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having your cell phone on AT ALL is unacceptable even if you have children.
Spoken like someone without kids. I only date women with children because then we are on the same page. When kids call you answer or text, whatever it is that they need. Most single parents understand it and don't mind. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 9:38:19 AM |
When kids call you answer or text, whatever it is that they need.
Spoken like someone whose children are in for a very rude awakening when they grow up and find out that the world doesn't really revolve around them. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 9:43:37 AM | I will turn my phone on silent but I will check it every now and then when its appropriate.. why? My daughter has JRA and my phones stay by me and on all the time. She can have flair ups any time that will send her to the hospital. But in a date setting I turn my phone silent and enjoy the company that im with. When I was with my X Gf even after 5 years if we went out I put the phone on silent as well. If the other person is constantly on the phone texting it does bother me and I will say something, if they dont like it then they obvious dont like me.
Well said.
If I need to check my phone, I excuse myself and go to the bathroom. Since I do not have children, I have YET to ever do that. That said, there are some parents who will take "drama" calls from their children - I've some friends like that. Their kids are are not kids anymore, but still call them on their cells and the parents answer while we are out. It kinda bugs me. I know plenty of other women who have kids who don't receive calls from their kids and we sit there and have dinner without interruption. Like someone said, we grew up without cell phones - unless there is an emergency - WTF are you calling me for?!?!
The above poster's daughter does have a reason, yet he still leaves it on silent. See? Not so hard to be polite.
When kids call you answer or text, whatever it is that they need. Most single parents understand it and don't mind.
Sorry, but no if my kid was calling me with some lame azz stuff that can wait until I am back or the next day......Read what I wrote above. We all got through without cell phones back in the day. "Can I eat the last cookie?" is not a facking emergency. My kids would be taught that it is for emergencies only and I would have a special ring just for that. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:20:37 AM |
Spoken like someone whose children are in for a very rude awakening when they grow up and find out that the world doesn't really revolve around them
You folks that don't have kids might want to back off these types of comments. My kids have their own ring tones and when they call I am damn well going to answer .. if the lady sitting across the table doesn't like it, then she can leave. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:29:18 AM | | the only time I would accept any kind of electronic communication on a date would be if it came from my kids mom...anything else is just disrespectful. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:34:25 AM |
...if the lady sitting across the table doesn't like it, then she can leave.
And I might, if it were me. But this hasn't happened, though I have dated parents, some of quite young children. They've been considerate people who also teach their kids to be considerate, of both my time and theirs. Generally they'll call once during the date to check in with or on the kids, and that's fine of course, so would I.
But answering the phone at the table isn't any less rude because it's your child calling, and you're not doing them any favors teaching them that the world will ask "How high?" when they tell it "Jump." 'Cause it won't.
Editing to add, soxfan might've just executed the fastest backpedal I've seen yet on the forums. Maybe there should be a contest... | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:36:12 AM | [qoute]Spoken like someone whose children are in for a very rude awakening when they grow up and find out that the world doesn't really revolve around them.
AMEN, Helen!  | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:37:08 AM | Spoken like someone whose children are in for a very rude awakening when they grow up and find out that the world doesn't really revolve around them
What my son will learn is that the world may not revolve around him but MY world does! When you have a child the order of life changes. It's his life before mine. That's the choice I made. Of course I have my own life but my commitment to him is too important to ignore.
I don't expect childless women to understand so I choose not to date them. And for the record my son has never interrupted a date of mine and I have never answered my phone while on a date.
Editing to add, soxfan might've just executed the fastest backpedal I've seen yet on the forums.
Helen I didn't backpedal at all. I have said that I would answer if he called. He hasn't yet so I haven't answered yet. Where is the backpedal?
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:41:38 AM | And I might, if it were me.
That's fine. Given your attitude about this, we wouldn't be going anywhere anyway...
They've been considerate people who also teach their kids to be considerate
This is just bs coming from someone who has absolutely no idea what is like to be a single parent. My daughter has to tell me where she is going so I know where she is AT ALL TIMES and if this means interrupting your precious date and you get upset about it, you can take your walk with my blessing. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/10/2009 10:49:33 AM |
.... Why in the world would a guy continue to carry on a text conversation with a "friend" after they pick me up for an evening? Am I wrong to expect that when I am picked up for a date that the focus should be on the two of us? If it was an emergency or a family member then that would be understandable and expectable but a "friend" who just happens to be female. ....should I expect things like that while dating ...?
After about a half hour of the texts having his complete attention, he did turn the phone off. I don't even know what I would of done if it would of continued. We were at his home because the plan was to watch a movie.
I don't expect him to stop the world from revolving when he's with me but this is a NEW thing that we've got going on. I don't get you. Why did you hang around for an hour and a half while this man was ignoring you and texting with a friend (woman or not)?
