| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:32:48 AM | | the men and women they are talking about in this forum are not true gold diggers. the true gold diggers has a build in sence for men with money and they wouldn't give the average joe the time of day. when they are done cleaning your smoke stack you will be flat ass broke and heavy into debt. been there done that. ha ha | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 11:22:02 AM |
I noticed something pretty strange in my time on these forums, mainly men calling women gold diggers for demanding that a man have a job and/or a car. Since when did looking for something other than street bums start to mean that these women are gold diggers.
How come you never see men demanding that the woman have a job and a car? If you ever did you'd have 50 women screaming that that the guy is a playa that wants to sponge off as many women as he can. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 12:34:44 PM | | Oh snap!!!! CountIbli is da man! That's right, we're supposed to take THEM as they are but we have to have all those things beforehand cos if we don't then we ain't sh@#, and no BUTS about it. I don't consider girls wanting a guy with a job and car gold diggaz per se but OP my man, you and I both know that there are countless mofos out there demanding the guy to have a FANCY car and a GOOD JOB in order to go out with you. Some even have the audacity to demand you have the most expensive cell phone out there and want to know your credit score so yeah....There happens to be MANY gold diggaz galore around, just waiting to pillage yo ass blind. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 1:23:35 PM | How come you never see men demanding that the woman have a job and a car? If you ever did you'd have 50 women screaming that that the guy is a playa that wants to sponge off as many women as he can.
Oh I expect her to have a job and a car. It's almost 2010...if I have to have a job and a car so does she. No J.O.B ...no date with me. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 2:49:28 PM | | Why a car? Seriously, I live in the core of a major urban center. I take the transit to work and everywhere I need on a daily basis. If I go somewhere for the weekend, I can rent one. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 5:40:51 PM | | If I'm a gold digger because I have an expectation that a guy own a reliable car that's highway worthy and not being held together by duct tape, well then I guess I'm a gold digger. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 5:54:45 PM | I am really puzzled by how guys on here defending their use of the term 'gold digger' somehow equated the requirement of being economically self-sufficient to a requirement to cook and clean FOR HIM, ie. for two people?
Sorry... you should only be concerned she cooks and cleans and drives and rents or owns for herself. She is not your mommy.
Get a grip. They should rename this site Plenty of Losers. Guys set the bar for themselves so low these days it seems, you see it even in colleges where now they are giving bias towards men in admissions because so many of them don't even compare with high achieving girls and women and would result in higher education being 70/30 rather than 50/50...
BTW, gold diggers don't hang out on FREE dating sites. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:13:12 PM |
If I'm a gold digger because I have an expectation that a guy own a reliable car that's highway worthy and not being held together by duct tape, well then I guess I'm a gold digger.
I guess I am one too...
Although I still want them to have a job, too. I just think that guys who have too much time on their hands, get really weird and stalker-like. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:20:59 PM |
Although I still want them to have a job, too. I just think that guys who have too much time on their hands, get really weird and stalker-like.
Yeah, that too, but if they're going to school in a field in which they're likely to get a job when they graduate *cough*not liberal arts*cough* I can make exceptions.
I'm more likely to find a guy who drives an expensive luxe vehicle more of a turn off. Expensive luxe cars are too high maintenance. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 6:37:00 PM | | men who complain about a female wanting this or that are just jealous and frustrated...they wish they could pick and choose their love interest...they wish they had females saying...please o please i want your body so much...here i'll give you this and this...but alas it isn't like that for men...they find themselves having to offer something...gifts, money or support is what some men offer....others are left just wondering...how do i get what i want hmmmmm.....you men sure do have a rough time of it...poor things....i feel so sorry for you....haha | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:32:06 PM | Nothing wrong with asking for someone with their shite together. I am in my late 30's, so if a potential date doesn't have a car or a job I would have to wonder.
It really depends on the age of the person. IMO For example, if a young man is just starting out in life and is his teen and early twenties, not having a car or job due to school would be acceptable.
On the other hand, if a guy has already completed his education and doesn't have a car or job. I would have to wonder...
A woman that is looking for a guy with a car and a job is not a Gold Digger. I think that most men would look for the same in a relationship, as well.
After all, it would get tiresome having to pay all the time and be a taxi driver. Wouldn't it? | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:17:40 PM |
Yeah, that too, but if they're going to school in a field in which they're likely to get a job when they graduate *cough*not liberal arts*cough* I can make exceptions.
I can too...
I'm more likely to find a guy who drives an expensive luxe vehicle more of a turn off.
