| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/17/2009 9:27:14 PM | | A lot of people cheat for a variety of reasons.... but not all. Just not true. Good luck with these guys, breezygirl. I'm sure you'll find somebody.. Sh**.. I had a girl who would've probably never cheated on me.. She was only up my ass everyday. Sometimes I found myself wishing she did lol | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/17/2009 10:15:45 PM | holy crap.... i've never heard such a bunch of utterly useless responses! the question can be chalked up to youth and naivete, you've had a hellova rough start and understandably are a bit inexperienced with the variety of men out there... but i really have to call into question some of this answers you've received.
1] "all men cheat" - baloney, i never have.
2] "men who have been cheated on cheat" - baloney, my first real love cheated on me; i've managed to remain faithful
3] "the hot guys are cheaters" - it has nothing to do with looks, it has to do with integrity. it may be true that hot guys are more likely to cheat, due to opportunity, inflated ego, lack of empathy, sense of entitlement... but those are all character flaws [based, perhaps, on their good looks and experience there with]. i'm not a hot guy, and i've had a dozen opportunities. i just don't think it's right. and similarly, many hot guys have never cheated because they also don't think it is right.
4] "it's biological" - well, ya, sure it is... but if you can control your impulses and genetic drives well enough to refrain from killing your step children or from attacking strangers, then i think you can control your wandering eye.
5] "it's you" - if you were 40 and virtually everyone you'd ever been with had cheated, then ya, you could very well be at fault [either from your actions, or cuz you're attracted to douchebags]... but at your age, there simply isn't enough evidence. however... getting pregnant so young and going out with a guy not knowing he was a drug dealer, indicate that you have some maturing to do.
bottom line, some PEOPLE cheat [men and women] and some don't. those that do have a myriad of reasons and not all of them are obvious. if you find someone with integrity and who shows respect, chances are you won't get cheated on. ALWAYS be aware of how they treat their exes and/or strangers... it is a good indication of their true self. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:01:06 PM | all the women I know cheat constantly. all of my past girlfriends have cheated on me. i havent had the chance to cheat because i havent been in a relationship long enough to do so. women are ****ing horrible cheaters, they do it whenever they stand to gain something out of it. money, other stuff, to make their boyfriends feel bad, etc.
everybody today cheats. nobody gives a shit about anything anymore these days. honor is no more in this ugly society. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 12:06:19 AM | my warmest condolences, OP, about your early bad hand. But rest assured, not all guys cheat.
unfortunately, i can't give you a formula of where you can find these individuals. perhaps, watch their dialogue? i'm no psychiatrist, but if someone tells you, "i have to go to lunch with so and so for business reasons..." (and this was done to me), and then turns it around on you saying that you're indeed the cheater, when you're not, move on, not now, but right now.
i really don't know, honestly.
all you can do is be yourself, and be the best at that. if they f*ck up, get out of it knowing it wasn't your fault and be at peace. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 5:39:13 PM | | Like Alot of guys said here..pick the ones that get read and deleted..because if you really give them a chance their true beauty will shine, when they treat you like a queen. Who wants a beautiful guy that girls want of course they are gonna stray its a macho male ego thing. Get a Sweet Guy who will treat you with Love and respect and believe me he will be the most beautiful man youve ever seen and he wont cheat on you cause everyone knows women go for the Outside Beauty of men..AND Men do this too when they see a hot sexy women with a beautiful face and a tight body but yet she is quick to cheat on you when the next gorgeous man or rich man comes along.... | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 9:24:03 PM | Oh my god except for the first guy dieing he sounds just like my single husband!
I stay so crazy from him coming and going that I have lost my mind!
It makes you wonder what is up with this crazy world!
But any way it sounds like you need a friend and Im here for you !
Not alot of people can even start to understand cause they haven't lived what you have, but I think we have alot in common!
Don't give up! | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 9:29:20 PM | You Are Wrong!!!!!!!!!! I have never cheated on anyone and was married to a THUG
who thought he was God and he could do what ever when ever but I couldn't go buy
food without giving him details! I had many many chances that I could have done anything but I am better than that and I pray that there are many more like me out there! | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:11:10 PM | All guys dont cheat, I haven't, so thats a no.
You're just picking the wrong ones. The guys who dont cheat, are the ones which most girls overlook, when looking for a partner. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:39:43 PM | | No. There are plenty of men that do not cheat, including myself. The number of men that cheat is about equal to the number of women who do. Don't sleep with someone that you don't trust. Take your time. Also, you don't have to pick guys that you are not attracted to, as some are suggesting. You just have to get to know the person better before sleeping with them. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/19/2009 3:32:17 PM | Wanting to be loved and wanted is human, so if you give people a reason then don't be shocked when it happens. If you your garden dies because you didn't tend to it then it's your fault.
It has happened to me (multiple times) and the emptiness you feel gets even worse when you realize that you let it happen. | |
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Vanven
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Joined: 7/12/2009
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/19/2009 7:06:21 PM | | Its funny how other people put gender competion in whom does more or less than the other....every other person cheats regardless fo their natural identity period. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/19/2009 7:48:14 PM | I didn't read the post, sorry. Just the title.
The answer is no.
Not all.
Some.
But not all.
It might feel like all, because those that do really leave a mark when it happens.
Hope the best for ya:
Alex | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/20/2009 2:48:00 PM | I know the question has been answered, but I'll chime in a bit myself. The answer is no, not all men cheat. It could be a variety of things that cause this, maybe it's you, maybe it's him, maybe it was the situation.
Just like for the broken hearted guys who wonder if all women are gold-digging, soulless, godless machines intent on cheating on you for the sheer pleasure of making lives miserable for all mankind.
