| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/23/2009 2:56:18 PM |
we obviously had chemistry, i am not scary looking or anything and i really thought we hit it off. so why stand me up? and also why not leave a text or something like hey i cant make it tonight.?? that would have hurt way less. if you guys could help me understand i would totally appreciate it. thanks!!!
stressing out causes wrinkles.
join the club.
Yes even "I" got stood up once........ya I know *shocking*...she lived to regret it afterwards. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/23/2009 3:02:50 PM |
I had in a 1 month periode been stood up 5 times by different dates.
were you making sure there were day-of-date confirmation calls? don't leave home without 'em. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/23/2009 3:50:08 PM | | LMAO yes I did make sure there was a day/date confirmation. It was just a string of weirdos I suppose. After teh 2nd one I just kinda gave up on the thought that any man online would actually show up. Like I said, the bar maids and I had a blast over making bets. It was befor I had a cell phone, so if there was any distance of him having t drive to meet me here, well I just had figured he was on his way. Meh no big deal, taught me how to laugh at circumstances, and not take it to heart, ya know? | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/23/2009 4:44:04 PM | | OP - it happens to ALL of us who have tried online dating. This guy is as low as it gets. He has no manners, he has no class. Thankfully, you didn't have another minute invested with this moron. I can understand one not making it to a date if there is an emergency, they are dead, or in the hospital, but, if it is outside of that criteria, and there's no phone call, there will be no second chance. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/23/2009 5:09:48 PM | This happened to me also, my 'date' was a 50 year old psychologist from this site, we had been chatting for a couple of months but he always wanted to meet at my house and I refused. We had been chatting online when I finally convinced him to meet me for lunch one day, we talked on the phone for me to give him directions.... no show 1 hour later.
So as you see, they don't grow out of it...
Just move on, there are plenty more out there, some good, some not so good, just keep your chin up and your eyes wide open! | |
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Joined: 6/22/2009
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/24/2009 5:11:09 PM | There's no shortage of insecure or indecisive people out there. Try being stood-up after dating a guy for months. That's a real kicker.
It's best not to brood over the details, or put too much responsibility on yourself. Most of the time, the other person simply can't make-up their mind, or is too insecure to make their feelings clear about the situation. All you can do is shrug it off and move on. It's his loss. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:51:18 AM | once again i can't say it enough thankyou everyone for all the advice. seriously i have really appreciated it all.
now i definitely know what to do for next time. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/29/2009 4:46:13 PM | | I'm sorry for what has happened, as others have expressed the same remorse. I guess we all learn from it and move on. Definitely his loss from what I see. Keep your head up :-). | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/29/2009 4:50:47 PM | This has happened to me once also...Didnt get a answer why either...just got cold
feet...Move on... | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/29/2009 5:00:43 PM | Sharlena, be honest in who you are, that is all you can do. At some point during a conversation you may have said something, lighthearted or not, that gave him pause for thought and he has decided against meeting you. Did he handle it like a gentleman? No, but that is not something you should define yourself by, that is him.
Move foreward. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 7/29/2009 8:50:09 PM | | I want to thank you for your response to the woman who was stood up. I have to say I am surprised as a man you would give honest answers. Thank you. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 10/22/2009 10:30:33 PM | you know alot of us have experienced the same situation, and I think it's good for you to post about it because there is someone out there who feels it's only them... it can happen to anyone...
As for him???? who knows.... you would have your own book out selling millions if you had the answers... | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 10/22/2009 10:57:44 PM | Wow, way to go and bring up a 3 month old thread
Always look at the dates on posts. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/21/2009 10:21:51 PM | OP there's no explaining the reasons why the Dude did what he did...
But why did you?
I mean come on....first date, first meet and you phoned him 3 times?
Two too many.
If the guy didn't answer me at 6:00, there wouldn't have been a date, or the follow-up calls.
Count your chickens and don't phone him again.
And if he does pop back up with some lame ass excuse? Delete. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 7:38:26 AM | Call me Ginny wrote: There is likely nothing you could have done to make the outcome different, but a word of advice; I hope this never happens to you again, but if it should, make only ONE phone call. If he had a real emergency, one call tells you were concerned, more could look like you were so p*ssed he figures he blew it and since it was the all important first impression, he was out of luck. More than one call could make you look demanding or needy.
Um, Ginny, I assume he's not going to answer that 1 call, so where does your concern go then. He could be in hospital, seriously injured, in a coma, taken hostage, killed, arrested, thrown in jail. There is a myriad of reasons why your concern could be justified, but if you decide to make a call to ensure he's OK, and he doesn't answer - does that then validate your concern that he's OK.
I think if you make a call, you need to follow through with it and report them as a missing person. Get the cops to show up - and if they just stood you up, get the state to charge them for the police time. Maybe this would stop people standing others up, but probably not. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 10:16:17 AM | | i think its because since the internet is not an "in person" thing, many people feel they dont have to be held accountable for their actions. pretty sad. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 10:35:07 AM | | I was once stood up for a date to go to a Seattle coffee house. I waited around and some little kid ended talking my ear off about dirt biking while I was standing outside. Some people are just sketchy like that and will chance their minds at the last minute and stand you up. | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 2:14:07 PM | | wow dont worry, i do that sometimes because maybe he was shy to call you ot text you, and the real true he was not into you, if he really like you he dont wanted lose you and he would have call at least, move on and say next please lol. dont cry for gys and an advise , always have two candles light up in case one blow off, lol follow my advise will work and you will be less hurt for guys . | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 2:45:52 PM | Sharlena, if this guy didn't have enough class to text you or call you to say he couldn't make it, he's certainly not worth your while. It's his loss, not yours. You can do better. Perhaps he's hiding something, a signifigant other, a wife, and he's just playing games. You're better off without him.   | |
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| stood up on my first date.
Posted: 11/22/2009 3:58:37 PM | When I was fishing, if a date was arranged, my back-up plan was always to take myself out--watch the movie anyway, order at least a drink and an appetizer or whatever. That way if the gentleman hadn't shown up (can't say I've had it happen), I was not going to let it spoil my outing.
Heck, dressed up to be on a date...maybe fate steps in and you meet somebody.
In other words, if I'd been dealt lemons, I had sugar to make lemonade. | |
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