| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:20:44 PM | | If you go to church regularly you should hear the part of not fornicating and not having illigitamate kids. Nice try but you won't pull the wool over anyones eyes. Guys may respect you if you are honest and say the truth about your promiscuity. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:48:53 PM | | It's interesting that the last couple generations have to ask what a good girl is rather than having it instilled in them by their mothers and fathers. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 9:55:38 PM | A "good girl" is one who asks nicely... if she has the lip out and the puppy dog eyes... hey, all the better.
Why so serious? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 10:29:16 PM | Msg1 : For me you are a good woman, I don't understand why some men put in their profile that they are seeking Good Girl, perhaps what they mean is a nun, but I am not sure,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
I think I am a good girl too, but if the guys don't believe me, and I can't prove it hmm, that 's the break.
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:01:58 PM | a good girl doesnt eat junkfood?
does that mean a good girl never gets to eat a porkrine? if so i make a whole hearted choice to never be a good girl!!!!
because man who could live with out nacho cheese porkrines.... did you know a porkrine actually has less fat then a dorito?
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:03:12 PM | | if you were married many times, then why did you have children out of wedlock? why didn't you have them with your husbands? i'm just curious. isn't it easier to have children when you are married? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:07:25 PM |
-Does not eat junk food.
Wow! Really?? Aww, thats not good. I guess I'm a bad bad girl, 'cos I love my junk food!! Chocolate cake, gummi worms, french fries and ice cream!!!
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:07:50 PM | | hmmmm... my understanding of the process of having a child its the same if you are married or not lol | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 11:13:45 PM | hmmmm... my understanding of the process of having a child its the same if you are married or not lol
what i meant is, i would think it's easier to raise a child if there are two parents in the home. i've heard being a single parent is difficult at best. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 3:11:44 AM | Ok where are the good boys? Those guys saving themselves for marriage. Those guys not proving how virile they are with those so called bad girls. The ones us good girls can bring home to... well I guess some people still have parents. LOL Oh wait, they might not exist. Don't get me wrong people, I think there is good and bad in all of us. Some just cherish each side more than the other, but evil is necessary, therefore evil is good. Without bad, well there cannot be good, so it is with checks and balances. LoL   | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 8:13:56 AM | | Men who say this are probably the same men who have that old double standard that they can do what they please but you cant. You better be a virgin and still know how to please them. Of course there are not only women but men who are not exactly living a decent and moral life, but everyone has had there own little indiscretions, it doesnt make them bad people. This is the 21st century, is it not? Shouldnt we leave those victorian attitudes behind? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 8:16:48 AM |
Man......." A good girl is one that does as she's told, gives me sex when I want it, doesn't question my silence etc etc...
It's not my view. And I doubt it's the true view of many men. It's more your view/fabrication than anything else.
Like a woman who does not appreciate a gift or a compliment she was given because she asked for or demanded, a man does not appreciate/want sex he has to ask for, or demand - certainly not for long. On the other hand if the man surprised the woman by spontaneously giving her a gift or a compliment, she is impressed, and feels loved - and rightly so because spontaneity indicates an internal desire/will we associate with love. Likewise, if a woman spontaneously comes on to a man she loves/likes/is attracted to, he feels loved and impressed for the very same reason.
I must mention, explicitly, that spontaneity and love have a properly in common which is why the presence of one implies the other.
I see "good girl", "good woman", "good hearted woman", "honest woman", "trustworthy woman", and I know it's not someone I'm going to be interested in.
Hope you find her I'm sure she is out there I'm sure women like her exist, sounds alien to me but hey what do I know, I'm a bad, bad girl..
No hope required. I've met such women on several occasions. Rare they are, but they are out there.
x-file, your perfect girl sounds like the inflatable type. Why didn't you just write, "A girl with no opinions who never opens her mouth unless it is to make me feel better about myself."?
Flattery, praise, honor, approval etc., don't make me feel better, regardless from who it's coming. Nor do intentional insults make feel bad. Those things reveal things about you. With that in mind:
I'd rather have the inflatable type than you - if those were the only choices.
Oh, and who genuinely likes sex.
Obviously, not you. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:19:19 AM | | Being adventurous and brave like you have been doesn't mean you're a 'bad girl'. However, any man that is making it clear he wants 'a good girl' probably means he wants a virgin or the type of woman that is timid so he can take the dominant role. Unfortunately, a woman like you who has mastered a lot of difficult situations in life wouldn't be happy with a man that wants to dominate over you. You need a more open minded man that can love you for the brave person that you are. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:31:12 AM | Serious answer...
"Good girl", like just about everything else asked around here, is a subjective term.
