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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:46:09 PM | | Disagree. My stepdad felt that animals belonged outside, didn't need any human companionship, only needed to be fed regularly. For his family and those he considers friends, he is one of the most committed, honorable, caring and kind people I know. He never speaks his ethics or feelings, its just the way he lives his life. How he treats animals under his care is entirely different than how he treats people under his care. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 5:33:13 PM |
Treatment of animals is a really good indicator of one's ability to show others empathy, respect, love, etc....and their own ability to receive and accept affection.
I tend to agree. Although, not everyone likes pets, or different species of animals, so it's not exactly a science to judge people by how they interact with animals.
But I think you can tell quite a bit about people by the way they treat their pets, and the priority the pets have in their lives. Some people are off the deep end and actually humanize pets.
An animal's behaviour towards the owner is also very indicative of how the animal is treated when there's no audience. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 5:45:00 PM | How someone treats their pets definitely has an effect on what I'd expect of them.
The people that I've met, who said that they don't like dogs (except for someone that may base that on a previous negative experience) all seemed to have problems giving and accepting emotions. Someone saying that they don't like animals would be a deal breaker for me.
The treatment in general shows a lot about their capacity for compassion or lack thereof.
I've also found that people that never set any boundaries for their animals tend to have a difficult time saying 'no' to people as well. Kind of a push over. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 5:50:43 PM | I haven't ever dated anyone who had pets but I would think the indications of how one treats the following is similar:
1. His mother
2. His children
3. His exwife
4. His sisters
5. His pets.
I DO judge the men I bring into my life by how they treat MY dog. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 5:51:16 PM | | Also, some treat animals humanely but see them as just that: animals. I know people in rural areas who have work dogs they keep in large pens outside. The dogs are very well cared for (they're quite an investment) but they aren't considered "family pets" that come into the house. They're working dogs and are treated more like one would treat a horse or a cow. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 6:18:01 PM | i maintain that you can determine quite a bit about an entire society by how it treats animals.
and, yes, that applies to individuals as well. for example, anyone who goes up in an airplane with the express purpose of shooting as many animals as possible most definitely has a screw loose. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 6:21:30 PM | gourmetchef[[[i think its a direct coorelation. have you seen how cute my poodle is?? LOL...she gets her bath, hair done (bikini cut), nails painted, bows and scarf..costs me $80 a pop...but i do it because i love her and she loves me back. Now if i could only find a woman that would appreciate me...lol..]]]
I hear ya. If I could find a guy who loves me half as much as my dog does!I display my beautiful poodle Bentley on my profile picture with me. He's such a pleasure. He eats everything I put in front of him, and never complains when my girlfriends come over...lol. I'm a dog groomer, so he gets his haircuts for free.
As for animal cruelty...I have no understanding of this kind of behavior,or the **stards that do it.
I also would not expect any guy to compete with my dog. Bentley would have to take second place. Did I say that? | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 6:49:07 PM | I thought I had heard it all, until now.
Judging someone by the way they treat their animals is about as stupid as starting a fire with water.
Let me tell you about someone I know.
This man hunted, and when his dogs done what they were supposed to do, trained to do they were rewarded.
But when the dogs didnt do what they were supposed to do, or barked in the pens at night they got whipped.
And I dont mean just a tap, I mean to the point of the dogs yelping like they were dying.
I hunted with this person when I was younger and at times when I would see this I would even cry and feel sorry for these dogs.
I wvwn seen this man sprinkle the dogs with pellets from a shotgun.
This man, if a dog wasnt any good at what is was bred to do he would dispose of the dogs instead of selling to someone knowing they were not any good.
The dogs were watered and fed daily, but they were not walked daily, didnt have human communication daily, they stayed in a pen year round.
By todays standards as animal rights groups would have it, it was animal abuse.
According to all of you here this man should have been the type of person who hit his children, screamed and yelled at his wife, and that would be only if he spent time with then.
Just a bad person all together according to the way you say someone treats animals and humans the same.
Now let me tell you how this man treated people.
when he and his wife married and had 4 children of their own, they adopted 4 children who lived down the street after their mom died and dad was a alcoholic and couldnt keep them.
Fought for over 2 years to gather these kids back together after the state sent 2 to south ga, and 2 to texas.
While raising 8 kids now, several times a friend or relative had hard times and needed a place to stay and were welcomed into his house.
I know of 5 that stayed with him and his family, some for months and some years.
This man worked everyday and side jobs a night so his family would be took care of, never taking vacations or buying for himself because he was afraid something would happen to him and the family left behind would be without.
This man would see a stranger having troubles and offer any help he could.
This man wouldnt raise his voice to anyone, unless you were talking about or threatening his family and those he loved.
This man taught his children, and his grandchildren right from wrong.
He taught them things like morals, honesty, respect, compassion.
To treat people the way you wanted to be treated, to be a good neighbor and a true friend.
This man talked the talk and certainly walked the walk.
This man, while on his dying bed cried and said, who will watch over momma and the kids..(his youngest kid was 38)
Had no thoughts for himself while dying, just worried about his family.
I call BS on the assuption you can judge a person by the way they treat animals.
I saw this man and how he at times treated animals, and I also saw how he treated his family and friends for he was my father.
He passed away almost a year ago now, and he was by far the most caring,honest and fair person I have ever met. (to humans)
Not because he was my dad, but because it is true.
most people know the differance between a animal and a human, and will treat each accordingly.