I concur...it's like we share the same brain.  | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:46:22 PM | | Requiring a car and employment isn't gold digging - but, it might appear to some others that you're more interested in assets and material than charachter. Its also possible you end up excluding a potentially great partner. There are great people with great minds and wonderful hearts who may be in a difficult, but temporary bind. I think we have to assess each individual situation. Blanket statements don't do anyone justice. Also, there definitely are gold diggers out there-don't kid yourself in the least. When I first moved to CA, I went on a date. Now, I had a messy apartment, boxes and sparsley furnished (I had just moved here like 3 weeks before and was getting set up). Despite the fact I live in a much better area than her, and actually make more money than her, she didn't care to discuss finances but made a snap judgement and said "I have a son entering college in a few months and need someone to help and I can help with their kids too sometimes..." blah blah. Instead of setting her straight about my finances - I just thanked my lucky stars to know what she was all about up front. Not all women are like this, but there are some shallow and superficial people out there - beware. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 3:58:14 AM |
BTW, gold diggers don't hang out on FREE dating sites.
I couldn't agree more, TuffLuv.
This is a free dating site. I haven't seen too many male profiles here with the profession of doctor/lawyer/CEO, etc. etc. REAL gold diggers latch onto men who are successful and well to do - they don't latch onto teachers or welders or bus drivers.
I laugh every time I see that overused word here on POF. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 7:36:41 AM | I expect the same from women I date.... am I a gold digger ?
also ; she also needs to have ;
-her own place (No roommates)
-dental insurance
-decent disposable income ( sets her life standards, very important)
I am not asking for anything I can't provide... so it's only fair...
Am I a gold digger ? Probably ..hehe I likes gold...shiny!
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 1:30:20 PM | I agree with the OP. Where I live a job and a car would be the basics of a functioning life.
I would also expect a woman to have a job and a car, which means being independent enough to support herself and go where she needs to go, and not depend on others for those things. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 2:47:09 PM | | Cars and jobs are overrated and gold diggers are under-appreciated. Unless we’re talking about a job in a car by a gold digger. Or a job in a box, with a fox. Or a lube job. Nut jobs can be interesting for a time. Boob jobs can be worthwhile. Heck even manual labor has it’s rewards. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 4:01:24 PM | | I have been rejected by women because I am self employed and don't have a 9 to 5 like they do. Had one woman tell me I had to have a real career with a company like her to continue dating her, wonder how she's doing. Really funny hearing this crap from a woman when I am the one living in a paid off house and they aren't. To me it says they are looking for someone to help pay their bills. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 4:47:22 PM | | Some guys use "self-employed" as a code for unemployed or seriously under-employed. While I wouldn't reject a guy based on being self-employed, I would ask questions about what exactly it was he did. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 4:54:10 PM | I don't think having no car is a crime.
so no, I don't have a car, and Im not to sure if Im gonna get one either.
I don't believe having a car says anything about a person. it doesnt define anything about a personality.
on the other hand.. sure.. everybody is entitled to whatever they feel attracted to, or values.
as far as having a job.. well the economy isnt to friendly nowadays..
and I remember being jobless for months at a time!! this was in europe tho.. but still.. it already is hard enough on your selfesteem to be jobless, let alone being judged over something that is out of your control.
it can go both ways as stated in a few posts... I have certain standards for what I look for in a woman, for sure.. but none is related to having "toys" | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 5:10:26 PM | ~the Rock Man~
I agree with you on this big time. It becomes wrong when people start going on a tip about it demanding it when they themselves don't have it. So they want the next person to get it. That's just wrong.
On the side. I have both a job and car and I didn't get these things because people require me to have them. I got them because I NEED THEM for me not for anyone else to tell me what to do. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/12/2009 5:24:06 PM | | ummz i have a job and a car...and sure i gather i could be ok with someone that id have to drive around from place to place and hey i gather i could also financially take care of them since they dont have a job...umm wait i already do that with my SONS...not looking for another child to take care of..and even with a bad economy ive always held a position even when i had my sons at home i managed to find a way to work...why would i ever want to settle for a boy who cant do half the stuff i do...not a gold digger but just a person who respects herself and wont settle for someone whos not trying to attain something..(this isnt meant for that person finishing their studies) :) | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/14/2009 10:28:15 PM | I go to school part time, work full time, live on my own and have my own car. If a guy dont have a car AND a job, Im not talking to him, im sorry but im not playing taxi, i've done that before and im not supporting his arse (been there as well), so he may as well get a job.
If I go to supper with a guy, I tell them first I will pay my own bill and will never let a guy pay for me, EVER. Call me independant, cheap or whatever but I dont want a guy mooching off of me nor do I want him to think im mooching off of him. | |
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| Must have car and job=gold digger?
Posted: 11/14/2009 11:16:02 PM | | Um, I definately agree with you OP. I am in no way a gold digger, but I appreciate a man who has drive and ambition. I have goals for myself, and I think a man that comes into my life should have some for himself also. Doesn't mean I only date guys who make a lot of money...just you know, like the OP said, not a total BUM. | |
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