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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 12:44:25 PM |
Even at 24 I've had my share of fun - I'm looking for something more stable in life. I'm not saying let's get married, but more so lets get to know each other and see and see what comes of it.
So again I ask... what age do most guys grow out of their play stage - and realize its time to have something a bit more real in life?
Since you aren't talking about marriage, I'd say you're still talking about playing. The only real difference between what you want and what you call playing is how frequently you want to change playmates. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:04:18 PM | depends on the person, some men are ready for it at an early age; just like some women act like asses until late in their age, its not as simple as men are immature.
I think the matter of the case is some people just have playful personalities, an don't want a commitment; at least they are being honest and NOT wasting your time by misrepresenting themselves.
if they don't want to put the work in, then its all good; they aren't taking up space in your life and your not wasting their time trying to get them to fit into yours:-) win win for everyone | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:19:30 PM | to answer this question
they gr0w up when
1. they have a job
2. they are earning there keep in that job
3. they dont "play games"
4. they learn that women are not objects, but are people like with with feelings and dont want to be hurt and you dont hurt them
5. they want to create a family and have a wonderful life with kids, a wife and enjoy each other
6. they have made enough to pay for anything there kids might need: school, food, stuff like that
7. they take the step and marry the one they love and stick it out
and I could go on, age isnt really the main judge, however at 18 we all need to grow out of the teenage stuff and look for more in life then we do, that means going passed cell phones, booty calls, and immature garbage. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:28:27 PM | | typical thread. change the title to "when do men do what they're told" at least that will be honest. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 3:21:52 PM |
I'd rather get to know people and have them know me-sex is more enjoyable that way-rather than just those one nighters.
Dayz411, you do have some control over that......you pretty much can tell who will come by the next day and say let's go to this movie.....and who does not undo the FUN you had the night before. Don't set yourself up for one nighters. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:02:20 PM |
So after talking to several guys - and most of them are just looking for FUN
I'd have to wonder at what age do guys grow out of just that fun stuff.
Even at 24 I've had my share of fun - I'm looking for something more stable in life. I'm not saying let's get married, but more so lets get to know each other and see and see what comes of it.
So again I ask... what age do most guys grow out of their play stage - and realize its time to have something a bit more real in life?
I was wondering the same thing in reverse, OP. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:41:56 PM | | Maybe instead of saying guys maybe people, as in my experiences, I seem to want something stable long before most of the women I have met do.... | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/13/2009 7:24:34 PM | Never.
Men never give up the "Fun" in life.
You shouldn't either.
lol. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/13/2009 7:34:05 PM | | I absolutely adore the "little boy" in every man......and hope they never outgrow it. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/13/2009 7:40:01 PM | OP the answer is never. we're just not as reckless, and we tend to see the possible outcomes of choices before we make them.
age == nothing
desires == EVERYTHING!
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/13/2009 8:03:35 PM | Never. I feel bad for people who grow up. What is the point of living life if you don't want to have fun.
Toy-R-Us Kid! | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/13/2009 9:10:44 PM |
So after talking to several guys - and most of them are just looking for FUN
I think you're confusing being emotionally mature and wanting to have fun.
You're never too old to have fun.
Becoming emotionally mature, well, that's a whole different topic. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:31:54 AM |
typical thread. change the title to "when do men do what they're told" at least that will be honest.
That's kinda what I was gonna say... The OP seems to define being "grown up" as guys acting the way she approves of, kinda like they're all little boys and she's their mommy who they're trying to get on her good side of by doing what she wants. 
At 18 - once I went to college - I had my share of hooking up with guys and sleeping around - I just really think that it got me no where.
Where exactly were you expecting it to get you, Philedelphia?  | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:01:02 AM | See guys, this is how they think.
If you don't buy into getting married and being serious and finding the mythical "the one" right now, then you're immature.
If you don't do what women want you to do then you are immature. MY WAY OR YOU ARE IMMATURE! How dare you live on YOUR TERMS!!
If you don't want to work your ass off so women can have pretty things and be able to show off to their friends that they have "a catch" then you are immature. Now get back on that 9-to-5 treadmill and get to purchasing SUVs and big houses and funding children! We have people to keep up with and impress! My mom wants to know where the babies are!
