| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/19/2009 8:14:46 PM | OP:
The regret factor is something that helps enhance one's life;I suggest that we
all attempt to learn from the experience.And we may repeat in good faith
the errors of the past but it is vital to care about ourselves and never be too hard
on ourselves;We are 'children of the universe' A La Desiderata.
It is essential however to never compromise personal integrity and fully accept the
responsibilities created from such errors.
In doing so we are completely true to ourselves;how else can we ever be true
to anyone else;our personal integrity intact we proceed against all
adversity!
Individuals without regret are very special;I personally claim no such
privilege and bow in humble acknowledgement to such (pristine) individuals. | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:30:25 PM | Individuals without regret are very special;I personally claim no such
privilege and bow in humble acknowledgement to such (pristine) individuals.
When I met my best friend... I found out she was perfect... how? b/c she told me..
I had said to her that everyone had said or done something to hurt another at some stage..(some pple negate such thoughts, by comparing wrongs... a wrong is a wrong..period....and therefore everyone needs forgiveness.. at some level..
see? me? I think in theory/principal...
or by blaming.... listen when people blame.. its everyone elses fault... it was all circumstances...)..
so if someone tells you a past story.. they did something wrong.. but it was everyone elses fault... they admit no wrong...
theres always reasons we do what we do.. even justafiable reasons.. but not blame...
blame is differ..
when a person takes responsibility for hurting others even a simple word.. they acknowledge..circumstances..reasons.. but never blame.. they admit their part was in the wrong)
So she turns to me and says... no, IVe never hurt anyone in my life.. and I therefore don't need to forgive nor need forgiveness..
I said ok.. You therefore are perfect, and have blown my theory.. thank you.. Ill rethink..
Overtime.. she told me many stories, about her life..... at one point. I said, and how do you think those words.. affected that person?.. have you considered, they might have hurt them?.
She said.. well I never thought about it.. maybe they did.. I said... IF someone had said those words to you.. would it hurt you?... her answer..yes..
I then met best friends mother... she also was perfect.. how do I know? b/c she told me...
My question to both of them were.. Is why do you both live in guilt? operate from guilt?.. if your both perfect?...(nooone can make you feel guilt if youv'e done nothing wrong)
anyhoo, my best friend just left after a visit here.. And we discussed alot of issues.. and she knows im writing this.... her husband .. takes no crap.. and shes learnt.. shes not perfect.. her words can hurt.. etc..
she has gone from a hard heart/mind..(but soft /teachable soul).. to learning to acknowledge others feelings/impact she has..(b/c she is a very beautiful person)..
and....... is now vulnerable..b/c she loves her hubby, and if she wants to have a happy/peaceful/harmonious relo.. she has to confront herself.. and admit wrong/sorry hurt./.....
anyhoo, we just had a great laugh.. discussed her grandma..(who was also perfect..) and the impact down the generations of never admitting hurting anyone..
and as my best friend.. sees this stuff. her marriage blossoms.. her mum..(who I love as well, and is also my friend)... has less guilt ..impact on her..
her skin has cleared up..( I used to always know when she was stressing/guilting.. b/c she would get skin problems.. )
IT also ties into.. if someone knows themselves or not.. eg her grandma was married to a part aboriginal man.. they have aboriginal blood.. her grandma never knew this... she does not like aboriginals.. (her generation)... so you could ask.. how could someone not know they were married to an aboriginal? and not know it?
easy .. not living in truth/fact...
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:44:38 PM | You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you got, and remember what you had. Always forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:46:42 PM | Thats it
I have cracked it!
I was here to meet women.
What did I find?
Forums. Forums and more Forums.
It is truly appalling the number of intelligent and gorgeous women who only use POF to indulge themselves in literary pomposity.
I appreciate women love to talk but ---------Please enough is enough.
So my friends I am off the real word.
Longing to get back to some real people with real communication skills
Not an artificial world where people hide behind a keyboard and become cyberspace heroes
Or so their EGO tells them.
There’s more!!!!
