| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:25:55 PM | | Trust your first instincts...usually those are dead on! If you have to ask yourself this question you don't trust him...2ndly why were you on here after you started seeing him? Also, his actions of blocking you and what not are not a good sign. IMO trust your instinct....it's all you have...... | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:27:41 PM | This site can make or break relationships. You are going to drive yourself crazy with all this pof drama. If he is playing hard to get and doing all this stuff, you have to either question it or leave it alone. He could say whatever he wants, you will never be sure. As for you being jealous, you have to be sure if there is someone else in the mix. I think you are just paranoid.
Trust what your 'guts' tell you. If you feel that something is not right, then there is a very good chance that something isn't right. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:43:26 PM | | my feelings are,if u are in a relationship with someone ,then you stop chatting on these sites,its not right..but some people get addicted to it..just like my ex who i met here,and he was right back looking the next day we split up.very odd.he's browsing sorry x | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:45:37 PM | First of all this doesn't surprise me. I am sure there are a lot more on POF that are in relationships and still frequent the site. But does someone logging onto POF regularly makes them worst then someone that logs and frequents other well known social networking sites?
I am amazed how people are upset if an boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife logs onto POF but are ok with them logging onto facebook, my space and other well known social sites. As if they can't cheat on there as well.
Not everyone on POF is looking for love. Some are looking for just sex, some are looking for friends, some are looking for casual relationships and others are looking for serious relationships.
I definitely can't see how one can be suspicious of their significant other roaming a site that they have an account with as well, have their profile page private and yet will admonish the other for doing the same. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:50:46 PM | ismyfriendintheus:
You should relax, it's ok.
Like all of us, he is more likely to be hit by a meteorite than find someone on here. His biggest risk is a total and complete waste of his time and effort.
BTW why are you still on POF?? | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/8/2009 9:04:18 PM | why are YOU on pof? he's obviously looking for someone to have on the side or to replace you. no doubt about that anyone can see this
she's on here to spy on him and to stalk him because she doesn't trust him. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:39:50 AM | | Something about this guy is fishy. You mentioned an ex-girlfriend that's a stalker. From his present behavior I can see why she became that way. Maybe he likes that kind of attention but denies it to you and others just to get away with it. Some men like to create scenarios where they get you to fall in love with them, then they pull back just at the precise time where it will hurt the most so that you will subsequently chase after them. It's an ego booster for this type of man. He needs you in the scenario to make him 'unavailable' so that he's more tempting for other women to chase him. This could turn into a dangerous situation for you. Be careful. If he gets another woman mad enough, she might hurt you to get you out of the way in order to 'get him'. Break up with him and never look back. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:20:26 AM | [/Something about this guy is fishy. You mentioned an ex-girlfriend that's a stalker. From his present behavior I can see why she became that way. Maybe he likes that kind of attention but denies it to you and others just to get away with it. Some men like to create scenarios where they get you to fall in love with them, then they pull back just at the precise time where it will hurt the most so that you will subsequently chase after them. It's an ego booster for this type of man. He needs you in the scenario to make him 'unavailable' so that he's more tempting for other women to chase him. This could turn into a dangerous situation for you. Be careful. If he gets another woman mad enough, she might hurt you to get you out of the way in order to 'get him'. Break up with him and never look back.]
my ex husband did that with the psycho that he is with...............get this
he had a dozen roses sent to me every week for two months***********while he is living with this woman and shagging her in canada.
she frigging stalked me on the computer...................made up aliases................made up schit about me..........................while she is fuchking my husband?????????!!!!!!!!!!!!! now that is crazy as hell!!!!!!!!! an y man that has sex with you, plays on pof and blocks you is
P**********S*********y************C**********h**********O ************and mental! get rid of his sorry ar se | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:34:37 AM | If you have a commitment to be together ,personally I would close my account -I got my fish!If he doesn't or goes under "hiding"....he is still looking for better "fish".
Why to leave the "back door"open?Just my opinion........... | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:27:17 AM | Let's see:
1) If he's getting on a dating site,he's probably not your "boyfriend."
2) YOU are on a dating site complaining about your BF..and you apparently don't see the irony in that.
3) Wouldn't discussing this w/ him provide you w/ better results than seeking validation on here? | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:03:50 AM | Ok! Everyone here has valid points. But you have several things going for you that you need to listen to: 1. your gut instinct - this is your reality check no.1
2. Denial - both his and yours to a point. If he is defensive and denying that he is - well, he probably is.
3. If this isn't the first time - it won't be the last.
It is time to move on: Trust is the most important thing along with repsect in a relationship. You have neither with this fellow and most of all he has little respect for himself thus little if any respect for yourself.
