| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:21:47 AM | | You can feel "connected", but don't recommend getting too emotionally involved until you meet in person...some people can interact differently in person than on the phone...It's really up to you to decide... | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/17/2009 11:33:02 AM | | i would normally say no.you are connecting with certain characteristics and features.you are only seeing what they want you to see (hear,etc).however it makes you want more.i'd call it infatuation. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/17/2009 3:34:24 PM | Can i be happy on a boat?
Can i be sad on an airplane?
Were astronauts excited on the moon?
Why does a phone invalidate a feeling? | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/17/2009 3:45:00 PM |
as gone said,Consider professional mental and emotional counseling about your emotions and their lack of stability and certainty in the realm of being rational and considering your own personal safety before taking drastic risks with strangers in the realm of love and dating.
Thank you Dr. Gone, imo,as I do that one a week to myself before I get on the phone or before I go out the front door! yikes  | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:52:59 PM | I have seen a lot of statements, in various places, like the following one: "You can fall in love over the phone, email, and internet. However I think you’re falling in love with an idea in your head not with the actual person. Non direct contact such as phone conversations, emails, letters and instant messaging do not allow you to get a complete picture of the person you are courting. You do get some aspects of the person, but what you cannot get through those mediums your brain (fantasy part) fills in for you."
If this is true, then someone like Helen Keller would never have a chance to feel connected with another person, much less to fall in love with a man, but could only feel connected with fantasies of other human beings (including their own parents). The fact is, no matter how many faculties we have at our disposal, any one of us can both connect with and fall in love with a fantasy of another person; it all depends on our willingness to observe what is observable, and on the other person to communicate the truth about himself.
And, if you have no ability to see or touch or smell or hear or taste another person, but only his letters, then, if he is open and honest, you can certainly both connect with and fall in love with the real man without ever having seen him, if what he reveals to you about himself is appealing to you.
But, the fact is, if you spend 50 years in intimate contact with a person you've fallen in love with, your infatuation (being in love is to be infatuated) will still be something of a fantasy, for what you are in love with will always only be a passion for a fraction of the man, since you can never truly know a person fully. All connections with other people are at least part fantasy, and who is to say what is the proper proportion? One would think that early on in a relationship, connections are mostly fantasy, while, many years later, they're mostly reality. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 7/19/2009 2:40:56 PM | You can start to fall but the real issue is that he either isn't ready or he isn't really separated. You really liked him, you miss him, no big mystery like all things, time without talking to him will probably take care of it.
As for the possibility? I think you can start falling but you aren't going to know if the feelings are real or if they are deep enough to sustain a relationship, or perhaps that you love him but you don't mesh well as a couple.
Stop wondering what it was and get on with your life. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:44:41 PM | No, I definitely don't think you can fall in love over the phone.
Nor do I think it is infatuation. I think it is just an opportunity to create a make believe situation that you can languish in and feel "in love". I would suggest you actually go out and meet people, keep the phone fantasies to a minimum . It will be easy to get over it if you have something real and tangible to focus on. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/4/2009 8:56:02 AM | I don't like to talk on the phone to people I don't know. I'd rather meet them face to face first, then the telephone thing seems more natural. So no, I'd never be able to fall in love with someone I'd never met.
The only times I've heard of this happening is like someone else suggested "there is something to hide". | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:28:13 AM |
The only times I've heard of this happening is like someone else suggested "there is something to hide".
Not necessarily there could be a major distance that prevents you from meeting until you are fairly sure this person truly has the possibilities of being a good match.
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:34:16 AM | | You can see into a person's soul through their voice, but, honey--you don't really know each other. There's no substitute for actually being with the person over an extended period of time. Get over the fear and meet! | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:43:41 AM | | You can feel connection on the phone even with a stranger. I've talked to strangers on the phone -not necessarily for dating services - where I have been like mmmh, that was a connection. It might be the way they have slow, deliberate speech like there is some activity going on up there. The ones that ramble I want to get off the phone the first chance I get. It gives me a headache. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:47:12 AM | I you connect better on the phone all power to ya. But it can't IMO be love, it is only the idea of someone: Infatuation, the idea of being in love, or the deep desire to just connect to someone.
Make sure you have back up batteries available, unlimited minutes, or a spare phone.
After a while being a phone buddy to a few will wear thin.............very thin. Human contact is needed to pogress a relationship. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:02:17 PM | You can't fall in love with a person over the phone, you only "think" you can.
For that reason, relationships that are "phone based" are dangerous and often lead to disappointments.
Don't do it. At least meet once, and then if it's going to be an LDR you at least know what the other person is about... | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:03:58 PM | You might be in love through the phone or email but I wouldn't get your hopes up too soon. I would definately meet this person and start hanging out together before actually getting to the falling in love stage.  | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 3:01:14 PM | Please don't do that to yourself, you're not in love. Been there, done that. "Thought" I was in love with some guy I talked to over the phone (blind date!!), and we dated for a few months...it all ended up going straight to hell.
All I can say is...don't do it. Protect your heart, it's not worth it. You don't know this man, remember that. You're not in love, wake up! :D | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:34:02 PM | | People do this a lot, but is it really love you have never met this person. It is you in love with the idea of the person you are making in your head the longer the phone calls go on you mind fills in the blanks with things you want in there the longer till a meeting the more likely you will be disappointed. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:50:01 PM |
I entered into an intense, deep phone (not sexual) relationship with someone here. We talked for hours every night for a month. Then he got scared to meet in person (being only separated). Has anyone else fallen in love over the phone only? I am having a really hard time getting over this and was just wondering if it is really just infatuation. Thanks.
i'm sorry, vic x star, but all i can say in answer to your question is:
...no, no, no, no, N-O, NO.
obviously the dude's got issues -- he's either married or otherwise a mess -- obviously you cannot know a person unless you actually KNOW them, in real time, and real space.
so... NO: you CANNOT fall in love with someone over the phone. unless you are going to marry the phone itself, this is not possible.
better luck next time! and next time? meet the guy in person A LOT sooner. | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:11:47 PM | uhmm, yeah sure you can...
then you can make love, finally meet, get married have a child, then get divorced.
Not necessarily in that order...of course...a la carte...but u get the pix...
in some cases you don't even have to get married, meet, or have children.
this can be done all on the internet, kool huh?
~k/f | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:53:09 PM | I recently saw a story of a woman who fell in love with a man she met on the phone. They talked, emailed, IM'd, the guy sent her flowers, gifts etc...each time she brought up meeting each other, the guy had a reason not to, she had this "Love" relationship for over a year!
As it turns out, said guy was actually a teenage girl (and a few friends) playing a prank! True Story!
Ms vicxstar, respect yourself a bit more, for your own sake?!  | |
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| Can you fall in love over the phone?
Posted: 8/6/2009 2:05:28 AM | I have always said"Happiness is having something to look forward to"
We get excited at the prospect of meeting the person after talking to them on the phone.
They make you laugh, fill in empty spaces and lead you on.
It's not your fault, you are only human.
Some men just don't care about your feelings...........
It happened to me a couple weeks ago............ | |
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