| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:06:43 AM | | There's a perfectly reasonable explanation for his texting throughout your date; he's a douchebag. But I believe in 2nd chances, tell him that you didn't appreciate it and see what he says. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:11:07 AM | rude as feck that is... I meet this lot once and once only, they are beyond all help and rationale and god forbid you do it to them - and make my polite excuses. I thence go to the loo, after dessert of course, and abscond through the window.
*obviously emergency/sitter not withstanding
Flog em all wicked muses with stingy nettles like that other thread about answering phone during cuddle time
tooters off to sulk | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:13:18 AM | tosses a warm blueberry buttered muffin at wicked....
My opinion?
Phones are like turds - they have their place. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 1:06:32 PM | OP -- My cellular is my lifeline and direct means of communication for my business. If I don't answer the call, I don't get work...it's that simple. If I'm out on a date, she'd know well beforehand that I have a business to run and I apologise upfront if it interferes in any way to our date.
But it's for business 99% of the time. And I'm always on call.
If I get a text though, and it's not work related, I'll see who it was and then decide if I reply or not. Not work related then it can wait. Work related, which puts money in my pocket that leads to keeping a roof over my head and food in my yap...then I reply, simple as that.
Unless it's a business need - texting or cell use during a date is just bad form. Those that do it without a business need are just vain and superficial trying to act and feel all important 'cause hey, their gadget went off.
Whoop-dee-f*ckin-doo.  | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 1:49:27 PM | It's rude. I had a date do that to me once. I never went out with him again, and I told him why. He didn't get it. Too bad.
I would say he was more interested in her than you. She may have been a fwb or he wanted her to be. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 1:51:39 PM | | I would have left him on the spot. i cant stand when women do this. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 2:10:45 PM |
I would have left him on the spot. i cant stand when women do this.
thats is what most seem to be saying...
Need a Cell phon manners book | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:05:48 PM | women do this a lot more than men, its a test. don't know how many times I've seen that in bars/restaurants, very common.
Some women, ironically, do it because of high interest (thus the more reason to test to protect themselves), other times women do it for the most obvious reason: whoever else they might be messaging, they're first and foremost sending the guy they're sitting with a big-medicine message that it's ok for him to buy them dinner (if they're in the mood), but no real interest beyond that.
Mostly, she's texting the guy she does want, "I'll be home at 11, see u at 11:30, no need to buy me dinner, dorknob is soo generous, xoxo".
If you had to bet your house, txting/cell use during a date is a bad sign, a sign of low interest. sometimes its the exact opposite, but usually :
...if she's texting, she's "next-ing".
you can ask her to put it away, and should...but the burning question is why does she feel the need to be so rude? answer: your tide is not lifting her boat. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 4:43:43 PM | | lol.. i had a homicide detective do that on a date but not only that he told me it was a woman he slept with...im not sure which was worse THAT or hearing his autopsy stories over nachos :/ | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 5:15:11 PM | When I'm on a date or I'm out with friends in a more personal environment (such as a restaurant), my phone goes on silent, or if absolutely necessary, vibrate. I have no problem with people checking their phones every once in awhile. When I'm in a date, I check mine if I've excused myself to the bathroom or if I find a quick moment where it's not going to look interfere with conversation. The only time I'll use my phone is if my caller id comes up and it says it's from home or from my family.
Trust me - I have my phone on my 24/7. But I do know when it's time to put the phone down and pay attention to something - or someone - other than my cell. It's common courtesy.
If someone doesn't have the attention span to pay attention to you while you're on a date, then I'd think they'd be hard pressed to get another date out of you.
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:03:49 PM | I met three friends of mine for dinner at a really nice restaurant on the Sunset Strip. In walks two nice looking girls dressed to the nines. Both sat at the bar and never got up and NEVER took their eyes off their cell phones (both girls) all freaking night long. After dinner I got up and approached one of them and said "how do you wind up getting all dressed to go out and neither of you put your cell phones down for one minute. Why did you bother even going out"?