Move on before you lose more than you want to lose and find someone who will be good to you. Don't let yourself be desperate (I am not saying that you are - merely a suggestion) Folks can smell desperation and it will be a turn off to most and a turnon for those like your so called boyfriend who prey on those they percieve to be desperate. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 2:26:21 PM | I got myself into a relationship and we decided to to see each other exclusively.We agreed to close our accounts.I did, he didn't he was smart enough to go under "hiding".this was an answer to me that he was still fishing.I deleted him out of my life. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:56:29 PM | Yes, you are being plaid while you have your life on hold. He is definately looking for someone he likes better.
Dont question it. You think that is what he is doing because he is. If it was simple searching for friends, wouldn't you be involved in the search so he can point out who he misses as this is something that makes up his character?
If you are uncomfortable with something, make drama. Challenge the motives and the secrecy of his searches. If you dont want to do it without some evidence, do a search for a "model" and build a phony or fake profile and message him under an assumed identity. See exactly how tempted he really can become. If he takes the bait, then throw him back. Afterall, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:39:02 PM | Well if he had nothing to hide he would have no need to block you. There is every reason to be suspicous. His suggesting that you are creating drama is his way of taking the heat off him and placing it onto you. If he was really into you he would not being searching for friends on POF and if it was innocent he would be sharing it with you and introducing you to these people as well
I would dump him if you do not get satisfactory answers | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:27:25 PM | strange...I alway thought POF is not a marrage agency, for me it alway was a community also for making friends or just meeting people....After reading this thread I might have to think again...lol  | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:11:56 PM | Looks like you are both getting on POF for whatever reasons....A DATING SITE. In a healthy relationship of almost a year...you don't block someone and you should have changed your profiles to looking for friends if you both have chosen to stay on the site...drama...lol It is called communication...when both parties are being honest and talking and sharing. Spying and tricking is invading ones privacy and trust.
After almost a year...there are clearly trust issues. Friends are healthy to have but there should be a honest line of communication going on between you two regarding them. {Am I sitting around, keeping my life on hold for this man}....I sure hope you wouldn't allow yourself to do that...however, you made the choices that put you where you are today. The freedom of choice is such a great thing!! We can choose to sit around and put up with bs we know is messed up or we can choose to decide that is not acceptable and move on.
Before you reply...but I've invested almost a year into our relatioship and I love him.....The way this guy is behaving....is it the man you thought you knew? Is this behavior aceptable to you?
I beleive it takes a very long time to get to really know someone...how many years did it take to get to know Ted Bundy? Ok maybe that is an exaggeration...  | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:21:32 PM | OP I read to hear than read no more... I mean seriously lol "He discovered that I knew he was getting on, and blocked me! Through another friend I know that he is still on here sometimes several times daily. He swears up and down that he is only talking to people on a friendship basis'
Just the fact that he blocked you? Would be enough for me to walk.... and keep on walking.
Get back to fishing hun.. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:31:34 PM | Seems to me he is up to something. Cause if only thing he was doing was talking to friends and maybe go on forumns then he wouldn't of blocked you and would let you see his history.
I think in this case you have the right to be somewhat untrusting of him. | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:38:03 PM | | Why do we need to ask others for the answer we already have in our grasp. Anyone on a dating site definitely is not solely into one specific person. They are exploring their options. Too many red flags... | |
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| Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back??
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:47:55 PM | Zeekstone......P.I.M.A.
{And I noticed in your profile, you're still listed as 'single' and looking for 'dating'... Hmmm....} Double hmmmm and.....I'm just wondering....how hard is it for one to change their status anyway? Maybe it takes over a year to kick in?
{it would have been wiser for him to accuse you of the same thing right back. Geez... he's a total amateur at this game-playing thing.} {Well at least he understands the usefulness of denial even in the face of irrefutable evidence. Now all he has to do is perfect his skills at making you think you're crazy for observing reality.} Grrrr I hate that when that happens. Can you please expain to me why the hell you guys do that shyt....it's so stupid and I can see right through it now...however it took some experience?
{saying one thing and doing another is the basis of EVERY solid long-term relationship. The Catholic Church does this too... and look at how long they've been around. } Ut oh...what happened to make you anti Catholic? I hope a priest didn't touch you inappropriately....LOL And what does her being catholic have to do with her relationship? Is it because god loving people are supposed to be honest and live by all the rules of the bible? Really don't answer that I get you.....but you can explain saying "one thing and doing another is the basis of every solid long-term relationship". How sad and I really hope that isn't true in "every" case .
{But in case you think your relationship is done like dinner and you break up with him, I suggest you come to Toronto. And while we date, I promise that I will stay on POF and continue to try and meet people. And if I break this promise, I give you permission to break up with me.} Hahaahaahahaha If you promise me the same thing and I will be forever yours!!! Every womans dream man!!! Joking Are we so sure he's playing the looking for better game? And that was not a very nice thing to say to her.
Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back?? Interesting title don't you think? she has proven she knows he is still on...I mean he blocked her at one point. so how can he continue to do it behind her back...oh right...she tricked him so he doesn't know she knows you know what I mean? | |
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