1) Why would he do it? Because he isn't that into you, doesn't respect or value you, and he is a rude jackazz.
2)Should you expect things like that while dating? No. Duh.
If I were in your shoes, I would dump this guy in a New York minute. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 11:43:07 AM | | curious is a New York minute shorter or longer than 60 secs?????? or is it just do far up it's own ass it dosn't care.......... Op for one you should have asked him to turn it off, or pick up your phone and ring a friend or leave................ personally I don't bother taking my phone most places, if I'm out I'm out, but this was at his place so it was there, but why be a slave to a phone............... | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 11:49:58 AM | There seems to be 2 different scenerios being discussed here.
1. Socializing with others by texting while on a date. That one to me is a no brainer. Very rude. Totally unacceptable. As Ismene put it, I'd drop em in a New York minute.
2. A text from someone important. Mom or Dad, a child, a babysitter or an employer. I could go to the bathroom and answer this message or I could be out in the open about it. I would prefer to make it public. Excuse me, it's my daughter. She doesn't know I'm on a date, would you mind if I let her know I'll get back to her later? If the answer was yes she minded, she'd be gone in a New York minute. There is no way she is more important to me than my family. There is no way I could forgive myself if I put a stranger in front of a loved one in an emergency. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 11:50:15 AM | There seems to be 2 different scenerios being discussed here.
1. Socializing with others by texting while on a date. That one to me is a no brainer. Very rude. Totally unacceptable. As Ismene put it, I'd drop em in a New York minute.
2. A text from someone important. Mom or Dad, a child, a babysitter or an employer. I could go to the bathroom and answer this message or I could be out in the open about it. I would prefer to make it public. Excuse me, it's my daughter. She doesn't know I'm on a date, would you mind if I let her know I'll get back to her later? If the answer was yes she minded, she'd be gone in a New York minute. There is no way she is more important to me than my family. There is no way I could forgive myself if I put a stranger in front of a loved one in an emergency. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 11:59:18 AM |
You don't have a daughter do you? Pity...
Sorry bub.. anyone with kids is going to have their cell phone and it will be turned on.
that's bullsh!t. what the hell is going to happen during that short period of time you are on your date. and what are you going to do in the 10,000 to 1 chance that a real emergency that's life threatening will come up? fly like superman to wherever they are instantly??? and what will you do once you get there?
we grew up without cell phones and there were no emergencies then and there won't be any now so it's bullsh!t.
and no i don't have a daughter, i date other men's daughters. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:07:46 PM | ...
good example.
the value of the co-ed relationship evaluated (compared) of the prospective romantic relationship. and.....
the value of the social-business-networking relationship (with technology compliance and complications) having some priority if only to delay that evaluative item (network to romantic prospect).
the monitor/movie serving as one exchange item to/for real relationship prospect.
the telephone/text serving as an other exchange item to/for real with future prospects likely.
are you interested to know that the movie served as a moderator to purposes for/of desire and attraction parlance..?
yet i hear no final objective from certain vision...
in the wonders of human and creation ... re creations both enlarge of relationship...
and confuse of relationship.
keep it simple sweety | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:10:11 PM |
Excuse me, it's my daughter. She doesn't know I'm on a date, would you mind if I let her know I'll get back to her later?
If that's what you're going to tell her, obviously there's no emergency. So just get back to her later and tell her then that you were on a date earlier. You've probably already ticked off your date by checking your phone in front of her. No need to make it worse.
TOMic bomb's right, too. Some posters seem to anticipate an awful lot of emergencies. They're really not that likely. Obviously the guy whose child has a serious health problem gets a pass, as does anyone else in a situation wherein emergencies are actually likely, such as a doctor on call. But for most of us, they're pretty much just not going to happen, and certainly do not become more likely because we decided to take a couple of hours for ourselves to get to know someone.
I'm really surprised to see so much of this emergency anticipation from others who also grew up in pre-cell eras, and somehow magically survived their parents' lack of cell phones every bit as well as I did.
Suppose you lose your phone, or the service is out for whatever reason. Would you then refuse to go on a date because you needed to stay by your landline in case of an emergency? That's the level of importance you're giving your cell phone by using it during a date. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:13:05 PM |
Why in the world would a guy continue to carry on a text conversation with a "friend" after they pick me up for an evening? Why?? because he is Very Rude.
Am I wrong to expect that when I am picked up for a date that the focus should be on the two of us? .. nope .. not wrong ..
If it was an emergency or a family member then that would be understandable and expectable but a "friend" who just happens to be female. I'm not even the least bit jealous by nature but should I expect things like that while dating these days?
Totally agree with that - esp the family emergency thing ..
He was texting with a Friend?? holicrap .. no manners eh ..
