| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 5:49:35 PM | I think you are right in some ways. On the other side of the coin there are many people with houses, cars, and lots of material things and they are going broke or are broke after paying on all the necessities. We live in society to where spending is endorsed over saving money. And sometimes the material wants can carry over into a relationship or possible mate. It is like that when you have all of those credit cards it gives you a sense of buying power but it is really like racking up the federal deficit and going into more debt. You are right in that material objects or anything related to that matter shouldn't be used as compensation. I never got the mentality that a woman used me to buy her coffee or dinner. If anything I offered to buy her coffee or pay for her dinner so it was my choice to do so. I think golddiggers should not be blamed on the women all the time but men are just as guilty. Money is like water or food without it you cannot survive because you have to have money to have a roof over your head, pay the bills, and eat. If a person feels that they have nothing to offer anyone then they should not be dating at all in the first place.   | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:37:50 PM | Errrr,
With my current g/f.
Supported her and the meth daughter and son in law.
What a life I have! hahahahaha | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:38:56 PM | | blah, blah, blah, blah. I have a car and job, but want to get rid of car because I want to experience life without it, unless my job moves I guess. Who cares if you have to pick up a date, stop ****ing about meaningless crap. You will never be happy if you dont get angry | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:03:31 PM | To WomanInProgress, if you took offense to my none named post, that iswas not my intention.
To everyone else, especially those who may know what I am writing about:
Sure, if a person does not have a job dating might not be the first priority, but don't people say that to single mom's and dad's twho work too. Dating is NOT a priority in any respect. When it becomes that, well you guess it, it becomes a job. No wonder there are so many single people out there.
My dad was a jobless Vietnam Vet who even though he had served his country, could not find a job. He moved from Puerto Rico to New York to California where he met my mother. She was not jobless, and she was going to school working on her masters. They fell inlove anyways, dating cheaply, going to free open air concerts, and guess what? They got married, and within the time they were seeing each other, he did finally get a job, and he was able to help her out while she finished school. They would still be together if she had not died from some horrible cancer that ate her from the inside out.
My advice is that nothing in life is ever what it seems, and that grabbing life by the horns whether you have money or not is the best way to go.
It is fine and dandy for those who will not give another person a chance due to every reason Heaven and Hell can throw at you, but never expect another person to just bow down and take it. Poor or rich, we humans are too strong for that co | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:06:25 PM |
But a woman that specifies a man must a certain kind of car or high-end car and top paying job?
Haha. This reminded me of "Coming To America", where the random woman insist that she won't date a guy unless he drives a BMW.
I do agree that if she's requesting that a guy drives a certain car, or he must have this type of job, she probably is a golddigger more than likely.
Stating that someone must have a vehicle, and a job is not golddigging in the least bit. At least not the way I see it.
These type of people obviously have themselves together, and they don't want to be someones personal taxi, or being the one to always pay every time the two of you step out.
It makes total sense. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:33:22 PM | Actually, flashy car, house and lifestyle are things that I would NOT want in a guy per se, simply because it shows he is either wasteful or irresponsible with his money. Bigger houses and pricier cars are more expensive to maintain, and if I get involved I'm going to have to deal with repairs to said items too, even if its just his complaining about it til the next payday. Dont need it. Just evidence that he is self sufficient.
Its one thing to truly appreciate quality, to spend money for the sake of it is entirely another. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 12:34:06 AM | | I have 2 jobs and a car and it hasnt helped me in dating. That said, guys....you need a job before you can date!! | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:26:27 AM | I love the way women jump on threads like this and always try to explain their gold digging actions.
But what really gets me going is how Butt licking guys post posts that glorify the gold diggers LOL! I can just see them having two POF windows open at the same time clicking back and forth to see what gold digger has viewed his profile!!
Oh you spineless sorry sons of daughters.
What the hell has happened to us men I ask you? Did your balls drop off?
I mean are you guys so unable to get a girl with out acting like their good little chiwawa?
And you women who call us all financially irresponsible beggars need to understand that (Drum Roll Please!) Your on a free dating site!!
If any of you women who have cars, money and all that financially responsible stuff were not absolutely terrible people you would have a date!!! You would have a man! And you would not be explaining yourself or putting car-less men down on a Gold Diggers site!!
Get over yourselves. Your on Mad TV's "Lowered Expectations" Babes!
TA!!
