| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:00:04 AM | Maybe he didn't have the minutes?
Either way her is the problem ladies. Yeah you ladies love to talk on the phone it is like a gift or something. Us men not so much. Yeah I don't mind a short sweet conversation.
If you want to talk to him arrange a date, don't just call for the sake of conversation. Do that in person.
Sorry, but I've got more constructive things to do than spend hours on the phone. Do you think these zombies up and kill themselves in this game? Of course not it is my duty to put them out of their misery. Unless you want to meet got to take care of them. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:15:28 AM | Well, the first impression I get is that the guy was hoping for a booty call. However, if you are interested, give him a call and ask him out. I don't think a single phone call is "chasing" a guy.
If you don't get a call back then you know he was hoping for a booty call and not a relationship. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:16:42 AM | | Maybe he wanted a booty call, then again it's possible he wasn't as into you as you thought he was. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 5:30:32 PM | I'm the chasee not the chaser. I boil the guys down to:
No calls = He's not interested. Delete his number.
Texting without phone calls = Interested in keeping you on the line. You're a play thing. Delete his number
Texting and phone calls = This guy clearly wants something. Save his number and see where it goes.
I say and say again that people make time for things that are important to them. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 5:34:24 PM | If he showed interest until you wouldn't go home with him, he's moved on.
You're better off knowing his agenda fairly up front. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 10:18:07 PM | Wow i'm shocked that he did not call you anymore
you are HOT, and seem great, I guess the guy was shallow or just felt he was not worth it to you or something
but then again you already know your HOT, but I had to say it. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 10:30:05 PM | Sometimes, "I can't hang out, I'm spending the night at a friends." after a night of dancing is code for, "I'm having sex with someone else right now, can't come over.".
Then again - maybe he's mad you didn't put out.
Then again - maybe he prefers texting to talking on the phone.
Could be a lot of things. I wouldn't read too much into it. Just mentally note that he might only want you for sex, but then again - maybe not? Maybe he's a LTR guy, but he thought you were hoing it up that night with some other dude... which is making him more cautious... | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:06:26 PM | Fortunately there aren't any laws stating that:
Men must date women with children.
Men must continue to date.
Men must give reasons for their actions.
Thankfully.. lol | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:32:04 PM | | obviously he just wanted to get laid. you rejected his offer to come over so he lost interest and most likely moved on. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:40:28 PM | " I met this guy on this site...we hit off, talked everyday and night. We then met up for coffee for the first time, seemed like things were great. We shared a good night kiss and then I coincidently ended up at the same club as him saturday night...random I know. We spent the whole night hanging out and dancing. Then after he asked me to come over but i told him i couldn't i was staying at my friends house for the night. Since that time no phone calls, texted me all day yesterday but didn't call once. I just dont get it honestly...
I just don't know if hes playing hard to get, maybe he wants me to chase after him? I thought that was a woman's place.
A male perspective would be much appreciated here. "
I can't speak specifically , but from my own experiences, I am turned off instantly by smothering. There was one woman I started to call, just to get to know her a little, then she starts calling me all the time, like we are an item, when we were still basically strangers. Gave me the heebie jeebies. Incidently I was in BC, very pretty area.
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:47:06 PM | lol; i have to be honest; it shocks me that you dont know why he's not calling.
He wanted to screw you; end of story; and whats more shocking is that you would have let him!
When you made that excuse that you couldn't come over he thought you were really blowing him off and wouldn't have sex right off. I'm shocked you dont get this.
If you would have had sex or wouldn't have had sex, the results would have been the same.
And how do you know you hit it off? maybe he just wanted you for sex like he does to other girls? He would have played you and to be honest you seem very naive.
Again, if you meed up with a young clubber, dont expect you to be his only dance partner. He wanted casual sex and when he thought he couldn't get it he moved on. This one is easy to see. good luck. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:47:23 PM | "why does a guy stop calling?"
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For the same reason a woman stops calling, answering messages, emails or whatever.
- Loss of interest.
- He/she met someone else who gave him/her more than you did. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/12/2009 2:38:29 PM | As the movie says "He is just not that into you"!
