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Posted: 7/24/2009 10:16:27 AM | Damnit........I have to go wax the car now and check the oil....oh no, wait, that makes me independent.....okay, I'll get the neighbor man to do it......oh, no, wait, that makes me a princess.
LOL...it means you are a woman who knows how to get things done. 
Will someone please help me?
My plan is to hope for the best, and plan for the worst. It's the only advice I have.  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 10:16:50 AM |
Women, yall need to get it together! I think the problem starts from early childhood. You see, even from the time you are young, you are bombarded with romantic storys
Yeah? Who's telling us the stories about the knights who save the princess?
The DADDY's are.
Unless the Daddy's bailed because they were crappy men.
Then Mommys tell the story because she doesn't want her little girl to have yet another CRAPPY man - so Mommy tells her to find the white knight GOOD man.
I'm just saying he wont be a knight nor a prince so dont be so quick to pass on the man that doesnt immediately meet your unrealistic and or unattainable requirements
What would my unrealistic and unattainable requirements be?
What do you know of what I want or need?
Who are you addressing exactly when you say "all you women need to ".....
The message is to look inside yourself and reevaluate what you are looking for. while you are doing that, ask yourself, is what I am looking for realistic or not? For those of you that have feel like you will never find a man, this message is especially for you. My advise could potentially save you years lonlieness.
Well, thank God you've arrived in the nick of time!
 
Now this reevaluation process ties into my next issue im having;
Ohhhhhhhhh this is about YOUR issues and not mine or all women's???
I have heard that so many times and it drives me insane everytime i hear it. I understand most women like a bad boy but if anything, thats something to experiment with while you are still a young. It is not supposed to be carried over into adulthood!
There really wasn't any point to this post was there...?
We aren't having a discussion this was just a rant on women who want what the OP isn't offering or doesn't have.
Gosh I swallowed that worm and ran around the pond's edge with the bobber!
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Posted: 7/24/2009 11:08:25 AM | What exactly were you thinking when you said unrealistic requirements? I wouldn't put it as requirements, I would put it as preferences. Didn't you know that preferences come from personal experiences? If one has them preferences, or requirements, why would they "lower" their preference?
See, I wasn't raised with those fairy tales and stuff, and I had never been told that the prince will come and save me, bla bla blah... But yet, I do have preferences, and if I can't feel that I can take it to the romantic level with the guy, then I won't. I'll save both him and I the heartache.
Ask yourself this, would you rather have her give you a chance, string you along, and later on reject you, while you're already falling too deep for her and the heartbreak is depressing you? Or would you rather have her not give you a chance cause she knows she's not attracted to you, and make you feel rejected NOW, and not too heartbroken, and will save you the whole process of broken hearts, and typing out a thread or two about how much of a tramp she is, or how much she broke your heart? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 11:26:40 AM | | Well, i look for inner beauty more than anything. You could be the hottest woman alive, but if you are superficial or have a bad attitude, i am not intrested. Most of the women i have come across have been one or the other. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 11:51:05 AM | | First off, I clearly stated in the title “Why happily ever after will never come for SOME WOMEN”. I think the point was missed. Most women want the total package. As long as some women continue to have narrow vision, meaning they only see the tallest, most muscular, most wealthy, then their expectation of the total package is unrealistic/ unattainable. Sure im no dating expert, but you dont have to be one to know that superficiality will put limits on your happiness. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 11:52:37 AM | Again - I am certain all women thank you for telling us what we want!
Most women want the total package. As long as some women continue to have narrow vision, meaning they only see the tallest, most muscular, most wealthy, then their expectation of the total package is unrealistic/ unattainable. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:02:22 PM | | i can accept that somen will not be intrested. but when they really are intrested but take a pass because you may not be EXACTLY what they want is when there is a problem. No one will ever get exactly what they want. They say water seeks its own level so if a man is exactly what a woman wants, he more than likely wont want her. Thats why happily ever after will never come for some women | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:04:52 PM |
Most women want the total package.
Should be.......
Most people want the total package!
That described me..............and I got what I wanted.
My woman would also say the same thing.
See, the thing is..................
Everybody's "total package" is different and unique.
you're wasting your time and breath, whining about women that you're interested in, but aren't interested in you.
Don't worry about them.
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:09:39 PM | OP you totally missed the boat.... Yes there are "knights in shining armour" out there. Everytime some one removes a spider from my house, they are my "hero". I am not a damsel in distress, (well except when there are spiders) that needs to be rescued. "MY problem, is that I keep running into the horny toads, that no matter how many times I kiss them, they NEVER turn into my handsome prince. So do I blame all gallant gentlemen for this? NO!!!!!! I just give ya your kiss, and then send ya on your way when I discover that once again..... It's just a horny toad..... RIBBIT
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:17:47 PM | Big Pacific, did it occur to you that part of the reason that us snarky old farts make snarky comments is because of the way the OP chose to approach the whole topic. Certainly a thread search would, first of all, illustrate that this topic has been done everyway but Sunday before. Second, even the people that still do this, are aware that the whole fairly tale thing is first, not going to happen, and second, hanging onto it is self-defeating, still do it until they figure out that it isn't working. And they seem to need to come to this in their own time.
Most people seem to need to learn things the hard way which is why it is generally not until they are older that women figure out that the bad boy isn't going to become great because they are special while the others were not, that they can't fix the man with whatever issues the man has because they are hellooo, his issues.
