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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:11:53 PM | You could say that he was a good guy for telling you -- if he was upfront about it and didn't have to be confronted before he'd tell you the truth.
Good to know now! Glad you're moving on, and by the looks of your pics and profile, you're not going to have any trouble finding anyone. Maybe a single father this time? | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:04:06 PM | Trust me on one thing....He does not love you!!!...He is a liar....No man would say that they love you but they do not want to see you exclusively!!!.....He IS A PLAYER....
We women are strong...and I hope you will stay strong..and I hope you have a good network of friends around you.....because they will help you to stay strong...
Good Luck Hun..... | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:25:25 PM | | after reading your profile I would have to say that guy is a idiot, why would he want to see anybody else, so hes a liar, cheater and stupid to boot. dont waste your time or your energy with a looser like that. honesty, faithfullness, and long suffering is a major part of love, strike 3 hes out | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:56:48 PM | | i see that im not alone, i had someone a started to "hang out with" about 9 months ago. She appeared in my life when i wasnt looking and had so much fun with her. Than out of the blue i started to have deep feelings for her. I knoew she had been interested in me also, hell everyone thought we were a couple including me. Than i asked her about us and she just started telling me we had only been friends and thats all we would ever be, but at the same time be lovey dovey with me. Wanna talk about a head trip. I honostly love the woman and she the type of person that doesnt want to be tied down to one person and i guess gets a thrill off other peoples pain. Maybe she shouild hook up with your guy.....Heartless doesnt begin to cover it. | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:19:59 PM | All you have to do is tell the guy strait up. If he cant take it then hes just a little **** and your better off without him. Ive come to realize that people today go with whoever whenever and there is nothing sacred to any relationship.
Whats with guys being such ****es when it comes to what women do to them?? | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/15/2009 12:55:25 AM | 1.) you have teenagers at home? you look barely out of this age range yourself... wow... what vitamins are you taking? good for you!
2.) THE GUY is THE GUY because he is misrepresenting himself... perhaps he is in a phase of getting a lot of validation from different women. Maybe he really isnt THE GUY, but plays one on TV
3.) Keeping options open = something better that will come along... yes, I agree, this is arrogant and cruel.
4.) Why dont you keep YOUR options open?... who needs BS like this?
5.) From the devil's advocate: perhaps the honesty, although insensitive and harsh, is actually a blessing in disguise and better than just being lead on.
6.) then again, his dishonesty (meeting other women) is how this conversation began. I dont know what the nature of your relationship is, but if you have got to the "i love you" stages, I think it is entirely your business him spending time with other women.
7.) Maybe start thinking of moving on or taking a strong stand and saying "hey buddy... what's it going to be? your loss!" | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:19:05 AM | | theres no way that guy loves you,ive just met a fantastic girl,i saw her once and instantly fell for her,point bein i would travel to the ends of the earth just to see her smile and i wouldnt want to see any other girl for sex [thats what he means] and what she has is irrelevant because shes her! | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:04:43 AM | I'll bet you'll still bang him too while he looks for greener pastures... because YOU'RE in love and you want to keep him happy. I'll bet you'll ovoid ruffling his feathers in every instance... you'll cook, clean... blow... do everything for fear of giving him another excuse to bolt. He'll think he's died and gone to heaven!!! He's actually upgraded to a nice FWB relationship. Will you let him???
What you should do is leave. Love is for better or worse. The fact that he wants to keep you around to attach to the end of his pecker... while looking for your replacement is INSULTING.
Tell him thanks but no thanks. Work on your finances before dating another. | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:50:58 PM | Well it sounds like he wants both sticky fingers in both cookie jars at the same time. You know what comes next so drop him before he drops you. To wait a year for someone you love is nothing and if he can't do that for you now ho won't bo much better later.
You're much too beautiful to be degraded by some greedy bastard. | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:08:27 PM |
Thanks everyone for the compliments and replies and thoughtful words.
I DID let him go!!!
And I'm much better for it.
You truly are "much better" for having let him go. Be prepared to remind yourself of that in the days and weeks to come.
I'm glad you shared here (for your benefit and mine) as your situation is similar to one I recently experienced. Keep strong. :) | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/19/2009 2:51:04 AM | Why would you want to be exclusive with someone like him?
I'm thinking that because you're having financial/family problems right now your self-esteem isn't what it should be and you're not seeing this man for what he is...
Conditional love (which is about all he seems to be offering you) always leaves someone running around trying to be "good enough" for their partner and feeling bad about themselves when they don't come up to scratch - which of course they never can, because the goalposts keep moving. Would you really want to live like that?
I'm sorry for your pain and wish you luck. | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/19/2009 8:28:35 AM |
Wow..thats love.
I remember in story books they spoke about "Going to the ends of the earth!" and "Waiting until the end of time!"
I can't get a guy to drive a few counties away to meet me, and till the end of time apparently means till he gets bored and his eyes meet some other chicks arse.
Whats wrong with dating in YOUR city.
geez have you seen the gas prices? | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/19/2009 2:50:22 PM | red flag run!!!!!!!! and run my way your hott,..
alot of guys and woman try to and/or make every attempt to make adjustments to make something that isn't meant to be work out,..
but sounds like he doesn't know what he wants so stop waiting on him,. your one might pass by an you'll be too distracted to notice him. | |
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| How do you tell someone you love them but want to keep your options open?
Posted: 7/19/2009 8:54:17 PM | | I think he isn't worth the headache! If he really loved you, he wouldn't be out meeting other women! Another if he really loved you, he wouldn't be giving up because of financial issues and he'd deal with the issues of children, because he knew it was a package deal when he got involved! He's a player and wants his cake and ice cream and all the extras he can get also! He probably knows you are a good person and more than likely likes the sex, this is why he wants to keep in contact. I'd say you're better off letting him go and move on! You deserve someone more caring and loyal! | |
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