Izzy. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 2:57:06 AM | OH HOW I LOVE THIS..I RECENTLY HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE WITH WHOM I THOUGHT WAS MY NEW
LOVE OF MY LIFE FROM PLENTY OF FISH, PACKED UP EVERYTHING I OWNED AND MOVED TO WISCONSIN, QUIT MY WONDERFUL JOB, HE INSISTED I DIDN'T NEED ANY OF MY HOUSEHOLD ITEMS (WHICH HE CONDONED BECAUSE MOST OF MY FURNITURE WAS GIVEN TO ME BY FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND FROM YARD SALES) ..OUR RELATIONSHIP LASTED 6 WEEKS, HE DECIDED "HE" WASN'T HAPPY SO HE SENT ME BACK PACKING, COMING BACK HOME WITH NOTHING, NO MONEY, NO FURNITURE, THANK GOD I KEPT MY CAR SO I COULD GO BACK TO WORK..AND THEN HE SENT AN EMAIL STATEING I WAS A "GOLD DIGGER B----!HE GAVE ME NOTHING, I ASKED FOR NOTHING, I WAS SELF SUPPORTING BEFORE I MET HIM, AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, "HE" MADE THE DECISION HE PAID FOR THE UHAUL TO GET ME BACK TO MY HOMETOWN, HIS CHOICE..TO CALL ME A GOLD DIGGING B....WAS TOTALLY UNNECESSARY, I ASKED FOR NOTHING BUT THE "LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP" I WAS LOOKING FOR ON P.O.F. NAME CALLING WASN'T NECESSARY, PRETTY HEARTLESS IF U ASK ME I THOUGHT MAYBE HE FOUND YOUR LINE AND USED IT AS A STAB ONE MORE TIME...IT CAUGHT MY EYE WHEN I WAS READING FORUMS...I SEEK NOTHING FROM P.O.F. EXCEPT WHAT MY PROFILE READS JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE TRYING TO FIND THEIR SOLEMATE..MAY GOD SEE FIT TO FORGIVE HIM FOR HIS HEARTLESS CHOICE OF WORDS TOWARD WOMAN ...HE WAS DEFINITELY NOT P.O.F. MATERIAL.....THATS NOT WHAT THIS SITE IS ALL ABOUT...ITS CAREING PEOPLE TRYING TO FIND THEIR SOLEMATES FOR LIFE, NOT A SITE FOR NAME SLINGING AND BASHING ON WOMEN (OR MEN).. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 3:10:23 AM | Hello SHENADOWA,
THATS NOT WHAT THIS SITE IS ALL ABOUT...ITS CAREING PEOPLE TRYING TO FIND THEIR SOLEMATES FOR LIFE, NOT A SITE FOR NAME SLINGING AND BASHING ON WOMEN (OR MEN)..
How On earth could you give the most stomach churning, heart breaking, most terrible story I've ever in my life heard only to still be on this site.....*Facepalm*
OH MY GOD!
Seriously Hon, what is wrong with you.
How? Why?
Look at what happened to you, and you want me to agree that the people on this site are about soul mates and love?
I wish you luck in life Girl, your going to need it.
TA!!
Izzy.
P.S. I was not taking about all women, any girl who does what you did is not a gold digger and that guy was a total douchebag. But I will not tolerate any woman calling me a bum. Sorry you got caught in the crossfire. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 5:06:43 AM | | Who gives a shit about having a job or not... Everybody's got the right enjoy him/herself in life and it shouldn't depend on a job, especially not now in times like these. Besides, a job only steals your life anyway and won't leave much time for dating or other interests for that matter. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 5:08:36 AM |
Who gives a shit about having a job or not... Everybody's got the right enjoy him/herself in life and it shouldn't depend on a job, especially not now in times like these. Besides, a job only steals your life anyway and won't leave much time for dating or other interests for that matter.
I almost want to agree with that post, seriously.
But before you know it, you'll be charged for the air you breathe. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 7:56:45 AM | No I'm definitely not a gold digger. I am content with my own money and personal belongings.
The problem with no job/no car is they lay around all day waiting for someone else to support them. Then we end up carting them around everywhere. I know through past experiences.
Yup, my back hurts, I have pinched nerves, yet I'll go out and work 12 hours a day, why can't he? | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:16:15 AM |
A car & job? Dang she must really be poor if that's all the gold digging she is looking for!
That was along the lines of what I tend to think when I see this "must have car and job" criteria prominently displayed in a woman's profile, namely that she comes from such a low social milieu that all she commonly meets are guys who are so far down in economic status that merely having a car/job (any car/job, to take things at face value) puts the guy up near the top of the heap.
Within that context she's certainly being blatantly money and status conscious, but it's more the level at which she's at which reflects poorly on her (in my estimation) than the fact of her being money and status conscious itself. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:23:46 AM | Perhaps we need to define just what a gold digger is.