Just a black pot cautionary word.... One of my psychiatric patients once said to me:
Do you know what the definition of madness is???
The answer given was...
It's When Someone Does That Same Thing Over And Over Again Even Though They Keep Getting The Same Unsuccessful Or Unwanted Result
Like not realising the futility of wasting ones time on POF.
I am having treatment for my MINOR (fastracking to MAJOR) anger management issues... | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:58:32 PM | ^^^^^^
think I did suggest, you might find you'll walk out your front door and meet pple the old fashioned way...
good luck mate.. glad you are happy...
not everyone hides behind internet though...its just another tool. for expanding conciousness..learning.. and some don't date online at all. but balance..
truly I mean this.. was nice to have your presence/imput..
Welcome to dating pergatory..... The holding pen... for learning the new way...... not to date...
At first you may feel all enthusiastic,....... and dive into the shallow end of the pool... after awhile, you may feel.. like you've hit your head enough times on the bottom... then you might try the deep end of the pool...
In between is the fence.... (it's called forums)...... after forums you may decide to either never date again... or learn/insight.. in ways to improve your dating/relationships abilities.... which will lead to ''''maybe''''''... re thinking what you actually thought you were looking for... (also taking in whether it exists, in the pool)
donot breed or piss in the pool...
enjoy your long walk on the beach.. there will be many...
you might even come out of it feeling like you really like your own company and get a dog....
You may end up here for ever... or you might graduate, to walking out the front door... and meeting people the old fashioned way..
Yes start social events... brilliant idea....
good luck... and enjoy your stay... wearing a ball protector, might help on some forums....
Your complimentary drink is at the side of the pool...
the poolboy is mine...
some of us work from home and multi task.. so .. pcs just are.. they are not the be all end all. but can multitask.. while working..
and heres a tip.. you don't have to read every post.. in forums.. i accept.. fully maybe 1 person who is interested might read mine.. i never assume everyone will..
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Posted: 7/19/2009 11:42:46 PM | I am beginning to regret joining this dating site.. I am beginning to regret trying to have a conversation with anyone on here.. Seriously beginning to feel like I have two heads ..
the great thing is choice.. not everybody is free or has choices...
I also decided I wouldn't date from online.. but don't regret joining here..
b/c I was sooo out of practise../.. that I found, reading forums.. educated me in what I thought existed.. and what does not.. eg.. i figured out of 6.6 billion people there would be at least 1% who.. were special....I wanted to know their soul/heart/mind.. internet gives access to their conciousness...
I joined as I live in a really ...really small populace... to hopefully meet/see people all over the world ..who cared..had good hearts/souls..
I learn't .......on what I don't want..
I learn't alot..and Im thankful for everyone who ive read/contributed, in showing me different perspectives... and just how much my life really did'nt suck compared to some..
was nice to meet you suzy... and your posts.. good luck in your new choices..
at least you tried/and learn't not for you..
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Posted: 7/20/2009 7:50:52 AM | ^^^ And I think a lot of us here are glad you joined too, Soulmate.
I regret not going to bed earlier tonight. I regretted that last night too. And the night before. And every night going back as far as I can remember. I am nothing if not consistent.  | |
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:33:35 PM | | Regrets?.Hell yes.As i get older i am tending to think of things that i did in the past or happened and think boy i really screwed up back then.Would i change it if i could?.Of course but i can't so there is no point dwelling.Must be just the learning curve of life.I read this quote once "I don't care about people in my past as there is a reason they didn't make it to my future".Quite good i thought. | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:19:37 PM | Regrets?
Not particularly, though it can't be denied that I have made some incredibly stupid mistakes for my age.
But if I continue to learn from them, I can't imagine I'll ever regret them, per se... | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/21/2009 8:37:09 PM |
What did I find?
Forums. Forums and more Forums. It is truly appalling the number of intelligent and gorgeous women who only use POF to indulge themselves in literary pomposity.
I appreciate women love to talk but ---------Please enough is enough.