Liking sex is immature. Not accepting fat girls is immature.
Heavens, a man wanting to have fun. How dare he, ye scurvy dog! Get back to work, arrrrrrrrrrr.
The female version of "growing up" means misery for the man! For shame, where is your minivan full of unappreciative kids and a nagging wife that hates you because you actually gave up your freedom and dreams and goals for her.
The mature man does as he pleases. He lives for HIS dreams and HIS goals and does what makes HIM happy. He musn't drag others down to do this, but he surely shouldn't drag himself down for ANOTHER'S dreams. If some woman wants to tag along and enjoy things along beside him and isn't too much of a burden and doesn't bring down (otherwise drop her like a stone!), that's great and she's welcome to come along, but if you think he's sacrificing his hobbies, friends, or much of his freedom just so he can get your approval, you are verrrrry mistaken. If what makes him happy in life is playing video games 24/7, and that's what he does, then he is VERY mature because he is choosing his OWN PATH and living how he pleases despite immense social pressure that what he is doing the wrong thing since it isn't bending to feminine whims. The immature would cave to these pressures. And strangely enough, when you do cave, women resent you for that too because you are spineless. Good luck fulfilling someone else's dreams instead!
You know what's kind of lame? No, you don't, so I will tell you. A number of women do manage to grow out of the very above mindset and seem to appreciate a guy with the mindset of the last paragraph. What sucks is that it takes them so long to do it. After posting stuff like this, I've had a number of older women email me and say I am refreshing. Thanks!
So really, while you are waiting for me to grow up, it is really I who am waiting for YOU to grow up. Afterall, I am the one happy doing what I please, while you complain about what I'm doing. Who is the correct here? Happy or unhappy? Which is right? I am going to go with happy and no complaints. What say you?
Sorry for too many bolded words. Just kidding. I do as I please! | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:17:50 AM | | no one ever truly grows up otherwise have the poop we experience in our lives would never happen. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:56:49 AM | Not to make jest, although this question always cracks me up!
When do guys grow up and act like men. Their is a time for childish play and responsibility. One fact remains is all play and no fun makes for a boring individual that no one wants to be around, especially any women regardless of what they say on here. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:15:43 AM |
I'd have to wonder at what age do guys grow out of just that fun stuff.
Umm, I'll have to get back too you at a much later date as I don't think I'm ready to stop having fun in my life yet. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:20:37 AM | How about when women grow up? I guess it's ok for below average looking women who are not in shape, around 5 foot tall to be wanting hunks over 6 foot tall and in the process insulting perfectly great guys because they dont look good enough or are an inch less than 6 foot.
C;mon, stop with this blame the guys nonsense. Women, especially on this sight are guilty of the same if not more.
I get a kick out of saving and compiling the insulting mesages I get because a shorter woman says I'm not tall enough, an out of shape women says I'm not hunky enough, ugly women saying I'm not pretty enough. And women wanting smart guys not thinking a masters in engineering is smart enough. Or those saying grown men should not be playing guitars. Well gosh, lets call the Rolling Stones and Aerosmith and every othe rband an dtell them to quit. 
Keep the letter coming ladies, it will all look so good in my book showing just how immature and shallow many of you are. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:20:49 AM | | As you get older and you are a man, you trade your toys for more expensive ones, but do never, ever grow up. The day you do is the day you die. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:53:17 AM | | when do girls grow up even at 50 they still think like a teenager with there nose stuck up in the air . never learning anything new | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:08:04 PM | | I'll be 51 next week, and if fun is defined as computer games and comic books and the like, I still have fun and still haven't grown up. While if fun is defined as drinking and casual sex and so on, I was born too grown up for fun. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:12:54 PM | Dayz411,
What is your definition of "growing up"? What's your idea of something "more stable"?
For myself, I've been working full time since I graduated from University... but at first I still lived at home with my mom while I saved money to buy a condo. Was I 'grown up' then?
Or was I grown up when I moved into my own place that I bought with the money I saved?
Or did I become grown up when my Son was born?
Or am I still *not* grown up because I like Bicycle Riding, Go Karting and still think farting is funny (and joke about it with my kids)? | |
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