And then there are some that think animals should have rights like humans.
But I will tell you what you can judge someone by.
How much they talk and judge other people, seems there is alot of that goes on here on POF.
I hope I can raise and teach my kids some of what he taught me. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:00:14 PM | I'd been on the road for 22 years visiting people in all walks of life....and never had a dog or cat that didn't want to climb into my briefcase...
And I've always had animals that loved me and visa versa...
I really don't know what theat say's about me.....but, I do know that I judge people by how they treat their animals....and how their animals react to the owner.. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:15:44 PM | I call BS on the assumption you can judge a person by the way they treat animals.
Come on now.....we all have our own way of judging people......I don't think anyone here is saying this is the ONLY way we make up our minds about others.....
The fact that you remember how he beat and shot at those dogs and mistreated them just shows that that experience left some kind of scar/bad memory with you.....he obviously was a good person, I'm not saying he wasn't...but you know what he did to those dogs was NOT RIGHT. There's also people that go to church every time the doors open, pay their taxes, etc and yet they go home and beat their wives and kids.
No one is saying to treat animals as humans. Yes, some people do go overboard, but I think the basic human nature is to care for those who can't care for themselves....and that includes the defenseless and those who can't speak for themselves.
No, I'm not a member of PETA...and I'm not a vegetarian.....just have a huge soft spot for animals. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:22:55 PM | looptex1 I have no doubt your father was a good person. I have seen the way people treat hunting dogs and sorry but it is just awful. I also know that dispose of a dog, means to kill it. I am also glad that there are people who at least attept to save these "no good dogs".
The way I see it, we are meant to be the most intellegent animal and as a result we are meant to be the care takers of the rest. Of course I can tell the difference from a human and other animals. It is very simple, humans don't always respond to kindness with kindness. With other animals if you are good to them, they will be good to you. Other animals are more loyal than humans. Yes the difference is very clear to me.
I could not be with a man that was not kind to other animals. If my cats don't like you, then it won't work. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:28:32 PM | Countrygal, no it didnt leave scars or anything of the sort.
I was young and very tender hearted and I just felt for the dogs.
I didnt understand.
After training sever dogs of my own, I understand.
And also realize that what hurts me and you a animal doesnt even feel because of the skin..
But that is another story all together..
And yes I realize that isnt the only way people judge, but what I get from this thread is just that.
If these posters on this thread see your animal get a whipping or your animal didnt act just right there were running for the door.. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:29:59 PM | OP: A person that has/loves animals is a good indicator that they are empathetic, caring, nurturing, etc....towards animals, and typically with others. I have had to end a relationship because the man did not want my four-legged kids in his "space".
I was floored, as he wanted to be in a LTR with me, but my dogs aren't going anywhere anytime soon unless they go to Doggy Heaven. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:42:30 PM | OP,
Your analogy is a good one. Having two dogs and a parrot, it is essential that whoever I go out with likes animals. If they really adore pets than even better! . Sometimes I will bring one of my dogs with me on a date if we have coffee outside. My dogs can be a good judge of character and then I can see if the guy really likes pets. One date I had kept pushing my dog away..he didn't like the dog hair on him. No problem but if you go out with me you can't be squeamish about that. Even though I keep a clean home I do have long haired dogs and it is unavoidable at times. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:45:35 PM | OK, I have a feeling I'm going to get some flack for this, but once I dated a guy who knew I did animal rescue. Once he came over and started b!tching non-stop about the cats getting on his car....I told him I knew a good way to stop that.....don't come back.
Sounds harsh, but the cats were there first and they were my life's work. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:52:49 PM | bcsofnc57, II understand and admit that alot of people go overboard with their ways of traing, and yes sometimes I would even say it is abuse that another way of training is needed.
As for dispose of meaning kill, yes you are right. It does mean to kill them.
What you do not understand is this.
Hunting dogs are bred to hunt, that is what they love to do. It isnt fair to the dog to just be put up in a pen or in a house when it gets is pleasure from hunting.
Now there is dogs that enjoy just sitting around, but if you have been around many hunting dogs you can tell when they are the happiest.
There is so many dogs bred each year, not only by hunting dogs, but by show dogs and just people wanting to have a puppy.
This doesnt even take into account all the strays that are roaming the neighborhood and breeding.
As for the hunting dogs, no hunter is going to take a hunting dog that isnt any good.
So now you have several choices.
you give the dog to someone that doesnt hunt and the dog never gets to live the life that it was bred to live.
It is sitting in a house or a pen miserable, wishing it was out hunting.
Or you take it to the animal shelter, where we all know that 90 percent of them are put to sleep because of people not choosing them.
Or you dispose of them at a young age.
I know this sound harsh, but in reality it is a good thing..
It would take several pages to explain how and why culling is a good thing.
As for your cats liking me, I have never had a cat like me. Why? I dont know, but I have come across very few dogs that didnt.. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 7:53:08 PM | ^^^^I agree with you minmickless......how can an animal not feel but yet yelp when it's hit or abused??????? crazy thinking.....
I'm in no way a violent person, but witnessing animal abuse is one thing that I think could make me violent pretty quickly.
<div class='quote'> you give the dog to someone that doesnt hunt and the dog never gets to live the life that it was bred to live.
Since when did we, as humans, start determining the "life a dog was meant to live"? You honestly are saying that you don't care about killing a dog that you consider "no good" but yet you care about if they are "happy" or not if they are just "laying around" all day?????? OMG....just wow. | |
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