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Posted: 7/25/2009 9:41:08 AM |
Thats not "forgetting to breed".
I understand the pain of pregnancy loss, but its no reason to take that out on young mothers.
I understand that, but remember that by making a comment like the one above, you can't much call someone else out for doing the same thing. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 10:12:54 AM |
I had my kids when I was young. I was turning 19 when I had my daughter. That's why:)
You look so young! You definitely don't look your age. I bet people think your grand children are your children sometimes. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 10:53:12 AM | | If memory serves me, Opie did have a child out of wedlock but put the child up for adoption...she can correct the record if I am wrong. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 2:46:06 PM |
I grew up a little bit when I had my son. I didn't completely grow up til I had my daughter. I started drinking when my son was about 2 and went down hill from there til I got pregnant with my daughter 2 years later. I very rarely drink anymore (2 twice in 2 years). I can't imagine my life without my children. I love my son dearly, but my daughter saved my life. I hate to think about where I'd be today if I hadn't had her... Just between us and the world I guess, she's the best mistake I ever made... Parents that got pregnant unexpectantly know what I mean...
Why did your daughter save your life but your son caused you to drink? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 3:22:44 PM | kids and drugs in ANY capacity is a horrible mix.
I have never allowed myself to be a single parent. It is against everything I believe in, a child deserves a mother and a father. I have never given a child up for adoption, but if I had ever been in a situation that warrented it, I would have done that absolutely and unselfishly.
I feel no need here to brag of my accomplishments nor to share my tragedies.
Sourness, my little line, " forgot to breed" is a lil joke I have for myself now that there are no longer any children in my life. you are out of line, however I expect no better from you sadly. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 3:54:19 PM |
Some drugs can still be detected a month after stoppage...
Or 6 months.
When a regular cannabis user stops ingesting/smoking, it can take up to around 6 months for the THC to work its way out of the persons blood system, depending on the amount of body fat they are carrying, as THC is stored in the fat cells- not blood cells. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 3:08:27 PM | | I had my son when i was 19 years old, hisa father did not want any thing to do with him and denied he was ever with me and so i had DNA done to prove i was not lying. My sons dad has not had any thing to do with my son who is now 16 years old and that is not through me not letting my son see his dad as i have always told him that he can go to see his dad when ever he wants. My son did try to get to know his dad on one occassion but that backfired and no my sin does not want any thing to do with him. Sad i know but i let my son make that choice for himself. I did not get one penny from his dad so i have brought my son up on my own all these years. I did have 2 longterm relationships, my first one ended after a couple of years and my son to this day calls my ex then dad and always will but the second one ended rather badly. Ive always put my son first and my ex did a good job at hiding his addictions from me. He liked the odd drink every now and again especially with his mates but i soon got to find out that he was on drugs, i first believed it was only weed he smoked until i found myself without money and food etc he was spending money on his habits. I took over the money as i got jobs to support me and my son, he was always in and out of work and to begin with i was giving him money until i realised one day what i was doing and stopped. I did love him so much so that i used always beg him to come back after we had a row or split up. Although my son got close to him he never once classed him as a father figure and i was always careful not to argue in front of him. I found out i was pregnant not long after we had split(my decision) and i thought i was doing the right thing by telling him as i believed he had the right to know, well after i told him he wouldnt leave me alone,he thought we could get back together because of the baby but i stood my ground and told him no. i lost the baby in the early weeks of pregnancy because of the stress he caused me. Ive remained single ever since and concentrated on bringing my son up on my own, its been nealry 7 years since i lost my baby and it was the last time i saw him, i was mentally tortured by him and losing a child although upsetting made me stronger and more of a better parent to my son. My exs habits caused him to be paranoid and i was accused of sleeping around etc so i can relate to many of you in a lot of ways. I am happy now and im obviously ready to date again but time will tell. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 3:28:42 PM | yungmomma----I understand how you 'felt' preg...I can't explain it...and unless you've experenced it, you can't understand it. I 'knew' the day after I got preg...how? A feeling...nothing that could be explained with words...It was something that only grew stronger with time. Back when I was preg. back in the early 80's....the preg. test's weren't as good as they are today...I had to take quite a few tests until the blood test proved I was preg with my one and only natural birthed child.
you are/were young---and with your age, babies are usually a second thought...My eldest is about your age, and both of her children were concived after the fact--her ex was a bum...would I trade my grand babies for anything in the world? NO WAY! Sometimes, what starts off as a bad situation, can turn into a wonderful blessing!
Enjoy your baby...steer clear of the spermdonor....he will only use his charms on you, and cause you more pain...