I think perhaps if the OP had just spoken of the topic rather than announcing it as a big news flash there might have been fewer snarky comments and also possible that it would have had a better reception if he spoke of the male equivalent to the fair tale princesses which is the whiny nice guy. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:21:11 PM | Indigo, LOL it's amusing how older women referral to the younger generation as dumbasses, hmmm jealousy is so amusing
My mother never taught me that a boy likes me if he pushes me down so I skin my knee or pull my hair. She taught me to defend myself. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:22:17 PM |
Most people want the total package!
 That is a major source of the snark, that this is directed toward women and also largely because the OP was incomplete, he was speaking of the relatively few women that are so delusional they think Mr. Perfect exists. And believe me, there are many men that are searching for Barbie, to be unpleasantly surprised when they find out that Barbie is vapid and probably bipolar.
Everyone has a degree of superficiality and if they pass you up it isn't a problem because why the hell would you want someone in your life anyway? You are having problems finding someone, as are we all, but does it occur to you that you just have to keep looking until you find the right needle in the haystack? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:28:47 PM | It's simple it's the self fulfilling prophecy. You expect the male to screw you over so your put up a force field and push the person away. Thus making sure the thing you do not want to the most to happen. Women are conditioned from birth through such mundane things as hope chests and barbie dolls to look for a specific type of person, and to to be married early. But most just settle, their afraid of being alone so they latch onto the first thing that comes along. It ends bad and the process starts all over again, until your jaded and bitter and running of anyone who might have been worth the time to get to know. I like to use this analogy when I explain it to people. It's based off how we learn to walk:
1. crawling- more than likely a pre-teen or someone not in middle school. You have few aspirations because your sexuality is just coming into play.
2. baby steps- pre-high school. you date a little bit more maybe stay with one person, depends on the individual. At this point you learn teenage boys are only out to get some. So you fall alot. But you get back up and do it again.
3. Walking- Your dating habits are in full swing, your out of high school hopefully in college. Your dating alot, testing the waters and all that fun stuff.
4. Running- Your old enough to go to bars. Thats where alot of your liasons take place. You get hammered, fall a few times. Just out to have fun.
5. Walk- Your older probably have a kid or two. Maybe a divorce. Go on a few dates but still skeptical because you have been hurt.
6. Stumbling- your much older around your 50's dating is not feasible but you still do it from time to time and your realize not much has changed lol.
7. The walker- Hopefully you survived the former 6 steps and your with the love of your life watching the sun come up. Or you have given up and like a baby you just sit by yourself alot. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 12:47:23 PM |
Big Pacific, did it occur to you that part of the reason that us snarky old farts make snarky comments is because of the way the OP chose to approach the whole topic. Certainly a thread search would, first of all, illustrate that this topic has been done everyway but Sunday before. Second, even the people that still do this, are aware that the whole fairly tale thing is first, not going to happen, and second, hanging onto it is self-defeating, still do it until they figure out that it isn't working. And they seem to need to come to this in their own time.
Yeah, it did, hence why i posted this like 5 posts earlier lol.
I always find it interesting when people really just point out grammatical errors and gross generalizations instead of maybe trying to figure out his point. MANY relationship therapists have written about "the princess" mentality of MANY single women, and that the idealistic standard of a man perhaps hampers her dating pool.
That being said, if you're going to have this thread OP, you could actually put some thought into the way you write it instead of a blatant attack saying essentially "women are too damn picky to like me!".
My problem isn't with women waiting for the white horse, i respect that. It's the princess mentality AFTER they found their prince.
http://singlesisterspeak.wordpress.com/2008/12/31/a-royal-mistake-princess-syndrome/
Next time you want to ask if perhaps we are raising the bar a little high of the dating pool, perhaps we could write it in a way that doesn't attack a specific gender or group? Then maybe you can get the exchange of ideas that I think you are after.
That being said, it still doesn't give a free pass to be just as short sighted in response does it? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:09:20 PM | What fairy tales are you talking about? In the ones I heard it was the beautiful princess/woman that got to find her prince/knight in shining armor and live happily ever after.
While the reading of romance novels create confusion for some, what about men's mags/movies and their ideal of the perfect woman? So many average (and less than average) men think that just by their existence they deserve some Barbie/Supermodel/Princess. Kindly explain to me why the proverbial NG expects women to change their preferences/expectations for them, but these NG's are unwilling to make similar compromises?
Yup - old, tired NG rant. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:31:08 PM | | The point really is this; happily ever after may come, but it may require SOME women to widen their vision a bit. As plenty have implied through sarcastic and condensing tones on this post, I am no dating expert. (Nor an expert in punctuation, spelling and grammar) However, it does not take an expert to know that superficiality will put limits on happiness. True happiness should not be based on the amount of worldly possessions one has!
What I meant by unattainable and unrealistic is directed towards superficial women. It has been said that water seeks its own level. If this is true, then if that woman fnally finds a man with all the worldly possessions she wants him to have, more than likely will take a pass on her. But there is an exception to every thing. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:36:27 PM | ^^translation: you have the hots for some ladies that won't give you the time of day.
Why don't YOU seek a more realistic range of women that you're after. I'm quite sure there is someone out there...
It's best to work with what you got and not try to get others to change their rules to suit you. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 1:42:11 PM | Or.....................
Balancing both needs and independence = gettin it on like donkey kong and bein happily ever after!
@Mr. Provocative... Please introduce me to Mr. Donkey Kong.... or was he in one of those dicpics that I threw out before looking first?
DARN! Missed my White Knight again.  | |
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