| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:03:40 PM | | Just because you have been married more than once and have children out of wedlock does not make you a bad girl. The opinion that matterrs that most here is yours. There are always going to be people that condemn you for your lifestyle. Good or bad, only you know the truth. Besides, a little bad can be good. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:18:58 PM | Its subjective but there are little things that to me make someone a good girl as opposed to not being a good girl . most use the term ratherly chidishly to brag about sexual prowess.
1. If a girl offers to pay sometimes isnt a give me this give me that .
2. someone who calls you when you are not feeling well
3. somebody who you can bring to family functions or to a friends house and is presentable , well spoken and conducts themselves in a socially friendly manner
4. somebody who handles themselves with grace /
5.somebody who doesnt put somebody down who is a nice person-
situation- a rather unattractive guy approaches 2 women.
girl number 1 is nasty and wonders all night why losers are approaching her and says why me why me.
girl number 2 talks for a little while is friendly cordial and eventually says nice meeting you and goes on her way{according to plenty of fish guys this girl is not nice for not giving a guy a chance by going out with him} . this girl is a nice girl to not make a guy feel rejected.
6. a nice girl can drink and can go out and have fun but its not her main priority and it isnt too big of a deal to her
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:27:52 PM | Thanks BDJ for actually posting something that made sense :)
There are some posts on here that make me wonder where these perfect specimens of women are. Pft.
I wonder whether the men who posted that drivel have ever watched their SO's go through childbirth and pregnancy?
Men seem to let their women get all angry and hormonal when it comes to being pregnant, but when it comes to the similar monthly issue, for some reason it's looked upon as BAD.
Interesting. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:35:43 PM | Reckless optimist, your unique (and eunuque) fantasy vision of things is the proud brain child of a jerry springer show; but hey! it works! you have obtain here all the attention you where seeking! Bravo! ( and you have successfully banned yourself of 99.9% of the women population)
Bad girl does everything you told? I think not! Why will you want a slave as a partner anyway? You're not man enough to be equal to a real woman? (No need to answer we already know...it is the result of several well known psychological issues you clearly display).
Beside, most bad girl I know are more then capable to unscrew your head and can gladly force you to eat your own testicles with mustard before tossing your arse to a couple of big guys in studded leather. Still want a bad girl? Sill want to try to dominate another person? Talk is cheap boy. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:37:52 PM | | I think the term "good girl" is highly relative. to me, a good girl is one who has a sense of timing that is akin to my own. that is to say, when I feel like it, whatever "IT" is, she does, too. whether it is talking, being quiet, funny, serious or whatever. she is altogether appropriate and she thinks that I am appropriate. she is not afraid to be herself and her judgement is on target all the time. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 7:19:03 PM | you're looking at her :)  Seriously, I am a good girl...
nice definition
Personality & habbits
- Humble, simple, down to earth personality which generally means:
-- Calm, relaxed, and easy to get along with - no impulsive happy or unhappy outbursts, no rushed decisions, no rushed judgments, no "OMG!" or "Whatever." remarks, no drama, no "I'm a princess attitude", no entitlement attitude.
-- Her voice is soft and gentle like a feather - she never yells or screams
-- She is kind, honest, and non-vengeful, especially when she is mad - the type of girl you can hardly ever get pissed-off at, and if you do, it doesn't last more than 2 minutes.
-- She is open and easy to talk to, and does not hold grudges, and genuinely forgives when she does.
-- She prefers to be kind over being right - no insults.
-- She does not feel the need to impress, show-off, or make herself feel better at the expense of another.
-- She is modestly proud, confident, trustworthy, and a woman of her word - she does not feel the need to manipulate, lie, or have a hidden agenda
-- Enjoys the simple life. Can go camping and is not afraid to get mud on her face.
-Naturally and genuinely loves sex - does not see sex as "giving it up", "putting out", as a favor to a man, as a "reward" or a way to get what she wants, or even as a way to "apologize", but rather something she wants and enjoys doing with a partner, not to "please him", or "to keep the peace", or "out of respect", but simply because sex is pleasurable for her.
