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Posted: 7/22/2009 2:22:29 PM | OPie, I realize you are trying really hard to get a rise out of me .... did I strike a nerve in you when I wrote what I wrote about how people who are frequently under attack by many different posters might want to take a look at how they come across in the posts? | |
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| Time for a showdown with the negative ones...
Posted: 7/22/2009 2:30:33 PM | You know...I don't think I have ever been called out for being mean, rude, unnecessarily blunt or anything along those lines. And I've been on this and many other forums for a long time. So I think Soul, you might just have something there! Or maybe people are just mistaking rudeness for honesty? You know you can be polite and honest....
example:
Rude- you need to keep your legs shut!
Honest- Maybe you shouldn't be so ready to jump into a physical relationship.
Same point. One rude...one not. The poster you would be referring to is more then likely going to read and consider the one less harsh. The first one they will just blow you off as an A$$hole. So if, in fact, any of you are truly wanting to get your point across to these people then maybe you should consider not coming off like well....an a$$hole. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 2:30:51 PM | umm, ok, thought you were going to ignore me, guess you just could not control yourself?
I loved be attacked, it makes me feel all special and stuff.
But, a bit more seriously, what others think of me is non of my bizness | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 3:01:34 PM |
A THINKING person knows when being rudely blunt will get his/her point across, and when to soft-sell the message.
Most people aren't really in listening/receptive mode when they are on the defense though so how does that factor in? If the intention of anyone giving advice is to advise and be heard, then wouldn't it be a logical thing to start with the soft-sell and gradually move to the clubbin' over the head approach when the soft-sell isn't doing it? I've seen that work wonders in these threads over the years.....
Some folks do post threads for the purpose of getting validation only and need the old fashioned smack upside their head, I agree. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 3:09:52 PM |
m church....I thought men liked to see women fighting, or is that only when women are fighting over you? Over the years, I've seen both...
I've seen two women have a knife fight... a few bar cat fights... and had two women fight over me....
Nope.... a verbal battle just doesn't cut it for me.... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 3:55:03 PM |
Looking at the bickering going on between you women is enough to put men off women completely.... Give it a rest....
Yeah your right, it's getting stupid. I'm not taking the high road and bowing out, I'm just done here. There will never be a concensus.
"There is no conversation more boring than the one where everybody agrees." | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 3:56:50 PM | Just like the other threads, it seems like there are people that think if they keep posting the same thing over and over it will make it true. It doesn't.
You can be a good parent at any age. Age doesn't make a good parent.
Some parents are better off being single than in a relationship. Some parents shouldn't be parents at any age.
Some people had really crappy parents and don't have a balanced perspective on how to raise children, they go to the other extreme because of what has happened to them.
More money doesn't make for a better parent, more love certainly does help though.
Your children represent the kind of parent you are most of the time or the children represent the kind of person you are. Amazing how anyone can criticize someone else's parenting style when they can't help someone they claimed to love's children.
Being a single parent doesn't mean that the father is good or bad, that the mother is good or bad. There are both types of parents that should or shouldn't be in their children's lives.
Being a single parent doesn't mean that you are stupid or that you would do something so stupid as to stop living your life because you had a child(ren). Children are part of you and you should have them as part of your life. Not all should have children in their lives and that means sometimes the one parent should not be any where near the children.
Some times parents die.
Some times parents go to jail.
Many reasons for both parents not being in a child's life.
Generalizing is crap.
This is an adult site regardless of the age of the person googling. If you want to post your answers for children, maybe you should be on a children's site. The child googling should have their parent monitoring them, it isn't your responsibility. They also can look up things like cupping etc. if they don't have parents aware of what they are doing.
As posters it isn't our responsibility to post to provide information to children, but to the OP's question. That is when things get derailed, when people go off the OP's actually question and twist and turn the subject to get on their soap box to make their stand known again and again and again...
If you see a duplicate thread or stupid why don't women date men with kids etc., click delete as redundant or report it! | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 4:57:31 PM |
Your children represent the kind of parent you are most of the time or the children represent the kind of person you are.
this couldn't be more true... but wow after seeing all the narrow minded, overly judgmental, only on the forums to bicker and argue with others because they differ in opinions, the list of negative personality traits could continue, posters on here..... its remarkably clear many of those who frequent the single parents forum must have parents that would give ya nightmares.... maybe some of them ought to look in the mirror before continuing their pointless tyrates (sp) against one another. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 5:34:04 PM |
this couldn't be more true... but wow after seeing all the narrow minded, overly judgmental, only on the forums to bicker and argue with others because they differ in opinions, the list of negative personality traits could continue, posters on here..... its remarkably clear many of those who frequent the single parents forum must have parents that would give ya nightmares.... maybe some of them ought to look in the mirror before continuing their pointless tyrates (sp) against one another.