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:02:39 PM | Of course not all guys cheat.
I know that it has been covered already in this thread, but the statement "All guys cheat" is simply not true. As it has been said several times, it's the guys with the teenage maturity levels that cheat.
Someone mentioned earlier in the thread that you might be searching for, or attracting the wrong types of guys. That could certainly be true. It certainly isn't your fault that the guys you were with cheated, but giving a different type of guy a chance might be good idea.
Don't be discouraged. There's plenty of us out there who have never cheated and never will.
Good luck in your search for a good guy. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:19:48 PM | Yes OP, all guys cheat...is that what you want to hear?
Just because you had a relationship with a dishonest, selfish, cheating, no good sob you assume every guy is the same way.
When you grow up you'll realize that there are non-cheating, honest, respectable guys out there. I'm curious princess, do you believe that all girls are whores as well? | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:29:24 PM |
Like Alot of guys said here..pick the ones that get read and deleted..because if you really give them a chance their true beauty will shine, when they treat you like a queen. Who wants a beautiful guy that girls want of course they are gonna stray its a macho male ego thing. Get a Sweet Guy who will treat you with Love and respect and believe me he will be the most beautiful man youve ever seen and he wont cheat on you cause everyone knows women go for the Outside Beauty of men..AND Men do this too when they see a hot sexy women with a beautiful face and a tight body but yet she is quick to cheat on you when the next gorgeous man or rich man comes along....
SwtSarai,
I wish more girls would think the way you do!  :) | |
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Joined: 6/28/2009
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:46:57 AM | I never cheated, although I've had the "wonderful" experience done to me by my last two serious L.T girlfriends, one of which lived with me for a year and a half.
She was trustworthy all the way up until the end "I think"....My friends, family, or myself never suspected her to be capable of this and it was a total shock to everyone.
She was the "perfect" gf in many respects and always told me that she didn't think cheating was right. She also told me that she only cheated on one bf and she did it because 9 months into the relationship he changed his view on sex and didn't want to do it without marriage and made her go "without" for 3 months. She claimed she felt bad about it and would never do it again. NEXT TIME THIS WILL BE A RED FLAG TO ME
After the relationship ended I found out from various sources that
A) she cheated on the guy she claimed she cheated on multiple times with multiple men, not just one time with one person!!
B) she cheated on her ex husband of 6 years with 6-10 different people, he listed half of them off to me by first and last names....she claimed he cheated on her with her sister, he admitted that to me but he told me she was cheating on him for a long time before he resorted to this level....I believe him based on her actions at the end of our relationship and their after.
C) She bragged about her cheating on the guy before me.
My take....
1) Dont take your new girlfriends word about what happened in last relationships...ask her friends and family if possible and verify her story....ask them what "she" did to contribute to the demise of her past relationships. people lie, can be fake and can do it for a long time. It isn't fair to you to invest your heart into that person "unquestioned" to only be broken. Trust should be earned not given unfortunately....but even once they earn it keep your eyes peeled at all times when it comes to your "woman". If you get the chance to talk to one of her X'es take it and use it to your advantage.
2) Ask her detailed questions and as many as possible about her ex, such as: how the relationship ended, and most importantly how did she contribute? How did she treat him afterward? How did she break up with him, if she did? Was it in person, through text message, email, phone call...get details....MOST LIKELY she had something to do with the breakup don't let her play the "little angel"
Younger guys will cheat more than older ones in my opinion.
Better looking guys are more likely to cheat cause they have more opportunity
I think women cheat more than men, but this is my experience...the better looking the woman the more opportunities SHE will have.
If she is an attention seeker, a flirt, clingy or needy and you don't give her enough attention, or the right attention she is more likely to cheat
Women come up with all sorts of excuses for doing it, none of which are justify it but to them it is justification. Women hide cheating better and when she does it the guy she cheats on you with will mean more to her than a girl you were to cheat on her with, if you cheat....I DON'T! It's wrong, selfish, inconsiderate, deceitful, hurtful, unethical and immoral...etc...the list goes on!
If you wouldn't want your partner to do it to you, then it is cheating....if you can't do something to your partners face then you shouldn't do it behind their back...that too is cheating. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 8/7/2009 3:22:16 AM |
all the women I know cheat constantly. all of my past girlfriends have cheated on me. i havent had the chance to cheat because i havent been in a relationship long enough to do so. women are ****ing horrible cheaters, they do it whenever they stand to gain something out of it. money, other stuff, to make their boyfriends feel bad, etc.
Ok that is complete BS. Not all girls cheat just like not all guys cheat. Like everyone in this thread has been saying to OP.......your going for the wrong ones.
Anyways, like I said not all guys cheat. I happen to think there are decent guys out there. I've actually met a few. But since you do have a little girl dating should be the last thing on your mind. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:43:19 AM | | It's pretty simple really...there are both men and women who cheat. How can you tell them apart? You can't, you can be with someone for a lifetime and you will only know about them what they want you too. Try to avoid people who want to party every night. If someone disappears a lot, or is out of contact for long periods of time, you might want to look for someone else. As far as the is it you question, the answer is no, cheaters cheat no matter how wonderful what they have is. I've seen many guys over the years cheat on beautiful, wonderful wives, with the nastiest, most unattractive women. Yeah I scratch my head too, but only they know why they do it. Take your time and try to keep your eyes open, and don't be afraid to start looking again. | |
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| I have to wonder...Do all guys cheat?
Posted: 8/7/2009 10:52:42 AM | | Statistics seem to indicated that half of people cheat.. .I think it's a little bit more for men, but at some point in most peoples lives, they do something that 'counts' as cheating. That can be anything from intercourse to a kiss to cybersex, all depending what you consider cheating. | |
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