To ME, a good girl doesn't smoke, doesn't drink in excess, doesn't do drugs (yes MJ is a drug), works a steady job and/or goes to school, isn't promiscuous, has some idea on what she wants and where she's going in life. Has nothing to do with her virginity -or lack thereof-, has nothing to do with being submissive in the bedroom. Then again, this is MY definition.
I prefer "good girls" that know when to embrace their dark side and aren't ashamed of their sexuality. Kitten by day, tigress by night... or whenever the mood strikes. ;) | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:33:01 AM |
Can someone tell me exactly what it means when guys put on their profile that they are looking for a good girl? What do you consider a good girl? I have been married several times, and have kids out of wedlock. I like to be intimate, adventerous and risky with my life.Would you consider me a bad girl? I attend church regularly, I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do any drugs, I take care of my c hildren, my family is important to me, I've never been in jail, I don't have tattoos or weird piercings anywhere, but because I have kids and have been married so many times would one write me off as not being a good girl? Just wanting opinions.
OP -- To me, no I wouldn't view you as a "good girl" at all. Married several times...kids outta wedlock..."adventurous" and risky with your life...yea, that doesn't scream "good" to me at all.
The fact you don't sport a raft of piercings and tattoos is a plus to me for sure, but it doesn't end there. That woulda been fine, but the rest would scream DANGER WIL ROBINSON to me loud and clear.
But like with anything else, it's all subjective. Depends on who you ask. We all like different things, and we all see things differently. What I see as "bad" others would see as "good" (or at least acceptable) and so on. There's so many ways to break down the equation to us all that it defies logic. Again, 'cause we all see it a different way. You may indeed be one of the most normal people around, but how you've lived your life says a lot about who you are, and some people (like me) would find that very offputting to say the least. Your past speaks volumes about your potential.
In a more antiseptic fashion, I would see a "good girl" as someone that:
- doesn't lie
- doesn't cheat
- doesn't steal
- respects herself and others (but especially herself)
- understands (and can easily accept) responsibility
- doesn't equate risky behavior with "good times" (this could mean so many things)
- doesn't look like she's been in jail all her life (see: multiple tatts)
- has conviction in her actions and words
- has morals and ethics
- above all else truly understands that good choices come with rewards and bad ones come with consequences | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:34:27 AM | A good girl is someone who didn't sleep with most of my friends... at least not while we were dating...  | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 11:19:31 AM | It's about "good girls" because that's what the OP started the thread about. If you want a bad boy thread then by all means go start one.
"Why would we assume that women can be bad?"
....why would we assume they couldn't? Maybe I don't understand what you're trying to say.
"I believe that is dangerous to not only the woman who believes she may be "bad" but also to the men who think women can be bad, but for some reason men are exempt from being bad?"
No one thinks men can't be bad, everyone knows that women can be bad as well.
"call me confused."
You're very confused. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:35:06 AM | | As far as I know, it's only in the game of Limbo where squeaking past the low bar means you're good. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:48:02 AM | | I think it just basically means someone with good morals... | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 12:03:12 PM | Looking for a "good girl" is merely a buzzword for someone who lacks imagination and doesn't know what the hell they are looking for in the first place
(about the same is someone who puts "no losers or players" in their profile) | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 12:08:57 PM | | I used to pat my dog on the head when she used to obey all my verbal commands then I used to give her a dog treat and pat her on the head and say"you are such a good girl..." | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:27:58 PM | Good for you commonsens! Good response!  | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:54:59 PM | "Good girl" is in the eye of the beholder...similar to beauty.
Being "risky" with your life? And you have kids? HUH? That doesn't make any sense at all! You have a responsibility and a duty to see those kids grown up, then you can go act the fool with your life all you want. Until then...well...you are just a plain danger to them.
How does losing a parent feel to a child? Think about it. As an adult you can handle it far better. A child? It can hurt them in ways you can't imagine.
Otherwise, from what you've let out about yourself, you seem ok.
you perhaps have chosed the wrong partners...often women described like yourself do. They live life vicariously through their partners...often the "bad boys". Then they wonder "What happened?" when the bad boy runs away or leaves. Guess the woman got what she wanted...a "boy". Certainly not a good man.
(Not always the case...but often enough.)
Perhaps there are certain times to "be bad"...such as in bed or wherever. And times to "be good", and project a socially acceptable profile. Defining those lines and living within them is what separates the "bad" from the "good" in my books anyways. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:00:39 PM |
Would you consider me a bad girl? I attend church regularly, I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do any drugs,
The ``attend church regularly'' would probably be a dealbreaker for me. | |
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