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Posted: 7/26/2009 4:37:23 PM | | HI, FIRST OF ALL I WANT TO COMMEND YOU ON WORKING SO HARD TO MAKE THE BEST LIFE POSSIBLE FOR YOUR SONS. I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO BE A SINGLE PARENT AS MY FIRST HUSBAND DIED YOUNG AND I WAS LEFT WITH OUR TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN THAT WE ADOPTED; ONE OF WHICH WAS A SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD. IT WAS A HEAVY LOAD BUT BY GOD'S GRACE, I MADE IT THRU AND YOU WILL TOO. SO DO BE ENCOURAGED, SMILES''''''''''''. YOU MENTIONED SOMETHING VERY IMPORTANT ABOUT YOUR BEING AN EMOTIONAL PERSON AND SOMETIMES THAT GETS YOU IN TROUBLES. ON THIS IDEA IS WHAT YOU SAID. YOU HAVE A TENDER HEART OR YOU WOULD NOT BE THIS WAY. I AM JUST LIKE YOU. I HAVE GREAT COMPASSION AND IT AT TIMES CLOUDS MY LOGICAL DECISION MAKING AS LOGIC DOES NOT HAVE FEELINGS. I HAVE A YOUNGER SISTER WHO IS SO LOGIC BUT HER COMPASSION IS NOT GREAT. SO, AS YOU KNOW YOU AND YOUR BOYS ARE WHO YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE BEFORE GOD TO PROTECT. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS MAN WILL ACT WHEN YOU SEE HIM AND WHETHER HE WILL HAVE DRUGS IN HIM OR NOT; THAT HE MIGHT BE VIOLENT, INSULTING OR WHATEVER ELSE HE MIGHT DO. YOUR SONS SEEING THIS, EVEN IF THEY ARE LITTLE, WILL REMEMBER AND THIS IS PUTTING THEM IN A SITUATION OF EMOTIONAL/MENTAL PAIN. YOU NEED TO NOT HAVE THIS DAD COME AND SEE HIM. YOU SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN UNLESS HE HAS PROVEN TO BE OFF DRUGS FOR AT LEAST ONE YEAR AND IS HOLDING A JOB AND IS RESPECTFUL OF YOU. EVEN IF YOU SET UP VISITATIONS AT DHS, AND HE DOES NOT SHOW UP, YOU ARE SETTING UP YOUR SON FOR GREAT DISAPPOINTMENT IF HE DOES NOT SHOW UP AND ALSO THE BOYS WILL HAVE ANGER UPON ANGER THAT HE DID NOT LOVE THEM TO SHOW UP. PLEASE''''''''''''''DO NOT''''''''''''''''PUT YOUR LOVELY CHILDREN THRU THIS. YOUR BOYFRIEND IS AN ADULT AND HE HAS TO TAKE THE CONSEQUENCES FOR HIS BEHAVIOR. WHAT YOU CAN DO IS SEND THE BOYFRIEND PICTURES ONCE IN A WHILE OF THE BOYS. BUT DO NOT LET THE BOYS TALK TO HIM ON THE PHONE AS THEY WILL WANT TO SEE HIM. I KNOW THIS IS HARD AS WE ALL WANT A DAD TO RAISE OUR CHILDREN. BUT THE REALITY OF LIFE IS IT IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE. SO WHAT DO YOU DO? YOU GET SOME GOOD MEN YOU KNOW: PERHAPS A BROTHER, A COUSIN, A FRIEND'S BROTHER, SOMEONE IN CHURCH, MEN WHO WILL BE GOOD TO YOUR SON AND THEY WILL BECOME FOR THEM GOOD EXAMPLES OF WHAT A DAD IS AND YOUR SONS WILL HAVE FUN, BE SAFE. WHAT HAPPENED TO ME IS A COUPLE FROM MY CHURCH WAS FROM IRELAND AND THEY WOULD TAKE MY SON FOR THE WEEKEND AND A COUPLE WHO HAD HORSES TOOK MY DAUGHTER FOR THE WEEKEND AS THEY HAD A TEENAGE DAUGHTER. SO THIS IS HOW YOU SHOULD DO IT; BEST WAY FROM MY EXPERIENCE. IF SOMEDAY YOU FIND THAT THIS BOYFRIEND HAS REALLY CHANGED BY HIS ACIONS THEN YOU COULD SEE HIM FIRST AND TAKE IT FROM THERE. BUT IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT WILL HAPPEN IN A MONTH. WHAT YOU SHOULD BE CONCENTRATING ON IS WHAT YOU ARE DOING: BEING THE BEST MOM AND SEEKING YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP WITH THE lORD. IF YOU CONFESS OF YOUR SINS AND REPENT AND ASK JESUS TO BE YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR AND GET INTO A BIBLE STUDYING CHURCH AND A WOMEN'S PRAYER GROUP YOU WILL GOD IN YOUR LIFE AND YOUR CHILREN WILL HAVE GODLY MEN TO HAVE AS EXAMPLES AND YOU WILL HAVE WOMEN FRIENDS TO ENCOURAGE YOU ALWAYS AND PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. THEN, WHEN YOU ARE RIGHT BEFORE AND WITH GOD, GOD WILL SEND YOU A MAN WHO LOVES THE LORD WHO WILL BE A GODLY HUSBAND AND DAD TO THE BOYS. THIS IS HOW GOD CREATED A FAMILY. JESUS IS THE HEAD OF OUR HOMES WHEN THE HUSBANDS AND DADS DO NOT WANT TO TAKE THEIR RIGHT PLACE IN THE HOME. I HOPE ALL OF THIS WILL ENCOURAGE YOU MIGHTILY'''''. I KNOW YOU HAVE TO GRIEVE FOR NOW HAVING A DAD IN THE HOUSE BUT AS I SAID,YOU WILL HAVE MEN AS GREAT ROLE MODELS FOR YOUR SONS AND YOU WILL APPRECIATE WHAT ALL THESE MEN AND WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WILL DO FOR YOU ALSO. TRUST GOD; HE IS FAITHFUL AND ABLE TO BLESS YOU MIGHTILY AND HE WILL TAKE CARE OF ALL YOUR NEEDS'''''''''''', SMILES. SMILES4444 | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 9:34:50 PM | I agree with Bosox.. :)
Hey, we agree on something without having to travel a road to get there.. hehehe..  | |
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