-Does not smoke.
-Does not drink, except on special occasions.
-Does not eat junk food.
-Does not do drugs. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 7:22:44 PM | | be yourself and do not pay attention to what others may think of you...you are the only one who has to live with you, so if you can morally love yourself....then screw the rest of the world.... noone can judge you...everyone has thier own evils | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 10:22:47 PM | | I think the misconception is that there are some people out there that think that a good person acts and behaves is a particular way. But I truly believe that all humans are capable of being bad. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Sooo for someone to be looking for a good girl, you actually have to find out from that person what they mean and what their guidelines are. We all have different perceptions as how bad is bad and how good is good..The one thing I can assure you is that no one is 100 percent good and vice versa. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:04:35 PM | To me married several times and children out of wedlock doesn't make you bad. But I would n't consider you a good girl.
I think you've made some poor choices along the way. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:12:38 PM | Man, I see a mine field of red flags here. If your a good girl, I must be an angel .
x files described me to a T. Divorced many times with alot of kids out of wedlock would suggest promiscuity. I mean these clinics offer us free birth control.
Good girls don't like to do risky behavior either. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:36:53 PM | I'm a bad girl gone good  | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:53:05 PM | Simple Darling! A LADY IN THE STREETS & A FREAK UNDER THE SHEETS!!!!!
That is what GOOD GIRLS are made of...... | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 12:15:17 AM | Seems to me, you would have to ask the person who is making the request to clarify their ideas of a good girl.
Judging by the responses here, it makes sense, no? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:32:44 AM | On a man's profile "good girl" equals:
I'm too lazy to list the qualities I'm looking for.
or
I have no damn idea what I'm looking for.
JMO | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:45:49 AM | Every 18-24yo female profile seems to have a very intimate knowledge of what a good and bad girl are.
They mostly say, "I'm a good girl...not! Haha, hit me up for sum fun timez if you've got tatts and a nice car."
Then they get to 25 and from there just forget, walk around going WTF is a good girl?
Maybe the fellers that are looking for a good girl are looking for an exceptional and very rare girl with underlying looks like a teen model in the 18-24yo range. You know, the kind you'd never find on a dating site unless she was wearing a cardigan and talking about Church based community hobbies and cats. Or that girl who was that only a few years older and still very close to being a virgin.
Now it is a definite truth girls like that a HOT! But rarely ever seen. It's like a Catholic nun fantasy. They don't have sex 
Yes there are good girls. No most of you aren't them. Here's the tell, if you have to ask, or make the slightest argument about it, the answer is no. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:56:01 AM | It seems that I'm actually a good girl. I've never referred to myself as such, but others have called me that on a pretty much constant basis. I always saw it as something negative. To me, it was a euphemism for square, uptight, and BORING. I've been called a good girl by many a guy, and not once did these guys ever express more than a platonic interest.
Fortunately, I haven't been called a good girl lately. It probably has to do with the fact that at 40, I really can't pass for any kind of girl. Also, living in sin with a guy I met on the internet has done a lot to destroy my good girl vibe.
As pertains to the OP- this is just my interpretation, mind, but being a good girl implies a certain lack of experience. Being married more than once and having children out of wedlock automatically disqualifies you. So, the OP may be a great woman, but not a good girl. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 11:23:44 AM | Speaking for myself, when I say good girl, I generally mean a girl/young woman with good morals. Who doesn't do drugs, drink to excess and sleep with every friend I have. It's not that the woman are bad, it's my choice on what type of woman I choose to associate with. It's not cut and dry and I give everyone a chance. By the way, isn't it a cliche that women are attracted to "bad boys" while "nice guys finish last"? I just think its a two way street. Nobody should ever be labeled off the bat, that's simply prejudice.
