I'm gonna do one! | |
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sewie
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Joined: 7/15/2009
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