| A question of balance...
Posted: 7/25/2009 11:47:11 AM | I would like to say I have faithfully read every post but I have not. There is a reason that child support and custody/visitation are separate.
In Texas, when someone is in arrears, they generally add a small amount, for us, it took 10 years at $50 a month plus the regular child support to pay back support for a year. Standard percentage on child support in Texas is 25%. If your ex is experiencing no financial difficulties then he is just being a douche.
I can't imagine that he owes so much in like two months that it could possibly move the amount from 15-40% but that's just me. Have you run the figures yourself or do you not have access to the information? If you have any control over what the court's decide, I would tell them you are fine with them going with the normal amount and adding $20-25 to each child support check for the arrears.
As far as your son and his dad, there is only so much you can do. He has used your desire for them to have a relationship to abdicate his financial responsibilities which is a crock. You on the other hand, cannot make him be an interested and involved father, just be as amicable and supportive as you can. At some point, your son, if he is not already, will know that his relationship with his dad is dependent on you continuing to try to be in the middle and it will really have the same effect as if you let dad do whatever he wishes to or not with regard to your son. He will recognize that his dad chooses to be a father when it is convenient for him. It is a painful lesson but one that is outside your control. | |
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