Oh and please note that in my profile I don't have "looking for a good girl" anywhere in there. I prefer to list a description of the qualities I'm looking for. Not everyone's right for everyone else...hence POF! | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:09:34 PM | Well Op , why do you care what any man on here thinks of you.Do you really need the validation of a dating site and the opinions of strangers about who you are.You have kids and are a good Mum,.You have had a few failed relationships and you are the common denominator there,this affects you and your kids.So I would look at yourself there, as to why you cant sustain relationships.It would help you make better choices.JMO.
What kind of men are you choosing, do you include the risky, behaviour as part of married life.How does that work for you, .There comes a time for all of us, when we have to grow up and take charge of our lives.For you for the sake of your kids, the time is now.Quit the serial man hunting , its not working, you are bringing home duds.
Hmm GOOD GIRL/BAD GIRL bahhhh.Claptrap.How about adult woman and immature women.An adult woman makes informed choices, considers the impact of their actions on others e.g your kids.Is it healthy to have so many men in their lives.
Mature women consider their economic situation and what they can afford.Put their children completely first if they have them.Get an education and have goals,use contraception meticulously and get to know any partner well before embarking on any relationship or allowing them around her kids.
A mature women is not ruled by her emotions,she thinks things out and acts rationally.She has a positive attitude to others and tries to see the best in people.She does not stay in or tolerate abusive relationships and would not allow her kids to endure them.
She respects others and demands respect in return.She knows how to be alone and that her happiness is her responsibility and that it comes from within; through her thoughts and attitudes.
She takes responsibility for her feelings, words and actions and owns her mistakes.She knows what being personally responsible means.She is willing to work hard and support herself but is generous also to those she loves and those in need.
She is not quiet with a feathery voice, sometimes she is loud and strident and says this is me, and thats ok.She fights to the death for her kids and her family.She is strong and tender, hard and soft and never biddable.
So Op, you are you, and thats always good.There is no bad here.Find someone who will love your kids and you as you deserve.Make your choice carefully, so it will last.You have survived thus far, so you must be made of good stuff.Find someone who wants someone just like you.Feck the rest, who cares what they think. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:31:48 PM | | OP: I guess someone with morals and ethical...................whatever they deem this to be. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 6:33:14 PM | | I thought the good girl was another one on the pic... | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:23:38 PM | I wouldn't know what a "good girl" is. All I know for sure is that I sure as shit wouldn't want to be one.
To paraphrase Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, no woman ever made history by behaving herself. I'd rather make history than work my hiney off to impress a man any day of the week.
There are grander schemes in life than having some guy pat me on the head for good behaviour.
Feck that!I wasn't born to make some guy's life easier. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:56:11 PM | how about lets leave it to Billy Joel to sum it up for us:
She can kill with a smile, she can wound with her eyes
She can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child, but she's always a woman to me
She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth, but she'll never believe you
And she'll take what you give her as long it's free
Yeah, She steals like a thief, but she's always a woman to me
CHORUS
Ohhh... she takes care of herself
She can wait if she wants, she's ahead of her time
Ohhh... and she never gives out
And she never gives in, she just changes her mind
And she'll promise you more than the garden of Eden
Then she'll carelessly cut you and laugh while you're bleeding
But she’ll bring out the best and the worst you can be
Blame it all on yourself 'cause she's always a woman to me | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:58:17 PM | | I have often wondered that myself. It is quite different than saying "nice" girl. Good girl does it imply "innocent" because quite honestly I don't think a lot of the guys that say they want a "good" girl or a "nice" girl really mean it lol. I think what they really mean is "good girl with a really naughty side" lol. But that just my opinion. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/19/2009 8:32:45 PM |
I think what they really mean is "good girl with a really naughty side"
That's true for most of us. We want to be able to take you home to family, work or a classy social. Then again we also want the adventurous and wild side.
I think that's true with both sexes. You ladies want the same from us guys. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:05:58 AM | | i dont think that makes you a bad girl.. but when the word good girl is used it's more like habit wise/personality i believe. although i consider my self a good girl and havent gotten much luck on here lol | |
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