In my mind it would be a man/woman that expects the man/woman to provide everything while he/she provides little or nothing in return, be it present and/or future. If he/she is in school at the present but has full intentions of making the best of that education once completed he/she is not a gold digger, but laying the foundation for a secure future. A carrier student on the other hand is a gold digger.
A gold digger is someone that takes with no intention of ever giving anything back. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:24:43 AM |
To WomanInProgress, if you took offense to my none named post, that iswas not my intention.
Not at all, I didn't think you were referring to me specifically, but I did want to clarify what I meant by what I said based on your post.
Who gives a shit about having a job or not... Everybody's got the right enjoy him/herself in life and it shouldn't depend on a job, especially not now in times like these. Besides, a job only steals your life anyway and won't leave much time for dating or other interests for that matter.
That's great if you don't enjoy working and don't like what you do when you are working. If you do like to work and enjoy it when you do what you like to do, you tend to not be in a good frame of mind for much of anything when you're not working. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:54:08 AM | | Well I dont own a car, dont see the need in most cases- I either bike where I need, or take public transit. While I do have a job its a low end crappy job- but what do you expect? id rather be in college then an actual job right now =/ | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 5:09:21 AM | As for the car, I don't care if somebody does not have a car, as long as they can function without it. If they can get where they need to be without expecting things from others, cool.
As for the job. Again - as long as you get money from something, cool. This excludes people who get money from benefits or parents and doing absolutely nothing for it and have no ambitions for themselves. And this is not in the slightest because I want anything from them. I just dont have anything in common with such people and I could not respect their lifestyle choices. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 1:04:33 PM | this subject makes me angry...here we go again with your street bums if you dont have a job and women have prefrences..ok great i can agree but we have still forgot about what a relationship is. **** the media has done a number on alot of people, what if you connected with someone and they made you happy would you not be with them because of their status?? i know we have prefrences, so do i, but my 2 cents is both partners should be looking at the qualities that make a relationship not what your situation in life is. if the person is trying their very best but getting nowhere do we look down on them? or if they are doing well should they be the only ones allowed to enter your life? im not here to start anything but when a profile becomes a resume then id have a red flag..but i do hope people have success on here whatever status you have in life  | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:01:44 PM | I am not a gold digger. If I have to work, I expect him to work. I have dated some losers in the past that did not have a car or worked and wanted me to pay for everything. I was a single mother and worked two to three jobs and not receiving child support so I don't want to hear from a man that he hates to pay child support, he helped put kids on this Earth so help out financially. I have met men that have had clunkers for cars, no big deal, I used to drive one but some were only working part time jobs or no jobs at all. What I hate worse is being used and I have a conscious and couldn't do that to someone else. I have also run across men that told me I didn't make enough money even though he didn't know how much I made, I guess I was driving a clunker, does that make him a Gold Digger or Mooch?
Since my divorce, I realize now that I was used to help the ex pay his ex-wife off and get his credit back on track since I had better credit than he did even though he made more money.
Perfect example my daughter a high school drop out but received her GED was with a doctor who had no credit and depended on my daughter who had a high credit score to purchase the house, car, boat, and furniture. Needless to say she has everything in her name when they split she took some college coarses and found a high paying job making more than he does and he is still struggling unless his parent's help pay for everything. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:09:10 PM | | This is in regards to SHENADOWA, If I ever moved across country to live with a man I would have found a job before moving in with him and if I had found a job I would have put my furniture in storage, just in case. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:39:34 PM | SHENADOWA,
Seriously moving across the country to live with a man and you have no job. Sheesh, You gave up all your stuff, now why would you go and do that at your age? I would never give up my place at this stage of my life. I would rent it or what ever, but I would always make sure I have my own home. I know this may sound strange, but look at what happened to you, I could never see myself in that position. Talk about a powerless position, so vunerable, so let down.
Sorry for you, but now you have learned a good lesson. Never count on anyone but yourself. I have seen too many "True Loves" fall to crap, and there is then always one who has to move. I know some will say it is one foot out the door, but that is just not true. A man/woman who would not like you to have your independance in case things don't go smoothly are just only tinking about themselves.
Back OT :::
Does that make me a gold digger if I want to always have my own SEPERATE house? Just wondering is all 
Savona | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:58:42 PM | Hell....I get called a gold digger because I like to travel. Not sure why. I pay my own way. Heck, I usually take solo trips or trips with my friends...no guys allowed. But when you list it as a hobby, suddenly you're just out for a sugar daddy.  | |
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