| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:05:10 AM | Your 24 and you've already had your share of fun? what a crock of bs.
I mean really, who are you kidding..lol | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:13:48 AM | | My older brother is 53 and he still likes to have fun. He has a company too, which keeps him busy. He loves his wife and their children are grown up, but he still likes fun. My late father liked fun until the disease he had robbed him of that. Course it depends what you define as "that fun stuff". My father and brothers never have grown out of it! | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:06:40 PM | | while I understand where you're coming from, I think if I was a mature man, I might take a hint of offense at the question. Putting all guys or all guys into any generalized category is generally unwise and bound to offend the exemplars in either gender. JMHO | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:06:41 PM | A message I received:
hi, i find uattractiv, if yr on msn can show umy pik, bin told im cute n smell nice, let u decide, imk athletic 2 musculer build, well blessed in the trouser dep, sorry that woz belwo the belt..lol....thnx 4 yr time , im 34 hope my age doesnt put u off, xx
Men immature, surely not!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:18:17 PM | | my grandpa's 63 now and he still runs yellow lights like his 18 and fights with my grandma about food, then go to bed after they fight.... note that i only been there not long and this wasn't new 10 years ago lol. still communicates in grunts like most typical guy | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:19:27 PM | | They do, when they are ready to start communiacting like adults. Some of the women on here, dont do to much good communicationg either, so it works both ways. I think, you may need to be more assertive in expressing what you want, you look a lovely person and want to be taken seriously, and meet a fella who can meet those consessions. You'll know! | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:14:15 PM |
When do guys grow up?
The same time that women do. Some never do (both sexes). | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:50:50 PM |
At 18 - once I went to college - I had my share of hooking up with guys and sleeping around -
I am always responsible for what I want and never sleep around for fun. It's so difficult for me to find a man who I like... | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 9/26/2009 4:12:31 PM | I read through all the posts on this one before deciding to offer up an answer.
I was entertained but was also fascinated to see a couple of posts that really seemed to address the issue.
I'm going to weigh in first with my belief of what the OP meant.
She IS now looking to do that traditional "settling down/nesting/making babies/marriage&monogamy thing.
"More stable in life" and "Let's get to know each other and see what comes of it"
These translate to exclusive & monogamous dating heading towards a committed RELATIONSHIP which WILL lead to marriage.
"FUN STUFF" is being single, carefree, NOT tied down, MORE looking for sex than monogamy, UNcommitted.
The poster who wrote fairly extensively of how women want to entrap men into working their butts off to provide for the woman's needs, house, kids, cars, etc was fairly right on. Women have been raised to find a "good man" to "settle down with"
So a GOOD MAN is one who has a GOOD JOB. translation= can provide for her
Now at a different angle, I liked the following response:
they gr0w up when
1. they have a job
2. they are earning there keep in that job
3. they dont "play games"
4. they learn that women are not objects, but are people like with with feelings and dont want to be hurt and you dont hurt them
5. they want to create a family and have a wonderful life with kids, a wife and enjoy each other
6. they have made enough to pay for anything there kids might need: school, food, stuff like that
7. they take the step and marry the one they love and stick it out
GENERALLY, boys dont become MEN and WANT to volunteer for the above 7 items until about 34 or so, and that is if they EVER really do. Women marry some of those peter pans anyway.
To the OP -
You are in the age pool of boys who have 18 yrs experience of BEING a BOY.. and are barely experienced in how to be a BOY with the legal license to be a DRUNK boy.
Find a boy from a culture and/or religion that indoctrinates them into YOUR way of thinking from birth on. Then you can substitute yourself in the leader role that their priest, minister, mother and father were, and get him to Hup-to and keep being RESPONSIBLE to OTHERS. They may seem weak or emasculated, but you'll get what you want. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:17:10 PM | | They grow up for the right woman or when they realized their moron friends are childish and they feel embarassed to be around them. Either way, they grow up because they want to. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:35:42 PM | Who the f*ck knows. This would be up to each own individual, that is when they finally feel the need to develop a much more mature mentality. But then again there are some guys will simply just never grow up. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:46:42 PM | sounds like she needs to re think she sounds like a boaring person go out and have fun we all grow up but we all lighten up and quit taking life why so serious open up and have fun dont live a closed behind door life its no fun and depressing at times get out see the world try new things life will be a better place for all . we all have to get along some how                | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/16/2009 10:48:09 PM | sounds like she needs to re think she sounds like a boaring person go out and have fun we all grow up but we all lighten up and quit taking life why so serious open up and have fun dont live a closed behind door life its no fun and depressing at times get out see the world try new things life will be a better place for all . we all have to get along some how     | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/16/2009 11:08:51 PM | Mid-twenties are often a hard time for men and women to come together. Often, you will have women tentatively looking at a "future" and men still interested in living it up in the last days of youth.