One of them just kind of giggled and said nothing. I walked back to our table just shaking my head in disbelief. Rude? You betcha'. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:12:10 PM | | not great...if it didn't go on for too long, then maybe not so bad...maybe the guy was nervous? either that, or he just didn't give a sheet what you thought...hmmm...back to not so great! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:17:22 PM | | I'd send him a good bye text and be on my way. Talk about rude. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:36:08 PM | | I have to agree with everyone here. Noooo texting or taking phone calls while on a date!! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:06:05 PM | | My ex-boyfriend used to be talking on facebook chat when I was over at his house trying to have a conversation with him. Not just a quick, hey what are we doing later kind of thing, but actually carrying on long conversations with multiple people, some of them female. I asked him to stop and he agreed that it was rude but it's like he was addicted to it- he could not stop doing it. I would just sit there. It made me SO ANGRY and frankly I do think it's not even petty for that to be a reason to not have a second date. Another friend of mine would start surfing the internet on a tiny hand-held computer thing while we were hanging out. These are people I don't see anymore. Sooooooooooo rude | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:13:01 PM | OP- In the situation you describe, I agree that your date was rude and should have been called out on it.
I can't say I'm on the bandwagon with the rest of the posters about texting or calls in general. I would not have a problem with a date taking a call or text as long as there was a good reason for it and it was kept short and to a minimum. In a first meet situation I would expect that my date might get a call/text from a friend to make sure she is safe. I even go as far as to let my date know it's OK to take the call if she needs to.
I have never had a situation where my date didn't handle the communication with respect to our date. If I did I would have said something. A couple of short calls or maybe a text or two. I certainly wouldn't get up and walk out because she needed to take a call. I could end up feeling like the creep if it turned out some kind of emergency and I showed no compassion. I might of walked out on a good thing.
If you don't like something you should speak up. Are these calls/texts really that important that it cant wait until after our date? If you don't like the answer and the calls continue, then get up and walk out. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:18:41 PM | | dump him ... dump all of them ...... they don't seem to have a clue! How dare he text when he with you! You are the most important interesting person in the world .. and how dare he forget that! Omg ... better yet .. why don't u just pout and tell him no nooky ever ever ever .......... oh ... better still .... why don't you walk home!!!!! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:34:56 PM | | Wow-that's in really poor taste and anyone who does it lacks basic manners! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:59:42 AM | YOU already know how it made you feel and YOU know it was disrespectful and rude!
Why are you asking us??? It doesn't matter how "NEW" the thing is that you have going on...you need to set some BOUNDARIES!
If you sat there and accepted his rudeness and all the while knowing it was wrong...then you need to work on yourself! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:13:44 AM | | Ugh. That's just so incredibly rude to me. Even if I am not totally into the person or having the best time, I would have the courtesy to not sit there and text someone else during a date. Just unacceptable in my eyes. Unless of course there is a valid reason like some kind of family emergency. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:21:47 AM | | I was on a 3rd date with a man, at his place to watch a movie.... same deal. He continued having a text conversation with someone he referred to as "this really cool chick who won't leave him alone." I made a joke about how it was annoying, and he toned down the texting.... but needless to say he never got any action, nor another date. I told him via text that I found his texting while with me to be rude. He apologized and said it wouldn't happen next time... but the damage was done and there would be no next time for me, thank you :) | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:17:33 AM | | Apart from emergencies, it's extremely rude and I can't understand why people think it's OK to do this in company. I wouldn't do it and certainly wouldn't tolerate it from others. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:29:37 AM | | Yea that is real rude to be texting on a date, I had this happen to me with a woman at first i ignored it then it started getting to me, cause we'd go out at my expense of course and I just felt insulted someone would continue to have back and forth text convos with a teenager, yeah I know who'd ever think a grown woman couldn't relay to a child she is on a date and busy; but hell for all I know now it could have been another guy and she was using the "it's my cousin" defense. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:38:19 AM | I wouldn't put up with it for long. I can see during a first meeting someone calling or texting ONCE to make sure everything's ok, for safety's sake. Beyond that, except in the case of a true emergency or you're on call for your job, the phone needs to be OFF.
If a single/divorced parent absolutely must have the phone on, they should set boundaries with the kids and/or sitter about acceptable reasons to call/text.
I don't know if I would actually get up and walk out, but if there were repeated and/or extended calls/texts, there would not be a second date. I would seriously consider calling a halt to the date if the conversation went on too long or there were too many calls or texts. | |
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