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| Husband doesnt want her to drive
Posted: 7/9/2009 4:12:47 AM | | Had a friend go thru this a few years ago. Husband lost his car and took hers. destroyed her credit and everything he could to control her ans her son. All it took was just to have one friend stand up and help her and get her on her own and build her self confidance. Juggled scheduals and shared my car for the last two years and she finally got things turned around for her and her son. Takes time but sometimes it is worth it if it is a friend that just needs a little help to build herself up , take charge of her life and become self sufficiant without a controlling and dominating male behind her deciding what is in his best interests and not that of his wife and family. | |
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| Husband doesnt want her to drive
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:11:52 AM | You're right. It is a control issue. Most probably, the husband, feels too insecure to let, the wife, go out and about. I know you're writing because you care, but how much do you care?
Help her out and surprise her with a low-price car as a gift! A lot of women need help in situations like this and although many people notice there is an abusive problem going on, they never take the initiative to help. In relationships like this, the man usually wears down the woman's self-esteem to the point where she feels she needs his 'permission' to do the smallest thing. That's why she's always 'asking' him for another car. She's like a horse that's been broken. Even though they are tethered loosely to the rail, and have the ability to run off, they don't. There might be a lot more going on within that household that is being kept secret from others. Men like this take command of the housework and demand very specific chores be done very specific ways. I know first hand because I was stuck in a marriage like that for 16 years longer than I wanted to be because not one of my 'friends' every offered me a way out. I had to learn to sneak and essentially 'escape'. I was lucky.
If you don't feel comfortable helping out personally, contact an 'abuse helpline agency' and tell them the story. They will mail her a letter or call her up during the day when her husband isn't home and try to help her regain her self-esteem. | |
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| Husband doesnt want her to drive
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:26:34 AM | [You're right. It is a control issue. Most probably, the husband, feels too insecure to let, the wife, go out and about. I know you're writing because you care, but how much do you care?
Help her out and surprise her with a low-price car as a gift! A lot of women need help in situations like this and although many people notice there is an abusive problem going on, they never take the initiative to help. In relationships like this, the man usually wears down the woman's self-esteem to the point where she feels she needs his 'permission' to do the smallest thing. That's why she's always 'asking' him for another car. She's like a horse that's been broken. Even though they are tethered loosely to the rail, and have the ability to run off, they don't. There might be a lot more going on within that household that is being kept secret from others. Men like this take command of the housework and demand very specific chores be done very specific ways. I know first hand because I was stuck in a marriage like that for 16 years longer than I wanted to be because not one of my 'friends' every offered me a way out. I had to learn to sneak and essentially 'escape'. I was lucky.
If you don't feel comfortable helping out personally, contact an 'abuse helpline agency' and tell them the story. They will mail her a letter or call her up during the day when her husband isn't home and try to help her regain her self-esteem. ]
Can not disagree with this . All one can do is try and do what is right . I guess i am just a freak or add ball of society. I had the wame two parents for 50 years and my brother and sisters share the same parents. Was always taught to do what is right and look at the long and big picture first without being selfish.. Share what I got and if lucky I will be rich in the end.
And as my father and mother always told me that riches are many times judges be the number and quality of friends first before money.
tried to help many before and sometimes if works and others it don`t. But will keep on trying. | |
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