I have often said that I thought a good age difference would be a woman at 25 and a man at 30 because I think that's when men might start to think that maybe they won't live forever and maybe they do want a wife and kids and maybe they should get serious.
I was on this and other sites often at age 22 and I quickly discovered that, while I was only interested in relationships with future potential, that the guys my age really weren't as much. I found that a four or five year age difference leveled out the field a little better and yielded more serious and mature candidates, but a lot of guys in their late 20s are babies too, so you really just have to get lucky.
You can often decipher who is a grown man and who is an infant from clues in their profiles. Grown men, for example, don't put questionnaires in their profiles, nor do they use words like "holla", nor do they post three photos of them swilling cheap beer. Someone who writes a lot about looks (either yours or theirs) in their profile is probably also a baby. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:55:52 AM | I wanna change my previous answer on this one.
It'll really be when they stop playing Cyndi Lauper's grrrrrl power anthem "Girls Just Want to Have Fun!" all the time on the radio.
Guys will always follow the lead of what the gals are doing, and it doesn't quite seem fair if the former are supposed to grow up while the latter are still just having fun all the time. No true grown up would ever fall for that. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 11:56:48 AM | | when do women grow up? it is a rhetorical question really. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:49:57 PM | | you should take the clue from these men you are meeting and try to have some fun in life while you still can...you never know what tomorrow might bring ...it may be a long sad life ...enjoy your youth and quit trying to grow up too fast...what is so terrible about being young and care-free...sounds great to me... | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 12:56:29 PM | I can tell ya that for some of us it's at least beyond fifty-three   | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 1:04:29 PM | | Stupid question, but what does "OP" mean? I see everyone saying OP ever 5 seconds in this forum but I can't figure it out. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 2:01:13 PM |
Unfortunately "fun" to a lot of guys means drinking, partying, casual sex with you or drugs.......
I agree with Erinlove (see message 11)
........For extra icing, notice that he is looking for an "intimate encounter"......
or also what is termed as "other relationship" as well.
I have also seen profiles out here from men blatantly stating that all they want is no strings attached sex, friends with benefits, or bed/f*ck buddies - whatever the term for it is these days.
When I see that, I just pretty much move on and correspond with someone else. I can have fun doing other things......going to museums, spring/fall festivals, parties and get-togethers with friends, etc.
There is a whole hell of a lot more to life than just hanging out in the bar/party scene getting loaded and laid. - When I was in college, etc. I had my partying days, and yes, they are now pretty much over. but that doesn't mean I have given up on fun. - I just have a different kind of fun........
- When you get a little older, the hangovers really aren't too much fun anymore and it takes a bit longer to recover......waking up and not knowing where you are and who is lying next to you isn't too much fun, either, yet there are still some out here in mid life and beyond still doing that crap. - doesn't make too much sense to me. So no, there are many out here who haven't grown up and never will.
Call me old fashioned, and yes I have been heavily and harshly penalized for it out here in the dating pond, but I am just not going to hit the sheets with someone just for the sake of doing it. I respect myself a whole lot more than that. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 3:31:27 PM | Why should we ever grow up?
I'm 52, have owned my own business forever, well off financially now, still in perfect health, and I still build and ride motorcyles, fly airplanes, go fishing and hunting as often as possible, travel, drink and look for trouble to get into. Why shouldn't I as long as I enjoy it and am able? I usually also date younger women.
What it seems most women mean when they ask when men are going to grow up, really is: "When is someone going to decide to take care of me for the rest of my life and live theirs in a way that makes me happy."
That's not growing up. Thats giving up on life. | |
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| When do guys grow up
Posted: 10/17/2009 3:34:58 PM |
Men never grow up, didn't you see the post of the married 74 year old guy who wont divorce but is upset he sent 10 messages and hasn't met his "soul mate". For extra icing, notice that he is looking for an "intimate encounter"
Is cheating Western cultural value...? | |
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