"Oho!' said the pot to the kettle;
"You are dirty and ugly and black!
Sure no one would think you were metal,
Except when you're given a crack."
"Not so! not so! kettle said to the pot;
" 'Tis your own dirty image you see;
For I am so clean -without blemish or blot-
That your blackness is mirrored in me" | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 6:02:54 PM | ok, I am a bit more rested after my nap, may I speak now?
The OP did not put much thought into the naming of this thread, A showdown is a confrontation., and in this one we will never all agree.
So much for those who claim the high road, how long did that last?
In RL I never use terms like "keeping it real", "you go girl", "your rock" , etc. I am not known for being PC either.
I rarely bother taking much time and thought in web world, as I am the worlds slowest typist. So I can be quite blunt.
When I am good, I am very very good, when I am bad , I am better, or horrible. Take your choice. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 6:04:47 PM |
Rude- you need to keep your legs shut!
Honest- Maybe you shouldn't be so ready to jump into a physical relationship.
The honest person will get more flack here than the rude one, as witnessed repeatedly. Honest will become synonymous with rude.
Most people aren't really in listening/receptive mode when they are on the defense though so how does that factor in? If the intention of anyone giving advice is to advise and be heard, then wouldn't it be a logical thing to start with the soft-sell and gradually move to the clubbin' over the head approach when the soft-sell isn't doing it? I've seen that work wonders in these threads over the years.....
I must have missed the threads where this happened. I haven't seen any light bulbs come on around here in the past few weeks. Whenever anyone has been proved wrong, I haven't seen anything other than a thread dying, without the person who provided the facts being recognized at all.
Some folks do post threads for the purpose of getting validation only and need the old fashioned smack upside their head, I agree.
Who are you agreeing with? What are these posters seeking validation of? If clubbing doesn't work for people, why would a smack on the head work? | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 7:11:08 PM | 
I hope that's enough rounds for everyone.
I have to get back to my street lights soon. The one think that I learned in my Business Writing course is put the bottom line on top. Say what you have to say, and keep it simple. If people don't like it so be it, however, we need to be receiptive to when we're wrong. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 9:14:19 PM |
I haven't seen any light bulbs come on around here in the past few weeks. Whenever anyone has been proved wrong, I haven't seen anything other than a thread dying, without the person who provided the facts being recognized at all.
I've noticed that too... Logic is often the death knell of a thread... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:08:31 PM |
m church....I thought men liked to see women fighting, or is that only when women are fighting over you
There is a difference between mud wrestling and two woman (or more) bickering over nothing. I think that the OP has proven a point with his thread.
I'm going back to getting ready for my flight off this planet that is about to self-destruct. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 5:00:32 AM | ::A ninja appears in a swirling cloud of smoke. His appearance is black from head to toe, weapons strapped all over his body, his hand forming mystic sygils.... and several strings of brightly colored beads around his neck::
Ninja say:
Forum ninja know how to party! Still got it! Ninja went on vacation.
Lots of girls. They take shirts off and shake around for throwing spikes.
Good times.
Bosox woman still has my Ninja bondage rope. There are other geishas in the life of a Ninja. Bosox woman should stop stealing one's Ninja fun-toys and weapons.
This ninja looked for LB-monster-woman and could not see it? Is it hiding? The she-monster believes only men are evil... but both men and women can become ninja, fight, and love. Why does whether one squat or stand to piss have anything to do with the rotation of the cosmos. This ninja finds no sense in the monster's ramblings.
Or is there no food her for it? It does seem to enjoy tongue wagging at men - and making excuses for very un-ninja actions.
This thread has none of that. Perhaps that is why the LB monster is not doing battle!
::Forum Ninja seems to notice the beads around his neck for the first time. Looks visibly embarassed::
That is all!
::Ninja vanish!:: | |
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| Time for a showdown with the negative ones...
Posted: 7/23/2009 10:42:43 AM |
Bosox woman still has my Ninja bondage rope. There are other geishas in the life of a Ninja. Bosox woman should stop stealing one's Ninja fun-toys and weapons.
Come get your poptarts and we'll talk. Also, give me back my Samurai sword. What's mine isn't yours!
Jerk!  | |
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