| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 7/21/2009 3:36:28 PM | Believe people when they tell you they dont want a relationship. If he thought you were the 'one' you'd know it!
Whether they say they are not ready...or anything else..the fact is, he doesnt want it with you. The only choice for you in this is: you stay and it just stays this way, or you leave and find a man who can give you more. | |
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| When he is honest...and sez he doesnt want a relationship, LISTEN.
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:02:40 PM | OP, you are very lucky in that your FWB told you upfront he wasn't looking for a relationship. He means it. His behavior underlines this statement. Allyou have to do is decide if you are willing to suffer a FWB situation when you really are looking for more from him.
You could leave now. Find a man who really wants you--all of you, not just your a$$. Your "mutual friends" do not care. They are watching you get used now and haven't said a word. Consider that when you make your decision as well:"Who, of my friends and BF/FWB is looking out for my happiness and welfare?" Then make your decision.
I think you won't see the answer unless you follow the "relationship" through to its imminent ugly finish. That's okay; some people learn better through experience (that's how I learned!) | |
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| When he is honest...and sez he doesnt want a relationship, LISTEN.
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:46:33 PM |
I think you won't see the answer unless you follow the "relationship" through to its imminent ugly finish. That's okay; some people learn better through experience (that's how I learned!)
well said heybird... few seek advice and take it, most seek advice hoping to hear what they want to hear and learn the hard way. | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:04:26 PM | | If it hasnt developed into what you desire to this point then it probably never will. You are wasting your time on this guy who seens to be using you. He realized that you were getting attatched and he didnt want to escalate the relationship but he also didnt want to lose his accasional nookie so he changed the game up a little to keep you hangin. I can only base my opinion on what you wrote but this is my opinion. | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:22:25 PM | | Ok so to me this just really sounds like friends with benefits, and there is nothing wrong with that if it's what you want. But if it were me I would just enjoy what you have going on right now, you don't want a relationship and he doesn't want one either so just go with it. What other side of you are you wanting to show? If it works don't question it that is when you start getting crazy about it. | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 9/15/2009 8:46:32 PM | I wouldn't...at least if he is anything like me, I am comitted to never getting married again, and have had to tell a few ladies that. Now i am no great catch so don't really understand why women have to latch on and set their hooks when it is clear that is not going to happen, but some do....
Good luck, But would move on if i were you unless you can handle just a dating experence with the guy and no promises for the future.
Take care,
Doug | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 10/24/2009 10:21:43 PM | | This happened to me once, I was seeing this guy for 18 months whiile in collge. He said all these wonderful things about me. When i was done with college I asked him " Where do I stand with him." He said " he did not a realtionship with me right now becase he was starting a new career. He said so many sweet things to me that made it sound like a relationship. It broke my heart when he said he did not a relationship, and he told me I was the only girl he was with. This was one of the reasons I moved 135 miles away from him, i had many reasons to move to Des moines and not stay in North east iowa. If he would said he wanted a relationship I would have stayed in North east iowa. I questioned if I was I was a booty call or what. I wanted so much more. i wished he would have grabbed me and held on to me. I honestly loved him. | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:53:09 AM | You said Blah blah blah blah. And I heard, Im totally head over heals with this dude, and if I hold out will he ever feel the same. The answer is No prolly not after all that time if he doesnt already (and he doesnt so it appears) he is perfectly happy with the way things are and you totally need to be honest with yourself. If I can see through that BS of you not being ready for a relationship then so can he!!!
^T^ | |
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| When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:17:20 AM | I haven't read all four pages of responses, but I am going to respond to this:
So my question here really was I know where we stand but I now see this guy as a potential boyfriend material and if it is still ok to get onto the right track with him or is it too late?
He already told you...he doesn't want a relationship. Take him at his word.
It's not too late, because there never was a right time. He's not stringing you along, you are. | |
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