After about a half hour of the texts having his complete attention, he did turn the phone off. I don't even know what I would of done if it would of continued. We were at his home because the plan was to watch a movie.
He carried on a conversation with someone who was Not there, ignoring You who Was there and who was sposed to be his DATE?? and You let him get away with it for a half hour?? ... noooo no no noooo .. He should have texted his lady friend that his date had arrived and it would be rude to continue yakking / texting after that.
I don't expect him to stop the world from revolving when he's with me but this is a NEW thing that we've got going on.
I feel the same .. no ones world stops for me .. BUT - I think these text message things are getting out of hand .. Rude rude rude. People tap and click endlessly, all the while Ignoring friends, dates and live human beings who are right in front of them.
RUDE. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:23:31 PM | Truth be told. It doesn't happen to me. I'm not one of those that are attached to my phone.
All I am saying is if it did happen, what would you have me do? Go to the bathroom? There are pretty good odds that if a family member calls me that it is important.
What's next? I'm taking too much of your time making my menu choice?
Are we sweating the small stuff here? | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:30:19 PM | Gee this thread turned a little ugly
1) Texting for a half hour back and forth while on a date is point blank rude
2) Answer a quick call from your children while on a date is acceptable and I would not mind this
3) Answering 30 calls from your children on a date, not acceptable! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 12:32:24 PM |
I don't expect childless women to understand so I choose not to date them. And for the record my son has never interrupted a date of mine and I have never answered my phone while on a date.
Obviously you raised your son right. But if you read my post not everyone has. Some adults have their adult children calling them constantly for stupidity and you know this is true.
Some children are way too attached to their parents for every little thing today. Things are getting better, but this is in part a huge backlash of the divorce and working women influx of the past decade or more. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 1:22:09 PM |
and no i don't have a daughter
No sh**.. would never have guessed
that's bullsh!t. what the hell is going to happen during that short period of time you are on your date.
All that needs to happen is that my daughter wants to go somewhere... even if it is to change from one friend's house to another, she is required to check in with me so that I know where she is and what she is doing. It's called parenting.. and I wouldn't expect someone who doesn't have children to be able to do it.
we grew up without cell phones
WTF does that have to do with anything? Are you against all progress or are you selectively nostalgic? | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 2:24:14 PM | It might be easy for some to say that having your phone on is unacceptable and should not be on at all, but thats ok if you dont have children. Some people have children and family, some of them might have health issues that warrant an emergency, you just never know. To say it is unacceptable to have your phone on at ALL, even with children, is really being selfish and I feel that kind of attitude is unacceptable. If I have a family or children that needs me, they come first before any date, sorry. That is a very cold and selfish attitude if you say that, sorry. Actually, I dont eve think you people without children can make a complete and totally unbiased opinion on this subject, so just get over it. Mothers and Fathers that care about their children's welfare WILL keep their phone on in case of emergency.
And for the guy who asked what can happen in the time you are on date? Well what a silly question man. Why do they call them "accidents"? Why do you run to child with asthma? Obviously, you have never had to sit in intensive care with a child nearly choking to death with an asthma attack that just "came on" because of whatever he was doing at the time to trigger it, or having an allergy that flares up and you need to drop all things and get him to the hospital immeidately. So don't go making comments on things you don't know. I didn't check your profile, but I don't have to, I can already be sure you don't have kids. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 3:31:41 PM | ...
people communicate to express the personal acceptance points of their beings.
and people communicate to share *by some ratio of self-other determinations* the social acceptance points of community. ...
and people communicate again/atloss to communicate the meanings of each of those relationships by way of those they communicate with .....by conditions obscuring values meanings. one to another.
the circle continues. love push the merry go round end round. ....
what pushes the merry go round up end round end up and round end up ...
is the agreement of intuitive society in the mind (conscious -- vision -- purposed-will) and body of many and few membered community.
for the purposes of guidances for the much diverse
mentalities of classified and homogenous thinking humanity ...
feel the difference .
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Posted: 11/10/2009 3:38:17 PM | ...
we all can't occupy the same place in time space continuum and we all must see from the seat on the wheels.
the only way you can get a glimpse of your own position is/are the position points relative to your own seat.
knowing that ... great help is possible.
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 11/10/2009 4:40:16 PM |
And for the guy who asked what can happen in the time you are on date? Well what a silly question man. Why do they call them "accidents"? Why do you run to child with asthma? Obviously, you have never had to sit in intensive care with a child nearly choking to death with an asthma attack that just "came on" because of whatever he was doing at the time to trigger it, or having an allergy that flares up and you need to drop all things and get him to the hospital immediately
if your child is that sickly why are you out on a date? there's no excuse for cell phones to be on.
if you're that concerned about your child just stay home with him and let ME take out the hot babes! i'll do it better than you anyway..... | |
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