This reminds me...I am not really interested in football and find it an appalling waste of time, all those hunky guys wasting time chasing a ball around. So I regret not going along to football games and running onto the field mid-game, and saying "Right, you might be having a good time but I think enough is enough so let's just stop all this footballing eh." Then again, staying away from football games has worked OK too.
So my friends I am off the real word.
Longing to get back to some real people with real communication skills
Not an artificial world where people hide behind a keyboard and become cyberspace heroes
Or so their EGO tells them.
Nah, I reckon you'll regret that post and just change your profile name and pic and stick around. 
Do you know what the definition of madness is???
The answer given was...
It's When Someone Does That Same Thing Over And Over Again Even Though They Keep Getting The Same Unsuccessful Or Unwanted Result
Welcome to the nuthouse then, EsensualMan/Orgasminator. | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/21/2009 8:59:02 PM | ^^^ 
It's ok Esensualmanorgasminator, we still love you... regretful posts and warts and all.
So I regret not going along to football games and running onto the field mid-game, and saying "Right, you might be having a good time but I think enough is enough so let's just stop all this footballing eh."
Funny you should say that, coz I did actually go along to a football game on the weekend. The field's right near my house and the siren going off every 10 mins really bugs me. I ran onto the field mid-game, and said, "Right, you might be having a good time but I think enough is enough so let's just stop all this footballing eh"
I kinda regret that now...
And also kicking another ball onto the field (so each team would have one and they'd stop fighting over just the one ball) seemed like a good idea at the time.  | |
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/21/2009 9:40:00 PM | Regrets do not usually accompany this swirl of life that presently encompasses my existence, but today I realized I have the regret of not joining this madness of POF sooner.
The jugular banter that goes to and fro is wonderful, how could someone not differentiate
between forums and e-mail to the bane of eliciting advise from a patient with head trauma..
Ok so I babble a bit ..
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| regrets??? do you have them???
Posted: 7/21/2009 9:50:59 PM | ^^^^^^ and Dustin, I don't regret reading any of your posts.. b/c I find your insight/knowledge/wisdom.. thought provoking..
ok i just got car tru rego..yea yah..... caught up wiff some mates in town and had a few bevvies
and saw my 70 year old mate maggie who I aint seen in yonks.. whos mum just passed at age 96.. (were all too stuboorn to die when we were told)...
anyhoo. my lifes great.. Im very ha..pp..y ..hiccup..
wide smile and right now I luvvvvvvves you all.
ok might regret letting da emoticon guard down.. later.. but not now..
peace and group hugz. except if you got a bug/flu.. spent all day saying to everyone in town...nooo hugz donot come near me.. immune system aint handling all the goobies..
ok well i did let maggie hug me.. cause she wants goobies.. just so she can try get pple to bring food up her hippy hill with no rd.. like meals on wheels.. theyd need a mud map...ha ha ha.. she said come visit me.. noway.. i dont do hills..... she says gettin a rd in.. i said ok.. ill think about it.. but im sure u just want me to be meals on farking wheels.. which i would do..
because finally, ive got her.. to say if she needs anything... cant live without a road..electricity..phone etc anymore.. to call out.. stubborn pple can be so annoying.. lucky im stubborn enough to get tru to them..
did i say lifes great?
allrighty..peace | |
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Posted: 7/21/2009 9:58:55 PM | Naamah.
You are very perceptive.
Yep---I am back.
I am surprised of the quality of the people on here.
Honest, intelligent, understanding and nice----just like me
So if you can’t beat them join them.
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Posted: 7/23/2009 1:16:40 AM | | I was thinking about regrets yesterday , today my regret is that I have the flu . Every morning , I would drive past this beautiful 50s era piece of furniture that s'one obviously was hoping would be picked up and cherished ....not a chance , after 2 days it had been all but pissed on and trashed . And so I thought about regretting things gone by , we don't make pieces of furniture like that anymore and the increasing 'slickness' of plastic moulding guarantees we won't see many beautiful examples of wooden furniture ... and I regret that . | |
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