I don't think there is any law that says a woman is the one to be chased after. Relax! Chase as much as you want as long as the guy gets it! | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/12/2009 3:24:38 PM | I wouldn't go as far to say it had to be because he was let down for you coming over... it depends on your explanation to him as to why.
If you came across like you would really like to, BUT you promised your GIRL friend you'd stay the night due to certain conditions, then he may have been a little frustrated that night, but he'd know it was just bad timing and would live to fight another down.
If you said "friend", where that could mean guy or girl, then he could have thought that you were hooking up with some other guy, and he'd have good reason to back off.
If you sounded like you were "not that kind of girl", or it sounded like a BS excuse instead, yeah, if he didn't contact you, then it'd mean he was probably was just wanting you for sex, or sex-very-soon was a requirement and you failed his test.
With that said though, he texted you "all day", but didn't call. So? Is that REALLY hard to get? Pretend a guy you DON'T like is texting you all day -- would you consider that pestering hard to get? lol Maybe it's considered hard-to-get by a stalker's handbook, but otherwise, no, I don't think that's hard to get.
I think you're too worried about it. He should back off if you left it gender-open when you were referring to the "friend"'s house you were staying at. Especially since, by default, if you were planning on crashing at a gal-pal's place, there's nothing stopping you from crashing at his if you wanted to. BUT, regardless, if he does like you, and doesn't think you were BSing him, he'll want to see you again... especially if he thinks it was a legit reason! | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:49:58 PM | I wonder if this is why Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone in the first place, to make it easier on some of the male species to reject us...lmao This is my biggest frustration, especially after that "awesome date/dates". Some of them will even brag they are the straightforward type, not into the head games, will just tell you they are not interested, blah blah blah but still do the same thing! All us women can do is just pick up our pride, say to ourselves "he's just not that into you" and go on to the next hoping for the best 
Keep your chin up girl, you deserve better and believe it or not there are some awesome ones out there (I have to remind myself of this daily...lol) | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/14/2009 6:50:49 PM | Who cares I mean really ? You're a beautiful woman if this guy wants to take his chances playing games with you he is not worth your time.
I don't let people manipulate me by acting stand offish when they don't get their way.
Someone that is a mature adult will respect your wishes and try to act accordingly if they truly want to see you again. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:40:18 PM | | they see that your not that tipe of girl ,so they move on to a easy one . you did the wright thing. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:40:16 PM |
Sometimes, "I can't hang out, I'm spending the night at a friends." after a night of dancing is code for, "I'm having sex with someone else right now, can't come over.".
BINGO. OP's excuse sounded lame-o, like she just made it up on the spot.
Really....you spent two dates with this guy and NEVER told him you were spending the night with a "friend"? It's like giving him your cousin's phone number to ditch him.
Guys can take a hint. "My friend's house" means "I'm unreachable, so don't even try it." But no...he tried with a few text messages. I guess you were still sleeping with your "friend", so he let it drop.
Why are women surprised when a guy leaves after they tell him to get lost? You could have offered to call him when you got to your "friends" house to arrange another date. Instead, you just cut him off at the knees. Guys hate a tease, and that's just what you were. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:15:09 AM | I believe he lost his phone after the club meeting. Your polite refusal to partake in the surprise dinner he made at his place must have shattered his hopes of a relationship with you.
In his distraught state he accidentally dropped his phone in the lobster tank at Sobey's and couldn't get it back because the elastic bands broke off a particularly large female lobster and her aggression deterred him from retrieving the phone. The store manager quickly escorted him off the premises for disturbing store product. Since you're phone exchanges were fairly recent, he didn't memorize your number. (no excuse for that)
I'm just trying to help here, I think he may still be out there with a wet,torn and clawed sleeve and a dwindling hope to finish his special oregano sauce for the dinner he hopes to share with you. Please think of the lobsters, calling for evac, trapped in a tank. | |
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| why does a guy stop calling?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:18:05 AM | | Maybe girls have too much pride built up to just call the guy. Or they say they will call and the guy will simply wait for the call that will never happen. | |
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